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Outgoing
Ok so I have a good amount of friends and everything... but I am a bit shy. I just know I'd have WAY more friends if I was more outgoing. It's just really hard for me. Can I have advice on how to become more outgoing... and what I should do? Thanks.
-Hopeful
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well, i'm pretty outgoing myself, but i wasn't always that way. but the thing is that whole "be yourself" thing really works! i can be a little annoying sometimes, but that's because i'm being myself. also, learn to laugh at yourse;f, and people might think it's a little weird, but they'll later think "she's cool!" i had the most embarrassing thing happen to me last week, i (shhhhhhhh....slipped...), but even though it kind of hurt, and everyone was laughing at me, i started laughing too! i'm probably dumb, but if i started crying or something, imagine how much worse it could've been! laugh more! and make others laugh with you! even if you think something is funny when no one else think so, just laugh! if you have an opinion that's kind of weird, but you believe others should see it that way too, then say it out loud! if you've heard a funny joke, but don't want to share it, why not? if you fee like just saying hi to a really cute guy, go for it! it's like being on a rollercoaster (i hope you've been on one, otherwise my example's screwed!). the first time you keep thinking "what if i fall? what if i get shocked what if i die what if what if what if......" but once you've gone on it you think "it's just a ride! come on!" if you want something, go for it! just think to yourself, "just do it!!! what the worst that could happen?" i know, it sound cliche'd and you don't think it's just that simple, but it is! just do it just do it just do it! once i was on xxsammiwammi's advice column, and on the side it says "live life like there's no tomorrow" and you really should do it. if you don't do something because you're too shy to do it, you'll keep thinking up even more what-if's. i'm not saying start out with the daredevil thing, but with small simple steps at a time. i hoipe i helped!!! now go play truth or dare...and pick dare!! *MaRi*
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Set a goal for yourself and stick to it.
Say today I am going to talk to 'name'. Then do it. Even if you only say hi. The next day add something more. Until you can talk with them withouot a problem. Then move on to someone or something else. Hope it works for you. :)
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Jus dont ever pay attention to people and do what you want when you want to..and dont care what epople think.. maybe its easier said then done.. but take it slow jus start doin some crazy fun outgoing stuff time after time..and slow.. much luv dez x0x0
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you can join clubs after school like your favorite sport club, art, music, whatever you want! you`ll meet lots of different people. just be yourself and then you`ll have a lot more friends! ♥
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To become more out going you have to be happy with your self and the way you look and are. Try looking at your self and see goods things about you, then you'll feel much better and you will be able to get out there and show people who you are.
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To become more outgoing, means being more comfortable with yourself.
don't force yourself to do something you don't feel is right. Are you sure you can handle the responsibilites that come with outgoingness? Sometimes, having lots of friends who expect you to be outgoing can be a hassle, it can mean laughing at your self and doing the randomest things.
If you EVER feel way over your head, don't continue. You want to be comfortable. If you're looking for better and more friends. GET ONE person to laugh, and then sit with that one person at lunch. Normally if you pick a person that has a "group" already, you'll meet all of them, and become a minion ;) good luck hun =D we're all rooting for ya!
*Skittles*
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Last time, I have the same case like you. I'm not that outgoing with others but as time pass by, I realized I became more outgoing. Just ask your friends for feedbacks about you and why they became your friends since they know you more than we know you. Then apply their advices. Ok.?
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You have to be able to say what you are thinking, without hurting anyine's feelings. Be able to joke about anything too. If someone is talking, listen to them, but when they're done, jump in and start talking yourself. People who sit back and just listen aren't usually outgoing. Smile and talk alot, but still be yourself. Like, if you dont have something to say, you dont always have to say something. You just need to be able to joke around with people, and get along with everyone, not just your friends. It may take some work, its not as easy as it seems. Hope it works out!
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do wierd spontaneous shit
-hitler
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Just dont think about what other people are going to think of you! Say what comes in your head and act like everyone is your friend, even if they're super annoying. If what you say is really retarded it's fine people will like you for making them laugh, if what you say is smart then people will like you for knowing whats going on. you get where im going? no matter what you'll be fine, and you already have friends that know the real you so you have absalutley nothing to loose. have fun!
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