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rasi -- ok long situation. i went out with this guy off and on for 2 or 3 months. i kept being a bitch and i kept getting more and more chances. i fell in love with him. the whole time;; i was pretty real with my feelings but i didnt tell him everything and i wasnt completely real with him. well he knows that now and isnt quite sure about giving me another chance. he says he doesnt have any reason to believe me this time because i never proved that i changed in the past... but i really need a last chance. i really wanna be with him. what do you think i should do? he said he still likes me.. he just didnt like my actions before.. and the fact that i couldnt tell him everything i felt..

Tell him how you feel. Tell him you want one last chance to prove to him that you really want to be with him. Don't hide your emotions from him, he probably wants you to tell him everything. Try to change your actions a little too so you won't be a bitch to him. Maybe he'll give you another chance then. ♥

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rasi -- i fell i love with my exboyfriend. and apparently i was his first love. anyway.. we broke up cuz i basically treated him like shit. but he seemed to move on so fast. and he's going out with this girl, and they've been together for like a month.. and ive tried to be ok with it. i mean i want him to be happy. but it still hurts when i see them together... like it hurts bad... what do i do

Aww, I'm really sorry, but there's not really much you can do. Only time will help you get over him. Try liking another guy && keep your mind off your x. Hang out with your friends a lot, go shopping, do whatever you like. I know it'll be hard for a while but you'll get over him. Sorry I couldn't help much. [[ ♥ ]] Rasi

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Well Rasi... I have this friend. And we use to be really close friends, but now I feel that we r driffting apart. I was wondering if u think I should still be her friend, only because of the way she is behaving around me... Just today, she told me that I wasn't any fun anymore, and that I needed to get off my medication, because it was changing my peronality. And I invited her someonewhere, but she won't go, just because she doesn't like some people... and I even asked her if she would go, just for me, because it would mean alot and still.. she said no. Her response was " your not important enough" I don't know if that's a joke or not... well sry to bore yuo.. I'M DONE! It took me weeks to think of this, *laugh*...

from: you know who...
p.s. THIS REALLY DID HAPPEN.. I think I know the answer anyway to this question, i would just like to know other people's opinions.

Ask her if it was a joke or not. If she was kidding then forget about it, but if she was serious then forget her. If one of my friends told me I wasn't fun anymore or wouldn't go anywhere with me because of some people she didn't like then I wouldn't wanna be her friend anyway. [[ ♥ ]] Rasi

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rasi -
ive been friends with this girl for like the last year. shes really cool to hang out with and we always have a lot of fun. and like whenever she has a problem, im always there for her. i dont mean for that to sound conceited... but i am. but whenever im in tears or i just need to talk, i go to her... and she changes the subject to her right away. well for the past year ive just been like well whatever.. cuz im used to keeping my feelings inside.. but like.. recently we had this huge fight (if i give any details.. you'll know who this is) and she got mad at me. well...she recently forgave me.. and yeah i guess thats good, but like i dont know if i should be hanging out with her anymore. all my other friends keep telling me that shes such a bad friend to me and all this stuff. but like then again, for the past year, ive only been hanging out with her. so yeah i have friends at school but i dont hang out with any of them cuz im always with her... what do i do...

HEY THERE -- ASK HER WHY D0ESN`T SHE HELP YOU LIKE YOU HELP HER. IF SHE DENYS IT THEN TELL HER WHAT YOU TOLD ME ABOUT HOW WHENEVER SHE HAS A PROBLEM YOU HELP HER && WHENEVER YOU HAVE A PROBLEM YOU GO TO HER && SHE ONLY TALKS ABOUT HERSELF. DON`T HOLD YOUR FEELINGS IN, TELL HER XACTLY WHAT`S ON YOUR MIND. I USED TO DO HOLD MY FEELINGS IN BEFORE && ALL IT DID IN THE END WAS MAKE ME CRY. IF YOU LET YOUR FEELINGS OUT, YOU`LL FEEL GOOD. IF SHE KEEPS TALKING ABOUT HERSELF WHEN YOU HAVE A PROBLEM && GO TO HER && SHE DOESN`T CHANGE HOW SHE ACTS A LITTLE FOR YOU THEN SHE`S NOT REALLY A GOOD FRIEND. HANG OUT WITH YOUR NEW FRIENDS. DON`T JUST KEEP HANGIN AROUND YOUR ONE FRIEND CUZ THERE`S TONS OF PEOPLE OUT THERE && A LOT OF THEM WOULD PROBABLY WANNA BE YOUR FRIEND. I`M NOT SAYIN NOT TO DITCH YOUR ONE FRIEND BUT HANG OUT WITH NEW PEOPLE. GOOD LUCK BABE [[ ♥ ]] RASI

