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I love your answer to the girl who asked if it's okay to feel jealous if her boyfriend watches porn. I whole-heartedly agree with you that if it is hurting her, he should respect that.
That being said, my boyfriend said I could use his computer to edit photos of the two of us. While I was doing so, I threw one away accidently and went to the recycle bin to retrieve it. I found all kinds of porn movies that he had downloaded. It literally made me sick: especially since he and I took dirty pictures and made dirty movies that he has on his computer. Why would he want to watch other girls and not me? It makes me extremely jealous.
My question is: how do I bring this up to him? I was by no means snooping, but I think it might come of that way. I have a feeling he'll get defensive as well. I just need a place to start from. Do I tell him the story of how I found it? Do I just come out and say "You looking at porn is hurtful to me"? Since you share my opinion about this, I thought it would be best to ask you. Thank you for the advice in advance.

Well, since you are going to tell him, I would start off with the story of how you found the porn in the first place then talk about how it is hurting you.

But you said that you found these porn movies on his computer in the recycle bin right?
So that means he was trying to get rid of them, maybe because he doesn't want to watch them anymore? I don't know, just a thought.

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well im a 13 year old girl and i met this guy on myspace and he says hes 16 , and im pretty sure hes really is, and he thinks im 17 because of the age on myspace. i had 17. and well hes asked me to hang out at his house a couple of times but i had to make up excuses so that i wouldnt have to go. because my mom would have a heart attack if i asked her to take me to a hot 16 yearolds house haha.
i dont really want to tell him my real age because it would be embarrassing and he would be pretty pissed off.
it would just be really hard to tell him.... and im not sure on wat to do. should i keep going on?
i dont know if i can keep making excuses.

You have to tell the guy you are 13. There is no way around this. And if he still keeps talking to you then, then it's your choice if you want to meet him or not-then if he stops talking to you because he finds out your age, then he was only after sex. And at his house? NO. It has to be at a public place like the mall or the movies or something and you cannot go alone. Have a friend or a group of friends back you up there.

But seriously? You really want to meet a guy after talking to him on MySpace? I wouldn't do it. First of all, you have no idea what you are getting into. He may be a pedophile for all you know, and I'm not just talking about the ones who are adults. There are teenagers who have committed sexual crimes against kids your age and younger. And second of all, honey, your YOUNG. You don't need to be talking to 17 year-olds and contemplating about dating them. He's gonna pressure you into things that you are not ready for, whether you believe it or not. And he may seem all sweet and stuff but most likely, he is not like that-and it's not an uncommon thing for older teen guys to play on "the innocent young girl"-I've seen it happen all the time.

I hoped I helped.

xO Chelsea Ox

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I'm overweight... I participate in a lot of sports and i think i get enough excercise... i could be doing more... but my big problem is sweets... its like an addiction... i just cant seem to stop eating them!!!!!! does anyone have any ideas on how to help me eat more healthy?

Just tell you parents not to buy that kind of stuff anymore - or if you live alone, just don't buy it - and if they still do, whenever you get hungry for a sweet, just go for a run aroun the block and that will take away your craving. I hope i helped!! :)

xO Chelsea Ox

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Ok, well, as of now I have a dirty bonde/brown hair color. I want to dye my hair a dark red brown color. I want to use ingredients that i have laying around the house. I want it to be very easy...lol! Thanks so much



luv always rox

Using chemicals and stuff around the house is a BAD idea. You have to go like to Wal-Greens, Target, Wal-Mart, or some other store like that and by the hair dye. It probably won't turn out good, so i sugest that you go to a hair salon! I hoped i helped!! :)

xO Chelsea Ox

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i like one of my friends and wanna be more
and i dont know what to do can u please healp
oh yeha weve known each other for about 2 years


