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Q: ...I'm wondering if dating my best guy-friend is the best thing because I've heard that you'll never be friends after but as I've said before...I've dated one of my other friends and we broke up and we're still good friends...The thing is...with this guy...I never really liked him before but now I feel as though I can't spend a day without talking to him...Is it a good idea to date him....
i decided to date my best guy friend and for me it worked out as a really good decision. we dated for a really long time and it was amazing, but then after a while we decided it just wasnt working out so now we're back to being really good friends. like the other person said, its not awkward unless u make it awkward. i still feel like i cant spend a day without talking to him, and i think he feels the same way, so its like things never changed.

Q: I like my guy friend ALOT. we talk and flirt ALL the time. but the problem is he likes another girl but the good part is she's moving TOMORROW! (farther away) =]. this girl is a SLUT, she's had sex with two guys on my bus!! I think the kid i like only wants her for sex. Today they were all over eachother on the bus and it made me kinda upset. I know that when she leaves i'll be the attention =] haha soo should I talk to him right away or just wait till he talks to me? What should I do to get him to notice me more?
no offense or anything, but from ur description this guy doesnt sound too amazing to me. first of all if he only wants her for sex that could mean that once she leaves he would only want you for sex. second of all, do you really want to be liked by a guy just because the girl he truly likes moves away? its like ud be the second best choice. if hes all over her one day and then all over you once she leaves, he seems more like a player than someone whose actually into you. i say wait for a better guy.

Q: When I was young I had the book "little red hen"
and if you pressed the button at the side, it would make various sounds from the story,
I need to find this book or a smiliar one!
well i think there are a few versions of that story, but here are the ones that are being sold on ebay. copy and paste this link:

http://search.ebay.com/search/search.dll?sofocus=bs&sbrftog=1&from=R10&satitle=little+red+hen&sacat=267%26catref%3DC6&sargn=-1%26saslc%3D2&sadis=200&fpos=ZIP%2FPostal&ftrt=1&ftrv=1&saprclo=&saprchi=&fsop=2%26fsoo%3D2&coaction=compare&copagenum=1&coentrypage=search

Q: I feel like I am jealous of my friend, and that she is jealous of me, too. I am not sure if this is the case, or if it is, why we are both jealous of eachother. I don't know why, but we have been competing lately over the stupidest things like who has more friends, more attention from guys, and just attention in general. I feel like I should not be doing this because she is my friend and I don't want to think of her as some kind of competitor. I want to be her friend like we used to, back when silly things like this didn't matter so much and we never argued. It probably sounds like I am referring to kindergarten, but things were better just maybe a month back. But lately she has been putting me down and such, but when she does this, I say something to make her feel bad about herself as a comeback, but then she will do the same thing to be back. It only happens sometimes; and she starts it. I guess I am just asking for someone to tell me what I should do to get her to stop doing this. What can I tell her that will convince her that putting me down is not what friends do? And how can I stop from fighting back and putting her down when she does it to me? Any ideas why this is happening to me and my friend? What can I do?

Thanks!!!♥ Luv Ya All!!!
just don't say mean things back to her. be the better person to stop the competing. whenever she tries to outdue you just pretend like you don't care if she's better or not. i think that will make her stop. hope i helped :)

Q: 16/f
well there is this guy that i kinda am starting to like. but he was like ohh yeah i cant go out with a girl that cant dance! and i was like yeah blah blah but you see i cant dance for shit! haha like ive never really danced with a boy before..like grinding and stuff. so im worried if a guy asks me to a dance or something and they want to dance i will be so embarassed about it because i wont know what to do! and people will laugh and be like haha she does not know what she is doing! ahhh and this guy doesnt know it either otherwise he will tell his friends and everyone else and they will be like oh my god you dont know how to dance? AHAHA.

yeah.i dont know what to do..
just laugh it off...dont even worry about it. make it fun by asking friends around you to help you, then you will kinda make it the life of the party. thats what i did, it worked out pretty well. guys will see your fun sense of humor instead of your unability to dance!

