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Mad at Friend.
I'm fat/not pretty. Yesterday two of my 'friends' IMed me saying 'Hey Sexy'. I know they were joking around, but for some reason it just really got to me, and I felt like I was a joke to them. (they're both guys) Now I'm very mad at the two of them, and I know they both feel bad, they've sent me messages, called me, etc, but I just don't respond. My question is, am I overreacting? What should I do?
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Mm, I'm sorry, but I do think you overreacted just a little bit. But I can understand, it got to you, and you probably feel self-concious about yourself just like every teenager does, and you got upset.
And you're not a joke to them. They're just joking around with you as friends do. I mean, I go to some of my friends and IM them and be like "Hey, slut!" or "What's up whoooooreee?" and they know I don't mean it ; it's just all in good fun. And if they really had meant it as an insult, they wouldn't be calling you and messaging you and feeling bad.
Just call them up and be like,"Guys, I'm really sorry I've been ignoring your calls and everything lately. It's just, I don't know, I'm self-concious I guess and whenever you said that, I know you were joking around, but it just got to me. It felt like I was a joke to you two or something. Just, could you please not do that anymore maybe so I don't get mad at you guys again, haha?" And just talk about it and laugh it off at the end so they really know it's all good.
And just realize whenever your friend say stuff like that to you, they're not saying you're a joke or anything. If they're your friends, they'd never to do that to you. :] I hope I helped. <3
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Of course you are overreacting. If you have some problem with yourself then you need to take care of that and not project your issues onto other people.
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Hi.
I think you are overreacting a tad bit.
I don't think they meant it to hurt your feelings if they feel bad for doing it afterwards.
Maybe you took it the wrong way?
Sometimes people say "Hey Sexy" or "hey bitch" or something like that to their friends to just joke around.
I bet you look fine. Everyone is self concious, and I dont know how old you are but we are all self concious when we starting to grow up.
Just shrug it off, they probably didnt mean it the way you think they did.
Hope this helped.
:-)
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Just because your not skinny doesnt mean they should do that to you. You might just be overreacting just a little. But you are doing the right thing by ignoring them. They have no reason to do that to you! Keep ignoring them and maybe they will get the hint tht they shoodnt do that anymore!
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Well first looks dont matter,its whats on the inside!And never say your fat or your not pretty because thats probaly not true. See alot of people look at themselfs alot deeper than your friends do like for example: ok you notice that you have a little zit or your hairstyle isn't so great. If your friends are really your friends than that kind of stuff doesnt matter to them! Focus on what makes you,you.Are you a good at drawing,dancing,singing,ect.Just dont listen to them....they dont know what their talking about!!!I hope you feel better!
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Those to guys were probably joking around and didn't mean to offend you in anyway. There is no reason to be discouraged about your body because you seem like a beautiful lady in your own way and at leat your a kind person. I understand this because my sister Kailun is a senior in high school and she was skinny, and she was hot, and popular but whenever she saw me she trashed talked me and she kept making me feel like im a no - body in front of her friends.
Sophia
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I think you're reading too deeply into this.
Alot of guys do this! and lets face it, alot of the time, they don't think whether you will be offended by it. They probably meant nothing of it and thought it might have made you laugh.
Let them know how you feel, so they won't do it again.
and lastly, everyone's beautiful in their own way, so please don't put yourself down like that.
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First of all, don't you ever put yourself down like that. Whether or not you are unattractive is a matter of opinion, you're probably a lot prettier than you think.
Your friends may not have meant to hurt you, but they did and that gives you the right to be upset. However, they do feel bad and have tried to apologise. I think you should forgive them but let them know that you were really hurt by what they said and ask them not to do it again.
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