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I'm temporarily in a long distance relationship with my bf (as in, we were together when he went away to work, and he will be coming back in a few months.) However, it's not going very well. I know he's going out and having fun all the time and I'm not angry about that or anything, but it just makes me feel a bit lonely and jealous. He doesn't seem to make much effort to contact me either and whenever we do talk it's like I've sent him a text message first or I've IMd him first, and he always seems so distracted. He never says he misses me unless I say it first.
A month or so before he went I told him I loved him and he didn't say it back cos he didn' t want to til he truly meant it, which had a massive strain on our relationship. The day before he went I told him upset that I seemed to care more about him going than he did, and all he said was that he only cared in a good way because he was excited for this opportunity. But the thing is, when we started out, it all went really well, and in fact he was the one to pursue ME and I was the one that had to be convinced into liking him!!! I'm missing those days (and him) so much.
I really don't know what to do :( I don't want to break up with him, but I don't know what to say to him either. I'm going to visit him pretty soon which because of cash will be the only time I can when he's away, so that might be some help... someone please help me, I'm getting really upset about this.
.xoxoxo
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im basically in the exact same situation, but i broke up w/ mine yesterday. i dont know what were going to do. but i think if your going to see him soon that you should try to hold out until then and when you get to see him see if your feelings are still the same. i think you need to talk to him about yall situation. basically here is how i thought about it: you have all the peices to build something really amazing and beautiful, but some of the most important peices ar really heavy and you cant lift them by yourself. when you try you strain yourself and it hurts. you never get anywhere b/c if the other person isnt putting in the effort you are, it cant be built. i think if he said that he didnt want to tell you he loved you until he really meant it that it was a good idea b/c thats what i said to mine and he really appreciated that. because honestly, would you really want him to say it if he wasnt sure he even meant it? it really is alot to think about, but just try to stay strong. yall need to discuss whether or not you want to stay together, just casually date, be friends or what the other wants. good luck, and i hope it all works out!
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my class rank is 77 out of 864
what percentile am i in?
like top 20..?
top 15..?
and if you could explain how you got it, that would be fantastic =] (link)
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your actually in the top 10 percentile
you make a proportion
77/864 = some number/100
multiply 77 by 100
get 7700
divide 7700 by 864 and get something like 8.91
and its easy to look at if you see that if there is 864 people than the top 86 are the top 10 percent and your 77 i hope that helped!
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okay so i just bought the book "the truth about forever" by Sarah Dessen and i was wondering..is it a good book? what were your opinions about it?
was it funny in any way? or was it boring? its seems kinda boring but i only got through the first couple of pages. any opinions would help.
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im actually re reading it right now
i loved it the first time around, if you have read any of her other books and liked them you should like this one, its one of my favorites
her books always have a slow start, but they get so good
theres some humor
and some times in the book when you just want to punch some of the characters
you should definately give it a shot
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i'm not all guy crazy like my friends are, i don't go to the mall and go ohh hes hott! i am not like that, even close, i dont even walk by guys and judge them. there is this kid i have kinda had my eye on this past school year but again nothing major. my best friend has been friends with him forever so he is always over her house when i am there, we go swimming at night there and its a long story but she asked him and i to go swim around the pool and flirt for a while, i was glad to cause i kinda like him. so we flirted and when it was totally dark he swam by me and pulled my bathing suit bottom and then grabbed my top(he knew my strings were double knotted so he grabbed the front like my boob)it seems bad but it wasnt and i laughed so the next night we were all swimming and we kinda flirted on our own so later i had my friend say it looks like you and ash were flirting do you like her? and i guess he said yes! i want him to ask me out but how would i like cross his line between liking me and asking me out? wat could i do? (link)
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ive got a similar issue
the best advice i can give you is to not over-flirt
i dont think you would, but sometimes when girls do they come off a little crazy. If he likes you and knows you found out and then you start acting different, he might not like you any more
and thats REALLY hard. I would just try talking to him like normal and flirt, but not anything out of your comfort zone. he should get the hint and ask you soon but be patient, guys can be pretty oblivious. Keep doing what youve been doing and he should start liking you more and more until he asks! good luck
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I'm actually really confident.
I think I look good, not great, but not horrible.. I dont mean this in a concieted way either.
Its just, I'm asian, and when I'm around other people I feel ugly.
