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OK my best friend is going out with my ex and i think i still have feelings for him. They are trying to help me through it but nothing is working. Can you help me? (link)
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The best thing to do is try to forget him. Find someone new and just move on!
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My bestfriend is incredibly shy. At school everyone thinks she looks really depressed when she actually isn't and people mention that she seems to be glaring at them, whichc she also doesn't do. I have a friend group that she doesn't really fit in with and so she will hang out with me and my friends, but never talk unless I ask her a question. Even then she just usually says yes or no. She doesn't make much of an effort because she is tired and she feels that everyone hates her.
What can she do to be less shy? (link)
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Tell her to try and perk up! Not so much that people think she is weird but so she gets some friends or goes into a group she fits in with. Im not saying you and her dont be friends i am saying that she needs to find her own group!!!!!!!!!
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I'm fat/not pretty. Yesterday two of my 'friends' IMed me saying 'Hey Sexy'. I know they were joking around, but for some reason it just really got to me, and I felt like I was a joke to them. (they're both guys) Now I'm very mad at the two of them, and I know they both feel bad, they've sent me messages, called me, etc, but I just don't respond. My question is, am I overreacting? What should I do? (link)
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Just because your not skinny doesnt mean they should do that to you. You might just be overreacting just a little. But you are doing the right thing by ignoring them. They have no reason to do that to you! Keep ignoring them and maybe they will get the hint tht they shoodnt do that anymore!
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I have this friend, where shes really nice to me one minute and mean to me the next. When she's with her other friends she acts like she doesn't know me or says mean things to me and treats me like I'm her enemy and stuff. When she's alone shes nice and we jhang out and stuff and shes fine. She gets pissed off easily and if you do 1 thing that could make her a tad bit mad, she starts a fight. We had plans to go to movies and then my mom said at the last second I couldn't go, and she got really mad because she said she was so exited and stuff and I said I'm really sorry theres nothing I can do about it and I explained to her why I can't go and shes like fine I'm not going to be your friend anymore. Then a day later she forgets about it and acts like I'm her best friend. But if her other friend comes over, she has to rub it in my face and be like "I'm with Olivia" or whatever friend she has over. And I'll say ohkay thats nice and she'll be like ew your ugly don't talk to me and I don't like to fight so I just ignore all her mean IMs. But as soon as her friend is gone, she treats me normal again. Maybe shes insecure or only likes being with 1 friend at a time but shes got like split personalities. I try to talk to her about it and she says "I don't know what you're talking about you gotta be kidding me." She won't admit she can be a bitch sometimes. Don't get me wrong she's a really nice friend and she will stick up for you no matter what even if its to her other friends. She doesnt ditch me or stuff its just she can be a big bitch sometimes and its only to me and she gets REALLY mad when I'm with my other friends. So maybe she only wants to spend time with me and thats why when shes not with me shes a bitch? I need to know why she acts like this? Help me please. What can I do so are friendship can stay strong? (link)
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Well when she is with her other friends just ignore it, like you have been doing. Then when she is being nice, say to her i no you know what i am talking about so why are you always mean when you are around other friends? Do they not like me so you dont at that time? I mean if she is going to be like that ALL the time then get rid of her she isnt worth getting worried about!
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Well I started dating this guy and we've only been dating 4 like 2 weeks but we talk less now than we did b4 we started going out and I hardly ever see him..and then theres this other guy I like and talk 2 like everyday and I see him more than my bf so I'm thinking about dumping the first guy 4 the 2nd one...but how do I let him down easy?? or should I just stay with him and see what happens??? Thanks! (link)
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Well really the choice is yours yes i no this is ADVICEnators but you need to really decide what is best!