Q: Hey! 14/f. I'm just wondering if anyone has every been through a situation like this: well I'm a freshman in HS now and I'm kinda worried about my lunch period. School hasn't started for me yet but I'm kinda concerned. My school starts at 7:15am, which means I'm going to have to eat breakfast before I go on the bus, which will end up being about 6:15-6:30 in the morning. My lunch period is going to be at 12:35pm. This means I will have to wait almost 6 hours to eat...and I'm kinda concerned because last year I could barely last 3-4 hours. Well I can't change my schedule or switch lunch periods, the school has already made it clear that we have to stick with the schedule they gave us. I just wanted to know if anyone had any ideas on what I can eat that will fill me up for 6 hours that I can prepare in the morning/or the night before school. Or any snacks I could jam in the hallway in-between classes. Thanks in advance!
Well at my school certain teachers let you eat in class if you have a sucky lunch period. Ask your teacher and if he/she lets you just pick a food that doesnt make too much noise when you eat it..like a banana or something. for breakfast instant oatmeal, pancakes, eggs are all really filling. you could also combine foods. for example: one morning you could have a fruit smoothie or yogurt and cereal. i hope i helped!!!

Q: k well my ex boyfriend who was my first boyfriend, and first true love and first kiss. we went out for 4 1/2 months... him and my best friend might go ou and for all i know they probably already are.... well i dont aprrove at all! and even though we brok up 5 months ago i still like him, because if it wasnt for his friend telling me that he would treat me better i would have never dumped him, and my ex.. lets call him... james, james even told me about 1 month ago that if i never dumped him we would still be together, and for him to say that he has to have some kind of feelings for me, and also asked him last week 1-10 how much he likes me and he sais 6.5 and to me, thats pretty high! and now i find out my best friend, the person i though who was soposed to have my back, support me, and be there for me, is gonna go out with my ex... but the difficult thing is, i kinda did it to her, see, her ex richard and her, we will call my best friend rachel. rachel and richard went out for only 3 weeks, they didnt share near as much as me and james did.. k well richard asked me ut durring the summer and i never told him yes, and i never told him no.. he just assumed we were going out, but i never liked him... and my friend rachel knows that.... and i have told her over and over that i still like james... and she doesnt give a rip.. shes gonna go out with him, and to me it just sems like she isnt hearing me when i tell her she is risking our friendship for a boy who will eventualy break her heart and when he does whos gonna be there for her? not me, because i warned her... i just want to know.. and i making tooo big of deal about this, and what shoud i do?
if it helps im 15/f.... and i told my friend rachel i would do anything to be with him... and yet she still goes and does this to me... i mean he was there through think and thin, he was there when i needed him, when my grandpa got cancer, when my uncle died... hes been there.. and even after the breakup he has been the best of friend and he listens when i tell him stuff.. hes amazng!!!
you're definately not making a big deal out of it! but i have to say that even though it was partly your friend rachels fault for going out with him, would james go out with her if he still has feelings for you? i know he's ur first love and it hurts to let go, ive been there trust be, but maybe you should just let what happens happen and try to let go. if things are meant to be they'll work out. besides, you should be mad at james too for going out with your best friend.

Q: mmk so my bestfriend since 6th grade and i started going out in 9th. we had this whole crazy connection, i cant be without you kind of relationship.(this was in 9th grade) well he wasnt actually allowed to date soo i only saw him at school and i think schools really important and when we started going out my grades dropped super low. because school was all "boyfriend time". and so i freaked out and pushed him away. and now its 10th grade and he hasnt really talked to me since. and i still love him. he doesnt really know what happened.. how do i get him back or to atleast get him to talk to me..he means the world to me..
well there are other things you could do besides concentrate on you boyfrined only at school...like you could go places with a bunch of friends so the parents are ok with it. or go to his house and watch a movie and eat popcorn or something so his parents feel more in controll/comfortable. tell him why you broke up with him and that you still love him, and if he seems interested bring up some of those ideas^. hope i helped!!

Q: ok my parents r desperately waiting for me to get a girlfriend and always push me to do so. at this momment i just want to be single yet on the other hand i would like someone by my side and would like to be going out. im not sure what to do or how to do it. what should i do?
wow, usually parents do the total opposite!! i wish my parents were okay with dating...you'll love that when you do find a gf! until then, just tell them that you want to wait until you find a girl whose right for you and you dont want to rush it. dont go out with someone just to have a gf. in the long run you'll be glad you waited!

