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Hey, i'm the girl who asked you about me and my friend Max's relationship, well we didn't really talk about it, but now I am clear of what we are. Now we are boyfriend and girlfriend :D!!!! One of my closest friend asked him "Do you consider her as your girlfriend? and he said "of course!" so i was really happy to hear that. I'm really happy about that, not only that, but the other day he called me and said "i miss you" and i knew he meant every word he said, because he's not the type of a person who'd just say those stuff without meaning it, mostly because he's really shy, but also because he really doesn't like it when someone else tells him something that they don't mean, so i know for sure that what he says, he means it 100%. I'm so glad that he trusts me with everything and vice versa, I never have to suspect anything around him because i know he would never lie about anything.
I now know that like all the acts he has done in the past (ex. putting my picture as his msn display picture, lending his shoulder for me to cry on when i'm sad, and just all the other sweet stuff) he was trying to tell me that he wanted me to be his girlfriend and him being my boyfriend and he even told on of my friend too. But i was too slow to notice, SIGH anyways, now everything is great, we can't see each other everyday like we used to at school but we talk almost everyday on the phone and he always tells me "i miss you and he even told me that he will miss me to death when he goes to China for August, and that he'll also buy me lots of presents!!!! LOL, i'm just really happy about how he feels exactly the same as me, i don't really expect him to spend all of his money on my presents and stuff, whatever he gives me should be special enough, but i'll really really miss him to death too, and we both can't wait till the day we see each other.
I just wanted to let you know how it went since the last time i asked you and i also wanted to say thank you for reading all my long paragraphs and suggesting me with all the great ideas, i never had to use them but it came naturally, so that's great.
Please reply back, thank you~ i'll greatly appreciate it (link)
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Hi, I'm so pleased that everything is going well. Enjoy every bit of your life as you can, and take every opportunity that comes your way. Daniel.
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Ok, well, i really like your advice, and it would have worked, but tonight, i went to work and found out that these two might be hooking up now. They haven't yet i don't think, but is there even any point in asking now that i'[ve found this out, or should i just wait and try to get over him. I maen, they'll break up eventually, i wass talking to her one night, and she said she was looking for a summer fling and nothing more, she just hadn't found the guy yet, and now i guess she has found him and i'm afraid too that she'll break his heart. (she is really mean and evil and fake). What are your thoughts? (link)
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Hi, yeah just wait to see how things go. Daniel.
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Last july i met this guy at my church. ever since that day ive liked him alot. Wednesday my church youth group had this get together & he was there. But he had this girl with him. i got really jealous and upset about him bringing a girl around me.
He knows i like him alot & he has known for atleast 5 months. At the time i told him he had a girlfriend but they broke up 2 days after i told him. On myspace hes always posting bulletins about how he hates seeing those happy couples around kissing anding hugging eachother. He hates it because hes not with a girl.
I dont understand him because i want him more than anything. He says that no girl really likes him when he likes a girl. He cant always get tht girl he likes he should give the that likes him a chance.
I hate when he post these bulletins because he makes me feel sort of invisible.
Me and him never hang out. We talk online & at church. I want him to talk to me more then just that.
I feel like im holding on to liking him for no reason. He post all these bulletins about how he cant find a Girl to be happy with. Should i say anything to him? Or just give up on wanting to be closer to him?
im 17/f
hes 19/m
thank you. (link)
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Hi, yes deffinitly talk to him. You need to hang out more with him and express yourself. Let him know that your interested by simply telling him how you feel. That way he will know. Daniel.
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well I have this big problem that I flirt whenever, because I was just talking with this person that I don't "like-like" he's just okay, well anyway I realized after that I was sorta flirting and I realized I do it a ton, with out trying, and I am sending those people the wrong message, can someone help me with my problem, is it normal, I am way confused, thanks (link)
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Hi, yes it is normal to flirt. Whatever messages your giving, just don't give them. Just be friendly and be yourself. Daniel.
