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Hey I'm Erin! Ask me if you need advice or just have a suggestion! ThAnKs EvErYoNe! SiNcE YoUr HeRe, AsK Me! **ErIn**
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ok well i have this guy friend lets just call him john. and i like him ALOT i mean ALOT and theres this banquet comin up and my friend david said that (john) is gonna ask me 2 it. but im sure if i should go cuz i wont know hardly anyone there, and i dont wanna get embarressed. wut should i do? and should i tell him how i really feel?
What would get you embarressed? I think you should go! It will be really fun! Yes, you should tell him how you feel. You only live life once, you know, and if you dont go it could be a Huge Mistake! Who knows what could happen if you go.. There is a change things could go wrong, but there is a much better change things will work out and a new, good relationship could be formed! Good Luck and hope u have fun going!! :)
*Hope i Helped
Erin!
hey i broke up with my boyfriend a little over a month ago and he has a new girlfriend and all, and hes pretty much flat out avoiding me, but i still want to be friends. i havent actually spoken to him cuz i was kinda waiting for him to say something first. its pretty clear that he isnt, and i dont really know what i should say to him. i really want to be friends with him still, but i dont really know how to go about doing it. help!
I think if you want to be friends with him then u need ot tlak to him. Tell him that u still want to be friends with him. Was there a reason u broke up with him? Or did u do it without letting him know why? If thats true then u should explain to him why u broke up with him, but you'd love it if u could still be friends! ahhh im terrible at this advice sorry
i was in my first period dance class on friday and we had a substitute. we were supposed to be going over the dance that day, but a lot of girls were on the platform that the teacher is usually on and a few people were telling them to get down. they weren't, and so i said politely yall need to get down so we can do our dance, and then this one girl like, is all well we would if someone would stop being so bossy and acting like shes better than everyone else. and i just kinda ignored it and kept talking with my friend. well the entire class this girl (i didnt even know her name) and her friends stood at the back talking and didnt even dance. so when it was time to go get dressed we were in the locker room when this one girl goes, i can sense a lot of tension in here. and someone else goes, whadya mean tension. and then the girl goes, like, people who feel a certain way but wont say anything. i actually didnt really think anything of it until the girl at the beginning said, well i have no problem telling chelsea that i hate her and shes too bossy and self absorbed. at this point i wasnt really thinking cuz i was sorta in shock and i said, well i dont have a problem telling you that ur a bitch. after i said it i was kinda freaked out that i said that and then the girl goes what did she just say? and some other girl goes, she called you a bitch! so now im sorta trying to explain myself and its not really working and she cuts me off saying all this crap and then this other girl is sticking up for me and i was grateful for her, but the girl(i found out later her name is kelci) is totally capable of kicking my ass and im sorta freaked out and then i find out shes talking bad about me behind my back to some of my friends and that totally pissed me off, but im still kinda ashamed of myself for sinking to her level and calling her what i did. i didnt even hardly know her and she decided that she wanted to pick a fight or something. i really dont want there to be any tension or whatever or for this whole thing to keep going and i'm hoping it'll just blow over during the break, but what should i do if it doesnt?
signed,
ashamed in dance
Oh, um, well when you get the chance- ask her if u can talk to her alone, and then explain to her that u didnt mean what u said, it just kinda slipped out cuz u werent thinking and what she said kind of threw you off. let her know that you were just kind of getting annoyed that she wasnt working and that you dont really think that of her. She probably doesnt think that of u either she just was pissed? i mean some girls havent grown up yet... and since i knwo who this is cuz u said it, i know u have grown up, and just let talk wiht her to clear it up
Hey. I always feel left out. My family never seems to listen to me. I'm not the youngest or the oldest. My older sister always gets credit for her wonderful achievements, and my younger sister always gets credit for being so "cute" I'm left in the middle. It seems everyone always forgets about me and I dont know what to do. Sometimes I feel my family forgets I exist. They're never home with me, but instead at my younger sister's softball games or my other sisters shows. (she is in performing arts shows) Help!
