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i really need an answer by wednesday night becuase i am very scared. im 15/F and i am going to the gyno for the first time and i am not a virgin anymore and i was just owndering if when they ask do i have to tell them and if i tell them will they tell my mom or can i ask the doctor to not tell my mom. or can i jsut say i use tampons? im reaslly scared becuase i do not want my mom to know! PLease help me..i rate high!
thanks
well I'd advise you not to tell them it's just from tampons. Just incase there is something going on down there, ya know? You can tell them anything. I went there for my first time a few months back, and they told me that they CANNOT and WILL NOT tell your parents anything, unless you personally give them permission to. She had to do some tests on me as a normal procedure because I was going on birth control, and she said that she CAN'T send the results through the mail without my permission, and that I'd have to wait till my next appointment or call to find out. They will ask you if you're sexually active, and if so, how long you have been. I promise you they won't tell your mom anything unless you tell them it's okay. :D Goodluck!
Amber
ok this prolly sounds weird but wen me and my b/f are 2gether we get each other in themodd and then we start having sex then i always stop him in like 5 min and feel gulty and start cryin, i prolly sound very stupid but y am i doing this?
You don't sound stupid at all. It's because you're in the heat of the moment. You both are in the mood and so you make the decision based on how turned on you both are. It also depends on how much self control you both have. If you are in the mood, but you KNOW that you don't want to do it, think about how you feel after those first 5 minutes, and maybe it will help you out. Believe it or not, it's normal! I'm not one to judge, so don't take this the wrong way- but maybe you're not ready yet? That would have ALOT to do with the reason you feel guilty, you know what I mean? But if that's not the case, if you feel guilty about it, then maybe instead of having sex..do other things to each other. There are tons of possibilities to give/receive pleasure rather than having sex. If you're not ready for anything sexual like that at all, or if you feel guilty doing that as well..then try doing things on your own. You most likely won't feel guilty about doing things to yourself. I don't know how you feel towards things like that, but it's just an option. I hope I helped! drop one in my inbox if you need anything else! :D
Amber
hey does anyone know how to change privacy settings on my space.. my myspace was fine but now its saying that you only can be my friend to veiw it? it has never done that ebfore.. so plz help me i rate high!!
I don't know..talk to Tom about it, I noticed in the privacy settings that you can only choose between letting people 18 and under view your profile..or only your friends..and you have to choose one..I think it's pretty dumb since people have ages of like 100 and such on there..like I said just ask Tom about that
♥Amber
my boy friend wants to finger me and im gonna let him because im ready and i love him but what if something goes wrong .. like is it possible for his finger not to go up?
no, that is not possbile..it will open& stretch for it, so you don't need to worry about that:D just remember if it goes further than him fingering you, make sure you be safe about it! I hope I helped!
♥Amber
What is something a girl could do to just make their boyfriend/guy just stop and go 'WOW'. Basically, what is the biggest PHYSICAL turn on? What could a girl physically to turn a guy on.
[Ex. Bite ears]
Well this type of question is one of those kinds that has many different answers. It varies to what the guy likes. Although, in general, most guys like: kissing/sucking on the neck/jawbone, kissing his chest and/or lightly rubbing his stomach or back, kind of tickling him, biting/sucking on their bottom lips, some guys like nibbling on their ears, hmm..rubbing the inside of their legs..that's about all I can think of right now, I hope I helped!
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Does anyone know the song that goes like were goin down down in an earlier round and sugar were going down swinging
Fall Out Boy- Sugar we're going down
My Tenth year highschool reunion is coming up next year and I'm really nervous about it.
This is because me and a guy that I had a mad crush on left on really bad terms.
He was the most popular guy in school, class valedictorian and jock. I was one of the nerds. He new I had a crush on him and he treated me like dirt. He would make out with his girlfriend when I would walk by him in the hallways to upset me. He would play little games to humiliate me, like coming up to his friend whose locker was next to mine just to see me go red in the face.
He even went right up to my friend at the senior prom to hit on her while she was standing next to me and then he ignored me.
