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if you saw your husband sending messages to other girls lets say thru facebook or myspace etch and he wrote "hey bby let me get your aim or msn,your a cutie" while being with you would you get mad?? but without him knowin you check his thing .
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It's not cool that you went through his private things, so shame shame for that. But it'd be pretty upsetting to most partners to see or hear that kind of talk. Confront your husband. First apologize for peaking, you realize that you shouldn't have.. but you valued your relationship with him enough that you had to see if there was a problem. Obviously straight up asking him before you peaked wouldn't have helped anything because he probably would've lied about it.
Ask him to go to therapy with you. Even if nothing is going wrong, this could be a big stumbling block in your relationship, just to forget the harsh feelings you'll undoubtedly have towards each other. If he's not interested in some sort of therapy, go alone.
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wow, it'll be hard to explain why you've been checking his private mail, he'll say you don't trust him. I'd say that his behavior is totally inappropriate and if you ever see him on the computer doing it say something.
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Yes odviously he's a cheater. Verbally and physically cheating is the same. And something had to have made you suspicious that's why you checked his FB And myspace. You really need to reconsider weather you want to stay married to a guy like that... Because my theory is you only live once and life is to short so why waste it on just anybody... The best of luck to you and always...
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It's a sign of him being unfaithful...I would be mad as hell! The thing I would do is confront my husband and ask him what was going on. Its understandable if he thinks someone is cute but sending a message and acting on it is wrong especially if you're married!
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Hell yeah, I'd be mad.
I mean, he's trying to pick up other girls while he's already MARRIED to you.
At this point, you shouldn't even give a shit that you went on his page to see it. It's Facebook; everything's public. If he didn't want you to see it, he shouldn't have done it.
You and he need to have a long, long talk about his online 'habits'.
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I would definitely get mad. Why is he calling other girls baby and calling them a cutie. That's very disrespectful towards you... He is married now, and if he thinks you won't be seeing these messages it makes it worse. Then again, if you're not mad you're probably not the jealous type. Jealous or not, it's still not right. Good luck!
Uniq :)
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I would be mad. If he was my husband I would expect for him not do things such as that if hes truly commited to the relationship.
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I'd be mad. I wouldn't even bother to pretend I didn't see his page. I would say "Yep. I did a bad bad thing. It was wrong and I feel bad, but we're gonna talk about this cheating first jackass."
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Yes ofcourse I'd get mad, and maybe that's only what you know about, maybe he watches porn, or sees other girls, or meets up with hookers or goes to clubs, the list would not end, but these are only assumptions. But him doing what he does means he has a tendency to do more than just texting girls online, and you should definitely confront him about it, tell him you came across it unintentionally.
But why would he do that, take a second and ask yourself, is there something going on between u? do you fight alot? is your marriage not stable? Maybe there is something that makes him talk to other girls, maybe its cause your not filling his emotional life completely, try to be there more, see what he wants, try to fill his needs. Talk with him about it.
Hope i helped, please be free to contact me if you need anything else. Best of luck
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a male perspective: the fact that you are "checking his thing" tells me that you already suspect or already have serious problems with your relationship in terms of trust, so being mad at what he does on facebook is somewhat moot. I suggest you deal with the larger issue that this symptom represents.
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Yes you have every right to be mad, I would not only suspect him of cheating but what else would he be lying or hiding hm?
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yeah i would definetly get mad. that's the start of cheating and he shouldn't be doing that while in relationship.
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Yes, who cares whether or not you check his thing? Those are still signs of cheating.
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