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diagnosed with leaukemia cancer
about 3 months ago, i was diagnosed with leaukemia=[. the doctor told me that i am gonna die after my 8th month. is he allowed to tell me this? he just flat out said... " in about 8 months your gonna die ", he made me my mom my dad and my brother cry. so anyways.... can he tell me this... and can i like sue him for it?
f/13
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No, you can't sue him for this. He's a trained professional, and he simply gave you his professional opinion by looking at your tests or x-rays or what have you. It's a very entirely unfortunate situation and for that I am sorry. Just because he said it, doesn't mean in exactly eight months you're going to drop like a fly- the time could be more or less. So, if I were you, I'd be getting anything in order that you need to, and spend as much time as possible with your family.
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No you cannot sue him for this, but I would seriously consider getting another doctor. I doubt he was trying to be rude, he probably just didnt want to beat around the bush. But remember this, people beat these odds all the time, just because your doctor says you have 8 months to live does NOT mean that you are going to die in 8 months. Stay positive and fight for your life, anything is possible if you put your mind to it. I say pray lots and live your life to the fullest.
I am very sorry for your bleak diagnosis, but your life is yours alone, do NOT let his opinion get you down, stay positive. I know many people who have lived YEARS, after they were told they had months to live. IT IS POSSIBLE.
Good Luck & Hope I Helped :)
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I feel for you so much. Be brave, I know I would have a hard time if I was dieing. Enjoy life for now. Unfortunately I don't think you can do anything tot he doctor.
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Honey, unfortunately, you cannot sue your doctor for this. Was it nice the way he said it? Absolutely not and I do feel your pain, however, it's not illegal -- just heartbreaking.
My sincere condolances for your cancer, stay strong and fight it friend. Fighters make it, and you can beat it girly. Never give up because a little quote I like to live by is "If you go into a fight that you don't think you can win, you've already lost." John Cena stated that quote but I think it applies to life in general.
And also, get a second opinion sweetie. Or even a third. Go to other doctors and see if they diagnose the same thing, it could have been mis-diagnosed. The doctor doesn't sound too bright anyhow, so it's always a possibilty. Get yourself some more opinions and stay in the fight, my friend.
Best of luck to you girly and God Bless You. :)
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i hate to say this but it is not illegal to tell you the truth, he should have been a little more gentle about it but it was not illegal. the only time it would have been illegal is if he was telling people who were not involved.i know you are upset about the situation but there nothing you can do, if i were you i would try going to another doctor and seeing if they are more compassionate and if there is something they can do to help you, if it were me i would go to as many doctors as i could to try to get a better answer, doctors arent always right.
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Ya he can tell you because hes a doctor and his job is to tell you whats wrong with you i mean he could have used different words to make is sound nicer but he didnt do anything wrong you cant sue him for being mean about it because it was probably the only way he thought of telling you its not easy telling someone that there going to die so my answer is basically no you cant sue him because you dont have a case him telling you your diagnosis is his job therefore you cant blame him in any way. BTW im really sorry if this sounds mean but it wasnt meant to be and im also sorry for what your going through i hope you can fight through this. :D
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Hi,
Your doctor is obliged to provide you with as much information regarding your illness as possible however I agree with other users that he provided his opinion a little bluntly.
The only thing I would really like to add is that this is just one doctor's opinion! Always seek a second opinion and keep in mind that there are many living "miracles" out there. My dad was diagnosed with leukemia many years ago and the initial assessment was that he had only 12 months at most to live. Doctor after doctor advised that he would be lucky to make Christmas. He has now been living with the disease for well over 8 years! Keep positive :)
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aw, i'm sorry to hear that ! but yes, he can tell you that, unfortchanatly. =[ hope you get better ! ♥ megan
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Well, yes he can tell you that...and you can't sure him unless he did something against his medical practices or something against the law. BUT if he told you right when you saw him...I don't think he should've said ANYTHING. Talk to him with you parents around and see if there is anything that you can do and all that...and if you want something that has worked with me with alot of things (I don't have leaukemia or anything, but I do have a Chronic Lyme disease)If you can, pick up the book "The power of your subconious mind" It tells you stuff that can help you get better, but if you don't want to read it, do this. Tell yourself every night before you go to bed a couple times "My body is fighting leaukemia and my body is winning" And things about how your going to live and everything. Cause your suconious mind will do anything that you tell it to do, but you have to believe what your telling yourself or it won't work! I wish you the best of luck!
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I believe he doesn't really have a right to approach it like that. The doctor can let both you and your parents know that expectancy and treatments and options are. But to be blunt like that is rather inappropiate. I would have filed a complaint with the hospital about his insensitive bedside manner. Expecially since you are indeed only 13 years old. Shame on him.
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wow your 13? sry to hear that. but i really dont think you can sue him, cuz like i think its his job to tell you whats wrong and whats gna happen.
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awww sorry to hear that! Well I don't think you can sue him since he tried to make it easy by saying that you're gonna die BUT this gives you a chance to help yourself. Go straight to the hospital RIGHT NOW because some people can be cured by it so grab your parents ASAP after reading this I am serious! The sooner the better!
