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say I like this guy, and I do, I think he likes me too. I mean, he sends all the right signals and we flirt a ton. But Im friends with his younger sister, his best friend hooked up with me awhile ago, and we are on the same swim team, so theres a few obstacles ffor you. I want to make some sort of move. I dont know what though. He gives me rides home and stuff and we also go out to eat after most practices. If anyone had any ideas...that'd be great.
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Mmy answer to this is not thast different. All you have to be is sure that its allok and that nothing will come back and haunt you like ex's and old friends etc.
With all this outa the way then i think the best way is to just to sit him down and tell him how you feel and that you would like to try and see if you two could work together. If he says yes then great. If not then ask him why noit and if he cant give you a good reason then ask him to at least give you a try.
Just remember to make sure that everythin is as rosy as you feel. I mean that he likes you as well as you liker him.
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Anthony
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this is a very common situation that comes up, but most people dont handle it the right way. the wrong way would be to go forward with your relationship with him until however far it goes and have your friend(his sister) find out after something happens. this generally leads to ample amounts of fighting and drama and can cost you your friendship and relationship with the guy.(this is generally how alot of people handle this. not too smart.)
The right thing to do would be to talk to your friend and let her know how you feel about her brother BEFORE you make a move on him. Also Id do a little snooping and check to see if he really DOES like you, because nothing could be more embarassing than voicing your feelings to him (verbally or physically) and having him react with "WOAH!! Your my sister's friend, and your like MY little sister!" or something along those lines... But anyways, definatley talk with your friend and clear the air with her, get her feelings on the whole thing and try and make things as civil as possible. try and keep a common ground that will alow you to keep the friendship with her and your relationship with her brother all on good terms and moving forward in the right direction. If she says "No, Im not comfortable with you dating my brother" then you HAVE to respect that and not move in on her brother. It may not be what you want to do but you will earn her trust and respect by doing so; which in any case is much more important. in the off chance she might get over being weirded out, she just might give you permission to date her brother BECAUSE you respected her wishes and she was able to trust you.
The main focus here is your friend. "Romance may come and go, but friendship is forever." Keep the relationship with your friend healthy and worry about her brother second. There are plenty of fish in the sea, passing up one guy wont kill you, especially at this age.
I hope it all works out for the best and your friend is comfortable, or is willing to cope with you being involved with her brother. Just remember your relationship with her is more important that your feelings for her brother.
-Blade-
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continue doing what you doing make him feel what your fellin by doin sey things and start flirting with him.ask his sister liltle things like how many girls have he been goin out with.then after some time not too fast tell him what you are fellin
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i am gonna try to answer this as best as i can besides the fact that its late and i wrote some crappy lyrics. give it some time. if he likes you then he will definately come after you if he doesnt than it will make your job easier because that means you dont have to put yourself out there to be let down.
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i kno this probably isnt the answer you want to hear, but maybe it isnt such a good idea to make a move on him. for one thing his sister might be totally weirded out and that could risk the friendship you have with her. another thing is that even if you did end up getting together with this guy it might cause problems between him and his best friend. i highly recomend that you dont make him choose between you and his best friend, that usually doesnt end well. being on the swim team with him doesnt make things easy either, if things would ever end badly between you too you'd have a constant reminder of it and feel extremely uncomfortable. so i guess wut im trying to say is that you should seriously reconsider making a move on this guy in the first place. do you think its really worth it?
in response to your feedback, if you need any more advice or ud like to explain things more to me ur welcome to and ill try to help you out
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well i dont know if you should make the first move usually the guy likes to make the move but if you want to know if he really likes you put your hand around him when hes driving or look at him and gaze and he will probably say "What?" and then you can say in a cute voice "Nothing" something along those lines
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