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don't know what to do
well heres the deal, my parents have been divorced since a was like 3 (im 13 now). ive always lived with my mom and my dad lives over 300 miles away. i can only see my dad every-other weekend and i really don't like that. i miss my dad a lot when im not over there and im thinking about maybe moving over to his house. but i don't want to hurt my mom's feelings or leave all my friends here (but i don't think that making new friends will be a problem). ive also been having lots of problems with my mom lately...
what do you think i should do?
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talk to your parents. maybe you could see if you could see your dad a little bit more often. or maybe just switch schedules. ya know, live with your dad, see you mom every other weekend. and after thats figured out, i'd probably try to sort the problems out with your mom. hope i've helped!
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You have to be honest with your mom, or else things will never get better. Tell her gently, and say that you think you're missing out on having a dad, and you want to get to know him better. Say you love her a lot and that will never change, it's just that you have another parent too that you want to spend time with.
Still, you should realize that you're always going to miss one parent, and im guessing that feeling won't go away. Also make sure you work out the problems you're having with your mom!
I hope this helped!!
Mystery*Girl
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i have the same problem. i'm not moving in with my dad cuz of his rules but if u like the way your dad lives go for it!
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This really isn't something someone can give instructions on...but I have a semi-same situation, except my parents were divorced since I was 10 and my dad is half way around the world from me and I havent seen or talked to him in 5 years. Sometimes I do feel like just going away and being with him, but you also have to think: your mother loves you just as much, and most kids are better off with their mothers. As for the problems you guys are having, I can't really say much because I don't know if you're a girl or a guy (lol). For right now, I'd say don't do anything drastic, and stay with your mom for now, try to fix things.
JyNxiE
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Wow, i am in the same situation as we speak. My mom and dad are going through a divorce right now and at the moment i haven't seen my dad for 2yrs. This has been the hardest thing for me. I also have a boyfriend where my dad lives and we have been together for almost 2 yrs. That again is another problem. I have myself thought of moving in with my dad just because i'm tired of all the crap being said and done around here. I think you should talk to your mom about this. I have and right now i'm going through custody. This is a very hard experience. For me that is. But i know exactly what you are going through. I hope i helped you out. You should really talk to her about it and your dad. If you have any questions you can talk to me about it. I know exactly what you are going through and it's terrible. Good Luck!
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ok if you want to do something about you family situation then i think you should talk to your mom and tell her and if she doesnt listen then talk to your dad and if he doesnt listen then i would live with my mom fo a little longer and then tell her that i want to move with my dad for a while because i miss him and then take it from there.
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ok..are you having problems with your Mom..for you are growing up..and maybe she does not see this?? Or has somethng changed in the household.
What I think is great is that you CARE so much about your Mom that you do not want to hurt her. you are a great person.
Any chance of geting them in the same room and discussing this?
I would write a pro and con list of both parents..living with them...
Moms and daughters butt heads big time in the teenage years....man i was so awful to my mom...but..i was learning how to be an adult...
what are the REAl problems..make the list..and discuss this with both of them.
I feel for you..i know this is hard..but you have a good heart..ok..good luck!
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If you've been living with your mom since you were three and are only now seriously considering moving in with your dad, I would say there is more to it than just missing him. In fact, you've said it: you're having problems with your mom.
Not to stereotype, but the teen years can be really rough on your relationship with ANY parent - especially someone like your dad, who simply won't know you as well as your mom does.
It's understandable to miss your dad, but why not take this decision really slowly? See if you can stay there for an extended period of time - over a long holiday break or something - and see how things go. If you only usually spend a couple of days with him, that's not an accurate picture of what it would be like to spend longer periods of time with him.
You don't have time to fully annoy each other in only two days! So take things slowly. Don't view your father as a way to escape from your problems with your mother - why not try talking to her, or even writing her a letter about your problems? If she's raised you all this time, she deeply loves you and just might have a hard time showing it.
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I have the same problem only my dad comes and goes from New York to Rhode Island. My mom has been really testing my nerves lately too. I'm sixteen and my parent have been divorced for 5 years now. I think you should try talking to her and then if that doesn't help i spend the summers with my dad and it helps to spend time away. The only thing keeping me from moving in with my father is the fact that i have moved 11 times with my momma and i'm sick of it. So now i don't really talk to her much anymore, i just do my own thing. But try spending the summer with your dad. It might help. But talk to her first.
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Well I had this problem when my parents died. My sister wanted me to live with her and i wanted to live with my other sister. Sometimes now i want to live with my other sister. But I think you will miss your mom a lot. Since you miss your dad your going to miss your mom if you switch the routine. If i were you i would stay where you are because you have lots of friends. I would go to counsleling with your mom so you can settle your problems. Also call your dad often and talk to him about the weekend you get to hang out with him. Hopefully i helped. good luck!!!
*kristen*
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well you have the right to say where you want to live. however,unfortunately, you are not of the age to decide on your own. if you talk to your mom and she doesnt want you going there, then talk to your dad and see if he will trynd get custody of you. if they are fighting over who is going to have you then it will need to be decided by a judge. this is where you can out your say into things. other than that you cant choose. if your mom is ok with this, however, then there is no need to go to a judge. just tell her that you miss him and that you love her dearly but you would just like to experience something new.tell her you would like to find out what it would be lke if you were living wih your dad. hopefully she will understand where you are coming from and will let you go. tell her since you will be living with him you will give her his visitational rights. which means that you will see her every other weekend.
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If I were you, i would wait until christmas vacation, and see if you could just live with your dad for a few weeks. then you can see if this is truely what you want. If you really like living with him better, then talk to your parents and see about making it permanent.
~lyl~ * me
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