Being a teenager is the toughest thing any of you will go through..well except for a divorce or death of a loved one.
Adults just do not remember how hard this time of life is for you.
They forget how important all of these things that you ask questions about are.
Parent do not have all the answers either..they just muddle through life..just like you.
I am as old as dirt..and still have some of the things that happen to you..happen to me.
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is it bad to be white and have a crush on someone who's black or darker skinned than you? im not racist but ive always wondered! thanks in advance! (link)
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It is not wrong..though it is tough as others do have problems with it. but if you and this person are strong enough to with stand any kind of hurtful problems..then enjoy..this person will enrich your life in lots of different ways. hey look at Taye Diggs..he is getting flack for having an interracial wife..but he loves her and so THAT is all that matters!Ps Cuba Gooding Jr is married to a white woman too!
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Ok, there's this guy at my school (i live in Vermont) who everyone thinks is gay. Even though the rumors are most likely not true, no one wants to be his friend because of rumors, and neither do my friends. I really think it's terrible how people treat him, and I want to be his friend; I don't believe sexual orientation should affect friendship. How should I be his friend without making my friends mad, or making him feel uncomfortable when my friends want to hang out with me? (link)
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i cannot believe in 2004 people are still behaving this way towards homosexuals..What a great person You are for caring about him. It is hard enough to be whomever you regardless of what person you prefer...so just say hi to him..start a conversation..it may turn out that he is not..but in the end..what we do in our bedrooms is not one's business but upirs.
way to go for caring!
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I've been going out with my boyfriend for almost a year now and I love his family to death. Since he's away at college they invite me to visit them alot and I stop to see his mom at work whenever I go to the mall. I have a problem, though- I got his Christmas gift and everything, but should I get something for his family? His mom seems like the kind of person that would get something for me, but I would feel really bad if she did and I didn't get them anything, and I bet she would vice versa. He has an older brother, a younger brother, a sister, dog, and mom and dad. They're really nice to me, but I'm lost on the dating/present etiquette here. Should I get them something, and if so, what? (link)
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yes..regardless of what they get you..since your drop in alot...do something nice..a basket of some food, a plant, flowers, or even a gift certificate or a Christmas decoration...just something to say..hey thank you!
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I have short finger nails and I need to know a way how not to get nail polish every where aroung my nail, and I use dark colors so it's hard. Does anyone out there know how to do this? If so please help!
♥Jess (link)
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after polishing use a tiny tipped brush dipped in remover to take off the excess..or a qutip that you have removed all the but a bit of fluff on..even professional get stuff on the sides!
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My moms new boyfriend has a 13 year old daughter and she is the only one in the household that I can talk to, even though she is 3 years younger than me, she is very mature for her age. She is a great person and I talked to her about everything and we shared some great moments together. Here lately she has thrown me away, its like she doesnt want to be around me anymore. i feel like an inconvienence. I feel like there is no reason to stay here anymore, she is the one that gave me the courage to go on living! Now I want to die, just thinking that for some reason she hates me. I am a cutter and have attempted suicide several times in the past. i feel like I am a failure now and have no reason to live! (link)
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she is 13...one moment she is one way another..another way...please do not dispair over her..i know she seemed very mature..but in reality she is still a bit of a kid.
I am so sorry that you feel like life is not worth it. But it is...do you know that being a teenager is so hard..once you get out of HS..everything is better..and teh kids are better...it is just these last two years....that are tough...
You are not a failure..she is just a kid..who every few minutes canges her mind..
