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left out AGAIN!
Ok, i have my best friend, lets call her (kristy) ans i have another friend, lets call her (shannon). Ok, well i always have had kristy as my best friend but ever since last year shannon has kinda made me feel like the third wheel. Ok, well she wont let me sit by kristy at lunch anymore cuz i used to everyday. Now, kristy has kinda left me for her and she hangs out with all these different people now. I have the same freinds she has but all the friends like her so much better. When me and kristy go to places together and stuff, like basketball games at our school all of our friends will say hi to her but not me. They think she is just so facinating. When she takes me to some of the games she always talks to other people and not to me and none of the other girls will talk to me cuz they already have kristy. When they have a secret they always tell kristy and not me and all sorts of things like that. I am tired of being ignored by other people. Kristy never hardly pays any attention to me. When its just me and her she does but not when people are around. All my other friends are just interested in her now and i am feeling so left out. They always ask her to go places with them (more of shannon than anyone)when i am standing right there. Sometimes shannon will wait for kristy when she gets off the bus and i ride the same bus kristy does and if kristy is not on the bus, shannon will say "Where's rikki" as soon as she sees me getting off the bus. She dosent even say hi first. It looks like kristy dosent need me anymore but all my other friends always hang around her now. Sometimes when i am tell kristy something (story and just talking to her), if kristy sees one of her friends she will just leave me standing there in the middle of a sentence and go talk to her friend. I have tried to talk to her but she dosent listen. She's just to popular to do that. Whenever we go to the computer lab at school, she always has other firends sitting by her and i have to sit 3 or 4 seats down from them and i hera them laughing and giggling and having a good time and i am not. please help me on what to do because this is the biggest thing i have ever needed advice on because it has been happening for a very long time. thank you so much, you dont know what it means to me.
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this happened to me last year and it totally sucked. I tried fighting it, but it was no use. You just have to let it go, because theres nothing you can do about it. When it happened to me my friend told me i "changed" which was a complete lie because i had the same friends and she was the one contradicting herself. If you've tried talking to her about it and its no use than chances are theres nothing else you can do. People DO change when they get older and thats probably just whats happening. If you havent tried talking to her either call her or pull her aside and tell her, "hey i need to talk to you and its really important" if she wont respond to that than shes not a true friend anymore and not worth wasting your time. good luck!
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It sounds to me like you're losing your best friend. That happened to me just recently, now please don't let it happen to you, you'll regret it. Sometime when you and kristy are hangin' out alone, show her how much fun you are to be with. Remind her why you two are best friends to begin with. And when you are with her when you're other friends are around too, be the center of attention. Don't make it obvious, but when they're talking, join the conversation. Make yourself noticed. Prove to them that you are a good friend, someone that they will want to be around. I'm sorry you're going through this, and I hope you can fix it. Good luck girl!
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ok well it sounds like you are going trough wat i go through to. Just to say this, if ure so called friends are making you feel left out, the next time they try to talk to you, say "i dont need u nemore becuz i can have better friends even if all my old frineds think ure cool even though ure not". i have done this before and it might seem really akward wen you say it but you dont have to lusten to me, i just like to try to help people like you.
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