Hey everyone, my name is Kristin, there's a picture of me on my advice column.. I'm a senior in high school and im 18 years olds.. I know I'm pretty young, but I've been through more than anyone would imagine and I've been through things most teenage girls haven't experienced yet in life. Here's a few things about myself, I've gone through a very serious one year relationship that ended a long long time ago, my parents have been divored for about 6 years, I cheerlead for my high school, I do ballet and have been playing the piano since I was seven, I work at a nearby UPS Store, and I am a dedicated Greek-Orthodox Christian. I hope to get accepted into Cal Poly San Louis Obispo and major in Nutrition..I love to hear about other peoples issues and problems so I could help them deal with it by relating them to my own experiences. So if you wanna talk, I'm here =]
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Location: I live in California, I'm half arab half italian
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yea so i pretty much have the worst luck with girls i know im a good looking guy (trying not to be concieded) but its weird they always want the hot hollister guys...im in a band and sing and write lyrics for it and stuff but sumhow i cant get one i always say the wrong thing or never able to take a hint what should i do? im 15 haha forgot about that (link)
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hey sorry it took so long for me to respond to your question.. i've been out of town. But anyways, i SO know where you are coming from.. i feel the exact same way.. all guys always go for the hot blondy hollister chicks. its like what the helll.... but honestly, youre only 15, you WILL meet a girl who likes you and who you like back.. its inevitable. it just is gunna take some time. i know thats a sucky answer, but thats just the reality of it all.. and about always saying the wrong thing or not being able to take a hint, dont even worrya bout it. you just gotta practice not caring about what chicks think. be yourself, and even act confident. girls LIKE confidence. when you stop going after a girl, she will miss the attention, and then the tables will turn and she will be the one wanting you. so just try to back off any girl you are trying to pursue, if thats even anyone, and try to turn the tables around...
~kristin
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Hey! I was just wondering (again) where you got your skin for your xanga! please answer! (link)
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Hey sorry for not getting back to you. im REALLY sorry but my friend made my xanga site along long time ago, and i have no idea where she got it from. sorry :-/
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I have pursued modeling for over a year now, but lately I don't really know if I want to become a model. I am 5'4" to begin with. My height discourages me a little,but I feel likes it's more than that. Am I just trying to get validation for my looks? I don't know if modeling is even my style. I like to pose and take pictures, but I don't know that I want that instability w/ trying to break into the industry and trying to get discovered. I really need help. I don't know what to do. I don't know what I would do as a career. I am F/21 (link)
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I think that's awesome that you're in modeling. But since you aren't 100% sure you want to pursure this career, then you should definitely start looking into something else. It is NOT too late, and is never too late, to start going to a junior college. If I were you, that is definitely what I would do. Put modeling to the side for awhile but don't quit. Definitely don't quit, just take it easy for awhile. Maybe focuse on modeling 2-3 days a week, and then rest, work and goto school. Sign up for classes at a JC near you. Hope that helped
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If I take my cartilidge piercings out for like 30 minutes every weekday for gym class, do you think it'll close? I've had one of them since June '04, and the other since August'04 =) thanks. (link)
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they wont close.. even if you kept them out for like an hour or more, they still wouldnt close.. as long as u put them back in right when ur done with your gym class
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ok i dont want to sound like a bitch but im good looking but i have like bad acne on my back and some what on my chest ..do u know anything to do so i can get rid of it? and will guys like so not want to see me naked everrrr? gosh please help me and ill love you foreverrr (link)
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Ahh!! I hate that problem it sucks, I know. Well my sister and my best friend had REALY horrible back acne and chest acne.. My sister went to a professional and spent kind of a lot of money to get treatments for it... And after about five treatments, she cleared up.. I'm really sorry but I have no idea where she went.. She lives in a different country now so I can't talk to her.. My best friend just deals with it, she takes pills but it doesnt work too well. Guys are guys. If they see that you have back acne they might feel a little uneasy and MAYBE grossed out. Those are only the dicks though.. I say that because they once said mean stuff about my best friend when they saw her back.. It sucks, they could be jerks.. Seriously though that was like a one time only .. We've never heard ANYTHING except that, and shes had back acne for about 4 years... Sorry if this wasnt much help.. Love kristin
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My dad doesnt like my boyfriend because he is older and he has made some bad choices in his life, what should I do? Is my dad right to not like him even though I really love my boyfriend? I'm so lost. Please help. (link)
