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-- Hey yall I'm jess, Livin in the Nati, Ohio. ny rep though ! I love to help people and i`ve experienced a lot.. abuse/depression*suicidal/deaths/ sex-life/ love life/ parent trouble/ lies/ family/ feels like nobody's there.. ETC. too Many to name!
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ive known robbie since the 8th grade. we used to chill alot, but we stopped for a bit. now that we are going to be juniors we have talked. in may i saw him at the carnival and we were talking. he started IMing me after that and we talked alot. since june hes been texting me alot. we`ve been talking a real lot and when he was away for a week and a half we talked every night either texting or on the phone. i know its sounds like a stupid- non serious thing but we`re older and its just idk. we hungout on the 4th and hookedup. we like eachother and he said hed want to go out with me after we chilled. but.. im scared.. i know he already likes me but we`ve only chilled like twice, and thats fine but we are going to a concert tomorrow and im scared hes going to think im like chubby or grosse. idk i have no confidnece and im just so scared about him. hes not snobby or anything but yeha im a pretty girl but i feel he can do alot better and it just scares me. what should i do when im with him at the concert tmra to make sure hes like serious and stuff? (link)
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Aw okay well for one they don't allll go for looks even though I'm sure your beautiful, just try an be yourself, He must like you a lot, you for you, bec if yall talk a lot on text and on the phone but not seeing eachother he's fallin for your personality, as long as you can be yourself @ the concert yall are going to and not be shy still stand out the beautiful person you are there really isn't much to worry about, but I undastand your nervous, I would be too.. Textin and on the phone and he asked you to be with him that sounds like he really does like you for you esp if he took all the time to text and call.. Good luck hunni!1
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I got my period about noon July 4. How long should my period last? I usually go a full 7 days. Is there anything to shorten myperiod or make it go faster? I've heard all kinds of things... Doing a lot of standing/jumping, drinking water, exercise, etc. Which of these are true? (link)
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Varies with EVERY person.. but it is true that athletes who run a lot have shorter periods and not always even once a month, should probably start running now. It depends on your body but most periods last about 5 days, somewhere around there, some last 7 though.
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My boyfriend has had sex with many other girls before, and he wants me to lose it to him. I love him but, i want to know the symptoms that might occur after we have sex. I also would like to know how, it would feel and how long will I bleed. I get horny easily but, i will never try to masterbait and, i just want to know if i should endure in sexual intercourse with my boyfriend or not!!By the way i am a female! I also would like to know if i should suck him off!! (link)
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I really don't think you should, I know people saying stds and pregnancy usually doesnt phase our generation anymore..but i have a sister that lost it to a guy who's had sex for awhile, the BIGGEST negative is that no matter what you will alawys be emotionally attatched to him bec thats just how girls are, but it wont be the same way.. it will be a LOT harder when yall fight and when yall break up if you do sometime..
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my bf just recently got AIM to talk to me more since we go to diff skools...well he made a myspace (myspace.com) and on his where it says "Who Id Like To Meet" he put "A gurl with a nice body and who is not afraid to try new things" and where it says Status he put single...im soo hurt over it he sent me the link 2 it and he was like look i made a myspace...and idk if i shuld get mad @ this or birng it up? am i over exaggurating? how would i bring it up??? ugh....btw we been goin out 4 6 months and everything so far has been gr8...=\ (link)
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just bring it up, ask why it says single ( You never know, he coulda not filled that part out and it left it how it was.. ) Take a lil risk, your luvin him & theres nothing wrong w/ thinking that ! ask him why? about the single part.. You might be the 'girl with a nice body and who is not afraid to try new things' so Id stick with asking the why it says single.. x0x muah * jess
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omg! my mom doesn't want me to be on advicenators without her permission. she thinks it's a freakin chatroom and made me take my picture out of my column! i hate her and she's pissing me off. she's making a big deal about nothing! what do i tell her? she made me take my picture out cause she thinks there's some 47 year old guy on this site who's gonna come stalk me. and i already told her it was mostly teenagers and lyk nobody over 25. like i'm so stupid as to go meet some person i dont know! what can i say to convince her to not be so unreasonable? agghhhhhhh! driving me craziii!!! (link)