Well, I dont have any siblings, so I don't really know the feeling. I guess the only thing you can do is tell your family how it feels. Find a time when your family isnt to busy and tell them what you told me. They do care about you, and of course they know you exist!! Sorry this isnt Help!Good luck
ok i have this friend named addison and he says that we r friends but then he tells people behind my bac that im a pain in the ass and that he hates me and wants nothin 2 do with me. what do i do?
Well that doesn't sound like a good friend! Are you sure he tells this to people? Or have u just heard this from other people? MAke sure you hear if from HIS mouth, and not just through the "grapevine" *LoL* Confront him about it and try to clear things up with him. If it is true what u hear, then maybe you should reconsider who your real friends are. Hope this helped.
xoxo Erin*
ok random weirdos is not what my question is about, i just decided to mix things up a bit lol. ok, my question is...hang on let me think of a good and not stupid question...ok i got it! my question is the following: who is hotter? Daniel Radcliffe or Chad Micheal Murray? wow that was a GREAT question dont you agree?
luv,
chiwi
Umm, I'm going to say CHAD MICHAEL MURRAY! Duh! lol i dont even knwo who daniel radcliffe is! but chad michael murray! lol
erin is the specialest girl i kno! thanx again erin! ur super cool! ~*~k8ee~*~
EEE! So are you katie! I love u babe! ur the best!! YAY for K!! lol im glad we have biology togher! without it i wouldnt have met u! then i would cry! because k8ee is so awesome! thanks for everything uve done for me and listening! ur one of the few i can trust!
*ErIn**
erin
im in such a bad place rite now. i just had basically an hour long break down including writing a note to myself so i dont tell/offend ne one else, crying, and just feeling completely crappy. i hate feeling this way. i have friends and i kno they love me, but i feel like im making every1s lives miserable. im not thinking ne thing desperate or life threatening or anything, so dont worry about that, im just in such a bad place rite now! i just wish so many things were different, and i were a better person and i had some1 that i could talk to w/ total trust and they knew who i was! but i dont have anyone like that! i have a best friend, but i cant fully trust her. and it SUCKS SO MUCH! i know that i sound very desperate and needy right now, but if u could try ur best to help me, i would be so greatful. thanks so much!
Oh, I'm so sorry. Never ever think you make other peoples lives miserable. And no, you don't sound desperate and needy! Writing is a really good way to actually let your feeling out. It helps you realize whats wrong without having to, like you said, tell/offend anyone. Once you've written it, go back and read it, and it will make you feel a little better. I have like a thousand notebooks with things like that, its kind of like my escape from the world for a while.
I completely get where you are coming from wiht the trusting thing. I trust only like three people in my life, so when somethings wrong, I don't really feel like I have anyone to talk to, just like you feel. I wish I could help you with this, but I can't. I can be there for you anytime if you would like someone to talk to, because I COMPLETELY get how you feel. If you don't want to talk to me about it, then that is fine too. I/M me though if you do want someone to talk to, because I will listen to you 100% and keep whatever is going on between us, or you can call me, I know what it's like to have no one to totally trust or go to when I need them. I really hope I helped you and good luck! Feel better!
*erin
ARON what am i to do ?? i just beat halo 2 and the ending of the game was really gay ahah.their is going to be a a halo3 and i dont wanna wait two years a gin. what sould i do.
ps soccer kicks ass
pss sry 4 any pior Question the might of offended that great ARON
lol wow u beat it this fast! umm im sorry! if the end of halo 2 wasnt that great, what makes u think halo 3 is better? umm i dont know what to say but u did better on ur spelling! and no u didnt offend me at all! sorry i didnt help!
*My friend chelsea says if u were playing on the easy level then try ot beat harder levels. Or find something better to do then play video games.*
how do u get a picture on ur column, like u have ur name! i cant figure out how to! thanx much!