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Your doctor was doing his job. Unfortunately, he was not thinking of what it would be like to be in your position, and i guess it came out harshly. It was totally legal, although you could talk to him about it, or someone else in the hospital staff.
Never lose hope. Numbers don't tell story, and they certainly dont end them. Just keep faith. Pray even if you aren't religious. And dont let your disease rule your life. have fun. But just be careful, eat well and stay healthy (i mean other than the leukimia) and who knows, in 8 months you might be in remission.
you might want to look into a support group:
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You might also want to think about getting a psychologist to help you through the mental part of this illness.
One more thing: MAKE SURE YOU LOOK AT ALL THE OPTIONS. Who knows, there might be some little-known treatment in some rural citythat will save you.
If you need to talk just respond to this and ill give you my email (so im not giving it out to everyone).
God bless you, good luck and much love.
Hope i helped.
~*Bridgitte*~
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Hey do you have an e-mail or IM's I can talk to you on?
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You, sweetheart, are in my prayers.
Regretably, the doctor is supposed to tell you this, but not so harshly. Doctors can be wrong about how long you have to live, most of the time they are.
The most important thing when trying to get over cancer, is faith. If you're willing to fight it, you can. I read a story about when doctors gave a girl 3 months to live unless she had the heart to fight it, her dad leaned in to kiss her cheek and tell her to try her hardest, and she punched him in the nose and permanently damaged his nose. Sounds harsh, but the moral is, she had what it took, and that punch was letting her family, and the doctors know she had that strength she needed. You can have that strength too. Best of luck to you, <3
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he can tell you that, and no you can't sue him. i'm dreadfully sorry that this is happening to you, and i'll keep you in my prayers. however, what the doctor says isn't always true; it's just his opinion. you may live until you're 85. nobody knows that kind of stuff. just don't give up hope because it's not over yet. god bless you.
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omg im sorry about that but how did your doctor tell you? in a mean way??? from what i know doctors arent supposed to tell you that quickly and when they do they are supposed to say like there is still hope and stuff but if he said it in a mean way you should tell some one. im sorry again about ur diagnosis.
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This doctor is only giving you an estimate and even though he may not even be close, you cannot sue him for it. Some doctors told people that they'd only live 3 more months. Turns out, they're still living and have been for 10 years. Just TRY to keep in a happy state and DO NOT give up on this. If you're strong enough and you have a lot of family and friends that are there to suppose you, you could defiantly pull through this. I wish you all the luck in the world, hunny. Get better soon! ♥
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You can't sue a doctor for diagnosing you. You and your parents can have a lil chat with him about sensitivity to his patients, you can also file a complaint. Trying to sue him isnt going to get you anywhere.
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Doc.s only want you to be prepared for the worst. he wants no suprizes, well bad ones... but hunni, dont give up hope just because thats what they think. you can get through this, your strong and have will power. Who knows, you may live to be 155.. lol. Keep up a happy attatude, i know it maybe hard, and push through this. reimishion (i think my spelling is off sorry.) is just around the corner. But never give up hope! this will make you a stronger person, I Promise!
Yes he is sapost to do this, no i dont believe you can sue him for it.
gbu!
best of luck!
xoxoxoxo
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not you cant sue im sorry and sorry for what youre going through if you need some one to talk to im here a PaNiC DiScO 513 for aim if for some reason you want to god bless you ill pray for you every day to heal!
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I really dont think u can sue cause he has to tell you sometime.
It cant be a secret. Im so sorry it must be really hard to handle but he had to tell you.
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The physician is giving his opinion, because certainly no one knows for certain when you will die. It is unfortunate that it was said the way it was said, but yes he is allowed to give you his opinion. Some physicians--and lay people alike are not very good at breaking bad news. I for one never have felt right about estimating how long someone has to live. For one thing, it hardly ever holds true. In some cases, it will make that person mentally stronger and want to fight for their life, but in other cases it will make people give up. There are people everywhere who have fought against every kind of cancer imaginable and have won that battle. It would be good if you could prove your Dr wrong, even though you may not be able to win a law suite for an incorrect opinion.
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sorry to hear you are sick
but yes he can tell you.. its acually in your best in interest to know.. I mean wouldn't you rather know that yuo are gonna die now then to find out the day you die.. i mean hopefully what he says isn't true
but its totally legal
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I'm terribly sorry for your cancer. I've lost a family member and a good friend's father to leukemia and kidney cancer, and you're in my prayers.
And unfortunately, as the doctor's job, he is required to tell you. He is although, supposed to be the least bit sympathetic and not "hey you're going to die". But, whatever way he said it, it's understandable that it'd make your family cry. That's intense stuff.
I also want to tell you though, when my friend's dad was diagnosed, they gave him half a year. But, he lived a whole two years after that. Doctors can be wrong so ask your parents to get a second opinion and look at all the options you have.
Good luck.
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Yeah he can. That's what he's there for. Normally not in such a harsh manor but you can't just sue him because it's something you don't want to hear.
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I am sorry, I really don't know if he is allowed to say that, but I just want to say God Bless You and I hope you get better in anyway possible.
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