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My name is Nikki and I am 17 years old & I have a daughter who means EVERYTHING in the world to me, I'd do ANYTHING for her...I love spending time with her and watching the new things she does everyday...I cant wait until she starts talking and walking..but yeah what mother cant right?..lol...well I love giving advice...I've been through a lot the past 4 years like being homeless and things like that which I'm not homeless anymore but i know how it feels and I've been through a lot so i know a lot...i know more about a lot of stuff then most 17 year olds my age but hey everyone can give advice but I am A teen mother and so I know a little bit, but theres WAY more to learn about being a mother...but...i want y'all to feel free day or night to ask me for advice because i love giving it..thanks...By the way...I love getting Feedback so i will know if i helped y'all out...so please send me feedback if i answer y'all's question's...Thanks Bunches!

My Favorite things are: Spending time with my daughter...Spending time with my wonderful boyfriend who I plan on one day getting married to...I LOVE YOU JEREMY!!! Singing, Writing songs, Shopping, Going to the movies, Meeting new people, and Giving Great advice!!

*Favorite Color~Baby Blue & Hot Pink!
*Favorite Food~Salads, Pizza, & Tacos!
*Best Guy-Friend~My Boyfriend Jeremy
*Best Girl-Friend~My best friend Hope
*Hottest guy in the world~Shawn Micheal Murray
*Favorite Person in the world~Eminem
*Favorite Music~Rap, Rock, & Country!
*Favorite Place~In my boyfriends arms....Pensacola & Fort Myers Florida!


.female come backs.

Yeah, we've had those guys that just come up to a random girl, with their only interntions being wanting to score some. Here are some quick come backs, so you can tell that guy to back off! **sexual references stated here**

M: Haven't I seen you some place before?
F: Yes, that's why I don't go there anymore.


M: Is this seat empty?
F: Yes, and this one will be if you sit down.


M: Your place or mine?
F: Both. You go to yours and I'll go mine :)


M: So, what do you do for a living.
F: I'm a female impersonator.


M: Hey baby, what's your sign?
F: Do Not Enter!!


M: How do you like your eggs in the morning?
F: Unfertilized...


M: Your body's like a temple.
F: Sorry, there are no services today :(


M: I would go to the end of the world for you.
F: But would you stay there :)


M: If I saw you naked, I'd die happy.
F: If I saw you naked, I'd die laughing :O


M: So, wanna go back to my place?
F: Well I don't know. Will two people fit under a rock?


M: I know how to please a woman...
F: Then get the hell away from me!


M: I want to give myself to you.
F: Sorry..i dont accept cheap gifts :)


M: Haven't we met before...;)
F: Yah...im the receptionist at the VD Clinic :P


M: Whats your number?
F: Its in the phone book!


M: But i dont know your name?
F: Thats also in the phone book.


M: Hey, c'mon, we're both here at the bar for the same reason..
F: Yeah!! Lets go pick up some chicks!!


M: I'm here to fulfill your every sexual fantasy
F: You mean..youve got both a donkey and a Great Dane!?


M: Id go through anything for you!
F: Great!! Let's start with your bank account :D
Got all that Off of a website..http://www.mysticscreations.com/

*What is love? Is it the same as lust?*

Tough question. There are lots of different kinds of love-- romantic, parental, platonic. Mostly, love is feeling emotionally attached to another person. You want to be close to that person. You want to share things with them, understand them and have them understand you. You want to care for them and have them care for you. Romantic love usually comes with a strong physical or sexual attraction. You want to hold, touch and sometimes become sexual with that person.
Lust is physical attraction. Lust can sometimes turn into love. Often, when two people are first getting together, they have a really strong physical connection. When two people fall in love, lust may fade over time but its replaced with a deeper, more intimate emotional connection.
When you're falling in love, its often tough to tell the difference between the two. Usually, time tells.