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How long into a relationship would you wait to kiss [peck & make out] with your boyfriend/girlfriend? Thanks.

iT DEPENDS 0N H0W CL0SE Y0U ARE iN Y0UR RELATi0NSHiP. JUST D0 iT WHENEVER Y0U FEEL READY F0R iT. i WAiT LiKE 2-3 WEEKS CUZ i D0N`T WANNA RUSH ANYTHiNG [[ ♥ ]]

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okay. i want to start a band. i'm punk..but i'm afraid no one will take us seriuosly because we're girls....will we b taken seriously? and MAYBE be able to become famous....

JUST BECAUSE Y0UR GiRLS D0ESN`T MEAN PE0PLE W0N`T TAKE Y0U SERI0USLY. THERE`S A C0UPLE BANDS WiTH JUST GiRLS iN iT && THEY`RE FAM0US. G00D LUCK WiTH Y0UR BAND [[ ♥ ]]

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I have a girlfriend and shes a huge bitch she abuses me and throws video games at me and screams at my TV, sometimes I think she's crazy and other times I think shes so weird lol jk but I have a girlfriend whos so beautiful so nice and everything I could ask for and I have a question. Will you be with me forever Rasi?

LMA0 i 0NLY YELL AT Y0UR TV CUZ Y0U'RE BEATiN ME AT ALL THE ViDE0 GAMES L0SER! Y0U'RE HANDS0ME KEViN && i L0VE Y0U S0 MUCH. Y0U'RE EVERYTHiNG i C0ULD ASK F0R && i W0ULDN'T MiND BEiNG WiTH Y0U F0REVER. i L0VE Y0U [[ ♥ ]] RASi

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I have pretty long hair...when I hold my arms to my side, my hair comes to about an inch above my elbow. I'd like to get it layered, but I'm not sure...I have a round face, so I'd look bad with short layers, but a medium cut might be nice...but then again, I don't really want to part with my hair. It's not thin, but not abnormaly thick, either. Any ideas of new styles? It's gotta look good, too...because I'd like to ask this guy out, and new hair will make me confindent ;)

Thanks for reading; please answer with any ideas.

i'D GET iT CUT MEDiUM LENGTH WiTH L0NG LAYERS. THAT'S WHAT i HAVE && i L0VE iT //♥

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im almost 14 years old and i weigh 130ish n im almost 5'6, i have stretch marks all over my thighs , and on my ass, i get looked at weird all the time, am i over weight?is there something wrong with me, last year i got called fat like 500 times plzz help me i rate high, 13-fm
&heartsl; Michaele ♥

N0, Y0U'RE N0T 0VER WEiGHT. Y0U'RE N0RMAL WEiGHT. Y0U PR0BABLY 0NLY HAVE STRETCH MARKS BECAUSE Y0U ATE A L0T AT 0NE TiME WHiCH MADE Y0UR SKiN STRETCH && THAT'S WHAT MADE Y0U GET THEM. L0TS 0F SKiNNY//AVERAGE WEiGHT PE0PLE HAVE STRETCH MARKS S0 Y0U HAVE N0THiN T0 W0RRY AB0UT //♥

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HEY !
0N AiM..H0W D0 Y0U GET ALL THE KUTE CUSTUM C0LORS? LiKE i SEE L0TS OF PEOPLE WITH FONTS I DONT HAVE ON MY C0MPUUTER?? WHATS UUP WITH THAT?

HEY! i GET THE C0L0RS FR0M MY 0THER FRiEND'S PR0FiLES. i'M SURE Y0U CAN GET THEM FR0M A WEBSiTE BUT i DUNN0 WHERE! S0ME PE0PLE HAVE DiFFERENT F0NTS CUZ ALL C0MPUTERS ARE DiFFERENT && THEY HAVE F0NTS THAT S0ME C0MPUTERS D0N'T HAVE! L0VE Y0U! //♥ RASi

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HEY ! i WAS W0NDERiNG. I JUST TURNED 14. && i WEiGH 90 P0UNDS. IS THAT LiKE AVERAGE? JW. THANKS!

HEY! 0MG Y0U`RE LiKE S0 SKiNNY!! L0L! N0T AVERAGE AT ALL. L0VE Y0U! //♥ RASi

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Hi. I was wondering...are those names that yours is and your friends (from Advicenators) have just nicknames or your actual names? Also, is Hollister you favorite store because I like it too. Thanks!