Did you ask her what was wwrong....or is she feeling overwhelmed by you??
do not give up...please....pleaseeeeeeeee
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I just moved to Florida from califorina a week ago,i now live with my aunt and uncle and 2 cousinns,AMANDA 17,JAACOB 15...I'M 15 turning 16 pretty soon...My cousin AMANDA is verry rude and annoying and just really a B*&%$...(i dont like to curse)anyhow from the day i got off the plain she wasnt all that nice to me...so over this week i have been hanging out with JACOB and i try to ignore her and stay out of her way...this makes me unhappy because we are family and we should be able to get along...i understand that maybe it is because i am getting all the attention but she has a job and she goes to school and becccause she is n advanced eveything she gets tons of homework and i hardly see her but when i do i wish i hadent...she is not verry social because of family issues...my question is this, is therre anything i can do so i dont have to walk on eggshels when i am arouund her???
thank you,
LISA... (link)
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ok..so where does it say that all family memebers get along...mine certainly do not!
maybe she is jealous that you will get attention from her mother?? 17 is a pretty selfish age. You really have a vinsight to what she is feeling for she is jealous.
sounds to me..even if YOu were pwrfectshe would be bitchy. do you sahre a rom wiht her?/Is her space being invaded?
Boo hoo on the homwork..ok..trust me you will have a ton too in a few years.
Nope there are some people who are such PIA (pain in the____)that it is like a minefield..though you could try to flatter her and giver her PLENTY of space.
I am os sorry you are in this position..is it temp. until you guys find your own place?How does Jacob treat you??
So get out of her way..keep you wits about you..look in the want ads for an apratment your mom can afford!
Pa am thinking of you and hoping that it gets better.
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I'm 6'11" 430lbs Male. I need a plan for weight loss, and i need to lose it soon. My doctor has suggested surgery, and i do not want to go there until i absoulty have to. It is literally killing me. Please give me some low cost solutions on losing weight. Thanks. (link)
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Weight Watchers....it works..i do not know of anyone who has not lost weight..yeah it is 7 dollars a week..but it is worth it. Plus walking..best exercise in the world..lost 15 pounds just doing that...
For every pound you lost drop a dollar in a jar..bet in a few weeks(men lose 2 times as fast as women) you will have some money to join a gym!
Ps you are so tall...you will drop even faster..you CAN do this. I promise in a week you will lose 3-5 pounds..then 1-2 after that..more if you walk!
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Back in August I missed the registration date to go back to school. (I should be a junior in high school.) I was pretty much just having a bad year and didn't care about going back so I've been out of school all this year. I was wondering if I could go back now or if I would have to wait until next year to go back. I could make up the work that I've missed instead of just waiting until next year and being a whole year behind. (link)
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I would talk to a school counselor and see if you could be home schooled to catch up or night classes...i am really surprised the school did not contact your parents...is it a big school or private?
So go see someone at the school and show them how much you want to carry on...
which i am really proud of YOU for picking up your life..and going forward. Way to go!
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Ok my best friend since 1st grade said i was a slut and she doesnt want to hang out with me because of that. I am still a virgin tho so i dont know why she said this. i just date a lot of guys because if i like them and they like me why do i need to get the name of a slut if i go out with them. she really hurt me and now we're not talking and i miss her a lot she knows THE BIGGEST secret of mine and shes going to throw our friendship away over she doesnt want to hang out with me cuz im a "slut" well i was always there for her and now shes not here for me i really need help on what to say to her to get my best friend back!! HELP PLEASE! i'll rate 5's!!
**if you need help with anything go to my advice column Netsirk07**
~!*Kristen*!~ (link)
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not your best friend..see like the question above...real friends do not talk behind your bakc. I know this hurts..you know the truth...to me she is so jealous that you are so popular with guys...that she is BEYOND jealous.
She does not want to be your friend..see she cannot deal with the fact that she's number tow in this friendship.
So...i know you have other friends..hang out with someone who REALLY cares and let the witch keep yapping.
am thinking she is the slut...
ps am betting your secret has already been told if she is spreading that kind of crap...also thinking she does not have any friends for everybody knows what kind of person she is.
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i have this friend and i really wish that she would stop saying all this crap about me behind my back...i mean every time we are together we are like the best of friends and the everthing i tell her she has to go tell other ppl...she is like backstabbing me...what should i do?? (link)
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GRR..if you do tfind the answer to this..tell me..i am so old and this still happens to me. But one trick i have found out works..see if someone else comes up to me to talk bad about that LOSER who is yapping..i always say something nice...that person who came up to me..always leaves thinking..wow..she never did say anything bad about the YAPPER...
