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moving on
k well my ex boyfriend who was my first boyfriend, and first true love and first kiss. we went out for 4 1/2 months... him and my best friend might go ou and for all i know they probably already are.... well i dont aprrove at all! and even though we brok up 5 months ago i still like him, because if it wasnt for his friend telling me that he would treat me better i would have never dumped him, and my ex.. lets call him... james, james even told me about 1 month ago that if i never dumped him we would still be together, and for him to say that he has to have some kind of feelings for me, and also asked him last week 1-10 how much he likes me and he sais 6.5 and to me, thats pretty high! and now i find out my best friend, the person i though who was soposed to have my back, support me, and be there for me, is gonna go out with my ex... but the difficult thing is, i kinda did it to her, see, her ex richard and her, we will call my best friend rachel. rachel and richard went out for only 3 weeks, they didnt share near as much as me and james did.. k well richard asked me ut durring the summer and i never told him yes, and i never told him no.. he just assumed we were going out, but i never liked him... and my friend rachel knows that.... and i have told her over and over that i still like james... and she doesnt give a rip.. shes gonna go out with him, and to me it just sems like she isnt hearing me when i tell her she is risking our friendship for a boy who will eventualy break her heart and when he does whos gonna be there for her? not me, because i warned her... i just want to know.. and i making tooo big of deal about this, and what shoud i do?
if it helps im 15/f.... and i told my friend rachel i would do anything to be with him... and yet she still goes and does this to me... i mean he was there through think and thin, he was there when i needed him, when my grandpa got cancer, when my uncle died... hes been there.. and even after the breakup he has been the best of friend and he listens when i tell him stuff.. hes amazng!!!
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you're definately not making a big deal out of it! but i have to say that even though it was partly your friend rachels fault for going out with him, would james go out with her if he still has feelings for you? i know he's ur first love and it hurts to let go, ive been there trust be, but maybe you should just let what happens happen and try to let go. if things are meant to be they'll work out. besides, you should be mad at james too for going out with your best friend.
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You're not making a big deal out of this. You really like a guy and your best friend is going after him, and it hurts, alot, probably. Not just the fact your guy might get taken, but because you probably feel your best friend went behind your back, didn't think of YOUR feelings and everything.
What I would do is just talk to "James" about it. I mean, since your best friend already tried to go after him, no shame in yourself doing so. But, I've got to say, it seems to me this guy is going to destroy your and "Rachel"s friendship together wether you go for him or not. But talk to "James" about it and let him know what you're feeling and how you feel about him still, and see what he says back. And just talk and see if there's a possible relationship again.
Maybe you can even try talking to "Rachel" about it. Let her know that you're not comfortable with them two dating yet, because you still sort of have feelings for "James". And just ask her if she can just wait until your either comfortable with it, or if neither of you go after him because you're afraid it might effect the friendship you and "Rachel" have. If she was a real friend, she'd consider your feelings and at least WAIT till your comfortable with the whole situation.
But in all seriousness here..wether "Rachel" and "James" date or not, I would just stay good friends with them both. Whenever two good friends like the same guy, it can never end good. The friendship usually ends after fighting for one guy. I mean, he can still be just as amazing as a best friend, so why not just have him as one? That way, you can also be friends with Rachel too, and everyone's fine. I mean, of course you're always going to like your first love, cause you had alot of firsts with him, and really good memories. But unless you want to ruin friendships, then I suggest just focusing on living life and try and move on as best as you can. I hope I helped. <3
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Okay .. i kno how you feel on this. It happen to me. Talk to "James" about this and tell him how you feel. I mean you two seem to be open with each other so it couldnt hurt anymore. When it happen to me i flat out told my Friend Nichole that i didnt want her with him and yet she was still going for him. but when i talked to Corey about it he told me he wouldnt date her unless i felt comfertable about the whole thing. I'm guessing James would be the same. And your not making this a big deal. Its life it happens. It sucks but i promise you there is someone else out there for you. so if it comes down to James and Rachel dating stay friends with them both. as much as it hurts you dont want to loose good friends. altho Rachel doesnt seem to be a good friend but James does. Oh yeah and your always gonna have feeling for him. you just have to some how get over that and move on to someone else.
Hope i helped atleast a lil.
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