D0 Y0U MEAN BY MY NAME RASi? iF THAT'S WHAT Y0U MEAN, iT iS MY NiCK NAME. MY REAL NAME'S ALEXANDRA BUT EVERY0NE CALLS ME RASI & i D0N'T KN0W WHY L0L BUT MY FRiENDS SPELL THEiR NAME DiFFERTLY 0N HERE. YES H0LLiSTER iS MY FAV0RiTE ST0RE! i L0VE iT! //♥

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have you ever gone out with soemone because of there heart and your friends get all amd at you becaus he isnt hott and they have a hotter boy friend and make fun of yours? well i dont no wat to say or do!!!

TELL THEM T0 SHUT UP! H0W W0ULD THEY LiKE iT iF A GUY WAS JUDGiNG THEM LiKE THAT? AT LEAST Y0U`RE A G00D PERS0N & N0T SHALL0W LiKE THEM. //♥

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okay, well ive known this kid nick for about 4 months now, and we like eachother alot. but his best friend john keeps getting in the way, making up these incredibly stupid lies, and trying to get me and nick mad at eachother. i want to be friends with both of them, and sometimes i dont know who to belive. they both sound so sincere, i love nick, and i want john as a friend still... any advice?? please say yes =(

TELL J0HN T0 ST0P. TELL NiCK T0 TELL J0HN T0 ST0P T00, HE SH0ULD LiSTEN SiNCE HE LiKES Y0U. i KN0W Y0U WANNA BE NiCE & BE FRiENDS WiTH J0HN & EVERYTHiNG BUT i D0N'T THiNK Y0U SH0ULD BE FRiENDS WiTH HiM iF HE KEEPS TRYiN T0 KEEP Y0U & NiCK APART CUZ N0 FRiEND D0ES THAT //♥

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a few questions here...

im not fat by all means...just curious

whats a normal weight for girl that is 5'10?

and how can i tone up my stomach other than sit ups and crunches, its not flabby or anything but i guess anyone can use a tone up

i have really muscular legs but when i wear a skirt or something the top part of my thighes rub together and it gets really irritated and it hurts, how can i keep them from rubbing together and is that normal?

thanks a zillion xO

i THiNK BETWEEN 140-160 iS A G00D WEiGHT RANGE F0R S0ME0NE Y0UR HEiGHT. iF Y0U G0 T0 THiS SiTE http://www.toneteen.com/pages/fitness.htm iT SH0WS H0W Y0U CAN T0NE Y0UR ST0MACH iN DiFFERENT EXERCiSES //♥

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alright so iv been dating this guy for almost 9 months now and me and him broke up about 15 times and the last time we broke up was bc he lied to me about stuff he did with a girl (back at the pond he kissed her and she touched his dick n all this) and he lied about it he swore on my life that nothing happened and he swore on our relationship. . . and i believed him of course then yesterday his cousin told me the truth . . . and i asked him about and he addmitted it i was like OMG! then we broke up and he said whateverrr!! really mean and i hung up and he didnt even call me back and i didnt believe his cousin i was like no he loves me too much he wouldnt lie. . . but he did lie! and he cried a lot and begged for me back for like 24 hours or so and i reallyyyyy love him with all my heart but during the almost 9 months like in the beginging he was soo nice then he just started lien to me a lot. . . and i found out and asked him about everything and he told me he wasnt hiding anything else and i believed him and that was after we dated for 5 months or so and he was really good after that then he flirted with a girl right in front of me which that hurt so bad!! then he called me a bitch and hit me 4 times but i really love him and this time i took him back bc i love him soo much. . . did i make a bad mistake??

YEAH, Y0U DiD MAKE A BAD MiSTAKE iF HE HiTS Y0U, CALLS Y0U NAMES, & CHEATS 0N Y0U .. WHAT KiNDA GUY iS THAT? Y0U SH0ULD HAVE TURNED HiM iN SiNCE HE HiT Y0U. Y0U DESERVE A L0T BETTER, N0 GiRL DESERVES A GUY LiKE THAT //♥

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I'm having a mental problem...well, one of many anyways. But, yea, I'm concerned about how my unlove life is going. A lot of my friends have boyfriends and a few of my guy friends have girlfriends...but i don't. I'm not really too bothered by that at all really, because i can come up with a lot of good reasons for staying alone(My promise of being a virgin until i'm married for instance.Protective friend of mine made me promise(she's so sweet, so i couldn't say no). Prolly woulda turned out that way anyways.). But sometimes i get jealous, because they'll be so happy n they'll talk bout how much they love their other half, n i won't have the SLIGHTEST idea how they're feeling. And I don't necessarily want a boyfriend, so much as i want to be super happy like they are. I guess i feel left out in the happy department. And i want to understand them and i want to live alil, even though nothing makes me happier than seeing people happy(especially my friends). So I have no idea what to do with how i feel. I don't talk bout my emotions all too much...so i'm not sure what to do with them. Am i really weird for feeling like this? Especially since I'd be too worried/freaked out/ self-conscious to have a boyfriend anyways. Crazy, huh?

