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what age is good to lose it?
i'm a 16 year old girl who has never done it or had even had a REAL boyfriend.
is this abnormal?
cause my friends are all off doing it and they think im such a nerd.
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not at all. i guess youre different from them and ig theyre making fun of you, teasing you, etc. then its time to get some new friends. not having a real bf at age 16 is OKAY . there is no certain age for that. and as far as sex goes, there isnt a certain age to lose it either. when you feel youre ready, then youre ready. if that doesnt comfort you enough, a lot of the most sexual celebrities out there lost theirs around the age of 18. ;)
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Yea. Yourse such a nerd when YOURE not the own getting STDs and YOURE not the one getting pregnate at a young age.My aunt got pregnant with my cousin when she was 17 and beleive me, up until this day, having him at a young age hasnt helped her much. Its alright not to have sex. If therye really youre friends,theyll totally understand.=]
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hey, hang in there, dont let any one pressure you into doin something you dont want to. i no that friends can be a real pain sometimes, being more expierenced and stuff, but really dont worry about it, take things as slow or as fast in that matter, as you want.
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Your friends are just stupid. At only 16 having sex and a boyfriend is way too much. Remember, childhood only lasts once, and their child-hood is going away. My sister, almost 18, has never had a boyfriend and did it. I'm almost 14, and never had a boyfriend. Everyone is different, and for those who do have sex, are sluts. Stay a virgin, because being a virgin is something that you will only have until you do it; you can't turn back. Take life serious when it comes to danger, and you will be presented a great gift.
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Lots of girls your age haven't had their first ANYTHING yet, either. Don't think you're the only one, because you aren't. Everyone takes time for something like this to happen. Some get it when they're 12, others when they're 16 and some even only have their first time when they're 18-30. It just depends on the person and if they're ready or not. It doesn't really matter if you didn't have your first kiss/loose your virginity and such, yet. You're only 16, hun. You have tons of time! When your first kiss comes/first time you have sex with someone, it should be with someone special that you care about and you want to do this with. You always remember your first time. So, don't get pressured into it. Make sure you're 100% comfortable with the person you're with. Give it time, though. It will come and it'll be that much more special when it does, because you waited until you were ready. ♥
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thats totally normal. i know people who havent had a b/f yet. and for the sex part..i know a lot of people who havent either. but that is because they are christian. i think you should wait for marriage. your virginity is a special thing and should be taken by someone that you love and that loves you..enough to spend the rest os your lives together. if a guy is pressuring you to have sex or dumps you because of it..its his loss..he was using you for sex.
true love waits
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its not a big deal
im 15 and ive never even had a boyfriend
dont stress
and dont let them pressure you into doing anything
your not abnormal
your just not easy
and if they think your a "nerd" for not having sex
then you need to find some new friends
i know its frustrating not to have a boyfriend
but in the long run, i bet you will be glad everything happened to you later on in life
good luck!
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No, it isn't abnormal, it's commendable. So few women hold onto their virginity until they have found someone they really want to lose it to and I think that is a real shame.
I was 18 before I started sleeping with my boyfriend and I don't have a single regret because although a lot of the girls I knew had already had sex and a lot of people called me 'frigid', I was the only one who did it when I was ready and can say it was a perfect experience. I'm also still with the same boyfriend three years on and not one of my one-time friends could say that about themselves.
Perhaps it isn't what everyone else is always doing and maybe that doesn't make it 'normal' but you know what? It's better to have a worthwhile experience and be classed as 'different' than to be a sheep and be miserable for the sake of making a bunch of so-called friends happy.
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So??Im 16female and never had a boyfreind or sex either.OOOOOOOH BIG DEAL!!!I myself am only going to lose it when im married.Im not going to be like them and lose my virginity to my boyfreind then break up with him then have a new boyfreind,do it with him and break up and so on till im married.By the time im married i will have gotten pregnant before,STD's AND a sucky ass reputation.Losing it now wont make me get no damn scholorship and get to go to the college i want,or make me any prettier.Itll just make me a hoe.You should do the same.They can say whatever the hell they want to,theyll see wholl be getting the last laugh when youve got a scholorship and really smart and healthy and they all have STDs!!Dont do anything your going to regret later on.Because EvErYoNe i know gets screwed posts their questions here saying "OH NO IM PREGNENT HELP!!"Are you ready for that?