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So I like this boy Kyle. But I don`t know if he likes me. He's really good friends with my cousin. When hes around me and my cousins not there, hes very nice. He like jokes around and says nice stuff and we talk on the phone for hours. Okay but hes completely different around me when my cousin is there. He says like mean stuff and like I know hes joking kinda but he just acts so different. Is maybe he being shy because he doesnt want my cousin to know he likes me or that were good friends? I know some guys are like that when theyre shy. Any help or advice would be great. (link)
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Ok its like this guys are always like that when they are around girls. Had it happen to me once, but the only difference was i was going out with him. Anyway this is about love! Yes he likes you it is so obvious he does. And when he is around your cousin he just doesnt want her to know thats all he doesnt mean it hes just being tough! When you are alone with him ask him why he does it and tell him you know hes joking but why is he that mean when he is with your cuz? He might even tell you he likes you!
Just call me advice grl!
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I am 13/f
i have problems makin out with guys or even getting them close to me and i wanna make out nd have a relationship how???
do i ask him out??
wut do i do? (link)
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First of all your only 13. Dont rush you got your whole life ahead of you to make out and start a long lasting relationship. If you ever want to make it for a whie with a guy and have a great relationship wait till your older and you know alot more!
Advice grl!
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Hi.
I have been dating this guy for almost three
months now, and his mom doesnt want us dating.
We arnt even allowed to talk on the phone and we've only been on one date.
but were both 14
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Try to talk with his mom tell her that you would be a great girlfriend and to just try and let you guys talk on the phone just to see how it goes!
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i am 14/f
there is this guy that i like and he knows i like him. but i don't know if he likes me, i still have to ask. i know how to do that part, but there is this other guy i just met and im always partnered up with him in health.
the question is, should i like the first guy and forget about (not completely) the second guy, or should i find out if the first guy likes me and still like the second guy anyway, or should i do something else. i need some guy help. thanx. (link)
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ASk the first guy if he likes you if not go for the second one you have a back up plan!
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this guy (chris) and me kinda were going out... (too long to post here sorry.. try to fallow..) and it got broken up .. a few times... but not by us... (im 15 and hes 18 but love knows no age, and we live a state apart..) and than i had to go and take care of my problems and he waited for me... well i by the time i got back and relized he was waiting... i was in a relationship.. and so i dumped my bf.. (it wasnt healthy anyways thats another story..) but when i was talking 2 Chris and i told him than i was singal he was like.. "ohh well now i found someone.." so now im sitting here and i think about him all the time... and im waiting for him... but is he a lost cause...? am i letting other hunks slid cuz im waiting... i dont know what to do... help please!
thanks millions
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This guy chris is so not worth the wait. if you are passing up all of these hunks then there is something wrong. yeah i no its cool to be going out with a highschool guy but dont let al these other guys just slip away from you!
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wow.. after our break up and it was almost our 3rd month i love him alot. and next thing i know it im going through a break up and hes ignoring me like a mother freaker. i hope he regrets it. seriously, i havent gotten any answers yet.. like why cant we just be friends? why didn't he tell me he wanted me to change instead of saying "its over." and leave me there thinking why. idk what to do.. he looks happier than i am.. which makes me more sasd. what am i supposed to do... leave him alone give him space and let him hate me? it was one little break up.. and it turns to something serious. my friend says if i like him alot.. and its worth it, go after him.. but im not the one supposed to go after him. I want him back, and i promised that i would change just for him. But then.. he wont listen to what im trying to tell him or say to him.. its either hes ignoring me or he reads the question or stuff im sending him but doesn't reply.
PLEASE HELP. i have alot of shit in my life now. (link)
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Ok first of all CALM DOWN!!! Thats the first important thing. second of all this guy is not worth it. if he cant be friends with you and he didnt tell you what you did then something is waaay wrong. usually when a girl and a guy break up they say lets be friends and then they talk but dont hang out. i mean if you really really like him still send him a note on paper asking him what you did and why you guys cantt be friends and if he ignores confront him and say "ok what is wrong? why did you break up with me what did i do and i know your gonna ignore me but i still really like you and if i need to i can change. please answer my note!"
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hi...ive recently jus started goin out with this guy, and i realli love him.
the problem is .. he isnt the type of guy (looks wise) i wudda gone for .. the only reason im goin out with him is because of his personality and caring side...is this stupid?