I can't help it, I cant see why any guy would choose me over any of them, I know thats not the point.
But what can I do about feeling this way?
I only feel ugly around them, because everyone I see is goregous, young or old. I believe everyone is beautiful but myself.
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im the same way around some of my friends
i dont really think im fat, but around my best friend whos 5 feet even and like 100 pounds i do. sometimes when were around people who are so different from ourselves,we start to think we should be like them when that isnt the case at all. truth is, if a guy cant see you over any of them, hes probably shallow and only into looks. youll find a guy who likes you for you and your personality. i know alot of guys who wouldnt date my really pretty tiny friend just b/c of her personality. and besides that, everyone is pretty in their own way, we all have our individual quirks. try focusing on who you are and not what you look like. that could help.
good luck!
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I was just wondering about what the style today is for guys for body hair i.e. chest hair, happy trails, leg hair, facial hair and stuff like that. (link)
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happy trails are fine, alot of girls dont like chest hair but i know some that do. and guys that do anything about arm and leg hair to me are kinda freaky. facial hair just depends on if you look good w/ it or not. scruffy facial hair can be really hott though.
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hey i'm a guy hust wondering what kind of hair girls might like- long, short, spiky, whatever. Just say what you would like thanx! (link)
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i like shaggy hair, but it really just depends what you look like, some guys dont look good w/ shaggy though. most girls dont like spiked hair, its one thing if its short and you put some gel in it, but i wouldnt go as far as spikes. but i know girls like guys w/ a bit longer hair so they can mess w/ it.
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i'm sort scared that my boyfriend and i are growing apart and if i do talk to him,not much changes.i just want to know if breking up with him is what i should do.i wana stay together but i also want to do whats best for us.i just don't know what that is... (link)
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i think you should talk to him about it
find out if he feels the same way
discuss it and come to a decision together
because if you dont, and you decide that the relationship cant take anymore, he might be confused why yall are breaking up.
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14/f
i'm trying to break my caffeine addiction, i've been drinking a cup of coffee every morning for 2 years now, and since caffeine exhausts you i'm trying to stop. (i also drink things like green tea throughout the day but i don't drink it past 1 pm)
But I don't know whether I should just cut back to 1 cup of tea (30-55 mg of caffeine) daily, or just get off of it completely? (link)
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ive been drinking coffee since i was 3 and im 16, so i see where your coming from. I wouldnt advise stopping right away, because when you do that you can get really bad headaches and they're not any fun. i would try to get off the coffee, its not only got alot of caffeine but it can stain your teeth too. I would try replacing the green tea with decaff if they have it and if they dont one cup a day would be good to start and then i woul go from there. good luck!
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1.)why do people say" im fine" even though they are hurt and stuff? doesnt it hurt a lot more if you act like nothings hurting you?
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because "whats wrong" is usually a stupid question
realisticly(sp?) when someone is upset, crying or w/e and someone asks whats wrong and they say nothing or im fine its because they really dont feel like talking about it and its the easiest response. some people just have to cry and be upset and theyll tell you about it in their own time and if they dont want to tell you whats bothering them then all you can do is respect that persons decision
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what happened on the last gilmore girls episodee? on the wb or whateverr. thanks (link)
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the last episode was a re run of the parents day at yale that lorelai an chris went to. the last new one was a road trip to see mia the old manager at the independance in where lorelai first started working as a maid and mia took her and rory in. emily went along and logan showed up after really pissing off rory. zach and lane asked luke to be the babies god father and i think thats pretty much it.
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How to flirt with a guy so good that they will change their mine about not dating you. (link)
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confidence can get you so far. its totally possible for a guy not to like you but then realize a bit later that your amazing and then they like you. it happens all the time. just dont be fake because that causes problems. be yourself (wow that sounds lame) and everything should fall into place. show him how much fun you are to be around, how well you treat people, how you can be funny and also laugh at yourself. if you can make him see that your a good person who knows, he may change his mind, but if he doesnt, dont sweat it, guys can be oblivious jerks, it just means your better off with someone else. good luck!
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13/F.
Hi everyone!
Anyone know any websites or stores where I can get a cute, affordable-ish (under $100) tankini swimsuit?
Thanks in advance :) (link)
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alloy.com i was looking at their magazine yesterday and they have tankini tops and a huge selection of different bottoms and colors and its way affordable! they have a bunch of other cute stuff too!