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mann, My mom useda be like that too.. just talk to her show her it's not a chatroom, show advice youve given.. not bad stuff lol, show her that its just alright. and nothing wrong if youre giving out no info about your number or where ya live or whatever then how they gona stalk you? and tell her your not that stupid.. x0 x mua h * jess *
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ok well i have this semi big crush on this kid on my sports team i talk 2 him n everyhtin but i juss dont kno wut 2 do 2 get him 2 really notice me i think one of my friends likes him also but hse denies it and she knows i liek him but she flirts w. him so much i realli like him n woudl like 2 take my friendship 2 the next level but im juss so confused bout it all i dont kno if i shoudl tell him cus then if he doesnt like me then it'd b awkward cus its an all yr team but then its liek if dont then i could b missin out on an opportunity id like 2 have n if i do tell him how should i tell him? plz help me in ne way u can i really need it! thanx if u can help! (link)
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i think ya should let him know how your feelin... but before you do, flirt with him a lot and see if how he reeacts to it n if he smiles and stuff, and if it all looks good you should tell him n say you really wana get to know him & maybe get a hook up.. good luck hun xox - muah *jess
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i'm 17/f and i thought that i was pretty smart when it came to guys, but on two occasions i became the victim of a guy that wouldn't take "no" for an answer, i didn't get raped, more like pressured into doing something that i didn't want done, it's made me really self consious around other guys, i feel like i'm just an object and that i'm never going to get a good relationship because first off i had a bad experience with guys in the past and i was never close with my dad, and when i was 7 i was molested by my brother, so i've got to ask, am i a whore?? (link)
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no you are not a whore.. Because you were pressured and went with it it's alright.. you were scared, who knows what he would have done. And your brother NO hun you are nowhere near a whore! your brother should not have done that to you and you had no control.. *Youre NOT a whore * X0X Muah-jess
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I really like this guy, and I thought that he liked me until today. My best friend (who has been has friend for a long time now) told me that he got back with his ex girl friend that he missed. Now, I feel broken-hearted even tho no one broke my heart. I am afraid to see him again, because he knows that I like him.. like him. I feel ashamed. What do I do? Please give me good advice. I really need the help. (link)
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aww, well if he and his ex were in love that must be why.. hmm usually people that go off and on so much don't last because they have the same problem everytime and then they end up cracking on eachother. I think he needs to get to know you better that's why he didnt go straight to you, you should start chillin with him after school and talkin to him on the phone/internet more often! n ask him questions so he knows you do care and wana get to know him. hope i helped =/ X0x muah - jess
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Ok there's this guy Alex who asked me out a few years ago but i turned him down and now i regret it so much and ive regretted it since i told him no and i didnt see him for a while and i couldnt stop thinking about him and i found out that there was a chance that i would never seehim again so i started crying for like days and then i found out that i actually would get to see him again and i was SO happy and so now i see Alex in the halls at skool and i wanna go out with him and i really like him and maybe love him..ive thought that i loved him since the moment i told him no and i realized that was a big mistake ugh.. do u think im in love? i mean i know they say that when ur in love u KNOW it, and all this time ive thought that i KNOW im in love..but do u think i am? ive nver been in love b4 so i donno but i feel like but i dont think i could live without him and i get butterflies when im think about him and ugh.. sory this was so long but pls help thanku! (link)
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hmmm, well when your in love you guys usually talk and you spend time together, your there for eachother no matter what, worse comes to worse you can rely on eachother.. you work hard to make eachother smile, etc. If yall feel any of those (maybe just one) then you might be. but nobody is to determine if your in love besides yourself & you will know wen it happens. i think that you wana get to know alex if you don't already and then your gona see if hes your 'one' or not :P if yall don't talk you shoudl start! well good luck hun! x0x mUah*jess
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(13 yr old girl)ok so me and my friend (lets call her Ashley) were best friends. But they i started middle school and we had this big fight over nothing! And a new friend i met in middle school, lets call her Mary, would tell me what Ashley said about me and Mary would tell Ashley what i said about her... and this caused us to fight even more!! She just got in the middle constantly and like now we dont talk anymore.. question : should i be friends with Mary even though she split me and my BFF apart ..
