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ok my BEST guy friend might like me. i'm not sure if he does because his close friend-who is also my close friend-says that he probably does like me.
the reason i don't think he does or that i'm like, pessimistic about it is because we are like, so close as friends that i don't think that we would be anything different.
but the reason why i think he might is because: 1) his/my friend thinks so 2) he called me randomly just to talk (and he usually doesn't do that) 3) he said (while on the phone) 'oh i see ------- (his friend) he's gonna ask me who i'm on the phone with and i'm gonna say a hot girl...cuz its true.' 4) after he said this (and he said it like--seriously) i was like oh i'm sure (me=no self esteem...so i DON'T take compliments well) and he was like 'i love you' and i didn't hear him so i was like what? and he was like 'i love you!'
can you tell me what he might be thinking or feeling...thanx in advance
p.s. sorry for the length
He is definitly into you. From one pessimist to another, there is no real evidence that he doesn't. Just cuz you guys r rly tight doesn't mean he doesnt like you as a gf, in fact, you being his best friend thats a girl probably made him like you. In fact, my best friend just started going out with her best guy friend who she's known forever, but she didn't think he liked her like that, but he did. And he said he loved you, and didnt sound like he was joking. And he thinks your hot, which means he likes you.
Is 13 old enough to wear makeup? I mean like light makeup, not really heavy makeup cuz I'm 13 and I want to, but I'm not sure if it would look weird on a 13-year-old?
Yes, but be careful what u wear. Too much eyeliner and stuff can make your eyes look like their dead. Trust me. Eye shadow's good, and lip gloss and blush, if you want. Kepp it light though.
i really really really want a thong but my mom says no and im afraid ill get caught if i get one and i live in a trailor cause my hosue burned down and i have no were ti hid it what should i do?
thongy conffused!
I dont know... If you really don't have anywhere to hide it (are you sure there's absolutely nowhere?try hidding papers places where you might hide it, and see if she finds them) then you could either risk getting caught, or just wait untill she changes her mind or untill you move out of the trailer, if/when you do. Sorry I can't be more helpful!
Alright well me and this kid have gone out twice fer about 2 months each tyme and we kinda broke up fer a month and we both went out with different people! so then he asked me to hang out with him and we hung out all this week and it kinda leaded to us having sex.. but i didnt think it was a big deal becasue he always tells me he loves me and stuff but everytime were together his ex-girlfriend calls him and it really makes me mad and then he kinda tells everyone were just friends but then he tells me were in love but i dunno what to do?
It sounds like he's using you. Why else would he tell everyone you're "just friends"? If you think he just doesn't want to be open about it, ask him about it, or just go out with him in public so people realize ur together. But if he cant tell everyone your his gf, then something is up.
Ok so I have a good amount of friends and everything... but I am a bit shy. I just know I'd have WAY more friends if I was more outgoing. It's just really hard for me. Can I have advice on how to become more outgoing... and what I should do? Thanks.
-Hopeful
You have to be able to say what you are thinking, without hurting anyine's feelings. Be able to joke about anything too. If someone is talking, listen to them, but when they're done, jump in and start talking yourself. People who sit back and just listen aren't usually outgoing. Smile and talk alot, but still be yourself. Like, if you dont have something to say, you dont always have to say something. You just need to be able to joke around with people, and get along with everyone, not just your friends. It may take some work, its not as easy as it seems. Hope it works out!
well im 15 and i dated this guy about a year ago and we broke up cuz he cheated on me. well not physically but he talked to sum girl over the phone told her he loved her and mad panns to hook up with her..while we were going out.(which never actually happened)..well its been about a year...we stayed friends but not very close..and he wants to go bac out...should i try again or let him go?..he broke my heart once do u think he wll do it again? is he telling th truth that he really care...or does he just want sex? why did he wit so long?...theres so much that i dont understand..help plez
It seems to me that he doesn't seem very trustworthy. If he was gonna cheat on you before, there's no gaurantee he wont do it again. An he can say he didn't mean wat he said to the other girl before, but then what he's saying now he might not mean. If that makes any sense. If you think you can trust him, and want to try it, it's your choice, because you know him better than i do. But to me it sounds like he's using you. I hope everything works out.
