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pothead
my bf just told me he was a pothead...and hes been doing it for almost a year. and we've been going out for more than a year, i dont know what to do. hes lied to me for so long. i told him if he did it i'd dump him but he did it anyway. i only said that so maybe he wouldnt do that but it didnt work. idk what to do. im so confused and idk. please help. and dont tell me to dump him because i cant. i love him too much to do that. no matter what he does.
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He hasn't told you because he is scared to and obviously want s to stop. The problem is that just because you say stop, he can't stop just like that. It won't work. Tell him you can help him and gradually help him cut down. Keep him busy, go shopping, cinema or just out so he spends less and less time on his own, leading him to smoke pot. It will work out, you just have to let him know you are there for him and can help.
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ok i would tell you to dump him but you dont want me too tell you that so my advice is too tell your guidence counseler or his parents or your parents. yes, i no that you would ussually never tell your parents anything much less your gudence counceler but you have to if you dont he could die and i dont think that you want that. if you truly care about him then you will follow my advice. good luck and happy holidays!!
~amy~
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I don't think you should dump him. If anything you should help him. I don't have anything against potheads, mind you, some of my friends are, but from what I've seen that stuff can be addicting, and soemtimes it takes alot to admit that you have a problem. At least he did tell you, right? You guys need to sit down and talk things out. Don't be mad at him.
MAd Love,
Victoria
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Im not trying to be rude..but if he loved you then he would have stopped a long time ago. I know that you said the you didnt want us to tell you to dump him, but honestly i think you should. If he's been lying to you for so long and wont stop something that is very addictive and dangerous than i think that's screwy..i bet you think the same thing too..dont lie. I mean, your worried about him and that shows how much you care. I just think that you can really do BETTER than that crap.
hope i helped
~Sammie~
P.S. he's an idiot he doesnt deserve you
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tell him how u feel straight out. ~Candy
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love him or not if he is a pothead get out of there you can do soo much better!!!
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if you love him so much, then get him some help. sign him up for a program or something. hey, thatd be a great christmas gift.. "sweetie, for christmas, im sending you to rehab" well, good luck sweetie ~*stefanie
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Say what you feel. Don't be scared of his reaction, confront him with confidence. Tell him you care about him and you'll help. Spill your feelings to him, I mean he's your bf.
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Tell him what you think. If he didn't stop when you threatened to dump him, than he really doesn't love you. You can do better - Relationships are all about trust and if he has been lying on top of all this, he doesn't deserve a person like you.
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Tell him how you feel, Just be like "Im not your mother and im not going to tell you what to do but i really think you should at least try to quit because I really like you and dont want you to ruin your life" It will make him think about what he is doing and that he is probably hurting you by doing it. Tell him how upset you are that he lied.. basically just tell him how you feel about the whole thing im sure that if you guys have been goin out this long he will understand.. Hope I helped!
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if he loves you enough hed quit
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well if you love him as much as you say you do then you wont have to break up with him. you have been going out for over a year and he has just started about a year ago... so you know what he was like before he did it and then what he was like after he did it. there was no obvious change in your relationship because of it because you would have suspected something was up. by you knowing about it now, shouldnt change that way you feel about him and it shouldnt change the way he feels about you. i wouldnt say he has lied to you about it, just neglected to tell you. you didnt ask him if he was where he would of said no, so its not a lie. he just didnt voluntarily offer to tell you that. i wouldnt really worry about it tho. there is really nothing to worry about.
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Wow, that must be an awful feeling :-/ Sorry to hear that. One thing I would do if I were you, is well naturally talk to him about it again. But this time, tell him that you love him too much to break up with him and it's something you're just going to have to accept. And really, you are just going to have to accept it.. You basically said if he doesn't stop, youd dump him, but he still did it. That means that there's really no stopping him.. Ofcourse tell him everything thats on your mind, like you want to know every little thing from now on, when he smokes where, etc, only because you care about him and want to know what's going on in his life... It's really hard because I know for a fact, if I were you, I'd be going crazy and probably not talk to my bf for like a week, because that is such a hugee thing not to tell your gf, especially since he's been smoking for a year now.. Maybe you two can make a compromise and let him smoke only once a week, etc. love kristin
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Ok..well first of all how long has he been smoke some guys start over the weekend trying it and then stop a week lata!!ask him and tell him how you feel
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get used to it.. guys will be guys, and he'll have his fun doin his stuff.. learn to live with it, life goes on. x0
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