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Hey.. That must be hard having your dad not like him. Sorry to hear that. Well, honestly, you're Dad is totally in the right frame of thinking.. I can sit here and name like a million things that parents are right in, etc.. You may totally love your boyfriend, that's not a question, but you really got to give a little to your dad.. What I mean is, I don't think you should cut it off with your bf, because that would be pointless and dumb, but definitely let your Dad continue nagging you about not liking him, etc.. Because EVERYTHING your Dad is saying is right. Believe it or not. Everything your Dad says has great meaning to it.. If he says, "WHY ARE YOU DATING HIM?! HE'S A LOW LIFE BUMB." or something like that, it's probably true, your bf could be a low-life bumb, lol, you know what I mean? But that definitely doesn't mean you shuoldn't love him. Your dad ONLY wants the best for you- THE BEST ONLY period... Im not going to say you should have a talk with your dad and tell him how you feel, etc, like most columnists would tell you, because that's an obvious one, obviously you have talked to your dad aobut it. If he is TELLING you to break up with him and that's that, that's a different story, but it sounds like your dad just doesn't like him.. What I would do, is invite your bf over for dinner maybe one night a week for about 3 weeks [as long as its okay with your parents ofcourse] and tell ur bf to bring over flowers one night, or chocolate another.. Just a little something to show respect to your parents. Also, DO NOT do anything with him [sex, etc] ... If your dad ever found out, or just say the guy broke your heart in the end and you did have sex with him, everything your dad said was right.. and you dont want him to have to say, "I told you so." I really hoped this helped.. Please come back to me if you need more help.. Love kristin
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My BFF krystal ebel died in a TRAGIC car accident how should i handle it!? (link)
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Wow, I`m so very sorry. You really need to call God into your life right now.. The only way you are ever going to touch your best friend, Krystal, again is through God. I would sit down in a cozy, happy place, and ask God to help you heal through what has happened... I cant tell you what to say, because he has to come from your heart.. There obviously needs to be atleast a month for you to mourn over her death, but after that, really try and let go because it will save your life a lot of tears.. Im really sorry again, love kristin
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who has pierced their own cartilage? did it work out and everything and not get infected? (link)
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I just got my done last weekand, it kinda hurt, but everything is going great so far, no infections, etc...*knock on wood*...love kristin
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my brother and i used to be extrmely close even though he is 14 yrs older than me. but after he found "the love of his life" he seems lik he doesnt even no who i am. when he got engaged i cried and when he was married i wanted to die. we can never seem to talk about anything and hes always saying how stupid i am for going out w/ my bf bc he doesnt live by me. hes wife is super awasome and i love her and all but sometimes its lik its her fault. everytime someone talks bout my brother i get rele upset and when they compare us i always say since you think hes so much better than me go get him to do it. i hate it bc everyone asks why ben (my brother) and i dont spend that much time together anymore. and hes having a child and im afraid hes going to rele forget about me. he relationship w/ everyone else hasnt changed only w/ me. when i was little and i cried when i had a nightmare hed come in my room and sit w/ me till i went to bed but when i my first bf broke up w/ me he told me to shut up and get over it. and it rele hurt bc i used to be able to turn to him when i was sad but now i cant. i rele dont no what im asking but do you think r realtionship will ever be the same? or how can i tell him how i feel? thanks and sry bout the length (link)
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Hey, Im really sorry about what youre going through. Im glad that you want to talk to him about it, because that's the only way you will ever get through to him how you feel. I would buy him a little gift for his incoming child, and tell him to meet you somewhere, like a coffee shop or something..give him the present and tell him that you are so happy for him that hes having a baby and that he is happy... say this, "I got you this little present for your baby, I know it's nothing but I really am happy for you. I hope that Ill be a big part of your baby's life because youre such a big part of mine. I just kind of feel lately that Im not any part of your life anymore. I want to be so bad. I use to turn to you whenever I needed someone to talk to and you would always be there to protect me.. I just feel like youre not like that with me any more, Im your sister and I feel like Ive been forgotten.." I know this may be a hard to thing to do, but you have to say something like that... love kristin
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Okay, so today, I went out and bought a CHI straightener. (I had a Hot Tools one, but it's too old. That's why the CHI was purchased.)
Well, I haven't used the CHI yet, and I only bought it because everyone raved about it. So, before buying it I went on amazon.com, and other websites, and looked at customer reviews for the CHI. More than half the reviews said that the CHI broke, and left damage to their hair. The ones that put the CHI down, recommended the 'Sedu' straightener.
I read the reviews for that one, and everyone RAVED over it, just LOVED it. So, I'm curious..did I make a mistake purchasing the CHI? Or does anyone have one..and have any complaints about it?
Does anyone have a Sedu? I just want to know about them both, thank you!