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there is no certin age hun
you will know
because you will really love him and feel ready.
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when u are comfortable you can loose your verginaty... dont get pressured into doing it because your friends did it!if you do you wil regret it..trust me
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That`s normal. You don`t need to have sex because your friends are doing it. Think of the things that can happen you can get pregneant sure it`s great having a kid but at your age it`s not. So, if they call you a nerd oh well at least your the one that`s doing the right thing here.
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If being a virgin makes you a nerd then so be it.
You shouldnt have sex because friends are. Once you lose your virginity its gone.& that guy you gave your virginity is never going to be out of your head.
Your friends are having sex because they think that it makes them cool but really its not. That guy probly wont be around forever.
You should be proud that you are a virgin.
You should wait till you meet a guy that you truly love & the one that you will marry. If you wait till you are married to lose your virginity you know that you gave your virginity to a guy that honestly loves you.
You are not abnormal & noone should make you feel like you are.
hope i helped
kim:)
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No its not abnormal.
There is NO age ever to lose it,
come on. Its better to be a virgin until marriage, its not like every single person out there is bent on having sex.
Your friends will regret it if not now,
I mean sex is something incredibly SPECIAL,
You cant ever take it back, and every time you give yourself to someone, you never get it back.
You arent a nerd at all.
When your ready to do it, you'll know.
I suggest waiting until marriage, but hey thats who I am. Just remember its something special, not to just be used on anyone, since after you do it, there is so many more emotions you'll be feeling. guilt,happy,sad .. etc.
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What makes you think it's abnormal?
Who cares if your friends are doing it.
You are your own person.
It doesn't matter if you haven't had a serious boyfriend yet. Alot of people haven't at your age anyway.
Don't think you're missing out, because you really aren't!
Take your time, find the right person and when the time is right, you will be thankful you waited :)
There's no rush.
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You should cherish being pure.Don't be in a rush to get a real boyfriend.I'm 17 and I didn't get a real boyfriend until i turned 16 and I'm happy for it because I love him. Waiting for the right guy is the best thing you should do. Please don't be in a rush for disappointment!
<3 KK
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It's not abnormal at all. I'm 16 years old and proud to admit that I am a virgin. And I tell everyone that from what my friends told me that it's a regret to have sex, because 3/4 of my friends that had sex ended up pregnant. So think 0f the outcome. Also, it's nothing to worry about if not having a boyfriend. People get theirs at different times. Your friend may have a boyfriend already, but a boyfriend for you is out there somewhere waiting for you, as well.
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I know exactly how you feel. Im 15 and the same way. It feels like everyone has a boyfriend except me or everyone is having sex except me. But you DONT have to be like everyone. Just be yourself. When the right guy comes you will know. And about your friends thinking youre a nerd, who cares. If you know inside that your not, dont let it get to you. Good Luck!
<3kristi
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nope perfectly normal ... ever heard of the 40 year old virgin lol and chances are your friends havent had it either and they just say they did to feel older so i wouldnt worry about and plus a guy likes to show a girl "how its done" lol
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I'm older than you, and I haven't had sex yet. I had one real boyfriend...but I didn't have sex with him. I'm not ready for it. I always told myself I would wait til marriage, but realistically, I will probably do it when I find a guy that I am in love with and I know that he's in love with me. But, you know what...I'm in no rush because my first time will be special...and I won't regret it. I'll be able to handle emotionally and you know...good things happen to those that wait. Also, it makes me feel kind of special that I still have something that is special...a lot of girls my age don't. I frankly don't care if they think I'm a nerd.
Teacup
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That is not abnormal at all. Most of my friends that age haven't had much experience either. Everyone develops at different times, and you probably just aren't ready to have sex yet. Don't rush into these things, just take it slow. Real friends will understand, and maybe you should find some people who are also not as experienced that you can relate to.
There is no good age to lose it at, the only good time is when you find someone special that you can trust and truly want to give it up to.
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