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alright, i know this may sound stupid, but how exactly do you flirt with a guy, especially, if he's a good friend? any tips would also be good (link)
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i was really confused about this too a while ago b/c i have alot of guy friends and i wanted one to think of me as more than a friend. one of them and i go after school together everyday to one of our teachers and get candy. just stupid little things like that make it easier to be alone w/ them and flirt. guys love it when girls are confident and sweet. just be yourself which i know sounds so cliche! being nice-sarchastic can work really well too b/c then you make them laugh and you laugh too and you can show them how much fun you are to be around. then before you know it they start questioning whether or not you should be more than "just friends" you dont have to be cheesey or slutty when you flirt, just by taking all of your insecurity barriers down and putting yourself out there which i know is so hard is a great first step. and remember, smiling alot works wonders!
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I'm wicked shy and no one in my classes knows me. I'm even shy around my friends! If I'm with a bunch of classmates and they are all talking I want to say something so bad but I feel like I'm going to say something stupid and laugh. Usually i never talk and just sit there and listen to them talk, but now I want to be the one talking the most. But i'm so shy and trust me, i try to start conversations but i get soooo scared that i stutter or say something that makes NO sense. i'm getting to a point where no one really even knows what my voice sounds like and i wanna talk but i get so scared and i cant think of anything to say.
i need real answers not ones like "try to start conversations" because i do and DONT say "just say whats on your mind" because i get so scared that my mind goes blank. haha (link)
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sometimes its just small things that start convos like if someone in your class saw a movie you did and theyre talking about it just be like oh yeah i saw that too it was really good did you like the part when...etc. im both shy and not shy. if i know who im around then im completely out there but if im in an uncomfortable situation im pretty quiet. what has worked alot for me, is starting conversations w/ other shy people. usually something really random or funny, just to try to get to know them. i know as a shy person that when someone does this for me i feel more included and by doing this you build self confidence and before you know it youll be jumping into conversations like crazy! good luck!
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I don't know why and it's kinda gross but lately like everyone in my class started wearing thongs instead of underwears and even the teacher! I don't get what's so good about having a peice of string hanging up your ass. Is it like because when you're wearing something that's not jeans that the lines on your thongs wont show up as much as an underwear would? Or is it cheaper or something? (link)
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im not a huge fan of thongs myself. alot of underwear does show panty lines but that can be easily avoided if your clothing fits right. and actually i know that alot of thongs cost more than or as much as regular underwear. i like the compromise of bikini underwear b/c its not butt floss and it doesnt look like its for 60 year olds. but boyshorts are awesome too!
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Ok, i have my best friend, lets call her (kristy) ans i have another friend, lets call her (shannon). Ok, well i always have had kristy as my best friend but ever since last year shannon has kinda made me feel like the third wheel. Ok, well she wont let me sit by kristy at lunch anymore cuz i used to everyday. Now, kristy has kinda left me for her and she hangs out with all these different people now. I have the same freinds she has but all the friends like her so much better. When me and kristy go to places together and stuff, like basketball games at our school all of our friends will say hi to her but not me. They think she is just so facinating. When she takes me to some of the games she always talks to other people and not to me and none of the other girls will talk to me cuz they already have kristy. When they have a secret they always tell kristy and not me and all sorts of things like that. I am tired of being ignored by other people. Kristy never hardly pays any attention to me. When its just me and her she does but not when people are around. All my other friends are just interested in her now and i am feeling so left out. They always ask her to go places with them (more of shannon than anyone)when i am standing right there. Sometimes shannon will wait for kristy when she gets off the bus and i ride the same bus kristy does and if kristy is not on the bus, shannon will say "Where's rikki" as soon as she sees me getting off the bus. She dosent even say hi first. It looks like kristy dosent need me anymore but all my other friends always hang around her now. Sometimes when i am tell kristy something (story and just talking to her), if kristy sees one of her friends she will just leave me standing there in the middle of a sentence and go talk to her friend. I have tried to talk to her but she dosent listen. She's just to popular to do that. Whenever we go to the computer lab at school, she always has other firends sitting by her and i have to sit 3 or 4 seats down from them and i hera them laughing and giggling and having a good time and i am not. please help me on what to do because this is the biggest thing i have ever needed advice on because it has been happening for a very long time. thank you so much, you dont know what it means to me. (link)
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this happened to me last year and it totally sucked. I tried fighting it, but it was no use. You just have to let it go, because theres nothing you can do about it. When it happened to me my friend told me i "changed" which was a complete lie because i had the same friends and she was the one contradicting herself. If you've tried talking to her about it and its no use than chances are theres nothing else you can do. People DO change when they get older and thats probably just whats happening. If you havent tried talking to her either call her or pull her aside and tell her, "hey i need to talk to you and its really important" if she wont respond to that than shes not a true friend anymore and not worth wasting your time. good luck!