Q: Hi. I'm 15, I've never had a boyfriend, a kiss, really anything from a guy. I'm fat, but I'm pretty. I have about 5 closeclose guy friends, that I get occasional hugs from, but it's not enough. I want a boyfriend, or even just a guy to like me (we dont have to be going out). I feel like a failure. So what, I'm fat? I know that's all guys look for, and I know alot of you are going to say, "You don't need a boyfriend!" or "You're still young!". But I'm going into 10th grade, and still so out of it. I don't know what I'm really asking for, I think I'm just confused & I feel like I've failed at life cause I'm a girl, but I've never had a boy.
this is a tough one, ive had the same issues with the 'whats wrong with me? why dont i have a guy?'problems. but you know what? ive been there, and no matter what advice people gave me (including ppl from this site that i also asked) nothing seemed to help me. the only way you can get better is if you gain confidence with who you are and begin to feel comfortable in your own skin. its not an easy thing to do, believe me, but it can be done and when it is it feels amazingg! this is what i did: i relaxed and was myself and focused on my friends (both guys and girls). i tried to fix my flaws personality wise and tried to become a person i actually liked. eventually i began to attract those guys, and soon my best guy friend became my boyfriend (we've been dating for a year!!) ironically enough, it wasnt until i realized that i didnt need a boyfriend to be happy that i actually got one. i really hope this helped. leave me questions anytime if you need more help.

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say I like this guy, and I do, I think he likes me too. I mean, he sends all the right signals and we flirt a ton. But Im friends with his younger sister, his best friend hooked up with me awhile ago, and we are on the same swim team, so theres a few obstacles ffor you. I want to make some sort of move. I dont know what though. He gives me rides home and stuff and we also go out to eat after most practices. If anyone had any ideas...that'd be great.
i kno this probably isnt the answer you want to hear, but maybe it isnt such a good idea to make a move on him. for one thing his sister might be totally weirded out and that could risk the friendship you have with her. another thing is that even if you did end up getting together with this guy it might cause problems between him and his best friend. i highly recomend that you dont make him choose between you and his best friend, that usually doesnt end well. being on the swim team with him doesnt make things easy either, if things would ever end badly between you too you'd have a constant reminder of it and feel extremely uncomfortable. so i guess wut im trying to say is that you should seriously reconsider making a move on this guy in the first place. do you think its really worth it?

in response to your feedback, if you need any more advice or ud like to explain things more to me ur welcome to and ill try to help you out

Q: I was wondering if anyone can give me advice on activities to do with my 8 year old daughter this summer. All she seems interested in is watching TV or playing with her cousin, who is 10. We read together at night but usually she falls asleep right away. I've tried to get her interested in cooking, but I'm not much of a cook myself. Can anyone give me some ideas?
-movies
-mini golf
-bowling
-swimming
-shopping
-crafts (easy kits that you can do together)

Q: My boyfriend broke up with me because
he thought we'd be better off as best friends again.
We were best friends before.
I'm in hell right now I miss him so much.
I want to be back with him...I dont know what to do. Should I talk to him about it?
I'm a wreck.
im having the same situation right now, except opposite (im the girl, i broke up with my bf cause i wanted to be best friends like we used to be) and yes, my bf has tried to get back together with me. the break up has been hard for me too, but i think i made the right choice because i need to see what else is out there. he broke up with you so he must have a lot of good reasons for it too, so you should accept it and let things be. if he realizes he made a mistake he'll probably talk to you about it, but if not you should try to move on and eventually find someone even better.

Q: My best friends boyfriend is transferring schools and they are going to break up on the last day of school because they think its too hard to stay together.. she is crying sll the time and i really feel so sorry for her, but what should I tell her?