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That is not so stupid. The only reason you go out with a guy is because you dont really care about looks but there could be another guy out there cute great personality and caring.
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about a 6 months ago i caught my b/f cheating on me. we were going out for about two years before that and i thought everything was perfect. no warning signs or anything. it hurt me really bad. after that i wouldnt go out with anyone because im so afraid that they'll hurt me like he did. i guess i have a huge trust problem. now theres this guy i like but i just cant go out with him. i know i should because he seems like the perfect guy, but so did my ex. thats my first problem. the other one is that i saw my ex a couple of weeks ago and that brought back old feelings. and he started to call me a few times too. i thought i was over him but now that hes made an appearance im not so sure. he says that he thinks we could patch things up and go out again. i told him that we could never because i wouldnt trust him. he says that he made a mistake and that hes sorry. its like i like him but i hate him. i dont know what to think anymore. (link)
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Just because he says sorry doesnt mean he means it! He cold do it again if he felt like it and after ruining all the years and months you were together i wouldnt trust him. Just keep moving on go out with the other guy!
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Me and a friend, lets call her Ann, have been friends since kindergarden. But now we never see eachother, hardly talk, and really have nothing in common. Then a week ago we had an agrument, I don't remember how it started, but I said she changed and started caring what the popular people thought and really wanted to be popular. When people started wearing their jackets backwards, she followed. When people started wearing converse, she did. When I told her I was getting an Ipod, she went out and got an mp3 player. She even said she was going to throw a party and make sure she invited some 'popular' people!! Then I asked why she wanted to be popular, they were just rude. She said she had some popular friends and they were nice. But they're not, hello I know them! Now we are not talking and she says I am wrong. So answer this: How can I be wrong if everything I said was true? (link)
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You know what? Every friend goes through this they realize that being popular is awesome but then when they see what the 'popular' people do its not so cool anymore. 'Ann' just needs to see how BAD the 'popular' people can be.
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Alright, so I've liked this guy for most of the summer, but when he actually started liking me, and wanted to start "going out," I wasn't really sure if I wanted to do the same. I mean, I'm going into high school and I guess I don't really want to be tied down by some other guy. So, anyways, I did say yes to him about "going out" and now I think I made the wrong choice. I want to tell him that I think we should just be friend's 'cause I don't want anything to be awkward. Because now that we've started going out (about 3 days ago) he hasn't even called, or talked to me. I'm going to try and tell him that I think we would be better off by not going out and just being friend's, but I don't know how to make it so it doesn't sound mean or rude. I still like him, but I don't want to be "going out."
By the way, I'm a 14 year old girl. (link)
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Well what i think you should do is call him up...im saying call him because its easier over phone. But anyway call him and say before i say anything i just want you to know i really do like you then say but i dont want to be going out because im afraid it will be really awkward and i want to be really good friends just not boyfriend girlfriend kind of thing i really hope you understand!
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Okay, this may not seem like a problem, but I started babysitting for this one family this summer. They have a pretty big house and good jobs, so it's not like they are poor. I think they overpay me though. I know I shouldn't complain, but they paid me $40 for watching a 4-year-old and a nine-year-old from 6-11pm....and they pay me $100 a week to watch the 9-year-old while they are at work during the summer....watching the nine-year-old basically consists of watching tv or watching him play nintendo or watching him fish. it's not a hard job, and I enjoy it...should I say something about the high pay, or just take it as them appreciating me and being nice? I don't want to get more than I deserve.... (link)
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Say something if you really feel you need to. But if your family really needs the money than take it as a big tip!
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I'm 16/f and I have an older sister (just turned 18)and an older brother (21). Well my sister and I used to be really close (we're only a year and half apart) but ever since a few months ago, she's started hanging out with these guys that are way older (like my brother's age)and I hate it because we used to do everything together but now her and my brother are always together.
She was a cheerleader in high school so she barely ever drank and she's never done drugs but ever since cheer for her senior year was over she's started partying a bunch more and I now she's gotten high a few times. I know weed isn't all that bad for you really but it just isn't her!