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i like or liked this guy. he used to go to my school and i was like totally in love with him for a whole year. he wasn't my boyfriend though. but we talked a lot. and i loved him so much.
anyway then he went to a different/better school. i never heard from him since but i missed him a lot and still loved him. i even saw him twice one time i visited our school but he didn't see me. and the other time i saw him walking on the street.
anyway there is this guy in my school and he is really hot and cute. and he always smiles at me. everytime he sees me he stares at me for a long time. and he is a lot like the other guy who left the school. thats the weird thing. and everytime i see him i get so nervous in my stomach. but only when HE looks at me. when other guys smile at me it means nothing to me
so do you think i like this guy?? and what about the other guy? (link)
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it might now be that you like him, but just that he reminds you so much of a person you used to like. Your just being reminded of someone you used to have a crush on and falling for that memory. I would get to know this guy in your school before you decided if you liked him or not. If you like him for his looks, b/c he reminds you of that guy, its just a harmless crush. good luck!
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there is this guy that i think i like (he treats me how i wanted to be treated).but i also heard rumors in school about him that he cheated on his ex girlfriend in the past. I asked him about it and he told me that he did and that was because he hated his girlfriend. He says he likes me and always wants to hang out but i always tell him he cant come over and i cant leave my house. I tell him that because im the kind of girl who gets attached to easy to everything. i wanna hang out with him and be with him but im scared because of the rumors. we talk all the time on the phone and he tells me all kinds of sweet things that makes me smile thats what makes me like him. What if we do go out and he leaves for Oklahoma n January? What am i going to do without him? and no i hate long distance relationships.
well my questions are..
1)should i believe the rumors?
2)how can i hang out with him without getting attached?
3)if he leaves and we are together how could i handle that? or should i even go out with him? (link)
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Ok well first off, rumors are rumors, and you said he owned up to them so hes not lying about cheating on his girlfriend. I would be really paranoyed if i had a boyfriend that cheated on a girl in the past. and for what i know, if you like him, the more your around him will just make you like him more. For example, I like this guy in one of my classes and when i see him i just start liking him more and more. I think IM and the phone are your best bet. or hanging out in groups of friends could keep you from getting as attached then you would if it were just you and him. Its hard when a boyfriend leaves and your still dating. Its not that long distance relationships dont work out, its just theres so much stress that goes into them. People get paranoyed, they start missing their boyfriend/girlfriend and feel really lonely and theres nothing they can do about it so they feel helpless. It really all depends on you, if he likes you and you like him you can probably give it a shot and then hanging out wouldnt be a problem. but like i said, him leaving would be really hard. It all matters on how much pain you can handle. The pain of not knowing what would happen, or the pain of knowing and something bad happening, like cheating or moving away. But if i were you, I would take the risk, a broken heart almost always heals. good luck!
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One of my friends that likes to start drama told someone that I talked about them. I didn't, but that friend talks about the other person all the time. Even though she made up a lie about me I still haven't told them what she's said because that's just me. I don't like to start crap. Anyway...what can I do to show them that I'm NOT lying and that I didn't talk about them without revealing what my two-faced friend said about them? Please help! I know it's confusing, but try to stay with me.
Thanks a lot!
Katie (link)
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ive got a friend and one of her friends does this and it drives me crazy! last year she told some girl that i dont even know that i was talking about her, when really it was her. I just tried to explain to my friends what really happened, and leaving out the details that would make you seem like your starting something. for example, say your friend was talking bad and you were their and you made some comment but it wasnt mean, then she told that girl you were talking about her. just be like no, i was talking to so and so and she brought you up so i said(explanation here) that way, you dont try to replace the blame. if they dont believe you, its not worth you time worrying about. especially if its a friend because your friends should always believe you. good luck!
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