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It's not that I'm bitchy, just that I'm right. Sorry if you're too stupid to comprehend.

About me? I'm in an interracial relationship- have been for overs year. He's black; I'm white. We're pretty rad, if I do say so myself.

I live in Florida. I'm a high school graduate. I like to knit. I don't take my own advice, simply because I'm stubborn. I have a big family. Also,I have a experience with children and babies. I like to party party party and get wasted. I like to smoke cigarettes. I like to snuggle. That's all you need to know. :)

++I don't answer questions nicely [if at all] to thirteen year olds, no matter their problem.

++I have also stopped answering the whole "DOES HE LIKE ME?!?!" questions. Communication is key, people. If you want to know, ASK.
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I don't know what to do with him! I found out from my bff that my bf made a facebook group thing about our relationshp. I went and red a few things on it and it is personal and nothing anybody should know but us so I told him I knew he had a secret he was keeping from me but not what it was so he would tell me or something but he didn't. i kinda thought that he posted stuff and didn't think it was bad and I wanted to give him chances to say so but he just said he didnt have no secrets so i went back to read the rest and he had made it private only so now it is hidden from me.

I guess what I am asking is if he didn't think this was wrong why did he hide it when i found out? He still denies everything and now i got no proof because i cant see it anymore!!! i have been crying about this and i feel betrayed like he has a secret life on facebook or something! should i stay with him if he isn't going to be honest and still hides things?

Sorry if this is too long! (link)
First things first, you need proof. I know that you're not crazy and YOU know you're not crazy, but you're not going to be able to corner the boy if you don't have proof. Is there anyone you know and trust that is 'friends' or whatever with this group on facebook? Ask them to try to log on the page to see anything. If they can see what he's posting, hit the "Print Screen" button on your keyboard, located at the top, directly to the right of the keys that say F1-F12. Then open Paint and click "Paste" then the screen should pop up. Print out that page- there's your proof.

Nextly, think through want you want to say to him. Practice it in your head. Be calm, be clear, and be direct. Keep that print out near you, guard it like a newborn. Everytime he does something cute or nice, remember that he also put your business on the internet- Facebook,no less.

Take your proof to him. Tell him what you know- there's a group, he started it, and you want it deleted. It's a gigantic invasion of privacy and could get you in trouble in the future. What if you applied for a job somewhere in the future and your potential boss looked you up? He wants to know that you're responsible and good for the job, not how well you give oral sex. See what I mean?

If your boyfriend doesn't delete the group, contact Facebook admin. They're there for a reason.

Then,if it were me, I'd cut my losses and leave. You can't trust him. He's hiding the page because he knows its wrong,but it makes him feel good,all the same.

I hope this works out for you, regardless of what you decide to do.

when you have sex for the first time but he didnt pop your cherry does it mean yor still a virgin ? (link)
Once you have sex you're not a virgin anymore. [:

last year me and this guy were close n we liked eachother but never told eachother . this year he changed and flirts with evry single girl including me . even though he write the same stuff to me as the other girls does he actually have any feelings for me ? i am a female 13 years old . he is a male 15 years old . (link)
Dear, I hate to be the one to break it to you... but he's a 15 year old boy. You said it yourself that you aren't the only girl he's flirting with. Do yourself a gigantic favor and don't waste your time on him. You're young, you have plenty of time to deal with jerks, don't get ruined on the very first one.

is it bad that i like hearing guys moan during sex. i feel like im the only one buts its so sexy!
Haha, dear it's not weird at all. Boys generally like to hear that their ladies are enjoying themselves...and so do we. :)

Ok i'm going to be 18 on July 10th and there is this dude named Jason who I like and he likes me too...he says that I have all the qualities he wants and in a girl and he just makes me feel real good...but there's a huge problem...He is 27!!!! ahhh I don't know wut to do!! I think when ur 18 ur legal, but still is it bad gettin involved w/him? I'm real confused! (link)
Once you turn 18 you are legal, yes, but that might not make this relationship any better an idea. Consider all of the things you're looking for in the next five years, then consider what he might be wanting in the next five years. Are those two things remotely similar? I'm not saying that this relationship is doomed for failure... but be careful. He's experienced so many more things than you, and chances are that regardless of the qualities he wants and likes in you, you won't always see eye to eye.