ok, i have a really good friend of another race that i had no doubt at all was gay. he was always checking out other guys and stuff so of course..duh, i thot he way gay. so we were really good friends and then all of a sudden he told me the DAY BEFORE april fools that he had had a really bad crush on me since the beguinning of last year. k, it TOTALLY threw me by suprise b/c i thot he was GAY!! so ne ways i though he was joking cos the next day was april fools but he wasn't kidding at all!!! so he kept stalking me and wouldn't leave me alone. he would always be like "have you though about it yet, you're taking FOREVER!!" but my mom just got home from the hospital from a really stressful and long-recovery surgery and she JUST now started walking. so i've been distracted obviously with my mom. so ne ways i was doing this filming project for school and he was stalking me the entire time. we were filming and he'd just be standing there looking around doing nothing, watching what we were doing when we all asked him to leave like 30 minutes ago, but he wouldn't leave. so finally we finished the project and i needed to change out of this crazy costume i was in so i told him "hey, i need to change into my regular clothes." an he just tood there starring at me, then he goes "well then?" like i was ACCTUALLY going to do it in front of him! so i told him he needed to go outside and he was all pissy about it. so then while i was changing i saw him STARRING AT ME THROUGH THE WINDOW WHILE I WAS CHANGING MY TOP!! oh my gosh it was so horrible! i felt so violated! and he's still been stalking me and saying "hey, how's your day?" to me in the hallway like we're going out even though it should be pretty clear to him that we're NOT!! so how do i tell this guy to get lost and leave me alone? i don't want to hurt his feelings, but then again he was starring at me while i was changing so i kind of do. ne suggestions? what should i say? i rate high
What you could do is, the next time he asks you about it just be like, yeah, i dont think we should go out. If he asks why, just say he's been invading your privavcy, and you need some space, and that you dont like him like that. I'm soo sorry for what happened, it sounds terrible! I hope you can work it out!
My friend Alexa and I wer'e haveing a fight over two Actors on TV and we shared our opinions. but Alexa took mine too seriously and now she won't talk to me. So i said our friendship's over, and she won't WONT reply to me!!!!!!!!!!!! What should I do?
You said she took yours too seriously, but you took her reaction a little too seriously too if you broke your friendship over two actors. Send her a card saying I'm sorry, we shouldn't be fighting over something so silly, etc... She'll probably think it's really sweet to send her a card, even if u see her everyday. If that doesn't work, talk to her through mutal friends. I fight with my friends all the time. If she is really your friend, she shouldn't care about some silly aruement over two actors on TV. Hope I helped.
ok, this is weird, i know, but i am going out with this guy who i really like and we just started going out like 3 days ago and i only see him in the halls because he's a grade younger than me. should I hug him first or let HIM hug me... or wave to him.. ugh, i just don't want to embarress myself.. please help!
~morgan
Smile and wave first, but you dont have to hug if you dont feel comfortable. Some ppl only show affection in private. I'd just stick to saying hey and waving for now.
okay. me and one of my Ex's broke up 7 months ago! And now,, one of my friends asked him if he still likes me, and he said "well....it was b'cuz of baseball...." (that he broke up w/ me)And never really answered her question.
Since then, hes been staring at me in the halls. And flirting w/ me. Just not talking to me.
Do he still have feeling for me or what?
it really confused!!!HELP
It sounds like he does. But do you still like him? If baseball is over, or w/e it was you guys broke up over, you might get back together if you wanted.
my best friend has been ahving a lot of probelems wit her aunt and she has a problem wit her bf he really doesnt love her . i have tryed tellin her but she dont listen he look her in the eyes today and told her he doesnt want to break up wit her and was smiling the whole time.he reall doesnt he ahs told everyone and we try telling her but doesnt want to believe it even though he has been giving her signs like leavin her all alone and ignoring her. they have been togetehr 4 a month and eh wont break up wit her bc he doesnt have the guts. what should i do i cant just stand here and watch my friend suffer like this!! plz help!
