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Q: I don't mean to be mean but..Being Wiccan in the Lone Star state is tough. There are alot of really hardcore Christians here that think Wiccans are Satanists. I keep my religon in private and say that I don't have a religon when someone asks me. I just feel like I'm living a lie, you know? It also bugs the heck out of me when I see people in my class drawing pentacles all over their stuff saying they're Satanist and then walking away, laughing saying "Not really!!"
Advice would be lovley

Well, hunnie. I would love to tell you to ignore it but trust me, I know how hard that can be. I have so many people that I know that are major cristians. Most of them are my own family. They might not ever accept our religion, but that is not our fault. What you could do is print out some information for them from the site: www.wicca.com and show it to them and try to explain to them that, for us, there is no satan. Just don't ever let them tell you that the bible says that witchcraft is bad. IT IS NOT TRUE! If you go to the site I gave you, go to 'what is wicca' and it will show you everthing about our belief and anything alse. It may not change their minds but at least they will know more about our religion. I hope I helped. Please email me if you need anything else, no matter what it is. Blessed be!

Q: are you seriously wiccan?if you are thats bad ur letting a lot of bad stuff in ur life so stop and go to God He will help u!

First of all, yes I am wiccan. Second of all, you have no fucking right to tell me what is good or bad. And you should keep you fucking mouth shut about shit you know nothing about!! And I dont believe in your god. he is nothing to be and thats the way it will always be. You have no fucking right to tell me to stop doing something that you dont like. I DONT GIVE A SHIT WHAT THE FUCK YOU THINK!!!!!!! SO FUCK OFF AND SHUT THE FUCK UP!!!!

Q: Well my sister for the first time met my boyfriend and then when we were all talking (my sister, my boyfriend, and me) he touched my hand, *not a big deal right?* well to my sister it was so. . . that night my sister went on aim and told him not to touch my hand infront of her my sister is 28 and shes acting WAY over protective!! help please what do i say to her to not make her feel im making my self like "older" then her!!!!!! i'll rate high

First of all, how old are you?? That might play a part in her being so protective of you. My sister was sometimes over protective of me. But i told her that she didnt need to be and that I can make my own decisions about who I want to date and that its not her business to tell me, or the guy I would be with, what to do. Its your life, not hers. Tell her that you appreciate her being protective of you but she doesnt need to be and that she needs to respect your relationship with this guy. Just tell her how you feel. Hope I helped! Blessed be. ~Candy

Q: Does anyone know of any free picture sites (I mean for sharing photos)? NOT picture trail, I don't want a free trial, I want something that won't get rid of me after 30 days, lol...Thanks in advance. I'll rate.

it depends on what kind of site you want. i no a couple of sites but idk if they r the kind u want or not (no they r NOT porn sites) email me if you want to know the sites. my email is: (wiccan_witch_1986@hotmail.com)

Q: Hello. :)
14/F ~ My boyfriend and I have been dating for about 4 months now, and the other night he came over. We sat around and talked for a little while, but then he started to pull moves on me... It's not the first time or anything.. we started to make out then he put his hands up my shirt and down my pants..then we started making out more.. then he pulled me on top of him and we made out more. Is it wrong for me to let him put his hands in those places? I'm just wondering so I can tlel him weather he can again or not. Thank you :)

no its not wrong unless u dont feel comfortable with him doing that. if YOU dont feel comfortable with him doin that, then tell him not to. Other than that its not wrong. hope i helped. ~Candy

Q: i dont know if there is something wrong with me, but i'm 15/f and everday when i get home from school (i'm usually alone for about and hour) i completely pig out on tons of junk food. ie. those little debbie desserts, chips, licorice, etc. the rest of the time i eat normal stuff. i really like salad, and other healthy foods,but i cant stop this binging when i get home. i dont like throw it up or anything. but i have been getting really insecure about how i look. i m not fat, i am 5'6" and 107 lbs. but i don't know what is wrong with me. i am afraid i might get an eating disorder help!!

talk to ur parent about it. maybe they can help you to stop. hope i helped. ~Candy

Q: ok, so i have a ton of guy friends, and i never have any trouble talking to them or anything. but theres this one guy that i have a crush on, and i cant look at him when i talk to him! i dont know why, i can talk to him fine, but i avoid looking at him, which makes me look stupid! what can i do to make myself look at him? i can talk just fine, but the looking is the problem... thanks!!