Thanks I rate 5s for everyone.
maybe try telling her that this is for the best, and the pain she's feeling now is probably nothing compared to the pain she'd be feeling every single day knowing the her bf is so far away and with all these new girls around him. break ups are always hard, and it will help her feel better that much quicker knowing that ur there to help/ support her when she needs it

Q: i'm a guy in hi school and need advice on what may seem to be an easy but hard question. i want to know how i can be a lovin person again. yeah i said again cause i used to be, with my friends family n everyone. but i dont think i am anymore, and people are tellin me that ive been changing. my parents good friends and gf have been telling me things too. i dont know what it was but what are some attitudes or ways of thinkin that i culd set up to help me cause just doing a few things here n there wont help too much for the long run. any ideas why i stopped im not a mean person or anything, and i do try. does this happen to alot of ppl and am i just over reacting?
well it could be that ur not happy about something in your life...something been bugging you lately? or it could be something as simple as lack of sleep or a lot of stress, try to relax and do things that you enjoy. i hope i helped, good luck!

Q: let me start out with i have a boyfriend...heres the story...my boyfrined an me have been brokenup an togther alot of times..an know we are back togteher but scence this is a new school year there are new boys...an there is this one boy anthony that i like an he likes me ..well i didnt find out that he liked me until i started to date my ex that is my boyfirned aagain....please help me should i dump my boyfrined an go out with anthony?????..HELP ME !!! i do like my boyfrined alot but i do like anthony!!!

-tasha
"advice is something you ask for when you already know the answer" i think this quote fits the situation. if you're having doubts about your boyfriend now, from what you said i think you'd be happier giving anthony a shot. you shouldnt lead ur boyfriend on if you like someone else more.

Q: hi my name is jess im 13 and in kindergarden i had this boyfriend i know a little young but he was my first true love and right after that school year endeed he moved to the town next to me now im in 7th grade and i havent seen him in 8 yrs. Now i cheerlead for his football team and i still havent gotten a chance to see him cause no game have started yet but we all have the same practices like times and days and places but but different areas of the building. If i dont see him or talk to him i really might have a breakdown. its been 8 years to long. how can i get a chance to see him or talk to him. What if he doesnt remember me?
plz hurry!!!!!
if its just a kindergarten crush, this guy could end up being totally different than you remember him, so don't have too high expectations. He probably grew up a lot. If you really want to see him, why don't you just wait for a game to start? Then after they win or lose, you could either congratulate him or say he did a great job anyway. You could be like, 'You look really familar, did you ever go to my school?' and he might remember you. If not, don't be too disappointed, it was a long time ago.

Q: Well okay see I have this friend, and like she finds something that's wrong to start a fight with me..i mean i like her as a friend but sometimes she gets me really mad, and i just can't take it anymore, we've been thru thousands of fights.. and she talks about me.But i dont care when ppl talk about me..but she sooo muchh..and some of the stuff she finds out i say isnt true, but she'll never believe me..she always brags about herself..and she called me last night and said someone said you said something about me and i was like who? but i dont talk about her...so i know its not true and she told me his name and i said i didnt say anything and she didnt believe me..idk what to do, sorry its long..help ?
maybe your close friends really arent trustworthy? they could have told or somehow been forced to tell, there are many ways it could have happened. but thats off where im trying to go with this. i think this friend is probably a waste of your time. who wants all that drama in their life? its your choice, but from reading that i would probably dump her. maybe you really do like hanging out with her, and want to stick it out as her friend. good luck with that, cause it seems like this girl really wants attention and she'd do practically anything to get it. hope i helped

Q: wow i've been asking so many questions about ipods.. lol anyway.. i have all my songs on limewire but how do i get them on my ipod? people are like use media player or real one player but how do i transfer my songs from limewire to one of them?
you dont need to use media player or real one player...at least not for mine...heres what you do:
go to itunes
go under file
select add file to library
and then just select songs that you want to add and it will automatically go onto ur list...then just update ur ipod
good luck

Q: Does anybody speak albainian as a first or second language? Is it a hard language to learn?

If not wat about Latin or French? I already no spanish and i want to get into a thrid languege.
well i dont know about albanian, but i've heard that latin is good because a lot of words from spanish/french/english are based off of it and if you havnt taken the SATS it helps on it...spanish and french are also similar because they're both derived from latin and if you want to speak a language that is current and that you can use if you travel through europe or canada or something than id say to pick that one...hope i helped

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