Talk to the boyfriend, and tell him if he's going to keep treating your friend like that then he might as well break up with her because he's being a jerk. If he wont listen, talk to your friend again, and try to get her to see how he's been treating her. She might need to talk and thats why she's in denial about him. I hope it all works out.
I'm 14/f~
I still dont have a 8th grade graduation dress and I dont know any good stores to go to I live in WI in the Milwaukee area and I dont know where to go!! does anyone have any good suggestions!??! HELP PLEASE!! I rate high! thx~
I dont know what kind of stores r near you, or your budget, but you can always order online from stores. They can usually ship fast too, if you need it. If not, check out a mall, or see if you can go to the next city to look. I hope I could help!
I have a Maths exam tomorrow (nothing major but it does affect what group I will be put in next year and I don't wanna move away from my mates). I've been revising a (very) little through the week and kinda a lot today. I still have a lot to get through now and I'm starting to panic a bit. I have enough trouble concentrating as it is and when I panic I get even worse, because although I'll be concentrating I just won't take it in. Any tips to keep me on track and make what I'm reading through/working through examples of sink in? It's a test in Algebra if that helps.
xxx
Ugh. I HATED algebra! Concentration is the key though. You have to sit yourself down with no distractions, no TV, no music, no friends, no crazy sisters like I have, and actually put your mind into the work. I know it sounds stupid, but it works. Give yourself examples, like use different colored skittles for unknown numbers like x and y. I hope this could help, Algebra was my worst subject! Have fun.
Im on my period right now and i am so angry for some reason and i get pissed off so easily right now and i dont know why? and today this girl told me something and i ended up cussing her out and every one thought i was gonna hit her in the face so please tell me how i can be nicer why im pmsing
try aromatherapy, or like those squishy balls you can buy at drugstores that are stress balls that you squeeze
Ok well I was the one who asked the question about my boyfriend got shot and is now in a coma and might die! Well he did die! I slit my wrist one night I cry my self to sleep every night And I hate my life I used to be a prep but now I have gone goth I guess skipping classes and crying! I went to his funerl and saw him in his casket I just broke down right then and there I fell down on the ground and cried I refused to get up for about an hour and I went bye him like you all said and spent his last hours alive with him but it wasnt good enough he still died. I left the funeral and just went to his house (his parents were at the funeral) and went in his room and cried I swear I smelled him and saw him for 2sec then I just cried! What will I do?
I have to say i don't know how you must feel. I know you're feeling terrible, but even the other people who have gome through it with you haven't been hurt as much, becasue they weren't his gf. But I can imagine. A guy at my school, Bryson, just died a week ago. He ran into a fence in a motocross race and was killed instantly. I know you feel terrible, and don't think that you can move on. You have to. Do you think this is what he would've wanted? I know, I know, it's what they always say, like in those cheesey tv shows, but it's true. If he was watching you right now, he wouldn't want you living like that. He wouldn't want you cutting yourself and skipping classes. I mean, your shouldn't act like his death never happened, but maybe it happened for a reason. Maybe it was to show you how, no matter what life throws at you, you have to get back up and fight. Live life the way you want to, do everything you've ever wanted to do in life, becasue you don't know how much time you have left. Talk to a therapist, or your friends, or some one who went throught the tradgedy too. It's good to remember him. Think of all the time you DID get to spend with him, and dont think about all the time you have to spend without him. Life is going to go on, whether or not you are ready for it. You have to get back in the game, as they say, and keep on living, becasue your bf would not have wanted you to turn into this. He of all people would know how short life can be, and would want to make sure that for however much time you have left, you make it good. I'm terribly sorry about your loss, words cannot express how tragic that is, but you can't bring him back. I'm sorry. If you need more help, im me (for aim) at inflamedllama.
Tonight I'm going with a few friends to see a scary movie. My boyfriend is going to try to come behind his parents back to go with me. This one guy that I know who really really likes me is also going, and I kinda like him. What should I do because I'd rather cuddle with my guy friend than my boyfriend. Help!!