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i want him

Drop him hints first and then if he still doesn't get the clue, then talk to him PRIVATELY about how you feel. Mind you, if he rejects, it most likely will be REALLY AKWARD being around eachother... I hoped i helped!! :)

xO Chelsea Ox

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To get down to it, I'm a 15 year old girl and a 22 year old guy likes me. I've known this guy for a few months and have become really good friends with him. I didn't know he actually had a crush on me till a few weeks ago. This guy is really nice, very sweet, he always cares about me. He always wants to know how I feel and how he can make it any better. He calls me practically every night. He trusts me and I trust him. We've talked about our feelings for eachother... I used to not think of him as anything more than a friend, but now I think I am starting to like him more. We see eachother at least once a week, usually with groups of other friends but I have been alone with him a couple times, once to his house. He has never tried to pull anything on me... he respects my boundaries, yet he shows he still cares. My parents don't like that I even talk to a 22 year old guy on the phone. If they ever knew I wanted to go out with him, they'd freak. I'd like to give him a chance, but I don't know if it's worth hiding from my parents and the fact that he's so much older than me makes the possibility chances of it working slimmer. Any advice on what I should do?

Hun, if you don't know already, this IS illegal! Stay away from him hun, trust me! He made seem all sweet and all, but he is just trying to get your trust and only want one thing from you! It's okay to be around with him with your friends, but don't call him or be alone with him. I hoped i helped!! :)

xO Chelsea Ox

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my kid hates me what do i do they are turnin rebelous help!

Okay, a lot of people say to talk to them... If they are teenagers, then they WILL NOT listen!! I know this for a fact because i am one! Once children get older, they want to spend more time with thier friends then their family, you have to except this. I HATE my mother, people say that i don't, but i really do! She pays more attention to my little sister more than me and it is really obvious too! Don't sit down and talk to them, that just gets them more angry and pissed. Just ground them by taking away their phone and computer and not letting them go out. And we hate family quality time, we get really bored with that. If you got video games or board games that they like, just pull it out of the closet and play with them! they will have fun then! I hoped i helped!! :)

xO Chelsea Ox

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Ok, well, I weigh 120 lbs. and I'm only 13, female. Well, I want to start all new this year, so how do I lose weight fast! I want to lose 3 pounds a day! please help me. thnx for the tips



xoxox luv always Chelsey

It's like IMPOSSIBLE to lose 3 punds a day! Sorry hun!! Just eat healthier - lots of fruits and veggies (eat carrots, sqaush, and a green veggie each meal and that's really healthy! -, drink lots of water (6 to 8 glasses a day), and excersise 3 to 4 days a week for atleast a hour. I hoped i helped!! :)

xO Chelsea Ox

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where is a good place to get good highlights??

Seventeen. I hoped i helped!! :)

xO Chelsea Ox

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Im 13 and me and this dude had sex w/ out protection adn well of course i got pregnat....and yes i am a blonde and i didnt really think it would matter and i dont no if i sohuld tell my parents cvause they are really christian....
what shall i do

Yes hun, you need to tell your parents NOW because they WILL find out sooner or later! And please, whatever you do, DON'T DO abortion!!! Please!... I hoped i helped!! :)

xO Chelea ox

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F/13 me and my sister was talking today and I told her I started my period to day. She told me she never started. (she is 16) Is that normal?

Yes it's normal, but if she doesn't start her period when she is 18, then she has to go see a doctor! I hoped i helped!! :)

xO Chelsea Ox

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well me and my friend went to wall mart and stole...and got caught but she blamed it on me and made my poarents pay for the shit she did and i dontr wnat ot tell my mom nor dad cause it will get her in trouble and i dont want to and she says that she will always be there for me....is she telling the truth or is she useing me
and
p.s
shes spoiled and boses me around liek im her slave...
help me please!!!

Hun, sorry to break it to ya, but she IS using you and she is not your TRUE friend! Tell your parents what she did so she can get punished! I hoped i helped!! :)

xO Chelsea Ox

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its been 8 months for me and my bf.. he said he would call yesterday before he left for outta town.. he never did.. now today he hasnt called yet.. and he is suppose to be in town like a hour ago..