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Well, last summer I met this guy at camp and he seemed really sweet, so we started hanging out. After a while we started dating and after about a month we had sex. After, we broke up and this guy at my school asked me out. He's really sweet and I like him a lot, but I still have feelings for the guy I met at camp. Then about a week after I started dating the other guy, the guy I met at camp wanted to get back together. Do you think I should get back together with him or is he just using me for sex? I really like the other guy and he's never mentioned sex once and he told me he loved me, what do I do? (link)
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Hi, stay with the guy your currently dating. I think you havn't known the boy at camp very long and all of a sudden you have sex. This other guy wants love. Sex is nice but I would sooner have love don't you think? Daniel.
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ok so i really like my mums friend hes like her bestfriend im 18 and hes in his 30s or something and i really like him, when he looked in my eyes before all i wanted to do was kiss him i know it sounds sick but i really like him and want to see him again. He said to my mum i he was younger he would go for me anyday!! My mum got annoyed and they had a argument and are friends again but i never see him i want to and you know the worst bit when i masterbate i think of him.Someone help please. Oh yeh and i just want to kiss him badly. (link)
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Hi, I know you like him but he will probaly want to mix with girls his own age. I suggest you do the same thing. Daniel.
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Whats some good tips to keep a relationship alive that is with two people tat are trulely in love but dont see eachother a lot? we talk evreyday... anwere from 2-7 hours on the phone and atlest 2 hohurs on the internet a day... but we go like a mont without seeing eachother until January when we'll see eachother like evrey weekend... [[he lives 35-40 minutes away]] (link)
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Hi, long term relationships without seeing eachother usually doesn't work out. To love eachother and see eachother regularly and to have passion and commitment and trust to your relationship is the way. Lot's of confidence and determination for it to work is also the way to a good relationship, although like all relationships you and your partner will have your up's and down's just like everyone else. But if you've got lots of love for eachother then it is looking good. Try and arrange a time to see eachother more regularly. Perhaps you could catch a bus to were he lives, or get your parents to drop you off, or maybe you could go to his house for a couple of nights. Daniel.
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Ok so, i asked a question a while ago (called Work Guy) about if i should ask this guy from my work out. So i went to our work tonight to get a book and then popped by to say hi. When i was coming out of the bookstore, i saw him with this other girl. She works in my department. she's new...( boss's daughter's fiancee's sister), anyhow, they were just sitting down for their break together, so i went over to say hi. I'm friends with both of them. It seemed like the whole time, that she was giving me glares to leave the two of them alone. I didn't want to because i'm absolutely crazy about this guy and i can't stop thinking about him. So i stayed for like 1/2 an hour. We all talked etc. It did seem though like there was this weird lingering feeling as i was sitting there. she seemed like she was trying to flirt with him too and stuff. I really wanted to ask him out and i was all prepared to tonight, but now that i've seen him with another girl and flirting kinda and stuff, i lost all my courage and i can't do it now, and i'm insanely JEALOUS.
I need some help.....
What Can I Do????? (link)
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Hi, this is a tricky situation. It looks as though she likes him as well. This is what you can do:
a) Ask him out and maybe flirt when you are both alone together and see what his response is
b) or just leave it for a bit and see how long this connection lasts between the two of them.
Remember that you have a right to ask someone out or flirt with someone as well. Don't let her get to you, and do what your brain and heart suggest. Im sure that you will make a good choice. Daniel.
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Me and my boyfriend lets call him Tom have been together for about a week. We really have a good connection. I have hugged him once. And he asked me if he could kiss me twice, but i didn't answer him. I really want to kiss him so badly, but im nervous. When my friend lets call her Megan kissed her boyfriend lets call him Dan she nearly missed. So i don't want to miss like she did. But however I'm more experienced. And she's only kissed twice.Should I kiss him?? (link)
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Hi, if you like him which you do, then just do it basically. Use some of your experience to help you. Just think of it this way. It's just a kiss. Daniel.
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i am 15 years old going into my sophomore year and i have never been kissed and only had 1 boyfriend which we hung out but it wasnt like a real boyfriend, i use to do modeling and i was on the cheerleading team in middle school i know i am not ugly and people think i am pretty, some guys do like me and guys ask me out but i always turn them down, i have 2 older brothers and a little sister, my brothers are protective so i never want to have a guy around me or bring any guys to my house. is there something wrong with me? when people find out i havnt kissed a guy or done anything like that think i am weird or not likeable. but i do want a boyfriend i just have a hard time getting one i like, is anyone else like this? i dont know what to do! (link)
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Hi, there are quite a few people out there who probaly feel the way you do. Basically you seem to be a good looking young girl, maybe the next time you see a guy you like, just go up and start a conversation then at the end ask him out. Maybe you could do a bit of flirting. Daniel.