My family and I went on vacation to the Virgin Islands a few weeks ago and like 4 of the nights we were there my brother and sister went out clubbing and stuff with this guy that came with us. I love my brother and everything but he's such a bad influence on my sister.
She's moving to Austin after the summer is over (we're in Houston) to go to college and I know it's just going to get worse. She's really pretty so guys are constantly all over her and I'm just afraid she's going to get herself into trouble. I know she's had sex with 2 guys--one long term boyfriend and another guy she dated in April after she broke up with her boyfriend. In April she was still 17 and the guy was 21.
I don't know if I should say something to her or not because sometimes I just feel like I should mind my own business and not act like her parent but I just don't know.
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Just keep telling her how you care about her and try to get her mind of weed for a while. Ask her to do stuff with you. The more you get farther apart then the less you will know!
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Hey,my name is Rachel and iam 17 years old and my granny is ruining my life I know that she is 88 years old,but I don't think this is an excuse for what she is doing to me and the rest of my family.my granny tells me that iam to fat for my own good and talks really bad about my mom and my sisters.on my 17th b-day she made me cry becouse she told me that my mom didn't love me or care about me.I know it's not true,but it still bothered me that my granny would say something like that to me her youngest granddaughter.my 36 year old cousin helped me feel better when my granny made me cry.my granny also tells my aunt how to do things in her own house even though she is 68 years old and she stands over my couse like a hawlk while she folds dirty clothes.If I don't make my bed or fold my dirty clothes she yells at me what should I do.I have to deal with this every weekend all weekend and Iam fed up with her nonesince what should I do? (link)
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Have you told your mom about it? If not go to her tell her what you are dealing with and that it is not fair to you or your sisters or the rest of the family.
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This guy liked me for several years. He told me and asked me out several times. I started to like him too. We decided to try it out, and for several months we were blissfully happy. And then it all went wrong. I got mad about something I heard about him cheating on me, he got mad I didn't trust him and dumped me on the spot. First issue in our relationship and we're over. He then expected me to be friends with him but I said screw you and blocked him.
My mom reckons he was just using me. I just can't understand why he would, but then why would he give up on me so easily? I know he had liked me a long time yet one bad thing happens and it's over. Just like that. No attempt to work things out.
I tried to make a complete break of him and get him out of my life and for a few weeks I didn't hear from him. Then he messaged me out of the blue and we started talking. And we discussed where it all went wrong, and he said he had been planning to do it for a while but he was going to do in person. Then he said "let's meet and work it all out, perhaps get back together, at least let's be friends" and agreed and went up to him the next day, and he made me feel like a fool by saying there was nothing else to work out. He said he only wanted to be friends again. So I yelled at him that night and said I no longer wanted to try and be friends and he said I was a bitch because we had been friends for so long and I was throwing it all away. I told him it was no longer my concern and if he wanted to work things out, he had to come up to me and do it in person and he was the one who gave up on us so easily. Haven't heard from him since. The truth is, I didn't wanna be friends because I couldn't get over him that way.
We work together so I see him all the time. And I can't get over him even though he's such an asshole and he's probably over me. What should I do? Am I a bitch for not being friends with him? And why would he give up on us so easily if he had liked me so long? That makes me so mad.. I wanted to work things out and he didn't.. I can't figure it out.
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Ok it doesnt mean he was using you. When he said he liked you for a looooooooong time that is a while, he could of been getting over you. He also could have been waiting to break up cuz he didnt want to hurt your feelings just keep things where they are!
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okay, there's this gorgeous boy I know. He's completely flawless, and I have a big thing for him. One of my friends tells me that he actually likes me. Naturally, I was thirlled, but there's on problem: HE WON'T GO OUT WITH ME!! There's a lot going on with him, I guess. I mean we still flirt, hang out, etc., but does this mean I should lay off him in terms of flirting? the things have nothing to do with me [more-so family], but does that mean I should leave him be for now? thanks (link)
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Keep hanging out with him and do stuff with him like friends and then when he is ready he will ask!
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