If you'd rather be cuddling your guy friend, then you should dump you bf, because your guy friend already really really likes you, and apparently you like him back.
does anyone know any good quote websites? I need some for my profile. I tried to search for some sites on google but they wherent very good. Thanks for the help ahead of time...
go here: www.poems-and-quotes.com I'm giving you the place where i got all my awesome quotes from, before i deleted them. They add more ones all the time too. Hope you get some good ones!
~Some people are like slinkies, not really good for anything, but you cant but smile when you see them fall down the stairs! (I love that quote)
ok, so this is the deal..i met this wonderful guy this summer, but he has a GF. Anyway, we spent 6 weeks together and we made out, held hand and all that (IT WAS WONDERFUL!) please dont tell me what i did was wrong, i know it was but i dont care cuz i love him, i really do. And he's told me that he loves me too. We made a deal yesterday (he's been with his GF for about 2 years, and he says he loves her too) he said, he doesnt want to cheat on her anymore cuz he loves her but if the feeling is right-something could happen between us this summer. And i was like: what do you mean? and he asnwered: well, im gonna have my place all to my self this summer soo..who knows what could happen between us!? ;) anyway, i live in japan and he lives in america so we only see eachother during the summer. Hmm, id ont really know what my question is..im just so cofused..i love him so much, and i miss him..i really dont give a damn about his GF (i know i sound like an evil person, but i really really really love him, i cant help i.)Is there anything i can do to get over him? should i even try to get over him? should i sleep with him? (he's 18 and im 14) what's gonna happen between us? ( sorry, i know you cant answer that question) he's just so amazing i dont know what to do. Alot of guys like me here in japan, but i dont like anyone of them im just soo stuck on joshua.
Help! please?- mariana
First off, you should not sleep with him, because he wont break up with his gf for you, so he'd only be using you. Secondly, there is a four year age difference. Do you really think you can keep your realtiopnship together when he's going to be four years ahead of you? Thirdly, it's not like you see him all that much. He lives on a whole different continent. Not to sound mean, but for all you know, if he does ever break up with his gf for you, he could still be seeing someone behind your back, and you wouldn't know it. No offense, because i would hope that doesn't happen to you, but he sounds kinda like thats what he would do, because he wants to sleep with you, but wont break up with his gf. It just takes time to get over some one. I don't know what you do in Japan, but just keep yourself busy, dont give yourself time to think about him.
I hope I helped and that you meet somebody better in Japan! :)
my friend is depressed. she always tells me her problems and itold her to get therapy bcuz it helps and ive been through it. but after i tell her this she always says "see thats why i cant count on you. you never help me with my problems" she always makes me feel so guilty. How can i help her?
It depends on what kind of problems she's going through. If it's problems at home, i dont know if there's really anything you can do for her. If it's problems with like a bf or just friends, you can talk to them for her or something like that. But you can't solve everything for her, and she's not being a good friend if she's depending on you to solve all her problems for her (i don't know if that is what she's doing or not though). She probably just needs somebody to talk to.
okay, i had this ex named bradin about a yr ago and we both liked each other but i dumped him for another guy that i went out with. now im startin to like bradin again because we've been talking again. he says he likes me too but has a girlfriend or "has a girl in mind".. he always flirts with me, saying he wishes it was me and everything just doing normal flirting stuff but wont break up with her because he says hes been waiting for her for a long time. whenever i ask him if i have a chance or whatever he says maybe and then when i ask him if theres any point to liking him he says yes but he doesnt know what. i know he has been waiting for this girl but she says that they arent going out but they both like each other. i really want to go out with him but i dont know what i should do or say to him or act around him or even if i should stop liking him. i dont want to stop liking him. he really does act like he likes me and everything but doesnt want to cheat on his "girlfriend"
what should i do!
If he really liked you, he would go out with u, cuz you said they weren't actually going out. Find some one else, and if that doesn't work, maybe by then he'll get the picture. Maybe the emotions youre feeling is just becoming friends with him again, you might not actually be liking him.