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next week, it'll be me and my boyfriend's two year anniversary and i feel like he's losing interest in me. what are things i can do to gain his interest back? (link)
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Hi, the only thing you can do is just show him how much you love him. If he's losing interest in you then it's not your fault. Daniel.
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okay I am not "boy crazy" but like i have been having short like feelings of being in love with a certain guy then it would fade then a new one would start but iw would be for atleast a month or more way more mostly, bu is that normal becuase it seems a little weird its like i am obsessed and they are all i can think about so is it
i hope you can help me
thnx (link)
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Hi, yes it is normal, it's probaly what they call a crush. Daniel.
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I'm a 15 year old girl and I know everyone who answers me is going to tell me that love doesn't exist at 15, so I'm going to say, I " like " this guy named Jon. We went out and my friend gave me this birthday present and Jon was like " Where did you get it" and I said " Brad gave it to me for my birthday" and Jon told me to give it back. Jon is very controlling and wont let me get a word in when he's in his controlling moods. I told him I wasn't going to give the present back because it's rude and Brad might think I don't like it and I do. When I said I wouldn't give it back he got mad and of course left me. I asked him later why he even loved me and he just said " I don't, bye. " I was really hurt and I cried for 3 hours. My friends cheered me up for that moment but I'm still upset. What should I do? Thanks in advance. (link)
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Hi, you should probaly go and see were he is and try and talk it over. It's good that you've got friends who are looking out for you. Have a talk to them and see what suggestions they give you as well. Daniel.
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i had this guy friend. lets say his name is john. and me and him were best friends and of course we fell for each other. and finally dated which i was kinda a jerk to him for a while there. and i broke up with him, and he stopped talking to me for the longest time =[.
finally recently weve started talking since i got my lincense i hung out with him alot lately.
but im afriad im starting to fall for him again and at first my plan was to jus start being friends with him again. but i think i like him more then a friend and i know he still likes me and wuold take me back the guestion is idk if i would hurt him again and ruin the friendship. =[
im kinda confused and idk if i need to slow things down a bit before we get our selves in some weird times again.
what do you say about this? (link)
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Hi, I agree I think you should start off with just being friends then it will develop from there. Daniel.
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Okay, so I'm in love with this guy named ross, and im not sure if i should hook up with other people to see if it makes him jealous or just hook up with nobody because i only want him. it makes me feel bad when i hook up with other guys bc it makes me want ross more but i figured he might want me more if i did hook up with other guys, and ive tried to before adn it didnt seem to work but idk i think should keep trying.
-- Danielle (on kellys username) (link)
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Hi, trying to make him jelouse may work, but the best option is to go and ask him out. That way you will get a straight answer. Daniel.
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ok so theres this guy Jesse. I went out with him in january and we broke up but since then he's always been there for me and told me when guys were using me and still cared about me for so long. in march/april we got back "together" but didnt like officially go out, because i ruined it by ditching him for another guy. after that he was still nice to me and we have been friends, but lately we've been drifting apart and i guess the distance has mademe realize that he was one thing in my life that was always there, left unappreciated. i realized that i really love him deep in my heart, and i cant lose him. i really feel like hes not the same anymore, he doesnt seem to care like he used to. i really hate myself for letting this happen and ive tried so hard to fix it. i sent him a page long letter that really showed how muchi cared and he just doesnt seem the same. i really miss him so much and i need advice. (link)
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Hi, do you know were he lives? You could go round to his house and talk to him in person. Otherwise the next time you see him, arrange somewhere were you can both meet and tell him there. Daniel.
