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long distance
I'm temporarily in a long distance relationship with my bf (as in, we were together when he went away to work, and he will be coming back in a few months.) However, it's not going very well. I know he's going out and having fun all the time and I'm not angry about that or anything, but it just makes me feel a bit lonely and jealous. He doesn't seem to make much effort to contact me either and whenever we do talk it's like I've sent him a text message first or I've IMd him first, and he always seems so distracted. He never says he misses me unless I say it first.
A month or so before he went I told him I loved him and he didn't say it back cos he didn' t want to til he truly meant it, which had a massive strain on our relationship. The day before he went I told him upset that I seemed to care more about him going than he did, and all he said was that he only cared in a good way because he was excited for this opportunity. But the thing is, when we started out, it all went really well, and in fact he was the one to pursue ME and I was the one that had to be convinced into liking him!!! I'm missing those days (and him) so much.
I really don't know what to do :( I don't want to break up with him, but I don't know what to say to him either. I'm going to visit him pretty soon which because of cash will be the only time I can when he's away, so that might be some help... someone please help me, I'm getting really upset about this.
.xoxoxo
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im basically in the exact same situation, but i broke up w/ mine yesterday. i dont know what were going to do. but i think if your going to see him soon that you should try to hold out until then and when you get to see him see if your feelings are still the same. i think you need to talk to him about yall situation. basically here is how i thought about it: you have all the peices to build something really amazing and beautiful, but some of the most important peices ar really heavy and you cant lift them by yourself. when you try you strain yourself and it hurts. you never get anywhere b/c if the other person isnt putting in the effort you are, it cant be built. i think if he said that he didnt want to tell you he loved you until he really meant it that it was a good idea b/c thats what i said to mine and he really appreciated that. because honestly, would you really want him to say it if he wasnt sure he even meant it? it really is alot to think about, but just try to stay strong. yall need to discuss whether or not you want to stay together, just casually date, be friends or what the other wants. good luck, and i hope it all works out!
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i think that would be helpful because you should just sit and you two should talk out your problems
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