Why do my period goes off for a day then come back on? (link)
Don't worry about it. Some days your period is just lighter than other days.

does anyone kno any sites where u can make ur own profile like somethin like that cause im lookin but i cant find any..... (link)

I love my boyfriend but how long in a relationship do u think u should wait to have sex? (link)
I agree with the person below me about a little more information being helpful. If you're under 18, chances are you haven't been together long enough yet regardless of how much you love him. As a general rule for myself, I never get intimate with a guy until he's made some kind of real impact in my life. Yeah, I can think I love him or whatever, but until he's made some kind of change to me- helping me grow as a person some how- I'm not ready for him to be a notch on my bed post, so to speak.

do all black guys have big private parts
Um, this is kind of a generalization. Some of them do, yeah, but some of them don't. Like everything else, it all depends on the individual.

not to sound inappropriate... ive never given head and am afraid im going to be bad since i started dating this new guy. are there any tips u have? and its kinda embarassing that im 17, so i dont wanna be bad for him. (link)
As a first note, I agree with the person below me. I'm kind of confused as to why people portray innocence and having values as a bad thing. Do what you feel comfortable with, and nothing more or less. If you're with a guy that isn't willing to give you a break because you're not a hooker-- well, then what exactly made you want to date him in the first place?

Secondly, we're not really allowed to go into super detail about sexual stuff on here, buut you can search through some of the questions to see what's been asked before.

Thirdly, go into this with confidence. Ask him what he likes, ask him what he wants you to do, what he doesn't like. Make it sexy. Ask him to be patient and teach you. Some guys get all flustered over that sort of thing. [:

about 3 months ago, i was diagnosed with leaukemia=[. the doctor told me that i am gonna die after my 8th month. is he allowed to tell me this? he just flat out said... " in about 8 months your gonna die ", he made me my mom my dad and my brother cry. so anyways.... can he tell me this... and can i like sue him for it?

f/13 (link)
No, you can't sue him for this. He's a trained professional, and he simply gave you his professional opinion by looking at your tests or x-rays or what have you. It's a very entirely unfortunate situation and for that I am sorry. Just because he said it, doesn't mean in exactly eight months you're going to drop like a fly- the time could be more or less. So, if I were you, I'd be getting anything in order that you need to, and spend as much time as possible with your family.

if you saw your husband sending messages to other girls lets say thru facebook or myspace etch and he wrote "hey bby let me get your aim or msn,your a cutie" while being with you would you get mad?? but without him knowin you check his thing . (link)
It's not cool that you went through his private things, so shame shame for that. But it'd be pretty upsetting to most partners to see or hear that kind of talk. Confront your husband. First apologize for peaking, you realize that you shouldn't have.. but you valued your relationship with him enough that you had to see if there was a problem. Obviously straight up asking him before you peaked wouldn't have helped anything because he probably would've lied about it.
Ask him to go to therapy with you. Even if nothing is going wrong, this could be a big stumbling block in your relationship, just to forget the harsh feelings you'll undoubtedly have towards each other. If he's not interested in some sort of therapy, go alone.

okay im female 16 and have only had boyfriends
but lately ive been looking at lesbian porn :S i enjoy it .. does this mean im bi??? (link)
This means you're a curious sixteen year old female. There's nothing wrong with exploring or figuring out what you like and don't like. As long as what you're doing is safe and not breaking laws or house rules, no one should have a problem with what you're doing in your bedroom with the door closed.

...But remember, I said SAFE, not unlawful and not breaking house rules- those are the keywords here.

But hey, even if you are bisexual, that's not a big deal either. Chances are though (if you're worried about it, I mean) you'll grow out of it.

what kinds of phones work for verizon? like nokia, or is that its own network? what about motorola? and any others please (link)
I have the Motorola Droid (lovelovelovelove it) and it's on the Verizon network.