AWW N0 Y0U'RE N0T WEiRD AT ALL F0R FEELiNG LiKE THAT! i HAD THAT FEELiNG BEF0RE T00. i FELT LiKE ALL MY FRiENDS HAD A B0YFRiEND/GiRLFRiEND XCEPT ME & THEY ALL WERE REALLY HAPPY & i FELT LiKE i WAS MiSSiNG 0UT 0N THAT. i WAS S0 HAPPY F0R THEM BUT i WANTED T0 FEEL THAT WAY T00 & iT EVENTUALLY HAPPENED. iT iS A GREAT FEELiNG & iT WiLL HAPPEN T0 Y0U T00. iT HAPPENS T0 EVERY0NE S0 D0N'T BE W0RRiED WHEN Y0U HAVE A B0YFRiEND. HE'LL L0VE Y0U N0 MATTER WHAT Y0U D0. Y0U'RE N0T CRAZY L0L H0PE i HELPED //♥

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I just have a question...what happends when people kiss? People say that when the two like eachother, they just start making out or something. I've never been kissed, so I want to know how to so when the time comes, I'll know how. The guy I like will probably break up with his girlfriend when she moves in July, and from what he says, they kiss a lot. I'm nervous about what will happen when I ask him out after he breaks up with his girlfriend. please help!

I rate fives!

Y0U REALLY D0N'T HAVE ANYTHiNG T0 BE NERV0US AB0UT. Y0U CAN'T MESS UP A KiSS. WHEN S0ME PE0PLE KiSS, THEY MAKE 0UT BUT S0ME PE0PLE D0N'T. THEY USUALLY D0 A PECK iF iT'S THEiR FiRST TiME KiSSiNG S0ME0NE NEW BUT WH0 KN0WS. iT DEPENDS 0N WHAT KiND 0F PE0PLE THEY ARE. G00D LUCK //♥

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ok so my best guy friend is moving. i used to like him but now im trying not to b/c he's moving and i no it won't work out. but i still want to be friends. how can i still be friend's with him if he's moving like 2 hours away. will being friend's work with him so far away?

W0W L0L THAT HAPPENED T0 ME BEF0RE. i GAVE MY GUY FRiEND MY PH0NE # iF HE EVER WANTED T0 TALK T0 ME & HE HAS MY E-MAiL ADDRESS/SCREEN NAME S0 HE CAN TALK T0 ME 0N THAT T00. JUST GiVE HiM Y0UR # 0R ASK HiM F0R HiS S0 Y0U GUYS CAN KEEP iN T0UCH. ALS0 GET HiS E-MAiL ADDRESS/SCREEN NAME iF HE HAS 0NE. iF Y0U GUYS KEEP iN T0UCH THEN YES Y0U GUYS WiLL BE FRiENDS N0 MATTER H0W FAR AWAY Y0U GUYS ARE FR0M EACH 0THER //♥

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OK , my birthday is coming up and I really want to get my belly button pierced. But I don't know if I should because I don't want people to call me slutty and the big thing is, IM AFRAID IT WILL HURT LIKE HECK! Does it? If anyone knows , please answer my question ASAP because I need an answer quickly.

D0N'T W0RRY AB0UT BEiN CALLED SLUTTY BECAUSE BELLY BUTT0N RiNGS AREN'T. i WANT MY BELLY BUTT0N PiERCED & i ASKED A L0T 0F MY FRiENDS iF iT HURT REALLY BAD & M0ST 0F THEM SAiD iT D0ESN'T HURT WHEN Y0U GET iT BUT iT HURTS THE NEXT DAY. iF Y0U D0N'T TAKE CARE 0F THE RiNG THEN Y0UR BELLY BUTT0N WiLL GET iNFECTED & iT'LL HURT THEN. JUST MAKE SURE Y0U TAKE CARE 0F iT & Y0U'LL BE FiNE! //♥

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