The last time I saw him was at the bar 8 years ago. I went up with my friend to talk to him and he completely ignored me even though I said it was my birthday.
Do you think I should go and confront him or just ignore him? This was a long time ago and I think that by now he would have matured a bit. I want to be the better person even though he made me senior year a living hell.
Buzzie
I'd definately go with ignoring him- not in an "I hate you don't talk to me" way, but just talk to other people, enjoy your reunion, and just casually leave him out of your thoughts. Even if you want a friendship with him, he treated you horribly for no reason& humiliated you. Don't confront him about it- why hold a grudge over something like that for so long? He's not worth your time to worry about, so don't bother. Just be casual about the whole thing, if you ignore him, he'll see you and realize that you moved on& that you're completely over him and his immaturity. Maybe then he will realize how much of a jerk he was, and even though he humiliated you, you didn't let it bother you this whole time. He WANTS you to dwell on it& never forget about it..but if you don't worry about it then he'll figure out that he doesn't have the power he really wanted in the first place. Do you get what I'm saying? I hope I helped you!
My friend asked this guy what he thought aboout me, and he wouldn't answer her, he just tried to get away from her.
Does this mean he doesn't like me?
Well that is a possibility- but don't jump to conclusions just yet, that's probably not the best way to go.It could just mean that he doesn't want to talk to your friends about that type of thing. Ask him yourself if you really want to know, maybe he'd rather tell you than your friends. Hope I helped!
i have 2 questions...
1. what is the law about dating a person over 18 if your a minor? some people say its not illegal till u have sex some say its if you touch in any sexual way even kissing
2. i am 15 and the guy i like is 18 is that soo bad....
help if you can
okay well..I'm 15 and my boyfriend is 18 as well, so I know what you're going through. I've talked to my mom about this many times before..it is only illegal if you 2 were to have sex, any type of sex that is..oral, or full intercourse, doesn't matter. Kissing is perfectly fine, nothing wrong with that one. Although, in the newspaper awhile back, they said that if a person is 13-15 and their partner is 18-24, if he touches you on your butt or boobs or anywhere of the sort, it's a 1st degree felony. Now, in my opinion, age is just a number, not too much more than a simple number. It bugs me how people are so stereotypical by saying "if he's 18 and you're 15 he just wants sex" b/c that is most definately not always true. But back to the point- to be honest, I don't think higher authorities randomly go around asking the ages of couples if they see butt grabbing going on..I really don't think it's a big deal..but that's up to you to decide for yourself. If you 2 plan on having sex, just be careful on who you tell, if anyone at all..and be safe! I hope I helped, if you need anything else just drop me one in my inbox!
♥Amber
ok so i went to take a pregnancy test today..i read the box which said to pee on the test for 5 seconds..me being the idiot i am..i peed on the cap..im all new at this so i had no clue there was a cap! i dipped the test in the toilet..and it came out negative..im thinking this isnt accurate because of all the water in the toilet..am i right or is it still ok to trust the negative?
we all have our moments..don't worry about that..I wouldn't go straight to assuming that it came out negative..get another test just to be safe..there might be chemicals in the water that could've effected it. hope I helped!
I love the picture you're using. How did you do that? Is it a painting or a distorted pic? That's awesome.
hey well thank you very much! :D I have a program that came with my computer, I think it's called Photo Studio or something, and I just used an equalizer and messed with some other things on there. I love taking pics and seeing the different things I can do on different programs, I'm glad you like it!
i am 13 now and i've only kissed one guy which was a really crappy french kiss and now i wanna be able to kiss sumone and not be scared about kissing wrong or screwing up..what can i do?? thanks
well the best kiss is always going to be with the person you like the most..there is absolutely NO WAY to kiss wrong, so there's nothing there to worry about. I suggest to wait for a guy that you really like, and then give it a try with him. Hopefully you'll feel a better connection between the 2 of you, after all..you're only 13, you still have plenty of time :D Hope I helped!
