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there's a huge problem... He is 27!
Ok i'm going to be 18 on July 10th and there is this dude named Jason who I like and he likes me too...he says that I have all the qualities he wants and in a girl and he just makes me feel real good...but there's a huge problem...He is 27!!!! ahhh I don't know wut to do!! I think when ur 18 ur legal, but still is it bad gettin involved w/him? I'm real confused!
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i have always dated older guys. usaly they are great but dont rush make sure he likes you for you and not for just sex or something. Sometimes they know you are young and thing maybe not as exsperinced so they can get what they want from you and youll never see it coming. So if you go for him dont rush into sex and see if he likes you for you. but age is just a number
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Probably not.
Sorry, but if you want the honest truth instead of pretty 'Love Conquers All!' bullshit lines, then the truth is a guy who is 27 years old but feels an 18 year old has all the qualities he wants in a girlfriend is probably not a very stable and well adjusted person.
Age differences don’t mean very much at all when two people are in similar places in life, like when they are both still in school or both out in the workforce… But at 18 and 27 your worlds are completely different. Or at least, they should be. Your goals and desires from a relationship should be pretty different too. If he, at 27, has the kind of wishes and expectations for his relationships that are compatible with someone who just graduated from high school that doesn’t say positive things about him…
That has nothing to with you. You could be brilliant. You could be Aphrodite herself. You'd still be an 18 year old goddess, and a 27 year old guy who seems a viable partner in a teenager, is someone I would have serious concerns about.
It’s not your maturity or ability to handle the relationship I question: It’s his.
If you do this, keep your eyes open. This might be the kind of guy who dates teens, because he can’t manage women his own age. Watch out for someone who domineers or dismisses you. Of course it can work! Like you said, once you are legal no one can stop you, but even then it’s probably not the best idea you’ll ever have.
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I think that you should definately hold off until you are eighteen that is a must! and if this guy really likes you than he will will respect that ...in this case I really think that it is all about if you guys are on the same page mature wise because the normal 27 year old is tired of the partying either has a career or is going in that direction...but I also think you could give it a shot if thats what you want. Take things slowly and discuss both of your goals and wants and needs together..that will help you determine if your ready to be with him.
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Hold off until you turn 18, Trust me you will be better off as then you will be legally an adult and free to date whoever you wish.
On the other hand, There is a big age gap. This guy is 27, He is probably in his settling down stage. No matter what he will always have a few more years in and he is in the next level in life. While assuming you are still in high in school and soon to graduate. You are still young, Are you ready to commit yourself to someone?...
Some people will say, It's healthy to date different people to see what is out there, As it's not healthy to just date one person and fully commit at such a young age. However, My point of view date whoever makes you happy.. but just wait until you are legal first.
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Once you turn 18 you are legal, yes, but that might not make this relationship any better an idea. Consider all of the things you're looking for in the next five years, then consider what he might be wanting in the next five years. Are those two things remotely similar? I'm not saying that this relationship is doomed for failure... but be careful. He's experienced so many more things than you, and chances are that regardless of the qualities he wants and likes in you, you won't always see eye to eye.
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well maybe you should give it a shot and see what happans from there but age does matter in some cases-trix
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Really, before you make any decision, wait until you are 18. I know it's only a few days, but at least you will be legal when you make the decision. I obviously don't know you, or this guy, but often times, what guys really do want is sex. In that case, waiting until you are legal is the safest bet for both of you...especially since the age gap is so wide. Nine years isn't a huge deal, but you do have to consider that he is (or at least he should be) at a different place in life than you are. At 17/18 you are probably just finishing high school and are considering going to college. In most cases, people who are 27 have either graduated, or decided not to go to college and have spent those college-age years experiencing life. You have a lot of life ahead of you. Just make sure he's respectful of you and supports the decisions you make. Hope i helped.
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no i dont think its bad. But wait till the 10th hun! lol* ne wayz just remember, older guyz are different so watch out 4 em!
