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help me plzz!!!!!
alright so iv been dating this guy for almost 9 months now and me and him broke up about 15 times and the last time we broke up was bc he lied to me about stuff he did with a girl (back at the pond he kissed her and she touched his dick n all this) and he lied about it he swore on my life that nothing happened and he swore on our relationship. . . and i believed him of course then yesterday his cousin told me the truth . . . and i asked him about and he addmitted it i was like OMG! then we broke up and he said whateverrr!! really mean and i hung up and he didnt even call me back and i didnt believe his cousin i was like no he loves me too much he wouldnt lie. . . but he did lie! and he cried a lot and begged for me back for like 24 hours or so and i reallyyyyy love him with all my heart but during the almost 9 months like in the beginging he was soo nice then he just started lien to me a lot. . . and i found out and asked him about everything and he told me he wasnt hiding anything else and i believed him and that was after we dated for 5 months or so and he was really good after that then he flirted with a girl right in front of me which that hurt so bad!! then he called me a bitch and hit me 4 times but i really love him and this time i took him back bc i love him soo much. . . did i make a bad mistake??
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Yes. SOrry to break it to you, but the guy is using you. Or he's confused. Or just stupid.
No matter which it is, though, you'll be the one getting hurt. Dump him. Tell him if he wants you back, he'll have to shape up and grow up.
And never, NEVER! put up with a guy hitting you. Don't let him. If he tries, dump him.
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i was in something similar. though it didn't last as long and we never actually went out and he never hit me, i can still relate, i promise!
first things first, this guy is an ass. dump him right now. (i know, it's hard to do).
secondly, you need to know WHY you dumped him. he is a pompous loser and he's not going to stop lying and you shouldn't have to take his crap. you have to know when to draw the line, and knowing that someone else gave him a blowjob is a pretty nice place to start.
third, do not ever think that you deserved any of this. because frankly, some guys are just scum. (and vice versa for girls, i'll admit it, some of us can be real ...cunts)
and lastly: it's going to be so hard at first but it does get easier to step away from this horrible relationship. it doesn't matter if he actually does love you or not. the thing is: he STILL hurt you, over and over. he may care for you but that doesn't change the fact that he doesn't care about you enough to stop hurting you physically and apparently mentally.
last year i fell for this guy and everyday we'd hang out in the morning and he'd hold my hand and tell me so sweet things but frankly, he was telling every other girl that too. i really should have stopped liking him when he kissed other girls and told them that me and him were through. so yeah, i can sort of relate. maybe not as good as someone else but i know what it's like to keep taking back someone who really doesn't deserve the chances. i'm sure you are a great catch and someone out there will see that and never dream of hurting you like he does.
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Yes you did. If he's learned his lesson, he wouldn't be cheating! Once a cheater, always a cheater! You need to find a guy who'll treat you like you mean something. It's not love if he hits you, that's relationship abuse! You need to get over this guy FAST! Good luck. Hope I helped!
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If he's hitting you and calling you names, you need to run as far from him as you can get. You do not want to be with a guy who mistreats you and hits you.
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Oh my gosh!
I don't mean to be blunt but... YEAH! You DID make a mistake.
1. He's breaking the law for hitting you... and he did it FOUR TIMES! That's not right and for all you know, he could be a serial rapist or something.
2. He cheated on you after you had just regained your trust for him. He diid all that with another girl... NO WAY!
3. He flirts with people IN FRONT OF YOU! If a guy really loves his girl, he LOVES her, not LEAVES her every 5 minutes to go with another chick.
He's not worth it and you will get hurt again. Face it! He's a ladies man and he doesn't have self control. If he sees a "hot" girl, he shoots off and then, after he kisses her a few times, he comes back to you when he has no one else. He's just using you.
Honey, you are WAY better than he is and you know what's right but right now, what you're doing isn't right.
You may THINK you love him but he's just going to keep doing what he's doing...
He's never going to change for ANYONE! That's a TYPICAL man!
If you love him and you think you can trust him again, by all means go for it! But I think you might get hurt and I don't like to see that happen to anyone. I have been hurt and I DO NOT like how it feels and trust me... I KNOW how it feels.