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my internet explorer freezes and has popups all the time so i changed it to mozilla firefox. even though im not useing internet explorer, popups come up and some are nasty.. so my question is how can i fix this ? should i delete internet explorer and reinstall it? would this workk, if not please give me some suggestions

ps. i have ad-awaare SE and it doesnt really do anything about it so dont suggest it

Hey...try getting a Program called "BitDefender 9 Professional Plus...and that blocks pop ups and also tells you when your going to a website that has a virus on it and it blocks it...its a good program and it should solve all your problems..hope this helps...Please rate!

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alright, so i moved into my new school last year (7th grade) and i didnt start of with a good reputation, because i was the new girl. but now a year later i have a very good reputation. i mean, i am friends with the populair people, i cant compiments, and people always say they want to be me.
there is this kid in one of my classes, and i have gotten a very big crush on him. he is nice, sweet, and very cute. i did some asking around and i have found he is a loser. like .. dork kid. hanging out with other dorks.
i think dating him might effect my reputation, but should i go for him anyways?
some one please help me.

My thoughts on your question is...if you like the guy then go for it because for one...the "popular" kids are not the ones who will be dateing him and are not the ones whos happiness it involves...and if the "popular" kids are going to judge you on who you date then their not good friends to begin with, see the problem with alot of people in this world today is they are TO worried about what other people think and for one...its not the outside or the persons rep that counts its the inside and no matter if the guy isnt popular who cares? Problem in schools these days also is people are all about whos popular and whos not...I mean if so called popular people told you it would be cool to jump off a bridge....would you do it?...I would hope not but anyways what I am trying to say is...dont worry about what other people think and dont try to impress them just by dateing someone whos a little bit more their style because at the end of the day you wont be happy. Your gonna meet alot of guys and alot of friends guys and friends both come and go but if your friends stop being your friend if you date this guy then their not worth being friends with to begin with...I hope you understand what I am trying to say but anyways go for it...you shouldnt care about what other people think anyways because its your life not theirs...hope this helps.
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Let me know how it goes.

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ALRIGHT PEOPLE! I need your help! Alright well there is this guy and I think I have a crush on him! butt.. he is like a really horny person.. and like if i ever did go out with him (which I doubt) im afraid hed use me! But i think itd be fun to go out with him! and I have a crush on him.. and hes funny and everything! but I dont want him just to use me for stuff.. and I already told him if I do anything sexual with anyone they are gona be my boyfriend.. what if some how we do end up goin out.. how do I know he isnt using me? But also how do I make him like me for me and not just for sexual stuff!!

Hey, well one way to find out if he's not just useing you for sex is if he's always wanting to do it like 24/7, then you should know that hes just in the relationship for sex and if you dont want that then make him wate for a long time befor you do anything with him besides kissing and huging and everything, and if he wates for you and wates untill you are ready to do anything sexual then he will wate and that would mean he cares and that hes not just in the relationship for sex....believe me thats the best way no matter if you want to do it or not, make him wate. I hope this advice helps,...Please rate.

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i am in love with like the most perfect girl and we've been together for a while and i want to keep making her happy. any ideas how i can keep doign that?

all answers would be appreciated. i rate highly.

I'd say do something nice for her like if your old enough to cook her dinner and everything then do something like that, and one day out of the blue buy her red or white roses, white roses mean love, but every girl loves roses and tell her everyday how much you love her and never want to lose her and let her know how the little things she does for you are special to you and tell her how you cant live with out the thought of her being there by yourside...I say if you do anything I have written down then you will make your girl happy!...The roses thing will surely work, try getting 12 roses or more and make a special night for you and her like with some of the roses you buy and let the roses lead to you. If not that then you can print roses over the internet and tape the paper on the ground leading her to where your at...just do something really sweet for her to let her know how much you care for her. I hope this helps...if you need anything send me a question...Bye Bye-NikNik

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Hey im happy i can actually ask this to someone my age. I am a freshman and the boy i like is a junior. I have liked him for a while now, but i can never talk to him. I feel like i will just emberass myself or sound really stupid. He recently has started dating another girl so i kinda dont want to be asking this. We have so many things in common and alot of people say we would make a good couple. So if him and his girlfriend ever break up, im gonna need to be one of his friends. lol..... So for now..what should i do to talk to him...what should i say.......and how should i approach him..........plzz help

