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Wife's opinion of me
I always thought my wife liked my body. But recently, in front of a whole group of friends, she stated that I'm "not allowed" to wear a swimsuit, which got a laugh. She then expounded on this, stating that I am "very white, and very hairy, and when I wear my work shorts, I get a "tan line" from just above my knees, to just below them. This shows in my swimsuit. Everyone thought it was really funny but me.
Do you think she was "just kidding', or did the truth slip out there?
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Yes, she probably just need it to show off, but it should not have been at you expense. There is always some truth in peoples jokes. I would first talk to her, let her know that you do not appreciated her making fun of you in front of friends, and then i would ask her if she is happy with the way you look, dress, ETC. Most Important is. Are you happy with the way you look? because if your not then you cannot expect her to be. If this is the case I would work in making some changes. This for your own self.
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woah..here is the deal..and I am married..i would NEVER ever put down my hubby...about HIS body either IN public or out..that is totally unacceptable.
She might have been kidding..but these kind of JOKES I never get...ok..let's make people laugh at those we care about.
So...sit down say..you know..i really need you not to comment on my body in front of others.
By the way..am thinking if you pointed out some um wee little defect she has..she would rip YOU a new one..
ps lots of men are very white and hairy...it that is all she can comment on..you must be seiously hot..
WEAR those shorts!!!
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There's a little bit of truth to everything thats said. But she did marry you, so chances are she likes you.:) She might just be joking around...you might want to casusally bring it up like ..."hey honey, are you happy with the way i look?" don't act like your mad...just ask it in a sincere, questioning way!
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I definatly think your wife was just joking.. But if you do take it seriously, try going to a tanning bed or something, and dont let her know. Then surprise her one day at the pool with your tan body! And if you dont think it's right for guys to go tanning, trust me, it is. Everybody around here does it. More guys than Girls ;-p
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talk to her about it.. she may not have realized that the jabs of laughter she was punching at really hit something.. i'm sure that your wife was first of all attracted to you physically and mentally. but it wouldn't be a healthy relationship if you kept this in (it could lead to a secret reason for a huge fight) and it's not healthy to hold grudges; espeically against loved ones. tell her that that really did hurt you but remember that you're not there to fight back so don't start aiming back at her saying that her waist line isn't as great as it always was or etc.. keep it clean and remember that you're only there to express your feelings.
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Maybe you wife didn't want to confront you about it so the way to confront you about it was to make it as a joke in front of other people. Also she might just be asking for attention from your friends.
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ehh well the only way your gunan figure that out is asking her..ask her if your serious and if yah dont like if she tells tht to other pple tell her not to discuss it w/ others..but hey go tanning..hehe then she wont say nething..lol kidding..well like wen she says it does she look serious? if you can figur it out just come up to her and ask her
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I think she was just kidding she probably got a laugh and kept on going with it I'm sure she didnt mean anything by it!!
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I think she let the truth slip out but I think it was in a constructive criticism sort of thing -- that's part of being married.
You should probably ask her about it and try and find out for sure if she really meant it. Her opinion of you and the way she views you is very important for you to know, it shouldn't be kept a secret by her.
But if she was just joking everything should be fine, but you should mention that you didn't appreciate how she did it infront of your friends.
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yeah, i definately think that the truth slipped out there.
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She probably is telling the truth hun, sorry! You can get a tan to take out those tan line and make your skin darker, and get a wax or shave off your hair... You should talk to your wife about it so she knows that she hurt y our feelings because she probably doesn't know! She most likely still likes your body, but it could be improved mayby... I hoped i helped!! :)
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I think that your wife just suffers from what most people suffer from which is a need to show off in front of other people. She wasn't trying to outrightedly hurt you, but she was trying to make herself look good and get people to laugh and think she is funny. Problem is: she hurt you in the process. You have to tell her that. Tell her it really hurt your feelings that she said those things, even if it was in jest. She won't admit to it being the truth and will probably say "I wasn't being serious" but, she will at least consider your feelings next time.
What I think is that, this may very well be the truth, though I honestly don't know because I've never seen you in a bathing suit. If it is true, it doesn't matter, because she won't ever admit to it being true. You could try and fix these things but really, your wife probably loves you no matter what, even if these things do kinda erk her. Talk to her about it because communication is key. If she asks you to change these things, there is more than likely a deeper problem, but if she tells you she was joking around and she loves you just the way you are - things are ok.
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She could be joking but I would not put it past her to have let the truth slip out. I dont mean to offend in anyway but I would get a tan. I think it is extremely rude to have made such comments infront of a group of friends like that. She needs to give you some respect. If she feels this way she needs to have a one on one conversation. However, I think it should not matter if your white or have tan lines. No one cares....Why should she. If shes embarrased about it and it makes you feel low then just get a tan. Eliminate the lines. I wouldnt worry about body hair. Theres nothing you can do about it unless you want to shave or wax etc....
I hope I helped man.
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