I dropped a really close friend for she was doing this to me. REAL friends do not talk behind your back. period.
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ok well this all stared when someone close to me passed away and i still haven't really gotten over it he pased away in october so you can imagine how much i loved him and now it seems like everyone is dealing with the same thing like have you ever had something happen to your family like a death or someone gets cancer and then it seems like more people are going through the same thing and u didn't even know it before well thats how it is and it is kinda stressful for me does ne one have ne ideas on how i can kinda get it off my mind thanks (link)
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love..does not get..well gotten over fast. Since he died..you are grieving..this is normal...some people grieve for a long time. Me..i do not think there is anythng wrong with showing others that you loved someone. Now if it affects you so much that you cannot function..then it is a problem.
October is not that far away. if he dies of some disease..why not volunteer there..to help you work through this process and honor his memory.
He was very lucky to have someone like you care for him.
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I have no idea what to get my Dad for christmas. I'm a female and i'm 15. So my first question is does neone know any awesome tennis stuff that's like 20$ that I could get him? Or i was also thinking about making a picture frame for this picture i have of him, my brother and I. So Does neone know how to make an awesome picture frame that doesn't include to much construction paper and popsicle sticks? thanks!! Sorry for the lengthy..ness! (link)
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is he a die hard tennis fan?? Sometimes in back of the tennis magazine..you can find really good deals on tennis stuff. Balls (I know boring!!) or those little weights that you put on the strings to slow down the person's swing..how about half hour of a tennis lesson? Or ask your mom is she will go half on something. Check out Dicks or The sports authority for his favorite maker athletic wear.
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I always thought my wife liked my body. But recently, in front of a whole group of friends, she stated that I'm "not allowed" to wear a swimsuit, which got a laugh. She then expounded on this, stating that I am "very white, and very hairy, and when I wear my work shorts, I get a "tan line" from just above my knees, to just below them. This shows in my swimsuit. Everyone thought it was really funny but me.
Do you think she was "just kidding', or did the truth slip out there? (link)
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woah..here is the deal..and I am married..i would NEVER ever put down my hubby...about HIS body either IN public or out..that is totally unacceptable.
She might have been kidding..but these kind of JOKES I never get...ok..let's make people laugh at those we care about.
So...sit down say..you know..i really need you not to comment on my body in front of others.
By the way..am thinking if you pointed out some um wee little defect she has..she would rip YOU a new one..
ps lots of men are very white and hairy...it that is all she can comment on..you must be seiously hot..
WEAR those shorts!!!
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Okay, so I have had a lot of downs with my mom and i even went as far as not living with her for while. Now I am back with her because social services said that they couldn't do anything. I am living a normal life now, only not getting along with my mom, now social services wants me to go into foster care, but I have made several new friends since we just moved and I don't want to hurt my mom, but I know that being with her isn't the best place for me! She has NO JOB, lives with a guy she met off the net, has severe health problems and I have been in a mental institution and am on medicines. I don't deal with stress very well and with Christmas almost here, I know it is going to be stressful, especially if I end up in a foster home, WHAT DO I DO?????? (link)
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oh...man..you poor thing..i feel for you.
On one hand your mom..who has some problems...
on the other a bunch of strangers.
has your mom ever gotten any mental health advice. Seems to me she is the one who needs some help..not you.
You are very level headed...you see your Mom for what she is.
is her behavior enough to send you over the edge right now? IS her new bf bad news? Can she provide for you both mentally and financially. How did you do in Foster care?
So..who is worse??Your mom or Foster care? What about your dad or any other family members.
this stinks..i wihs i could wave a wand and make it all go away. you are ealing with stuff MOST adults do not have to deal with.
Please be strong...please...we all are rooting for YOU!!!
