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Feeling pretty, and happy about self.
I'm actually really confident.
I think I look good, not great, but not horrible.. I dont mean this in a concieted way either.
Its just, I'm asian, and when I'm around other people I feel ugly.
I can't help it, I cant see why any guy would choose me over any of them, I know thats not the point.
But what can I do about feeling this way?
I only feel ugly around them, because everyone I see is goregous, young or old. I believe everyone is beautiful but myself.
help?
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You seem like such a sweet girl who is beautiful on the inside and on the outside. Just from your brief question I can see many qualities that you possess that makes you beautiful to me. It's a shame you can't see them as well. You really need to start seeing the truth and get rid of the negative perceptions you have of yourself.
Unfortunately, it's very common for people to treat others better than they treat themselves. I do it too, and if I had to guess, you probably don't even have to try to see the beauty in others because it comes naturally. However, when it comes to yourself, the negativity comes naturally and all you can see are the flaws.
This kind of thinking does nothing but make us feel bad about ourselves and makes us feel like others are better than we are. This isn't true. This kind of thinking is a hopeless, self-defeating bad habit that you have to work on breaking. Most people don't recognize negative thinking as a bad habit, but that's exactly what it is.
Here's a good analogy that you might refer to when you're feeling down. Negative thinking is a lot like putting on a pair of sun glasses in the sun. The glasses might make everything look dark, but the sun is still out shining just as bright. When we think negatively, everything seems darker, but the positivity is always there - we just shut it out.
You have to learn to be nicer to yourself and more loving. Start focusing on the things you do like about yourself instead of on the things you don't. Constantly tell yourself that you're just as attractive as everyone else - because you are. You may not believe it at first, but practice makes perfect. Just like you've made negativity a habit, you can also make positivity a habit.
Just keep shutting out that negative voice inside your head that's lying to you, telling you things to make you feel bad about yourself. I guarantee you that these thoughts aren't true. With a little effort to be more positive to yourself and some patience to let the negativity subside, you'll see you're just as beautiful as you allow yourself to be.
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im the same way around some of my friends
i dont really think im fat, but around my best friend whos 5 feet even and like 100 pounds i do. sometimes when were around people who are so different from ourselves,we start to think we should be like them when that isnt the case at all. truth is, if a guy cant see you over any of them, hes probably shallow and only into looks. youll find a guy who likes you for you and your personality. i know alot of guys who wouldnt date my really pretty tiny friend just b/c of her personality. and besides that, everyone is pretty in their own way, we all have our individual quirks. try focusing on who you are and not what you look like. that could help.
good luck!
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I feel that way too sometimes, but you just have to remember that everyone is different-- and for a reason, too, because otherwise life would be super boring, ya know?
If you know you're pretty, then don't sweat it. If you're special enough to realize it, then you've got absolutely nothing to worry about. Everyone's insecure about SOME things, ya know?
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