p.s- Mary is friends with ashley .. and mary is friends with me now .. (but idk if thats a big mistake) (link)
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ahh, some people just love the drama and cause it. Well, it seems like 'Mary' wants you guys to fight, or she's afraid that your going to get mad at her when 'Ashley' says something about you and if she didn't tell you. Hmm, but you should talk to Mary & Ask her why she's doing it. and for about a week or so stop talking about ashley to mary and see wat happens. see if mary's goan go tell ashley other stuff.. you never know, But put off talking about ashley to mary for awhile. & if worse comes to worse, explain to mary wat she's doing is making everything worse, but no effense * x0x muah - jess
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hey i like my ex ex boy friend but he dosn't like me i broke up w* him to make out with a nother guy which never happend and i whis i never broke up w* him b/c i never made out w* that other boy and he won't lission to me when i tell him im sry and that i made a stupid mestake and he wont forgive me but i still luv him b u the likes my friend and dosn't wanna belive me b/c hes afraid if he starts likeing me again and we go out again i will hert him agian how do i let him no i don't plan to hert him again plz help me i really like him and i think i might even luv him wut should i do to let him no that (link)
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never stop tellin him how much you love him and wana be back with him, explain how you feel like 100% tell him your soo sorry & you realized that it was a stupid mistake to break it off with him, and that you really really want another chance. swear to him your not going to hurt him again, and when you see him try and put off positive attitude and try to make him laugh a lil, so he realizes your fun to be around and you totally do want another chance, Good luck hun. xox muah-*jess
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Recently a lot has been going on around my neighborhood. We have our own little clique of about 5 girls and 4 boys or so... (We're all 14-16) Dating is something that's very difficult inside this because most people have dated each other and it's all messed up... But my best friend Steph and I hooked up with 2 guys in our group (one was dating one of our friends) and this was only a one time deal. Yeah, I regret it, but thats another story. My mom overheard me saying what happened on the phone to a friend. The guy's girlfriend found out what happened and she understood this and started talking to me again after a few days, but now things are 10x worse. I went away on Saturday and my mom told Steph's mom what had happened. I didn't know that my mom even knew about her, but i guess she figured that out too. Now Steph is mad at me for getting her in touble with her parents and I explained to her that it was all my mother not me, but she just won't hear it. She's basically the only one that's been there for me through this whole thing and we've been best friends for 4 years and she's the most stubborn person I know. I just don't know what to do.. I know talking to her's best, but she knows the story and won't accept that it's not even my fault. Please help me, I've run out of ideas. Everything's just falling apart. (link)
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ahh that's happened to me before just a bit different.. I talked to my mom n yeah screamed actually lol. Didn't help much, but Me & my friend ended up friends again.. it just takes time, Yall will clear up after time, let her know your sorry then let her chill off for a few days.. she'll miss you too and itll all clear up .. GOod luck, I hope everythign works out ! x0x muah * jess
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Me and my boyfriend have been together for a year. We have our own home and we are usually happy. BUT sometimes we fight. When we fight I get an urge that lasts a really long time. Sometimes I want to leave so bad, but I never do. How do I get the strength to leave somebody I love even if it is the right thing for both of us. ( I am 19 he is 27 ) PLEASE HELP (link)
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Mmm.. sounds hard, and like difficult lovin. Well, if you totally can't work things out, you should go find somebody that makes you feel good about yourself and maybe a hook up later on & once you realize that other people can make you feel so good about yourself, that someone could be better & You have them to turn to and go to for some love. And when your leaving.. just think about how much it's going to help you both. But once you leave, which youre gona build the strength too =], if things get worse and you guys end up back you might have beeN made for eachother.. Good luckk!! x0x muah*
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Well, there's this guy in one of my classes and I like him a lot. I've written him two notes now. The first one asked if he wanted to hang out the weekend of halloween with me and some friend and I gave it to him on a Tuesday. He never wrote me back so on Friday, I told him not to worry about writing me back because I guess he didn't want to hang out anyways. Well, then he told me that he didn't write me back because he was busy this weekend with some friends. Well, he started talking to me more since then. Last week I gave him another note saying that I didn't think he wanted to hang out with me or just be my friend or anything like that and he never wrote me back. I'm not sure what's going on, but since that note he talks to me a whole bunch and will just start random conversations with me. By the way he is very shy and doesn't talk too much, but now he talks to me a lot. I'm not sure what to think about all this. Do you think I should just confront him and tell him that obviously what I said in the note was true? Please give me some great advice! It would help a lot! (link)
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He seems like he's trying to reply to you verbally rather than writin notes back, lol. he must find you a pleasure to talk to if he's talking a lot.. and it sounds like he really does like yOu not doesnt wna be your friend or anything. If he didnt like you why would he talk? sounds like he wants to get to know ya! x0x muah*jess
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im a 13 year old female. I went out with this boy "Sam" for about 2 months, which i know isnt very long, but i have also been freinds with him for over a year now. he is really a great guy. and he really liked me but i ended b/c it was just to weird. im not prude or a jesus loving "goody goody" but i wouldnt make out let alone kiss him along those 2 months.(in fact i am eagerly waiting to get my first kiss) but anyway, now he has another girlfreind and well...she is the kind of girl that has already lost her virginity, comes to school stoned...just not exactly a model citazen. and i know this girl too and she is SOOO SWEET, but im just really worried that this girl may change "sam" and he may start making horribly wrong choices. supposedly, they have already made out and have been going together for 2 days. i just dont want to lose him to the wrong people. can anyone give me any advice on this situation? (link)
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tell sam how youre worried about him.. getting corrupted from this girl. She comes off wrong because she thinks its cool and wat evryone else is doing probably & don't let her change sam. Tell him how you care about him so much and you know he's a good person n' you really dont want such a sweetie to change ! Hope i helped.. x0x muah - jess
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You see, I'm developing feeelings for this guy who lives near my friends place. Whenever I'm around him, I act like a fool. My friends (girls) can do sporty things he does, but I totally cant. I think he refers to me as "girly", which I am. But I feel left out when I'm with them. I can't run as fast as they do, and I really don't know what to do. I won't be going to my friends place anymore, so I don't know how I can talk 2 the guy who lives near her. I want him 2 like me, but I feel so ashamed to even see him again. What do I do?