i have never been shy but i have delt with guys that r shy. it will take a while but when you hang out with this guy more it will become easier to look at him as well as talking to him w/o u felling stupid or nething like that. hope i helpped. ~Candy

Q: Umm, I saw a question about teeth clenching, and some people answered saying something about TMJ, well what is that? I feel dumb, but I've never heard of it.

i have tmj and it sucks major! tmj is where you cant open your mouth all the way. my jaw will always pop. And it hurts like a b***h 24/7! hope i helped. ~Candy

Q: my bf just told me he was a pothead...and hes been doing it for almost a year. and we've been going out for more than a year, i dont know what to do. hes lied to me for so long. i told him if he did it i'd dump him but he did it anyway. i only said that so maybe he wouldnt do that but it didnt work. idk what to do. im so confused and idk. please help. and dont tell me to dump him because i cant. i love him too much to do that. no matter what he does.

tell him how u feel straight out. ~Candy

Q: hi, im 13/m i have this gf we started going out like 2 months ago and its been really cool and i really like her alot but now i found out shes been smokin pot and drinken and shes only 13 though it was her first time it was kinda shocking cuz i expectede more from her i still like her but i sont kno if i wanna handle this i dont know what to do should i keep going out with her.

I used to smoke weed and cigarettes daily over two years ago and the guy I was dating at the time didn't like it. But the thing was we went out for 3 and a 1/2 months and he didn't tell me until we had been going out for 2months. And I quit right on the spot because I cared that much abotu him. My advice is to tell her how you feel because she might not know it's bothering you. She might do the same thing I did and quit just for you. I don't know. If she cares about you, she will definatly consider how you feel. If not, she is worth it if she is going to put that s**t before your feelings. Hope I helped!! Please keep me updated??? Blessed be!
~Candy the Wiccan

Q: ok...i have been going out with this guy for about a month now...he has become one of my best friends too...any ways....my friend is all over him ALL the time! she hugs him, holds his hands...and i dont like it...im going out with him not her! im not jealous....i just dont like it! what should i do!?!?!? thank you soooo much!

I think you should talk to your boyfriend about it. Tell him you don't want her to hang all over him and that he needs to tell her to stop. Then hopefully it will stop. If not then you have to tell her straight out you don't want her hanging on him. Hope I helped! Blessed be!
~Candy the Wiccan

Q: my mother is very unhappy about her figure and she wishes to hide it. Are there any specific colors she can wear to make her look thinner? If So Please HELP!! Shes always so unhappy. Thanks!!

I don't like my figure either. So what I do is I wear dark colors. Maybe she should try it. I'm not sure if it will work for her or not. I hope it does!!!! Please email me and tell me how it goes???? Hope I helped!! Blessed be!
~Candy the Wiccan

Q: Hello, my name is Victoria, I'm the jokerzgrl on this site. I, too am a wiccan. Whenever I find a fellow pagan, I try to get to know them better, so i'm not as discouraged when I come to this site and read advice people don't know how to give involving the craft. It just makes me feel a bit better. If you don't want me bothering you anymore, let me know, and I'll be happy to oblige.
Mad Love,
Victoria

Hello Victoria. My name is Candy. I am happy that you contacted me. I too like to find fellow witches. I think it's wonderful that there are people out there, like myself, that are not afraid to tell people what they believe and love what they do. I would be happy to get to know you better also. I do not like to hide things from people and I will answer any questions you may have for me. Blessed Be!
~Candy the Wiccan

Q: i'm thinking about becoming wiccan. does anyone know of any good websites or books i can look at?

thank you in advance. :)

I am a wiccan and there are many cites you could go to. for instance, there is one: www.wiccan.com I use it myself. Also if you need any other help on this i would b glad to help u! hope I helped! ~Candy the Wiccan

Q: Today I was sitting in class and I just picked up this needle thing and started running it up and down my arm. I don't know why but then I started scratching myself with it really badly so that I had marks all over my arm. After school, my boyfriend saw but he made a joke of it. I think I did it because I want attention because my parents don't really give me any. I was really upset that my boyfriend didn't care, does it show that he doesn't care about me? Everybody that saw what I had done just ignored me.