Ok, What I would do if I were you is I would just go up to him and have a conversation with him and if everything thinks you and him would make a good couple well then who knows maybe yall will hook up..maybe he doesnt know that your interested, and if he did then he would more then likely be with you instead of the girl who hes with now. But just be a good friend to him now and talk to him whenever you get the chance, hang out and i'm sure whenever him and his girlfriend break up then yes he will need to you be a friend to him and he will notice that you care about him because your there for him you know and you have to be good friends befor you can have a long lasting relationship. Just you know talk to him whenever you get the chance ya know and say well hey hows your day and everything i'm sure if you do that then everything will work out the way you want it to. Always remember..the best things come to those who wate so this is your chance. I hope this helps. If you need anything else just know i'm here. Bye-Niknik

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Okay today I called a "best friend" to see if she wanted to do anything becasue she aslways calls me with plans. She had another line and accidently forgot to press flash so she thought she was talking to one of her other friends. She was making fun of me and she made me look like a total idiot then shes like h.o god shes on the other line and she switched over and i didnt say anythign i held my hand over the phone so she wouldnt hear anything and i did that as she was saying hello over and over agian.. once she hung up i did and she called back she made up some lame excuse saying it was her sisters b-day and she would call me back with something to do around 3.. i dont know what to do i cant just switch firneds becasue i have always wanted to be firnedes with who i am firneds with now.

It looks to me like she isnt a friend at all if shes going to try to talk bad about you behind your back. That is not what you call a friend, a friend is someone who would never backstab you, talk bad about you behind your back and will always be there for you no matter what. But if I hadof heard mty friend saying that while she thought she was talking to someone else I would be so mad because thats just not even right. Have a talk with her and tell her that shes not even right for the things that she said and tell her you heard every word but i'm being totally honest with you...You dont need a friend like that because their not a friend at all. sorry to say that but its the truth! Hope this helps. -NikNik

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My name is Amy Bussel and I am 21 years old, my fiance and I have just seperated, because I cuss to much at him. Although this is not the first time that this has happened and every other time he has came home to me this time my hope is very low. I have never done anyhting that would hurt him and have always gone out of my way to make sure that he is happy. He has always came first in my life. When he leaves like this it is usually for a few days and even without a phone call. Can you tell me do you think that he will come back home to me this time??

Ok for one if I were you I wouldnt put your name on anything thats on the internet because there are some crazy people out there who could track you down and get any information about you they want but thats besides the point. I couldnt really tell you if he would come back or not but if he truely loves and cares for you then he will come back. But if he doesnt then that just means that hes not worth it. Theres a saying I have heard many times befor..."If you love someone let them go, if they come back it was ment to be and if they dont come back then it never was" Just look at it like this if he comes back then it means he truely cares for you. He could be wateing it out or something trying to figure out what he wants but just give him time and dont get your hopes up because alot of guys are jerks and they wont think twice about hurting a girl. I hope this advice helps! If you need anything just send me a message to my Inbox and tell me how everything goes! Bye-NikNik

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hey im 15 f, are most teenage girls out there depressed? is it just a faze we go through or is it just certain individuals that are insane.. its not like i have had a hard life but i am always sad and pessimistic about everything. i feel like i dont deserve anything and no one likes me. i have been diagnosed with 'anorexia' i think they are wrong tho, i am a heavy drinker and i smoke pot often, and people are starting to notice the scars on my arms and wrists from cutting.. i put on a front when i with people but when i am by myself all i can think about is death.. i dont know why i am like this i dont have a reason to be, i was just wondering does anyone else feel this way!?

