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Can't get over him, even though he's treated me really bad
This guy liked me for several years. He told me and asked me out several times. I started to like him too. We decided to try it out, and for several months we were blissfully happy. And then it all went wrong. I got mad about something I heard about him cheating on me, he got mad I didn't trust him and dumped me on the spot. First issue in our relationship and we're over. He then expected me to be friends with him but I said screw you and blocked him.
My mom reckons he was just using me. I just can't understand why he would, but then why would he give up on me so easily? I know he had liked me a long time yet one bad thing happens and it's over. Just like that. No attempt to work things out.
I tried to make a complete break of him and get him out of my life and for a few weeks I didn't hear from him. Then he messaged me out of the blue and we started talking. And we discussed where it all went wrong, and he said he had been planning to do it for a while but he was going to do in person. Then he said "let's meet and work it all out, perhaps get back together, at least let's be friends" and agreed and went up to him the next day, and he made me feel like a fool by saying there was nothing else to work out. He said he only wanted to be friends again. So I yelled at him that night and said I no longer wanted to try and be friends and he said I was a bitch because we had been friends for so long and I was throwing it all away. I told him it was no longer my concern and if he wanted to work things out, he had to come up to me and do it in person and he was the one who gave up on us so easily. Haven't heard from him since. The truth is, I didn't wanna be friends because I couldn't get over him that way.
We work together so I see him all the time. And I can't get over him even though he's such an asshole and he's probably over me. What should I do? Am I a bitch for not being friends with him? And why would he give up on us so easily if he had liked me so long? That makes me so mad.. I wanted to work things out and he didn't.. I can't figure it out.
thanks.
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Hi there, your not a bitch or whatever. In fact that doesn't even make any sense. He might have gave up because he lost interest in you and must have only felt lust. He probaly liked other girls an all. This doesn't really make much sense so he was either playing with you or he had something on his mind and was all over the place with his ideas and what he says. He didn't really sound that interested in the relationship so he probaly wasn't interested in you. Your better off without him because Im sure you can do alot better. Good relationships require great communication. Daniel.
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Wow, that pretty much happened to me, cept it was a little bit differnt. No your not a bitch for not wanting to be his friend! A real friend wouldn't of treated you that way! You need to get over him and he should understand that. Maybe he did do something wrong, like cheat on you but tried to put it back on you not trusting him. Trying to make it your fault and an easy way out of the relationship. Maybe he was happy with you and got bored and started to use you or used you all along. You can't really know for sure why he acted the way he did. If you really want to know you have to ask him all these questions. I'm really sorry that happened to you. Good Luck!
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You are certainly not a bitch for not wanting to be friends with this guy!He cheated on you,and betrayed your trust.You're not the bitch,he is!You were right to say that if he wanted to work things out,he would have to do it in person.If he's not going to do that,he's not going to be a good friend anyways!You deserve the best,and he's definatly not it.
-Lady M♥
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well just start talking to him again and then say sorry for being so weird about just being friends I dont know what was wrong with me and then it should all fall into place.
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Hey,
i read your problem and i totally understand what your going through, and i am sure it all hurts. But first of all, you are most definitely not a bitch for not being friends with him. Because, number 1, the guy practically cheated at you, number 2, he is a big fat liar to say that he didn't and make up a huge fight with about not trusting him, number 3, if there is anyone considered as a bitch in this situation, than thats most definitely him.
second of all, i am sure that you were good friends ,but good friends only, this whole relationship thing between you and him didn't work out, and it was too obvious, he was mean to you and cheated on and betrayed you, and since he did that , then it probably means that he doesn't like you anymore, and a couple of days later and he'll be walking hand in hand with another girl, and you'll see that yourself.
I know it hurts and i know that your mad, and that you wanted to work things out, but don't you think that its really stupid and naive that he asks you to meet up with him to work things out and then the next day he makes a fool out of you and says that there is nothing to be worked out anymore, he's just try to humiliate you and show as if your running after him, but you weren't and you won't anymore. Because that guy is so mean to you and he's treating you in such an unfair way, he loves you for a second and cheats on you the next second. So if you really want advice, then trust me when i tell you to take a step back, and get over him, because he isn't good enough to be your boyfriend, and neither is he good enough to be your friend,so don't give yourself up to someone like him and don't waste your time running after him. Because you are much better and wiser than that. And i may not know you, but i do know that it was really sweet and caring of you to still go and talk to him and think of working things out with him.So just simply get over him ,and move on, and mabye you could know another person and he'd be really nice to you, and someone who'd really deserves such an amazing person like you.
Finally, if you need any other help , please be free to contact me.
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Well getting over someone you love takes a lot of time. If you think about it non stop, and you always stare at him, always talk about him, and when you hear his name you smile; you're in love.
The thing is, you just have to work on it. If he doesn't want to be with you, then you just have to try to get over it. Try to like someone new to get him off your mind. I know, you probably think its impossible but it really helps.
I hope I helped.
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Ok it doesnt mean he was using you. When he said he liked you for a looooooooong time that is a while, he could of been getting over you. He also could have been waiting to break up cuz he didnt want to hurt your feelings just keep things where they are!
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