Hun, he is probably resting or something! God, you are being WAY TOO paranoid!! It's very hectic when you are about to leafve outta town, so that's why he probably didn't call you before he left... Let him rest or do whatever then call him later tonight if he doesn't call you first... i hoped i helped!! :)

xO Chelsea Ox

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What exactly is an Ipod? What do they do?

It's like a portable CD player, but like advanced. You can play and store songs, store pictures, record and store voice messages, and can play games on it. I hoped i helped!! :)

xO Chelsea Ox

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Hey...i asked the question earlier about the Sims 2...you said that there are 4 disk to install??? I only have 2, a bonus disk and the game disk...

Really?!?!?! I just got mine yesterday for Christmas... Could yours be the old one with all the viruses that were on it?!?!?! All the Sims 2 that FIRST came out had viruses on them... That's what everyone said to me anyways... i hoped i helped!! :)

xO Chelsea Ox

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My parents keep the house so so so so so cold...I'm always freezing and it's the middle of the winter...it's always like 60 in here, and I've told my parents so many times that I'm SO cold when its that cold, but they don't care. They say that they are comfortable that way, and that if they turn it up they will be too warm. I'm not the only one who thinks its too cold...friends or relatives who come over say its so cold! But, they don't have to live here!!! I DO!! What do I do???

If they won't let you turn up the heater... then just wear warmer clothes and shut your bedrooom door so the air won't circulate... i hoped i helped!! :)

xO Chelsea Ox

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Everytime I try to install my Sims 2 game I go to run and then type ine d:\autorun...it says to insert the disk! But the disk is already in there..

Well, there are 4 disks to install (i have Sims 2 also)... Did you fully download all of them??? Just, uninstall then reinstall... I hoped i helped!! :)

xO Chelsea Ox

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hey, well i am a 16 yr old girl. 2 years ago i was in a bad car accident and fell into a coma. i was in it for 2 years and i woke up a week ago. well, i am kinda out, and well i was wondering, what kind of stuff is in? stores, music, fashion, hair and stuff like that. i am kinda confused! thx!

OMG! Feel better hun!! Anyhoo, Hollister, Abercrombie and Fitch, and American Eagle are really poplular. Don't wear Uggs or ponchos - so last year! Ripped jeans are in! People still wear the Livestrong bracelet. For hair, people are wearing it down and straightened and sometimes crimping it... oh, and messy buns are in! Music... gosh... ummm... Green Day deffinetely! Especially "Boulevard of Broken Dreams"! Ciara, Snoop Dogg, Jay-Z, Linkin Park, Kelly Clarkson, and Usher are really popular. I hoped i helped!! :) Merry Christmas!!!

xO Chelsea Ox

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has anyone tried those crest whitestrips? i was wondering when you put the whitestrip on top of your teeth, how does the bleach stay on w/o your tongue getting it off? and PLEASE tell me the truth: are they really effective? how much do they whiten?

I have tried them. Yeah, they will lighten your teeth (to see a difference), but you HAVE to use it EVERYDAY or it won't work!!! And you have to do it for like 3 months to REALLY WHITEN your teeth so they will look good... I am a forgetful person and it was hard for me to keep going, so i just quit... If you do it everyday for 2 weeks, that should whiten them... Just make sure you don't touch your teeth with anything, especially the tongue! because it will just wipe off! I hoped i helped!! :)

xO Chelsea Ox

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My best friend and I like the same guy. The thing is, he is dating my best friend. But she and he both know that he likes me also. He wants to be with both of us, but I don't want to hurt my best friend so I think I should back off. What should I do?? Thanks!

Yes, back off like you were going to do!... If he likes you more than her, then he will go for you!... I hoped i helped!! :)

xO Chelsea Ox

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