:) Britt (link)
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I have the CHI straightener.. And I personally love it.. You have to remember, that ANY stype of straightener is going to damage your hair one way or the other.. So Im not going to say that it doesn't damage my hair.. It just makes my hair turn out really good.. love kristin
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me again...thanks for your help but things between me and da gurl dint really work. i found out she doesnt even feel the slightest thing i do. i made up ma mind to get over her, but i still wanna be friends. wats the easiest way to get over her. ive tried before and it was hard. thanks
Afatsum~ (link)
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Aw, sorry to hear that. Hm.. getting over someone can be pretty tough. Well.. there are many ways. There are really no particular "steps" in getting over someone, it just happens.. There's this quote, I kinda forgot how it goes, but it's like if you can't get someone out of your heart, then maybe they are really suppose to be there. But you said she doesn't have the same feelings as you do, so I guess this is a different situation than one that could match that quote. Anyways, everytime you think about her, tell yourself this, "she's an amazing person, but she's just not for me." EVERY SINGLE TIME you think about her, say that to yourself. Right now, your sub-consious mind is so set on liking this girl.. it's like, for example, chocolate, it's bad for you, but you have probably loved it ever since you were a little kid, so your sub-consious mind is set on liking it. That's how it is with this girl. Sounds to me you've liked her for a while now, and so your mind is automatically use to thoughts coming in your head about how much you like this girl, etc, BUT if you start telling your mind, " no i dont like her, shes a great girl, but shes just not for me," your mind will sooner or later get use to that notion, and will REALLY start to think that way... Whenever people ask me these type of questions, about getting over someone, I kind of have a lot to say because I've had to get over people in the past, and so I know how to do it and how it feels.. She really needs to know how you feel though. Try talking to her about it and tell her exactly how you feel because she might be really confused if you start to avoid her or ignore her calls, etc. I know I would be mad if I didn't know what was going on. Also, keep in mind, YOU WILL GET OVER HER. This, you have to remember. Even if it took you years and years and years, you will get over her.. You said you were like 18 or 19 right? You still have your whole life ahead of you.. You're going to find someone who will love you back!! It's her loss, don't worry everything's going to work out.. love, kristin
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im 18 i have a son and im still with his dad but we fight alot the problem is i have a crush on this guy i grew up with he has a kid too and brings his son to my moms daycare i know he likes me but he has a girlfreind they fight sometimes , i want to tell him how i fell but i think that would be tottaly out of place and wrong what do u think ? thanks (link)
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That must be a kind of hard situation :-/. Well I think that's great that you both have a child because it can let you two relate more. I think that if you really think that it's worth risking your relationship with your current boyfriend, then go for it. But if you cherish your relationship too much, I would let it pass because there's nothing worse than loosing the one you truely love. You have to think hard and decide what you really want. If you are having feelings for someone else, then maybe it shows that your relationship right now is questionable?
love kristin
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i feel fat. like everyone tells me that i am skinny. i am 5'6" and 108 lbs. I know i am not really overweight, but i have tons of fat. i allways feel self consious, and i have noticed myself getting more and more concerned about how i look. i am afraid i might develope an eating disorder, or just become depressed about it. that is like all i ever think about anymore. help (link)
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O-M-G!!! SWEETHEART, you are like the stupidest person!!! [joking hehe] you are SO NOT FAT. TRUST ME--- if you're fat, that means me, and every other normal-weighted teenage girl is HUMONGOUS! -kristin
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my bf just told me he was a pothead...and hes been doing it for almost a year. and we've been going out for more than a year, i dont know what to do. hes lied to me for so long. i told him if he did it i'd dump him but he did it anyway. i only said that so maybe he wouldnt do that but it didnt work. idk what to do. im so confused and idk. please help. and dont tell me to dump him because i cant. i love him too much to do that. no matter what he does. (link)
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Wow, that must be an awful feeling :-/ Sorry to hear that. One thing I would do if I were you, is well naturally talk to him about it again. But this time, tell him that you love him too much to break up with him and it's something you're just going to have to accept. And really, you are just going to have to accept it.. You basically said if he doesn't stop, youd dump him, but he still did it. That means that there's really no stopping him.. Ofcourse tell him everything thats on your mind, like you want to know every little thing from now on, when he smokes where, etc, only because you care about him and want to know what's going on in his life... It's really hard because I know for a fact, if I were you, I'd be going crazy and probably not talk to my bf for like a week, because that is such a hugee thing not to tell your gf, especially since he's been smoking for a year now.. Maybe you two can make a compromise and let him smoke only once a week, etc. love kristin
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Ok, a couple of months ago, one of my guy friends (not a really close one, but somebody i talk to alot) moved away, and i was sad, but not a lot. Then i started to talk to him online alot more, and he was always nice, and teased me, but in the nice way, and now i think i kinda like him. He might be coming back for winter break, and i dunno what to say to him if he does. I dont even know if he'll wanna be my friend once he sees his ex (they broke up because he was moving, but i think they still like each other) wat do i do? (link)
