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He asked to hang out after 4 months of us being apart and he
back in april me and my boyfriend of a year and 3months went on a break for personal issues, we decided to be fully back togehter in teh summer. plans changed and one day he told me he didnt love me and had a girlfriend, who lived in LA (we live in Sanjose). It broke my heart and we parted ways and i pleaded for a second chance. we both left with alot of hatred towards eachother, and just recently, he contacted me. He texted me and asked if i wanted to hang out, i plan on seeing him this thursday night when he drives me home from SAT class. He said he texted me becuase he missed me, and wasnt sure exactly why he suddenly missed me. He says there is ' just something about me'. Now whether that is BS i dont know. I dont want to fall again for false hope. But it is odd that he asks to hang out, considering he refuses to be friends with any of his ex-girlfriends.
I'm not sure what to do. I know i shouldnt expect anything, but his contacting me out of the blue has really confused me. I wonder if hes just calling me up becuase hes lonely and things didnt work out with other girls he liked. I need help. I am not sure if i should never go back to him, or to see where this may go, and just take it a day at a time. I have no idea what to do..please help.
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You're right, I'm not quite too sure myself. But it's good you're not wanting to give into false hopes. So many girls would just think this immediately means that a guy loves them or something.
Whenever my ex-boyfriend did this, he did the same thing. He just IMed me out of the blue randomly and started talking, and it turned out his relationship he left me for didn't work out. So that is probably why he's contacting you his LA girlfriend might've not worked out as great as he was hoping for. But my ex just wanted to remain good friends and now we just talk to eachother every once in awhile and I have no feelings for him and it's all good.
I would suggest to you what I did ; just go and hang out with him and talk to him and see exactly what he wants. Ask him about his girlfriend and see what's going on with them. Just get it straight out in the open so you immediately know exactly what he wants so you can keep your mind on all the options you have. Cause obviously, if they are still together, then he just wants to remain friends and he just misses talking to you. But if he says they've broken up, you can now keep your options more open. This could mean he just wants someone to fall back onto because he's sitting there feeling all lonely and unloved and of course he thinks,"Hey! ____ loves me." Or he just might want the comfort of a friend. Like I said, just ask him as you guys hang out why he called you exactly and why he missed you so much and everything so you guys can just talk about it and get it out into the open.
It's your decision wether you go back to him or not, but just think carefully. Remember, if he had the first chance to just drop and leave you, whats to say he won't just do it again for another girl?
I hope I helped.
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I'm thinkin that things probably didn't go as well as he thought they were gonna go with the other girl.You should still hang out with him..it's worth a shot. But be cautious. It's likely that he's looking for someone to fall back on because he is lonely. I think you should go with ur intuition. If you feel that he is playing you than break it off or ask him what his motives are all of the sudden. Best of luck with it.
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