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I mean it was the truth.... (sorry this is kind of long)
13/f
Me and a friend, lets call her Ann, have been friends since kindergarden. But now we never see eachother, hardly talk, and really have nothing in common. Then a week ago we had an agrument, I don't remember how it started, but I said she changed and started caring what the popular people thought and really wanted to be popular. When people started wearing their jackets backwards, she followed. When people started wearing converse, she did. When I told her I was getting an Ipod, she went out and got an mp3 player. She even said she was going to throw a party and make sure she invited some 'popular' people!! Then I asked why she wanted to be popular, they were just rude. She said she had some popular friends and they were nice. But they're not, hello I know them! Now we are not talking and she says I am wrong. So answer this: How can I be wrong if everything I said was true?
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The problem is, once you have friendss, you stick by their side no matter wha. She see's them as nice, but you don't. you won't be able to change her opinion. You would probably do the same for your friends. Trust me, it happens a lot. you don't have to get along with her friends, just with her and focus on your friendship.
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You know what? Every friend goes through this they realize that being popular is awesome but then when they see what the 'popular' people do its not so cool anymore. 'Ann' just needs to see how BAD the 'popular' people can be.
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i understand your point, and theoretically you're right. however, if your best friend wants to be a lemming... that's her business really. there's not really anything you can do about it, except for confront her about it and you've already done that. what you can do is agree to disagree. you should talk to her and explain that you don't really like what she's doing but you will continue to support her as a friend. if she starts to treat you like scum then definitely confront her again. but until then, it's her life that she's screwing up and you've already warned her about it. hopefully within the next year she'll turn around... after all, you two are 13. something like this happened to me when i was 12, and one of my best friends and i fought for a whole year. now, we're even greater friends because of this. so don't stress yourself out over this because you still have time to make it better. good luck :)
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Your friend is trying to be someone she is not just to fit in. When she gets to highschool the chances of actually being popular are slim to none. Buying somethin just because Its the "in" thing at that time doesnt make you popular. wearing your jacket backwards died years ago. wearing Converse doesnt make you popular because my entire school would be popular. People that want to become "friends" with the popular people are just doing it for the friends. Being popular doesnt always give you a good status. I think popular people are stuck up. And thats just what i think. One of these days your friend will wake up & realiz that what she is doing is stupid. And if she decides that she wants to become friends with the popular people in middle school & lose you as a friend then let her be seriously. because when she becomes a freshman its a whole different world because not very many freshmen are popular.
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At your age, she is probably trying to find her identity and where she belongs. Almost the exact same thing happened to me and my friends. Don't try to convince her that these people are not her friends, she needs to find that out for herself. Just let her be, and if you two really don't have much in common anymore, maybe it's time for you to give eachother some space and find people you have more in common with.
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