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I have this friend, where shes really nice to me one minute and mean to me the next. When she's with her other friends she acts like she doesn't know me or says mean things to me and treats me like I'm her enemy and stuff. When she's alone shes nice and we jhang out and stuff and shes fine. She gets pissed off easily and if you do 1 thing that could make her a tad bit mad, she starts a fight. We had plans to go to movies and then my mom said at the last second I couldn't go, and she got really mad because she said she was so exited and stuff and I said I'm really sorry theres nothing I can do about it and I explained to her why I can't go and shes like fine I'm not going to be your friend anymore. Then a day later she forgets about it and acts like I'm her best friend. But if her other friend comes over, she has to rub it in my face and be like "I'm with Olivia" or whatever friend she has over. And I'll say ohkay thats nice and she'll be like ew your ugly don't talk to me and I don't like to fight so I just ignore all her mean IMs. But as soon as her friend is gone, she treats me normal again. Maybe shes insecure or only likes being with 1 friend at a time but shes got like split personalities. I try to talk to her about it and she says "I don't know what you're talking about you gotta be kidding me." She won't admit she can be a bitch sometimes. Don't get me wrong she's a really nice friend and she will stick up for you no matter what even if its to her other friends. She doesnt ditch me or stuff its just she can be a big bitch sometimes and its only to me and she gets REALLY mad when I'm with my other friends. So maybe she only wants to spend time with me and thats why when shes not with me shes a bitch? I need to know why she acts like this? Help me please. What can I do so are friendship can stay strong?
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Well when she is with her other friends just ignore it, like you have been doing. Then when she is being nice, say to her i no you know what i am talking about so why are you always mean when you are around other friends? Do they not like me so you dont at that time? I mean if she is going to be like that ALL the time then get rid of her she isnt worth getting worried about!
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She really isnt a good friend if she is gonna treat you bad just because she is with other people. To tell ya the truth her other friends probabaly dont like you so they dont want you and her to be friends and your friend doesnt wanna lose them so she is mean to you when she is with her other friends. (sorry if that was confusing) But really you need to talk to her about it and see whats up. You may not wanna lose her but if she is gonna treat you like that then she really isnt worth it.
Jess
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She isn't a real friend if she treats you like crap around other people. School is all about pressure and if you hang out with wrong people or the crowd, you're labeled like a can of soup.
It seems like she wants to be your friend but when she is w/ other people, she's afraid to be labeled goth, or dork, or something like that if she's seen hangning out with you (not saying that you are, just some label that people don't really want)
Overall let's leave it at this: She wants to be your friend but she doesn't know what she'll be labeled or what her other friends will say aobut her. She doesn't want to lose them but she can't treat them like doormat so instead when shes with other friends, she treats you like crap then makes up to you by being nice when they aren't around. She's insecure about being your friend.
And she's just being immature and not understanding when she says I'm not your friend, etc, etc. I say just dump her. You don't need a person that says she's your friend saying rude remarks, lowering your self esteem. Shes not worht your time to stress over and you definately shouldn't take all those insults from your "friend"
Go out there and make mature, nice, kind friends.
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Okay, your friend obviously does have some problem.
Dont let her treat you like that.
Tell her. Instead of her getting angry at you, YOU get angry at her. Let her know how it feels, talk to her, TELL HER, that she CANNOT act like that around you. Tell her she is acting like an imature little kid. When things dont work out, she should just accpet it, and let it go. Explain that to her.
I've said this before to many people,
communication is the key.
Talk to her about it.
Get your feelings out about how she treats you, youknow?
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