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i have this friend and i really wish that she would stop saying all this crap about me behind my back...i mean every time we are together we are like the best of friends and the everthing i tell her she has to go tell other ppl...she is like backstabbing me...what should i do??
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Obviously, you just need to stop telling her your secrets. If you know you can't trust her, then stop putting yourself in that situation. If you want, you can talk about it with her. Even after she explains herself, you might not want to tell her. You are setting yourself up for your secrets to be told, so just stop telling her.
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And you call her a friend?
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grl i gotta friend jus like dat and bout 3 months ago i went up to her and told her i new she had been talkin bout me and dat she needed to stop. so i think you should do the same tell her that she can quit or jus not be your friend.
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GRR..if you do tfind the answer to this..tell me..i am so old and this still happens to me. But one trick i have found out works..see if someone else comes up to me to talk bad about that LOSER who is yapping..i always say something nice...that person who came up to me..always leaves thinking..wow..she never did say anything bad about the YAPPER...
I dropped a really close friend for she was doing this to me. REAL friends do not talk behind your back. period.
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You have to confront her. You can do this either diplomatically or aggressively but you have to let her know you wont take it. The diplomatic version is to sit her down and ask her why she does it, explain that it hurts you, and that you cannot be friends with her if this persists (if she values your friendhsip this should do it, if not then she isnt worth it). I personally vote for the aggressive way (but then again, i am a confrontational guy). That includes the time old "what the **** is your problem" and "if you dont give me good reason for why you back talked me I am gonna mop the floor with you right now!". Both can work, but Dr Phil would undoubtedly tell you to go with option 1. Oh! btw, make sure you CAN mop the floor with her before you issue the threat.
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