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i know this may be long, but please i really really need help, i hate being heartbroken like this =[
so basically, i've liked this kid, lets call him gary, since the 4th grade, and now i'm going into 9th. we were "boyfriend and girlfriend" at the end of 5th grade, but since he was a grade younger, we couldn't see eachother when i went into 6th grade. i did something pretty low during the middle of 6th grade, i told my brother to brake up with me for him since i never saw him anymore, and started going out with this other kid. i still always thought of him, but i really wanted to just get over him. Then during the summer going into 7th grade, i went to his house because i found out my brother never told him that i didn't like him anymore, so i went to tell him because i was having dreams that we were back together. It turns out that he was away, so i talked to his mom and found out we had the same lunch period (i nearly died). THe first day i saw him in lunch, my heart explodedd, and so a few months later i broke up with my current boyfriend and he asked me out 2 days later, i said yes. After 3 months, things started going bad, and we broke up. I was soo soo depressed, i didn't know what to do with myself. Its been more than a year since we broke up and i still have feelings for him. He's had another girlfriend, but they didn't last for more than a month. i've never felt this away about someone, and i haven't talked to him in about 5 months. so i have a few questions.
1)how can i feel such a connection with him and feel sparks when i see him, but he doesn't feel the same? i mean cauz literally when i'd pass him in the hall, it would just feel like we were the only two people who existed at that moment.
2)i need to get over him, but i don't know how.
3)will i ever feel the same connection with someone else, or does this kind of connection only come around once? i'm not even sure if its a connection, its just my hurt bursts when i see him and i get sparks and everything, and it feels like we're the only two people who exist when we lock eyes, and he used to look at me in such a way that no one had ever looked at me before.
currently 13/f, almost 14. (link)
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Hi,
1. Just because you like him, doesn't mean that he feels the same way.
2. Find someone else you like or make more friends as a suggestion
3. You probaly will feel the same way about someone else, if not soon then later on in life.
You will probaly feel this for the rest of your life, especially through your teenage years.
I know that love hurts. I'm sorry if it's hurting you although I can understand were your coming from. Usually we like someone but they don't feel the same way, and it hurts us. You will probaly go through your teen years and see different people you like. Hope that helps and if you want to ask me about anything else then feel free to do so. Daniel.
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hey, well i went to the movies with the guy last week, and it was really good. but im not sure if he actually wants to be with me or if hes jus playin me. ive seen him a few times since the movies cos hes been working and when ive seen him we've talked heaps and the otha nite when i saw him he asked me to go out for tea with him, but i couldnt cos i was busy that nite. anyway i messaged him the other the nite and he seemed really uninterested, hes always like that when i message him, which makes me not wanna message him and makes me unsure of him- weather he likes me or not......wat do i do?? (link)
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Hi, the next move now is to tell him that you like him. This will be interesting because he will respond. Just see how that part goes for now. I'm pleased with how far you've come and how determined you are to make things right. Welldone! Don't try to hard though. Go somewere quite with him. get a small conversation going. Then say something like "you know what? I'm starting to like you". Make sure you use eye contact. Then you should get a response. See how it goes and feel free to get back to me. Daniel.
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wat is stds and how you get it (link)
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Hi, an STD stands for Sexually Transmited Disease and can occur if you've had unprotected sex. E.g. sex without a condom. Daniel.
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I will try and explain this without rambling on. There is this guy, "Q" is what we will call him. Well I have liked "Q" for awhile. We messed around and stuff (not bad, making out, not much worse than that), but I thought he liked me and that was why he was doing stuff with me, but then I came to realize he was just using me. I don't get why he doesn't like me. He gives me mixed signals like he likes me, then he doesn't. He knows I like him (or I think he still does), so he takes advantage of that. I'm just confused..and he likes so many other girls (which I'm not part of that list). And I really really don't want to like him, but I can't help it. I might even love him, not even joking. But everytime I even think about him, he makes me cry because I know he doesn't like me. But he likes so many of my friends its unreal. When I'm around him, it's like I'm not even there.
I just need some help on this situation.
Any advice at all will be great.
Maybe some ways to get over him.
Or maybe ways for him to notice me.
I see him a lot.
Thanks for anyone who helps : ]. (link)
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Hi, this guy doesn't sound to show of what he wants. If he's using you and taking advantage then he isn't worth bothering with. I think you have more lust for him than love. The making out is what he's probaly getting out of girls. A relationship is between 2 people, mostly between a male and a female. They like eachother not because of the making out but because of the strong bond or connection they have for one another. He's obviousley wasting your time, when you deserve and can do better. Daniel.
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