Signed,
Confused (link)
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be yourself around him & don't be ashamed. You are who ya are, and if he's worth it he's gona realize how good of a person you are. If youre tryin to figure out a way to keep talking to him, go over to your friends place maybe one more time.. ask him for a screename or a phone number to chill sometime. Or ask one of your friends if they have it and call him up ! Good luck hun . X0x mUah- jess
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i like my ex ex b/f but he dosn't like me b/c i left him for and nother guy and he won't forgive me 4 wut i did and i hate it b/c i messed up thinking i liked the other guy more but i don't b/c he a perv but the guy i left is realy the guy i wanna be with but he won't lission to me and he dosn't wanna belive me that im sry for leaving him for a nother guy and he won't give me a nother chanse b/c hes afraid ill hert him again... wut should i do to let him no i won't do that again if he gives me another chanse b/c i luv him and he luved me but now he hurt and don't wanna tell me how he feals plzz help me find out a way to let him no i didn't mean to hurt him (link)
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You should reallly tell your ex boyfriend how ya feel and be straight up n foreal, tell him to his face and ask him wat he's feelin..Show effection too, word's dont mean as much as how you display it in proving love. Also you should definetly tell your friend that your in love with him still and she should really back off, but jus tell her no effense if you still wana keep her as jus as good of a friend as she is now.. GOod luck hun x0x muah - *jess
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Hey i am about 5'5 and i weigh 130 lbs. Is that a lot? thanks (link)
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nope, that's not a lotttt thats jus perfect! x0x Muah - Jess
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hey .. ok well i went out with this kid on and off for 7 months and he was the only kid i eva loved .. i mean he meant tha world to me i would of done anything to be with him forever .. but i didnt get to see him alot once a week at tha mall for a couple of hours and we both hated it but i loved him soo much i never could let him go but then april 23 he dumped me .. and i was crushed .. i cired forever... it realle suxed .. and we both still went to tha mall but he had a new gerlfriend everytime and seeing them togerther made me feel lyke i was never realle good enough for him and he always made me feel lyke he only went out with me for so long cuz he didnt wanna hurt my feelings .. even though one time he did tell me he loved me and that he didnt wanna lose me ever and all that shit ... and now he has this gerlfriend danielle who never lyked me for no reason .. but tha point is .. i still realle love him and i wanna get bax with him but we dont even talk anymore but idk .. i want him back .. i dont know wut to do .. i wanna kall him so badd but im afraid he will just hang up on me or something .. idk wut to do ..plzz helpe (link)
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Aww.. you should really tell him you still love him and see wat he's feelin n how he's feelin. if he's feelin the same way yall should try and work it out, but if he aint then you should go and try for somebody else that makes you feel good about yourself n happy n makes you smile.. Good luck hun! x0x MUAH- jess
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ok im kind of a shy person and recently i started making friends at another high school so im mainly with them. they are all so pretty...a lot of guys like them and they're so nice.i just want to fit in with them because when when im with them,i feel like the outsider. i want to b able to open up more...basically what i want to know is how to open up more!? plz plz help i really need it. (link)
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just start talking about wat you guys have in common, and if you don't know that much about them start talkin about wat your interested in and see wat they are.. Jus be your self & you're cool. everything will work out jus open up a little bit and don't be too shy. Good luck! leme know if anything happens if ya have time ! x0x mUah- jess
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