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Large age gap... should I give him a chance?
To get down to it, I'm a 15 year old girl and a 22 year old guy likes me. I've known this guy for a few months and have become really good friends with him. I didn't know he actually had a crush on me till a few weeks ago. This guy is really nice, very sweet, he always cares about me. He always wants to know how I feel and how he can make it any better. He calls me practically every night. He trusts me and I trust him. We've talked about our feelings for eachother... I used to not think of him as anything more than a friend, but now I think I am starting to like him more. We see eachother at least once a week, usually with groups of other friends but I have been alone with him a couple times, once to his house. He has never tried to pull anything on me... he respects my boundaries, yet he shows he still cares. My parents don't like that I even talk to a 22 year old guy on the phone. If they ever knew I wanted to go out with him, they'd freak. I'd like to give him a chance, but I don't know if it's worth hiding from my parents and the fact that he's so much older than me makes the possibility chances of it working slimmer. Any advice on what I should do?
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umm I know exactly where you are coming from.. im 14 and a couple months ago I was having a relationship with a 25 year old... we broke up a few weeks ago after my mom found out and called the police on him.. i always felt that I had to lie to him because he was so much older.. it was kinda uncomfortable.. If he is a good guy I think u should totally go with him.. but its a big risk if you wanna do it you have to be ready for it.. good luck -Kaydee
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This guy all he wants is s e x im telling ya babe dont mess wit him he mite seem all nice and sweet but hes a pervert man.. find a guy a lil closer to your age..i no it sux to hear this but thats way too old for you...thats kinda grose
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-Kalene
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um i think there is a major law against that and by the way he would be much more expierenced in doing stuff that you wouldnt be so comfortable in doing, and even tho you dont want your parents to get involved it would be the smart thing to do
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Yea he is a little old for you. And even if you did start a relationship with him, it would be very stressful because you would always be trying to hide it from your parents. This guy is much more experienced than you are and may expect more than you are willing to give. But if you really care about this guy, I would suggest you wait until you are 18 years old. That way, it wouldn't be illegal to "do anything." And since you will be 18 and he will be 25, and the age gap won't seem so big anymore. And people wouldn't look down to you for being in an unusual relationship. And it's only 3 years, you can tough it out! For now, just stick to being really good friends with him. Keep your relationship strong. Good luck! :-)
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well, if you like him enough and you trust him and care about him, it shouldnt really matter, so i think you should try to go out with him, but not letting your parents know. :)
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well thats i a huge age difference, but he obviously likes you for you and the main thing usualy with guys is that they want Sex, well with him you guys have been alone and he hasent preassured you or anything and he sounds pretty aswome, the whole parents thing is a probem yea, becuase noi way they are going to accept for guys being together and everything would have to b secert and tht sucks big time..I dont knoe what else to say everything is up to you, just know what you are gettn yourself into and his age and yours, hes been tho alot more then you have and stuff like that so justbe careful with Everything, dont stp being freinds with him and stuf just becuase things wont work out becuase if you guys stay close over the years then when u are able to date he is there for you and stuff, i woukld sey justmake your relationship stonger that way when things fall into line it willwork out and be perfect .. but for now dont try anything to fast becuase if things move to fast somthing will probely go wrong! Just be safe and make sure you knoe what you are doing!
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In my opinion, you should give him a chance, and even though there's like an age difference, he likes you. He respects you and trusts you. He also cares about you, and there is no other relation besides that. If he likes you that way, sounds like he is a pretty decent person who really does care about you. I know the age difference comes in between this relationship, but in my opinion, don't let that stop you.
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Hun, if you don't know already, this IS illegal! Stay away from him hun, trust me! He made seem all sweet and all, but he is just trying to get your trust and only want one thing from you! It's okay to be around with him with your friends, but don't call him or be alone with him. I hoped i helped!! :)
xO Chelsea Ox
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i think its illegal but if not ... and u really like him.. go ahead.and another thing. since he is way older than you.. he has a lot of power on you. you mite not realize it but he mite be able to "sudice" you into doing things. i jus woldnt be alone with him.... love alwaiiz, aLi
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no matter how nice he may seem he still wants the same thing every guy wants and i dont wanna offend you in away or anything and you have prob heard this befor but hes only wanting one thing, hes to old for you, hes trying to earn your trust so you will think he wont do anything, believe me i know i've dateing a guy who was 22 and he only wanted one thing although he didnt get it but the point in the matter is you dont need to give this guy a chance hes way to old for you, and he could go to jail for yall even talking to eachother. Find someone who is around your age that way no one will go to jail!...Your parents prob dont like the fact that your talking to a 22 year old because they know he only wants one thing and if the wron person found out about it then this guy would go to jail, hideing something from your parents isnt good because you would be sneaking around to try to be with this guy, chances are it wont work. i'm sorry if what i'm saying is rude or anything but i'm just telling you stright up. i hope you take this advice into consideration...just be friends with the guy, then no one will get hurt. Tell him if he wants to be with you to wate untill you a little bit older.-Nikki
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You should just be friends with him, if that. That's such a huge age gap, I honestly don't think it would work. First off, it's illegal, and secondly, he's so much older and has more experience than you. You both are at two very completely different parts of your lives right now. You're still a teenager, and he's an adult. You need to be with guys that are more your age, like 15 to 17. I really wouldn't try anything though, your parents would have heart attacks if they found out, you wouldn't want to lie to them, you wouldn't want this guy to end up in jail, and you're too far apart in age for it to work. Sorry!
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You need to talk to your parents about this, and make them understand that you're not going to go off with this guy & do bad things. Get your parents to meet him, and see what a wonderful guy he is. If you really like this guy, they should understand and be there for you. In a way, you should kind of understand where their coming from. This guy is 22, old enough to buy alcohol, to drive, to buy cigarettes. You're only 15, and they probably just don't want you involved with someone like that. Until they know what he's like that's what their going to think. I think it's really cute, I'm pretty much in the same situation. Except I'm 14 and he's 20. My parents definately don't want him talking to me, but you know. Doesn't really matter what they think when you consider them the way they are. Good Luck!
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Do what you want. But keep in mind that its illegal and if you guys get caught even hanging out you'll both be in trouble. Be careful! He may seem like a nice guy and all..but once you guys are going out he might change!
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I don't know if you are aware, but that is illegal. you could be friends or even have him as a brotherly figure (which he seems to be) but for a 22 year old to consider you as a girlfriend is a thought of an unstable man. it's not you, it's that he should be attracted to girls his own age. he is not some one you should really be hanging around with and suggest avoidance, or only hanging out in groups. this is called petefilia if he ever touched you, so please make the right decision.
good luck
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Prove to your parents that hes a good guy! Age doesnt matter in love. If you love him then you can date him. it doesnt matter my parents are 15 years apart and that didn't keep them away from loving each other. Talk to your parents and im sure they'll understand they were deeply in love once and im sure they'll crack sooner or later. Best of luck! <3 American Girl
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dont do it its never good to have that large of an age difference at our ages...he'll only hurt you or force you to do something you dont want to do...he'll put unwanted pressure on you and really nothing good can from going out with him...
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