You should check out the website, though. [:

My 7 mo. old daughter recently had her finger burnt by a waiter at a large childrens pizza chain. Nothing serious, just a small blister, but still almost 5 hours of screaming in pain. The company offered us "reasonable compensation" for her pain and asked my husband and I to come up with an amount. Neither one of us has been through this before so our question is, What amount would be considered Reasonable. Any Suggestions? (link)
Talk to your doctor or attorney. No one (especially on here) knows your daughter like you, your husband or doctor. No one knows "reasonable compensation" more than an attorney. The amount will differ from the age of the person, the extent of the injury at the time, and the extent of the permanent damage that was caused. Since you said it wasn't anything too serious, it may not be a large amount... but you won't know for sure until you talk to someone with a degree and experience.

Hope that helps and hope that your daughter gets well soon. [:

Today i have been wearing an "emma" push up bra from the store aerie. it is the first day that i was wearing it. I was wearing it starting at 6:40 or 50. At around 11:40 in spanish class, the upper left side of my chest began to pinch and sting. I have bad anxiety so i suddenly thought omg! what if i have a heart problem??" then i tried to get my mind off of it. Then the pain moved to the left and back to the right. it caused me to burp and feel nauseous. thats when i for sure thought that it was anxiety until i thought about my bra. me and my friend traded bras in the girls bathroom because her's wasn't a mega push up bra. My chest felt slightly better but then came back worse within minutes. I live in new jersey so it is normally cold and now it is turning into spring. Maybe its allergies or my asthma? i have seasonal asthma only when allergies get bad. i have veryyy bad allergies. Do you think i pulled a muscle? dehidrated? ( weather increased to 86 degrees) i can't breathe out of my nose currently. What do YOU think is wrong with me? I will be seeing a doctor probably very soon but what do YOU think?
Your bra was probably just too tight. If a bra doesn't fit properly, it can cause all kinds of discomfort.
The rest of it is most probably just your anxiety. You build yourself up for some thing to be wrong, when you're fine. I don't think your asthma or allergies are causing your chest pain. I don't think you pulled a muscle by wearing a new bra. I don't think dehydration is causing your chest pains.
Take an allergy pill because I know (in my area at least) the pollen is like HELL this time of year. Drink a bottle of water. Switch to a more comfortable bra. Also, you might want to get measured the next time you go bra shoppping- maybe you need to switch band or cup sizes. Oh, and remember that push up bras are hardly ever comfortable for long periods of time anyway... at least, that's been my experiences.

what's something you can say to a guy to make him yours forever, well not forever but just to make him stay with you. (link)
You can't MAKE someone stay with you, BUT! you can help your chances of staying with them by appreciating them. Compliment them, be honest with them, and laugh with them. That always helps.

Can U become pregnant from having anal sex? (link)
No, not from the actual anal intercourse but YES! if sperm comes in contact with the vaginal opening. This risk is greatly reduced though, if you use a condom. (Which is a good idea anyway.)

My boyfriend has recently started talking to an ex girlfriend of his. I could see them talking for long periods of time when they first got in touch with eachother, but she calls him all day and texts him all hours of the morning. She's even sent pictures of herself to him. When I ask him questions about her he gets mad and tells me to get out of his face. Recently he started locking his phone. He's told me they are just friends, but he's lied about a conversation they had for over 2 hours while he was golfing. I know that this girl has feelings for him, but could he be having feelings for her too. I don't know what they talk about when I'm not there. Now when she calls he doesn't answer her calls if I'm there. Should I be concerned? We've been together for 4 years. (link)
If I were you, I would be concerned. You aren't psycho and you aren't acting irrationally. You've been together four years- long enough to be paying phone bills together, among other things. This means you get a say. You don't get to cut him off from his former life, but you're allowed to say when something makes you uncomfortable. This makes you uncomfortable. If I were you, I'd start preparing myself for a fight. If you meant enough to him that he'd stay with you for four years, you should also mean enough to him that he takes your opinion into account and answers your calls. Tell him that you haven't been snooping but it's kind of pathetic that he can't hide his actions better than that, since you can see his activities on-line.

Have a talk with him. If he's not willing to at least let this other girl know that he's unavailable and uninterested, then you've got a problem.

why cant i have a gurlfriend (link)
You will, one day. You can't really force these things though. It'll happen when it's supposed to. [:

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