Ok u go to ur "profile settings" and where it says "url of picture of urself" or something like that.. u copy and paste it onto there... then ur done! i/m me if u dont understand hinkerbell258
How do you get the duck cursor?
ok go to soup-faerie.com (the link in blue on my thing) and then click "cursors" and then find the one u wnat and then whre it says lookup or shop copythe shop one onto the description inot ur "prifle settings" (big white box) anything u want like backgrounds or anything paste ontor there!
http://www3.buddy4u.com/view/?u=xXx+HTML+xXx&redirect=true- go there for anythign! then copy and paste the thing onto ur description box@ good luck
I really want a job and need a job and I dont know how to get one! please send me sites cuz i am to lazy to look them up myself and i need to know how to get a job! BtW- Im 15- 16 in january and live in fm-tx! so if that is any help! thanks
Hey! I've searched on the Internet NUMEROUS times to look for a job, and I discovered I had to appear in person to apply!
http://snagajob.com/search_results.asp?RegionName=null&city=&state=ZZ&jobcategory=null&EmployerList=null&searchtype=basic&brief=0&zipcode=75028&radius=20&image.x=24&image.y=7
Or type on google "Jobs for Teenagers In Flower Mound Texas" or something like that to see if it works. If you are to lazy to look that up, maybe youre not ready for a job. Also, When your at a store of any kind, ask how old you have to be to work there. Also ask if they are hiring and get an application. THe only way you can get a job is if your search for it yourself! good luck and hope this helped
**ERin
Erin-
I have this friend, and i love her to DEATH and everything. Recently, shes been asking me alot of random questions asking me if i hate people that change alot, i know deep down insdie shes talking about me and it kills me to know that she thinks bad things about me. She talks about how the person got a HUGE head and stuff every since like a month ago..and a month ago is exactly wen i started going out with this guy....shes one of my best friends and so i cant get mad at her. and every time i ask her who the heck shes talking about shes like no one and i go is it me shes like im not saying who it is just answer the questioN! it makes me really mad!! wat do i do!!?!?
LoViN THe FrIensHip..HaTiNG thE fRiEnd..
Tell her that you don't want to her about it. Say its not nice to talk bad about people, and you dont want to be part of it. How do u know its you? if it is, thats not friendly, if its not, then u dont want ot be caught in the midddle cause it could turn around on u! hope i helped !
dear erin
i have this friend, who never says thank you! never! this other friend of mine (whos super sweet!) does all this stuff for him all the time! and he never thanks her in any way shape or form! its really rude of him, and its starting to get on my other friends nerves, and i can totally see why! what should she do? thanks so much!
Well, I don't really know what this other friend should do. They sounds like someone I know *really* well though! And this other guy sounds like a guy I know too. And this situation is *very* familiar. Well, I think this first friend should stop being so kind to this other friend. She has probably been used alot and is sick of it. She probably doesn't deserve all the crap she has been through before this guy didnt say thanks, and even though she thought the friends she made were different, she realized that some were somewhat the same as those before! They use and take advantage of her! And she is sick of it. And out of everything that she has done, she just wants him to say thanks, in some way shape or form. So I think she should just wait for someone to say thanks besides the one person who always does (*K8*- who is the sweetest person ever)
*erin
I've been kinda involved with this guy I met about a year ago, and we've been talking ever since. We talk all the time, and we know how much we care for each other. Problem is, I only get to see him about twice a year, because he lives so far away. Now, I met this other guy a few weeks ago, and apparently, he's grown quite fond of me, even though i dont really feel as if i know him that well. I dont know how to tell this other guy that I'm not ready for a relationship.