Ok, for one you need to take it slow with the smokeing pot thing and everything I mean its your life but yeah...A bunch of teenagers are depressed but it doesnt mean that they have depression, it could just be a faze because if you think that you seriously are depressed then go to the doctor and he will know what to do if you are a depressed person and if you are then the doctor can give you something for it and then the problem will be solved, but another reason why you are prob depressed is maybe because pot makes you sometimes think about stuff like and makes you feel bad and then other kinds of pot just makes you chill, there are different kinds so that could be one reason...also most kids our age cut theirselfs because they think it will solve their problems but it doesnt, it may make you feel good and everything but is it worth haveing scars all of your life?...Well anyways just try talking to your parents about it and if they dont listen then talk to someone else about it because if you do have "anorexia" and you cut, and drink and all this and your only 15, thats very bad, but just try to slow things down like by not doing all the drugs and drinking or you will end up in a rehab or end up being a drugie or a drunk and your 15 and its messing up your life you need to get help a/s/a/p!, I hope this helps! If you need anything else just ask!-Nikki

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Ive known this guy since 7th grade, were in 10th now. So anyways, we never really got along until about the end of 8th grade. And then i found out he has a crush on me, and it was the most obvious crush ive seen before, lol. I told him i wanted to be just friends and he said he was cool with that up until recently. He started acting like guy who was crushing on me again, and this time its more like a I WANT YOU HORRIBLY! type thing cuz he cant keep his hands off me. Now my problem is that part of me wants him, and he wants me, but im not sure if i should go for it because weve been friends for so long. I want to do it, but then i dont. Has anyone been in this situation, what did you do? It just feels so akward and confusing!

Hey, I would say go for it, because normally one way or another good friends hook up just to see how everything goes because good friends normally end up haveing feelings for eachother and I would say go for it and just see how it goes and if it doesnt work out then yall can still be friends, just let him know that if you and him dont work out that yall are to always stay friends and I'm sure if yall give it a try once and it works out then hey thats awesome but if yall dont work out then yall can still be friends in the end because hey he wants you and you want him so go for it! I hope this helps!-Nikki

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I have been talking ot a junior for 3 weeks. Im a freshman and we both go to the same school. He told me that he likes me and i said i liek him to i really do though but i kinda dont anymore. I dont know if i should give hima chance or what. I usuallyalways lead guys on becuause i liek them at one point then the other i dont. what should i do.

Just tell the guy that you just want to stay friends with him, dont lead guys on because it doesnt feel good and it hurts them when a girl leads them on, so just tell him how you feel and tell him that you just wanna stay good friends and see where that takes you! I hope this helps!-Nikki

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what does IM mean??? i've been told to IM someone... i'm confused!!! lol. is it some american thingy??? coz i'm australian.

IM means Instant message and if you have MSN you cant talk to someone on AOL unless you get AOL, with Instant message you can only talk to people fom MSN,HOTMAIL,YAHOO, and other places, but not AOL...Just get AOL and have MSN to. Hope I helped-Nikki

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I'm 13 years old, and I'm bleeding "down there". i'm afraid, and I live with foster parents I dont really know yet. What do I do?!! I don't know whats going on!
signed,
confused

Theres nothing to worry about it happens to every girl every month...it just means your becoming a young women and a period is one of the most visible signs that you are starting puberty. Puberty happens for girls between the ages of 9 and 16. Everyone is different when it comes to timing...this is what a period is...The blood that leaves your body during your period is the blood and tissue that build up as the lining of your uterus each month. Your period flow can be light, heavy, or somewhere in between. It may also be heavy the first day or so of your period, and then get lighter. Periods usually last between three and five days, but it is normal to have periods that are either shorter or longer. It is also normal if your periods are not the same number of days each month.
What you use for your period is pads or tampons in which pads are better for your age i wouldnt use tampons untill your older but Pads stick to the inside of your underwear and soak up the blood that leaves the vagina.
Some pads are thinner for days when your period is light, and some are thicker for when you are bleeding more. You can also use these thicker pads at night when you sleep.
During the day, it is best to check your pad to see if it needs changing every couple of hours. It will need to be changed before it is soaked with blood. I hope this helps if you need anymore information about this you can let me know and I will help you out!-Nikki

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everytime i get out of the shower my knees are all red and parts of my legs. why is this and is this bad?