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well heres the deal, my parents have been divorced since a was like 3 (im 13 now). ive always lived with my mom and my dad lives over 300 miles away. i can only see my dad every-other weekend and i really don't like that. i miss my dad a lot when im not over there and im thinking about maybe moving over to his house. but i don't want to hurt my mom's feelings or leave all my friends here (but i don't think that making new friends will be a problem). ive also been having lots of problems with my mom lately...
what do you think i should do?
i'll rate high (link)
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ok..are you having problems with your Mom..for you are growing up..and maybe she does not see this?? Or has somethng changed in the household.
What I think is great is that you CARE so much about your Mom that you do not want to hurt her. you are a great person.
Any chance of geting them in the same room and discussing this?
I would write a pro and con list of both parents..living with them...
Moms and daughters butt heads big time in the teenage years....man i was so awful to my mom...but..i was learning how to be an adult...
what are the REAl problems..make the list..and discuss this with both of them.
I feel for you..i know this is hard..but you have a good heart..ok..good luck!
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My husband and I were talking the other day and he said that if he died he would not want a funeral. I was shocked. Of course he should have a funeral, it's a great way for family and friends to say goodbye. I feel it is more for the family of the deceased anyway. He disagrees, and is shocked that I would not respect his wishes. Who is right here? And if he did die, what are we as a family suppose to do? I would like the love and support of my faamily. (link)
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Funerals are for the living..he needs to remember that if he dies..HE leaves behined people that will mourn him
By the way..why does he care..he will be dea...tell him that it is about the FAMILY not him
Ps he will be dead so do what YOU want...
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Hello everyone! My class is writing letters to men and women over seas who will not be coming home for Christmas. Except in your letter you cannot talk in offense to President Bush or opposing the war. I really do not see a reason why war should be mentioned in the letter. I'm anti-war but it does not matter. The fact is that these men and women will not be home for Christmas and that is depressing. I am an okay writter and I write decent letters. I really thought it would be eassier but I found myself making a million drafts, not being sure what to write in the letter. I will not know who will receive the letter... it is in general. If anybody has any ideas on what would be something to write in the letter please, please help me. Besides wishing them a Happy Christmas and Merry New Year. Thank you very much for your time and consideration! (link)
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just tell them how much you aprreciate what they are doing for our country..that is not about war..but about serving our nation.
Tell them you are praying that they come home sfely and that their families cans ee them soon.
Aks them about life in Iraq..they may want to talk about what they are doing. youcan say that you are a student and that you want to kow about everyday life in Iraq.
Thes brave men and women..do this..for bascially nothng..They protect us..and our borders from ememies..they dersrve the respect and compassion for leaving thier familes..to do this.
No that is not about war..but about making the USA safe....
ps what a great thing you are doing!
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me and my boyfriend have been together for quite some time ((3 months)) and we have known each other since he was 15! he is 19 now & im 15... my parents think he is 16 and i hate lying to them but i love him and i want to be with him... how bad does this make me?? (link)
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hmm this is tough..for 1 19 year olf wiht a 15 year old...if you are truthful..they will get really amd..unless they realy like him...then they might forgive you.
what are your paresnt like..super strict.
I would be freaked out..but later on..after 18..it is not so bad.
Only you know your parents...if they freak..you might have to hide this for awhile..i do NOT like to say that...but you are in a paickle.
I am osrry I didnt help...THIS IS A TOUCHY SUBJECT FOR MOST PARESNT.
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I just moved to a new state and i do not know a lot of people and i want to babysit in my spare time. but i do not know how to get the word out that i will be able to babysit?help me please! (link)
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hmmm..put up a notice on a board in school..maybe a teacher(or ask a teacher) will use you. Have you met any freinds yets??ask them if they know of anyone..sometimes babystiier have weekly comittmen and they need to get someon to hlpe them or other paresnts want them to sit...
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do you think it'll be hard to babysit 2 kids(grl-3)(the boy-6)on the first time ever havin to babysit? (link)
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not as hard as other ages...but maybe you can take a friend along wiht you on the first time..someone who has had experience...that would help! Ps they both are potty trained right!
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