Good Luck
*MElody
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About guys your age being immature I totally agree. So I feel you on that note. Who cares if this guy is 9 years older than you? So what? As long as he treats you well and makes you happy is all that matters. Relationships are based on how personalities bablance not ages. SO who cares what people think? This guy isn't obviously worried about if he likes you so much and treats you so well, right? And if you are worried your parents may not like him. Oh well. You are a grown woman. And let them know you are responcible and not stupid and this guy truelly makes you happy. If they can't understand that at 1st, they will eventually. But this a situation that you can be selfish in. This is about YOU. YOU and YOUR happiness. So forget everyone else, as long as you are happy that is all that matters. Hope I helped and Good Luck! :)
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About guys your age being immature I totally agree. So I feel you on that note. Who cares if this guy is 9 years older than you? So what? As long as he treats you well and makes you happy is all that matters. Relationships are based on how personalities bablance not ages. SO who cares what people think? This guy isn't obviously worried about if he likes you so much and treats you so well, right? And if you are worried your parents may not like him. Oh well. You are a grown woman. And let them know you are responcible and not stupid and this guy truelly makes you happy. If they can't understand that at 1st, they will eventually. But this a situation that you can be selfish in. This is about YOU. YOU and YOUR happiness. So forget everyone else, as long as you are happy that is all that matters. Hope I helped and Good Luck! :)
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Yikes! That is old! I wouldn't suggest it because you could get hurt in this situation, plus, even if you ARE legal, you and Jason's age differences will merge into something worse, like he has to work full time ans u have to finish college, stuff like that, you could end up regretting it. <3 Alyssa
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Well it sounds to me that he is after sex and only that. I dont want to ruin any potential relationships but ah he sounds like a pervert to me. And you can also have good relationships with people that are at least near your age
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I don't wanna be blunt,but at 27,if he's messing with an 18 year old girl,he just wants to get in your pants. It's nothing personal against you,but don't let yourself be used by a guy that age. Or any age for that matter. It is legal to get involved with him,but being a guy,i know how we think. Stay away!
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Yes. At 18, everything (practically) is legal. However, chances are this guy just wants to legally be able to get into your pants. Let him go. Guys are all typical, especially older guys going for younger (much younger) girls. Don't let people tell you the age difference doesn't matter and that it's just a number. When the difference is this much, there's only one thing on this guy's mind and if you have any intentions on being a respectable girl at all, you'd turn him down.
-Maisie
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Don't worry! That's fine if you get involved with him...just be careful! Older guys know that younger women can be easily...UM, I forgot the word. Can be easily "persuaded"? Or easy to take control over. You MIGHT want to tell you're parents and see what they think. If you KNOW they're going to give a big N-O or if you don't mind keeping it a secret from them, (I know I can't keep secrets from my parents!) don't tell them. Just, be careful with older guys!...they have a penis... and that penis wants some l-o-v-i-n-g. ;) I hope it works out well with you two! I hope I helped. Please rate me.
Sincerely, Cammie
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if u really like him and he likes u give him a sht age is nothing but a number u guys r only 9 years apart thats okay hope i helped u out please rate me
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it's not wrong..if you both like each other then there's really nothing stopping you yes..18 is legal, so that's not a problem so it all comes down to what you guys want the both of you to become..good luck =]
love elle
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i think its bad.I think u should find sum1 aroudn your age or a little older.Ur not legal when u r 18.Dont think im tryin to tell u wut to do im jus tellin u wut i think.Much <33
*BrittBritt
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gurl...y is it bad gettin involved wit him?!?!? listen i understand he is a lottt older then u are...but if he feels like that for u n u feel the same way...IN LOVE AGE DONT METTER! so if u care for him enough u wouldnt care bout his age...;) n now that ur gonna b 18 it wont b a problem..so think bout it ;)xoxo effy
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