Your legs are more then likely red because of how hott the water was or it could be the soap your useing but if you use really hott water then thats why they get red...if you think its the soap then try useing a different kind, i'm sure its not a problem though because it happens to me to with either the hott water or the soap I use..well I hope this helps!-Nikki
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Hey, this is mainly a question for girls. Alright, I have shaving gel, shaving cream, everything and everything to make shaving easier..and my legs smoother. EVERYtime I shave, which is usually during my shower, the day after..I have razor burn. It is..disgusting. Little red dots, and hairs..are already all over my pale legs. Is there ANYTHING I can do to prevent this? After I use a shaver three times, I have to get a new blade..is this normal? Becase..otherwise, the third time I use it, my legs get cut everywhere, and bleed. It suckssss. Help me, please. :/ Thankss.

It could be the ravor your useing, try getting "Venus" its a razor and it works really well and it doesnt hurt whenever you shave either and doesnt leave razon burns, and as for the shaveing cream if you get the "Venus razor" it comes with 2 blades and some shaveing cream as well for about 6 dollars or so if not 6 dollars then about 10, but its worth it..well i hope this helps!-Nikki
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Me & my friends played a prank on this girl in my school that was picking on me, and she turned us in. Yesterday, I wasn't in school and the guidance conselor called all my friends down to the office, turns out EVERYONE was sayen I did it, even my best friends. I did do most of it, but not all of it. & I admitted to it. Are they real friends?

They dont seem like real friends if they said you did ALL of it just talk to them about it and ask them why they said you did all of it when they helped as well, its not right to rat out your friends specially saying that someone did all of it when everyone had a part in it. I hope this helps!-Nikki
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does anyone know of any good conjestion reliever? Im all clogged and it doesn't feel confortble. (sp?) lol I also get a headach from it...
Any one know of anything natural that i could use to make it magicly disappear?!?
(i rate)

Try "Rolaids" or "Tums" they both work very well, and quick also so it should relieve you of your conjestion...hope this helps!-Nikki
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should i write my own song???

(i rate)

It depends if you want to write your own song i dont think many people write their own songs for talent shows so try that and good luck! If not then sing A song from an artist its your choice! Hope this helps!-Nikki
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my friend is always bugging me she is so annoying (im not the only one who thinks so) but when its just me and her she is so great she is really sweet and all but if there is a guy around she goes into annoying mode when i try to explain it to her she gets mad and then if i hang out with anyone knew or have any other friends she gets mad at me and i dont know what to do?

It could be because she is Jealous and dont want you to have any other friends because she doesnt want to be left out, and as for her being annoying just ignore it like you friend for who she is and not for the stupid little things that get on your nerves, you could be her only friend or something, just hang in there and talk to hre about it or something i'm sure there are things about you she doesnt like either not being mean but normally in friendships there will be at least something the friends wont lilke about eachother they just dont say it cause they dont want to hurt their friends feelings but just hang in there and talk to her or just ignore her when shes being annoying I have friends that annoy me but I just deal with it, I hope this helps!-Nikki
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15 female

My 2 best friends kelsie and allison and i always hang out. And they told me that they think i have a flirting problem...they told me people think i am easy but i have never done anything with a guy past making out...but i do flirt alot but i dont know how that makes me look easy...helP! i rate!

Tell your friends to like butt out or something tell em that if your flirting with a cute guy thats your buissness and not theirs I mean if A girl see's or meets A cute guy they normally flirt, theres nothing wrong with flirting just tell your friends that your not easy and tell them that people can think what they want their going to anyways no matter if you are easy or not,people dont care about the truth all they care about is the rumors and what things they can tell people just dont worry about it,I hope this advice helps!-Nikki
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Me and my boyfriend have been dating for like 2 months,and he wants to kiss me, but I'm not sure if I should. My mom would freak out, but i really like him. What should I do?

Kiss the boy, whats the harm in kissing? How old are you anyways that could be A reason why your mom doesnt want you kissing anyone like if your really young or something but if your not really really young then I dont see why it would be A big deal kissing your boyfriend, I mean you have been dateing him for 2 months so just talk to your mom about it and see why she doesnt want you and your boyfriend to kiss because its not harmful or anything so just kiss your boyfriend, if I were dateing A guy I would kiss him specially after 2 months, thats long to be dateing someone when yall havent kissed so I say yall are doing A good job...just be careful and good luck!-Nikki
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