I used tio cut myself and trust me!!! It doent do anything for you except hurt you. I did it for attention and to get rid of some of my agression. It got me attention but it never got rid of my agression. Your boyfriend laughs about it and makes jokes because he doesnt know what else to do about it. The same goes for every one else who ignores it they dont know what to do about it. Like I said, it doesnt do anything for you except hurt you. Hope I helped! ~Candy the Wiccan

Q: Hi! Did anybody ever have a seance? If so what happened? Thnx! I gotta know cuz i am having one.

Hun, I am a wiccan and I do many seances. And I have actually contacted people who have died years ago to people who have died recently. You have to really WANT to contact the dead. And You need to have the right equipment. You have to have the right number of candles and the right stones for protacttion of evil spirits that could try to hurt you. Go to the site : www.wicca.com and find out what stones you will need by going to the link on the second "main page" and scrolling down to gemstones/crystals and find the ones that are used for protection. Then you should get the stones and then you should be able to do the seance. Hope I helped. Good luck.
~Candy the Wiccan

Q: * My Weird School Dealy*
Posted Monday November 15 2004, 1:30 am
Okay. here it is. I was raped a few days ago. By my neighbor. He lives like three houses down. We went to a house that my brother broke into, so they could have a cigarette break before going to the gym. Well they brough some alcohol and we started drinking shots of all kinds of stuff. I done atleast a whole bottle of GIN! I was drunk of my ass. We played some games. I wasnt all together. My neighbor who is 16 and is my NJROTC Commanding officer, locked me in a room when i was drunk and raped and he had a condom. (how and why did he have a condom i have no idea) I remember him shovin his dick down my throat when i was on the ground and chocking me. The picked me raped my ass and the detective said i passed out and he raped me in my vaginal area. I was so sad. I went depressed after a while. Almost scuicide but i told my parents. The cops and detective wanted to arrest him. They had SOOOO much evidence its not funny. But the detective went to the state and the state said i wasnt drunk enough and dropped the case. Can you please explain to my why would they do that to me? and isnt that wrong? Now im locked in my house and cant go to school. What should i do?
Any one who helps me the most ill leave them a GREAT COMMENT and A BIG RATE!
-Unknown-

OK so they said that you passed out and they had evidence that you were raped. There is no reason why they should have dropped the case and that the guy should definatly get put in jail for what he did to you. No one deserves to be raped. Whether you are drunk or not it shouldnt have happen and he violated you therefor the courts shouldnt have dropped the case. Honestly it makes no sense as to why they dropped it. They should have done something about it. I would definatly try to get an appeal or something cause something should have been done about that guy. HOpe I help at least somewhat!! Good luck!! ~Candy the Wiccan