Don't be tricking this guy into thinking you are. There is a really easy solution to this problem. Tell him your not ready! Just be like, "Hey, I'm not ready to have a relationship with you yet because I don't feel like i know you well enough I'd like to get to know you better." i guess.. Sorry im not really focused right now!hope i helped al ittle maybe i will change my answer when im no so hyper1
Dear Erin,
Theres this guy at school. I've known him forever. We were pretty good friends. his obnoxious behavior really got to me.. i dont no why. ANYWAYS recently he got back with his ex girlfriend and EVERYTIME were talking online nd she comes on he just TOTALLY ignores me. Finally it got to me and i got reeeely mad and when his gf signed on i said " OOo your lovers on go on and ignore me now" or sumthin like that and u no what.. he DIDNT EVEN ASNWER! So i was talking to my other friend Kyle and i said OMG SHES(as in his gf not kyles but u no) ONLINE! She can just go ignore me. Then Kyle sent it to him and he goes WHY DO U EVEN WANNA TALK TO ME SO BAD. Anyways i got really mad... But i stil like him. And everyday i wish they would break up. I no this is mean and i no hes my friend but i SERIOUSLY cant handle watchign them, cuz he'll flirt wit me in front of her and gosh its bothering me.. ALOT. So Erin PLEASE help me!
From, aperson
Person,
Dont be jealous! Theres no reason to be. Don't let little things like this get to you. Move on. Ok my attention span is gone so I am kind of confused on what you are asking. Re send it with less capitals and proper writing please? But umm Just dont be jealous if u are oh wait u never said u were... ok dont be mad! just move on to a better guy! dont waste ur time on one guy wuen there are a bajillion more out there! and resend this so i can help better
i am going to cry the worest thing happened to me today. i fell down the stairs. every one watched me make the long fall. i was soo emberested. than i cryed waaaaawwaaaaaa
and ps soccer kicks ass.
pss waaaaaaaawwaaaaawaaa
lol ya that happens to me alot except i dont cry... and its not embarrising..
dear erin,
i recently broke up with my bf because i really just didnt like him like that and it wasnt working out for me. well recently he's been walking around with these girls and its driving me insane! i dont even know why, cuz i didnt even like him! well there's this senior(im a fish) and hes been hitting on me A LOT and like, walks me to classes and stuff, and i mean, i dont like, want a serious relationship with him or whatever cuz i know that he's like this with almost every girl, but everytime i see my ex-bf with some girl i cant wait until he can see me with the senior. i know this is wrong, but what should i do? help!
luv,
jealous person (sry i can't think of a real name my fav tv show is on lol)
Hey! I have a feeling i know who this is! Anyway, with the jealousy part... I mean, you probably still have some feelings for him, and there is a part of you that doesnt want to let go. As time goes on, you'll grow unjealous. As for the senior, if you are just using him to make your ex jealous, thats not very cool! If you like really like him or something, then thats ok, but just beware that he is a senior and you are *new meat* to him... he could use that to his advantage... and with this ex, chances are you wont end up together for the rest of your lives, so dont be jealous of him when there are like a zillion mroe guys to choose from! umm i didnt really help i dont think so I/M me if you want more advice! I hope i gave u helpful info... sorry that this isnt very good!
XoXo *Erin*
Thanks for the advice!
Hey!YOure very welcom! I'm Happy to give anyone advice. I enjoy helping, even if Im not that great at it. Its the thought the counts, and Im glad you all ask me, it really helps me too.
xoxo erin
Erin-
i really neeed your help...i mean..i know that your really good with advice and everything, so please dont reject this. My boyfriend and i are really close, and i know he wants to make out with me and erin..I DONT KNOW HOW!! wat do i do??
In my opinion, it should be natural. You don't need to be told how to make out. I know you were probably expecting like a whole technique on how to make out or whatever, but the best way is just letting things happen. I'm assuming you've never kissed him before, and maybe never even kissed a guy before, but your first kiss should be special and remembered forever. Just let things happen as they do, and if your not ready, then don't feel pressured. (Its fun but not necessary lol) Im sorry this hasn't been very helpful, lately my advice kinda sucks!! I'd say hope this helped, but i dont think it did. Good luck though and I really do hope this somewhat helped, and i you want, I/M me and ill try to give you more help!
XoXO Erin!