♥Amber
Is it bad for you to use a tampon when your not actually menustrating? I am supposed to start today or tomorrow and i just don't want to get caught by suprise. Would it be harmful if i put on in while i was still clean?
well it's not HORRIBLE, but it increases the risk of Toxic Shock Syndrome, because you're using it when it's unnecessary. I'd suggest don't use them, just to be safe. Plus that little info packet that comes with the tampons, says *Do not use tampons between periods or for non-menstrual discharge.* Hope I helped!
♥Amber
What are some things that turn on a guy whenever a girl does something?
[Example: Biting ear, kissing neck?]
try kissing his neck, chest, and jaw bone. biting their ears turns on some guys, but not all of them. also, rubbing/massaging a guys thigh will most likely turn them on. if you're hugging him or he's laying with you lift up his shirt and just lightly rub your fingers across his back, it kinda tickles, but feels great at the same time! I hope I helped, if you need anything else just drop one in my inbox!
♥Amber
What is this "&hearts" thing everyone is saying? Is it from a movie or did one person just say it so now every other stupid girl has to go along and say it to.
it's a code.. & hearts ; all put together makes a little heart but HTML on this site was disabled so it mostly only shows up on the column.
school is starting in a lil bit, and i wanted new hairstyles and outfits and stuff. last year, i wore my hair up every single day. for the whole year! I want a new hairstyle that everyone will love! I have really thick hair and whenever i brush it, it gets REALLY poofy. thats why i wore my hair up all the time. and when i get it wet, it dries and poofs. same if i use a hairdryer! help me please. will rate 5 for any answers!
I used to do the same thing, my hair would always frizz out no matter what I did. I'd recommend using Dove shampoo/conditioner and also buy the Dove Smooth& Soft Anti- Frizz cream. I use that every day after I wash my hair, and then I dry my hair& straighten it. If you have straight hair, straightening it helps with the frizz, it's not all that great for you hair, but it won't poof out nearly as much. Hope I helped!
♥Amber
wuts this song called and whos it by ? it goes "im happy feelin glad i got sunshine in a bag but not for long the future is coming on"
Gorillaz- Clint Eastwood :D
My friend says that blink-182 is a band which mainly girls listen to. I was like, no dude, blink-182 isn't like that. There are about the same of both. It's not a guys or girls band, kind of something which everyone listens to. Who would you say is correct?
I'd say it's equal as well as you..I listen to Blink 182, I'm most definately a girl..but alot of my guy friends listen to them, they are a great band, and they are not only for girls.
♥Amber
I talk to this other boy now hes 14 and we talk mostly on the computer. like the beginning of this month he iMed me and was like come over an said he likes me and he was gonna ask me out but he thought i was still in love with the boy i mentioned last time, so he waited. im not sure if he is for real tho bc hes got that reputation of being a player. so ive been to his house a couple times but whenever i go over there he wants me to give him head, or have sex. he says he loves me, and im his girl. i dont know wether to belive him or not. should i?
First off, no, I wouldn't believe him if I were you. I noticed you said he has a reputation of being a player..I understand everyone is entitled to have their own opinion on people, but when it's about something like being a player it's somewhat different. if he ASKS you to give him head or to have sex with him, then he's already not worth wasting your time on. Wait for a guy who will let things happen as they are meant to, not plan it out and ask you to do things for/with him everytime you go to his house. I don't mean to be harsh about this, but don't believe it when he tells you he loves you, if he honestly& truly loves you, he wouldn't ask you do sexual things with him. I hope I helped!
♥Amber
My periods normally go for five days, but it's been really heavy for like 8 days now and it's just not stopping! It's never changed how long it goes on for like this before, what's going on?
Well if you have had it less than I'd say about 2 or 3 years, it will still be irregular. it takes awhile for your period to get on one normal track, and even then it might still go off track every now& then. It's normal, that has happened to me a few times. If it continues on too much longer, then I'd say check with your doctor or ask your mom about it. but you should be ok! Hope I helped!
♥Amber