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I think that when he's coming back, he will probably still hang out with his ex, they will probably kiss and all that stuff.. But it's going to be one of the only times you will ever be given a chance to tell him how you feel. I'm almost positive though in acouple months you wont even be thinking about this guy because you'll get over him, etc.. But if I were you I would tell him that you'd love to hang out with him when he comes back. Tell him then and see what happens. Love kristin
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I really like this guy, and he just happens to be my best friend. I know everyone says that if you go out with one of your good friends, it will ruin the friendship. Well I don't believe that because I think all good relationships are based on a previous friendship. Well anyways- one of my really close girl friends is the one he likes, and I don't want him to ask her out, but I think he's going to because that's what he told me. I know I'm really good friends with her, but I just find it hard to support her in this situation. It's not that I want him to not ask her out and ask me out, but I would rather him not go out with anyone because I'm afraid he'll act different around me if he's going out with someone because normally we always flirt and stuff. Can anybody tell me how I'm supposed to tell him that and be honest with him without him getting mad at me or thinking I'm wrong to say that? (link)
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WOW-- im in that exact same position.. one of my really close guy friends likes another one of my friends.. i started liking him since school startEd.. and it sucks because im like the one who hooked them up.. If I were you, I wouldn't wait any longer before they get closer, and I would tell him this, "Listen I really got to talk to you... You are such a close friend to me, i think you're great..and I'm really happy for you and __[the girlz name], but there's just something I need to tell you.. I feel like I shouldn't because its really bad timing with you and so and so, but I can't really keep it in any longer.. I like you.. Not as in like friends, but more than friends.. I dont expect anything at all in return, I just need you to know how I feel..and that I hope nothing will change between us when you and so and so get together..." and then just take it from there
love kristin
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me and my bf have been together for a long time now. we haven't gone very far at all. he loves me and i love him but he is pressuring me into going further. i know for sure i don't want to because im not ready. im 14. i love him tho and i want to make him happy... what do i do? he respects me and everything so its not like he is like DO IT OR I WILL BREAK UP W/ YOU i can just tell he really wants to and he asks me if i will and stuff. sometimes he tries to do stuff and i tell him to stop but he keeps trying. later i talk to him about it and he says he jsut cant help it. ill rate (link)
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Hey, yah that must be a kind of hard situation to be in...What I would do, is everytime you two start messing around, right when you start to feel uncomfortable, make it OBVIOUS, like you have been. I know you want to make him happy, etc, but you always need to make sure that you, YOURSELF, feel happy and content. After you feel happy and comfortable with doing whatever, then you can start trying to make him feel happy by doing whatever you want to do [sexually]
hope this helps =]
love kristin
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me again, i used to always insist on paying for stuff whenever i would go out with this girl. she got mad after a while so i stopped but sometimes i want to but i feel she'll get mad again. should i do it anyway?
~Afatsum (link)
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Hey, I kind of had this problem awhile ago.. But my situation was probably different because I literally had like no money because of family problems and he was just trying to help, I still have this issue too... But anyway, if she got annoyed with it, then I would definitely stop BUT if you two are ever at dinner/lunch, then u should pay, and if she ever asks to bOrrow like acouple dollars or something for lunch you should give it to her just to be a gOod friend...yupyup if you need any more help im here
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Dear kristin,
thanks for the advise on what i should get her for christmas, i think im taking it! lol anyways do you think this song would scare her away if i gave it to her. just copy and paste the website to view the site.
http://display.lyrics.astraweb.com:2000/display.cgi?fantasia_barrino%2E%2Efree_yourself%2E%2Etruth_is
thanks ~
Afatsum (link)
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aw thats a really sweet song. BUT Im going to be totally honest, it MIGHT scare her away..If she doesn't have the same feelings for you, which I thuoght you might have said before, it might not be the bestest song to give her.. It's a really sweet sOng though.. If she does have feelings for you, that's a perfect sOng to give to her, but just don't expect anything back from her.. Not like materialisticly, but i mean like, she may not want to be together, etc..But to just tell her how you feel that's a really good idea.
love kristin
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Lately I've noticed that my feet are very calloused and dry. I took a pumice stone to the callouses and it worked pretty good. However, the wrinkles on my heels are white...like they are cracking. If you feel them, they are smooth. Any idea what this is? I've soaked and scrubbed and as far as I know it's dry skin. Any ideas on how to make it go away? (link)
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Have you ever tried rudding lotion on it? That shOuld help.. I dont think it would like make it go away by rubbing lotion on once, you probably would have to keep applying it alot. Sorry if this wasnt much help
love kristin
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