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are looks everything?
hi...ive recently jus started goin out with this guy, and i realli love him.
the problem is .. he isnt the type of guy (looks wise) i wudda gone for .. the only reason im goin out with him is because of his personality and caring side...is this stupid?
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Sorry, I am going to deviate from the norm here and say YES, this is stupid.
Are looks everything? No. Is it a problem for you? Yes.
When you find someone with that glimmering personality whom enlightens your day, they generally take on physical attractive attributes. I would call this attraction 'Sex Appeal'. This is different than your regular gorgeous looking specimen. A matter of fact looks usually have nothing to do with it.
I don't care if you love his personality and caring side at all, your need for him will fail in the coming months, when you look at him and feel nothing sexual towards him. If you truly find him sexually appealing, than I am way off base, but if you aren't there yet, you most likely will never get there. I will be the first to say that I myself have been that guy, and have landed plenty of girls, only to lose them down the road. The funny thing is that every girl I ever dated is still friends with me to date, and some say they wish they never left. My response to that is logic. You left because you plain came to the conclusion, that you just weren't attracted to me, that is why you still love me, but it's as a friend. I am guilty myself of going for looks over personality, but I have reasoning behind this. I already contain the elements of humor, talent, and the gift of gab. I do not want to date the same personality, I am actually attracted to the opposite, which is usually someone whom is hot! Most attractive people lack development in the area's I peak at. You can conclude that a blind person has better hearing, due to his/hers particular need to develop other skills, because
they can not see. Attractive individuals suffer the same consequence. If you are hot, where is the demand to develop a strong personality? i.e Paris Hilton, or sense of humor. Certainly this is not true in every case, but it appears to hold strong in 90 percent of the population. My advice to you, is to re-think your situation. Don't be selfish and lead this guy on, because it feels good to be treated well, and then 6 months down the road, dump him for some one whom later best suits your attraction. I know the first time this guy makes a mistake, you will use it as your 'out plan' 6 mos. down the road. The novelty will wear off and the basic human function 'Survival of the fittest' will kick in, leaving your boyfriend in the dust.
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deffently NOT stupid. Oh god i did the samething and i missed out of such a GREAT guy!! If your happy then who cares about what he looks like! sweet guys only come around once in awhile.
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I did the same thing, I went out with a guy, even though he was horrendous to look at. I got made fun of for stooping so low. Well heres what I have to say, Honestly looks AREN'T everything. Yeah I'm sure you've heard it before, but, if his looks are holding you back, maybe he isn't the one. <3
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No,I dont think its stupid.You are dating him because of his personality and caring side so i say that you are a very nice person.Bye!
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I can already tell you're awseome. So many people nowadays just date people because of their looks. If they look good, it's totally fine for them if they're a jerk, which I find messed up. But you just like someone just for their personality, and you're going to get what you deserve: a nice guy whose sweet, kind, caring, and just has a great personality to boot. So you just proved to me there's still some good people out there who aren't all about looks. But to answer your question, it's not stupid at all. I hope I helped. <3
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deffinately not, i dont know you and just for that i have alot of respect for you. Looks arnt everything, and if this guy is caring/great personality hes one in a billion.. dont think the negitive on people, it could bite you in the butt, just think of his AMAZING qualities and you will deffinately make the right decision.
just think would you rather have a hottie, that is mean, and treats you wrong. or Normal, that is sweet, and knows just how to treat a girl
(: good luck
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Its deff not stupid.
You have to ask your self.
-Would you rather have the hottest guy in school but hes the rudest guy you have ever met?
-Or the guy that is Ohk looking but hes has a great personality, funny, and caring?
Looks are not everything. If you care for this guy then it shouldnt matter.
But i cant tell you to stay with this guy. If you feel like you cant be with him because of his looks then don't keep him in the relationship.
hope this helps
kim:)
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Yes.. this is kind of stupid-
If you like the guy's personality- then stick with him. He'll be the one that will treat you right...
those with "looks" don't care about their personalities.. they just want to look good. If you were to marry a person like that- it would probably end up in divorce...
I'm not saying that looks aren't somewhat important.. but personality is the most important
I love my girlfriend for her personality and her looks.. I guess I was lucky!
--Jack
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Nope it's not stupid.
You want to be with a guy with a good personality and everything like that. You don't want a "hot" guy that is mean and stupid.
what's inside counts more.
So he's a keeper. :]
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no whats inside is what matters I felt the same way about a guy that is ok but not HOT if you know what I mean but he was nice and caring and really cared about my feelings so really looks arent everything at all
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that is the smartest thing I've ever heard. Most guys that are really good looking take too much in about their selves and can become total jerks..there's a couple guys like that at my school. Think about it, if you went out with some total babe that didn't care for you, it wouldn't really be a good relationship.
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Nope. You're doing the right thing. Looks don't matter on a phone call. They don't matter when you write each other letters. Go with it, because looks can change overnight, but a personality can't.
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You should go out with whoever you want.You should be going out with him for his personality anyways :/..Maybe you are just suprising yourself for not being shallow.
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No it is not stupid at all. Looks will fade eventually but the personality will still be there. Enjoy his caring side and see beyond his looks. All the best.
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That is not so stupid. The only reason you go out with a guy is because you dont really care about looks but there could be another guy out there cute great personality and caring.
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