Q: Well!My name is Sami and I am in a big old miss hap right now with a lot of things in my life.
I have not takled to my ex bf in over a month ya kno but yesterday I was online and he IMed me. He said some really mean comments to me. Like he kept on calling me a slut and stuff like that. I am not a slut either.I asked him what I did to him and he didnt say anything for a lil while. On halloween I went to six flags with my ex bf adam bc I thought that I still had feelings for him, all that we did was kiss. We didnt really even make out, just lil pecks here and there. My old friend nichole is telling dominic stuff that isnt true. Shes telling him that I did more with adam, when I didnt. So after I asked dominic what I did to him he was like, you went and saw adam on halloween.I told him that we didnt do more then kiss, but he was like," thats not what i heard". He has never even met my friend nichole, they have only talked on the phone. they dont really even kno eachother, and he is gonna believe her over me. Well I found out when I saw adam that I DIDNT have ANY feelings for him anymore. Atfer he and I kissed I went in the bathroom and cried bc I made the mistake of kissing him. It just hurts to much that dominic doesnt believe me bc last year when we dated we were in a mis hap just like this, where he didnt believe me, he believed everyone else. But in the end he figured out that I was not lying to him and that I WAS TELLING HIM THE TRUTH. Dominic has a gf and I can honestly say that I am happy for him. Its good to kno that he is happy. He thinks that I am all sad and miserable when I am not. Yeah I miss him and stuff but I am slowing moving on. Okay another thing is last weekend I went and saw my best friends: phoebe, dylan and tara. We all were at taras house watching a movie ok. Dylan and I are really good friends. Hes my bestest friend in the entire world. When we were watching the movie he and I were cuddling and kissiing. And yesterday online I put stuff to dylan like...Dylan-your my best friend in the entire world. I love you to death.LoL!We had fun last weekend didnt we? Your a good kisser, I hope I get to kiss you again." I am not the type of gurl that is going to kiss any guy. I have to like a guy to kiss him.I really like dylan more then a friend. I can say that I am falling in love with him. Maybe I already am. Dylans just difffernt then other guys. He excepts me for who I am. He has never hurt me in any way at all since Ive known him. Yeah dominic to me is the perfect guy but he has changed so much since we have broken up. I still really dont kno what was so bad that I did to him. I stoped talking to to dominic last night at 9 pm and I signed ofline and called Dylan right away. I cried like the whole time on the phone. I know that dominic is mad, its how he gets about situations like this. Yeah his feelings for me are fading but he still cares. It hurts more that he doesnt believe me about he adam thing, then him calling me a slut. How can he believe my old best friend nichole over a gurl (me)who is was in love with and knows inside and out. He doesnt kno nichole at all? I am at school right now and all I have been doing for the past 4 hrs is crying. Should I be crying over this or just let it pass bc I know that he is just mad and doesnt mean it. Its like Im single anyways. I have a right to kiss a guy if I like them ya know. Well please help me I am so confused.

Hey Sam!!!! It's me, your gurl, Candy!! I still need to meet Dylan!!!! :) You know Dominic is just jealous that you are tring to move on and date other guys. You desevre a guy who will treat you right and give you the respect you deserve!Yiou don't need nicole or urbanor dominic if they are gunna treat you like shit. Nicole's and urban's asses are mine!! You are one of my really good friends and I am not gonna let them treat you like that!! LYLAS!!!!!!! ~Candy the Wiccan :)

Q: i posted a question a couple weeks ago... and thanx to everybody that answered it... ok so here's another one for ya'll... so my last question was about me kissing another guy and do u think my boyfriend would break up with me... and how do i talk to him about it... well we talked and we are still together (yay!) so ne way... another boy problem question.... about ben... ok, i really really really like ben and he is the first boyfriend that i have had that i really truly like... but for some reason i cant get this paranoid idea outta my head that he is going to dump me... i think it's because this is my first real boyfriend and i am worried im gonna mess it up but i dont kno... this is really unusual for me because i am really a live by the moment-dont over think it kinda person... so i guess the question is... how can i stop worrying? i dont kno y this happening tho... he is really sweet to me and always says happy 1 week annaversary! and just stupid cutsie stuff like that... he treats my really well... and i mean... he told me i was the first girlfriend he really truly liked since his first.... i really dont want to get hurt... so i guess if u understand this at all... please help... lol...
...claire

Hun, just relax!! If you are really paranoid, then I think you should talk to your boyfriend about how you feel and your fears. I'm sure you will feel alot better after you talk to him. Try it and if you could, email me back and tell me how it went??? Hope I have been of some help!!!
~Candy the Wiccan

Q: im a 15 yr old chick and i absolutely love this guy (whos 18)with all my heart, and he likes me too we hook up all the time and its like were in a full on relationship except for he wont 'go out' wit me, he says he doesnt want to make it official because he doesnt want a hardout relationship. we recently had a fight and he said he didnt want to see me anymore, a day later hes saying im sorry im sorry i made a mistake will u forgive me!? but the thing is i have got really sick and i wont b able to 'do' anything for a couple of weeks, so then he says well.. were just friends then hey? im all better now and i still love him he came over last night coz were 'friends' now and before he left i told him how i felt about him and he said he still liked me too. i dont know if it should b like it was because every now and then he treated me badly, he stuffed me round all the time and i never knew where i stood with him, he wont commit but im not allowed to see other people so long as were seeing each other. im not happy with those conditions but i cant live without him, i wish he would change but he never will what should i do?

I think you should talk to him and tell him how you feel. Teel him that you want a committed relationship with him. Just talk to him. Thats all I can say. Hope I have been of some help. ~Candy the Wiccan