Stay strong and don't let him push you around. Don't let him LOOK at chicks, THINK about chicks, and especially... NO PLAYING AROUND with chicks. If he loves you, he'll only do those things with you! :-)
Give him one more chance and see how he does. If he does O.K, than, he's alright but if he EVER hits you again, tell the police and he'll get put in jail and YOU can get a restraining order against him. Also, you can press charges and sue him. You have the power to do that and make sure you do.
Don't be scared of him!
You know where I am if you need me.
Email me in my advicenators inbox OR email me at x_pink_x109@yahoo.com O.K?
Best of luck!
Hope I helped!
♥ Kayla ♥
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he called you a bitch and you took him back wow im sorry but you made a huge mistake if i were you i would tell him you kno we could be friends but this relationship thing isnt working out for me ive had boyfriends too and its hard when you really love them and they dont respect you back but ive never been in these kind of situations soo im not sure but i think i would dump him
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let me break it down for you.. i am sry if i hurt ur heart more but you need to know the truth.. you made a big mistake. you deserve to be trested with respect and honesty and be loved not played. this guy doesnt like you otherwise he would not have done alll that stuff to you. you need to 4get about this jerk and find yourself a Man not a guy that is goin to play these games with you... you need to leave him alone and find another boyfriend..hope this helps you out. and i wish you the best of luck.
*~Stephanie~*
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wow girl.. get rid of this jerk. ONE NEVER let a guy hit or abuse you, thats a sign of a sucky relationship RIGHT there. and if he lies.. aahhh get out!! i absolutly HATE liars and cheaters. if theres no trust in a relationship, hunny you got nothing.. i know trusting ppl is hard, but this guy doesnt seem to give a fuck about you or your feelings. i kno 9 months is a long time, and you probably like him alot, but babe, you can get wwaayyy better!! hope i helped!! :)
<3 bailey
hm he cried huh? well.. this is a tuffy. it takes alot to make a man cry. maybe you should wait it out and see what happens.. if he keeps treating you this way... dont give a shit.. MAKE HIM CRY!! haha. but i know exactly how you feel. but to me babe, theres ssoo much wrong about an abusive relationship, maybe he doesnt hit you alot NOW, but it only gets worse UNLESS you get him talking to someone or have him relese his anger in a different way.. i mean its obvious he likes you alot, but maybe he doesnt know how to show it. keep me posted!! hope i helped:)
<3 bailey
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i think you did make a mistake...this relationship is unhealthy on so many levels. i mean, if hes been lying to you, what would make him stop now? he has no reason to, and breaking up really doesnt seem to phase him sinse its happened so many times. your just hurting yourself by letting him do this to you. and hitting you? hell no girl..dont you EVER let a man hit you. if he hits you, you hit him back. if your not strong enough, kick him in his balls. girls have powerful legs (born with them)because we need them to carry our weight when we're pregnant, so you'll deff. effect him if you kick him there. but i woulda ended it right when he hit you. i know this probably isnt what you wanted to hear but its the truth. but i really do hope everything works out for you! <3
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If he really loves you, he wouldn't have done all of those things. Keep that in mind.
But if you REALLY TRULY love him, you need to have a face to face, one on one conversation with him about te last 9 months. Tell him how badly he has hurt you, but how much you love him and you want this to work. Make sure he understands everything you are saying. Make him respect you and your emotions. Otherwise it will all happen again.
If you both love eachother, and really try hard to make it work, then it will. Just have a good, long, genuine talk. Hope I helped! And good luck.
~*~*~Lauren~*~*~
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Ok he called you a bitch and hit you and cheated on you! There are LOtS of better guys out there! What makes you think he is not going to cheat on you again and the hitting will song lead to pushing and punching! Dump him!
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YEAH, Y0U DiD MAKE A BAD MiSTAKE iF HE HiTS Y0U, CALLS Y0U NAMES, & CHEATS 0N Y0U .. WHAT KiNDA GUY iS THAT? Y0U SH0ULD HAVE TURNED HiM iN SiNCE HE HiT Y0U. Y0U DESERVE A L0T BETTER, N0 GiRL DESERVES A GUY LiKE THAT //♥
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yeah hun you did get out of that relationship and find sumone else he*s got issues you don*t need to be involved in. <3<3 chelsea
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