about

well i am a 15 years old girl that is soft hearted and i loves helping other people out. i love giving out advice. i can relate to a lot of peoples problems because i have been through a lot in my life. i have done a lot of stupid things in my life that i regert but i cant change the past but i can try to change the future. i love to dance and enjoy life to the fullest. i love my best friends to death i would do anything for them..




advice

i'm 17 years old and i lost my virginity the 2nd of january this year. my last period was in early december, but my periods are irregular. i have them every other mnth, which is normal for me. but on the 17th of jan. i started spotting, it was light and then it got heavy and then light again! it is now the 19th and i'm still spotting? or atleast i think this is spotting. i've have symptoms of pregnancy...like, sore breast, i'm going to the bathroom alot more than i usually do, i have lower abdominal pains, fatigue/more tired, back pains.. but i have chronic arthritis. i have headaches but they are not frequent... i'm worried i might be pregnant.

if your spotting (thats a sign of blood) which means your not. you can think you are and your body can act like it is ( i forgot the word for that) but you can always get a pregnance test wheather by getting one at the store or going to plannedparenthood. i dont think you are but just in case you can.
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Ok, so There's my ex :). He used to love me - I know he did, until he fell out of love with me after around 5 months, and broke up with me. i was heartbroken for a very long time, but managed to egt over it until recently when we've started getting back together again in a very secretive way. He doesn't love me - I know that but he cares about me, and he's always there for me whenever i need him. We're together secretly and its a kind of 'not strings attached relationship', and we do stuff - but I know he also like this other girl. She's perfect in every single way to be honest, and I know he really really wants her - she's practically a 15 yr old pornstar! I think he wants her ina more of a sexual way, and she'd win no contest if it were me or her. Yet I think he cares about me alot more and likes my personality alot better. It doesn't help old feelings have stirred and I now feel very attached to him... so please please, I would love some help on this matter, just to express your opinion on my situation, and I'd love some advice on how just... to sort my feelings out, and how I should go about getting rid of this competition.

Thank you!

well i dont thinnk you need to worry if he only attracted to her for sex. stay by his side. dont give up on be the bigger person and not be his sex buddy that is what will win him again. if he likes you and cares about you he will come back to you. you just gotta give it time. hope this helps.
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Well, let's first explain the situation! We've been together 11 months now (me and the boyfriend) - nearly a year actually! I don't see us splitting up at all, at least any time in the future. At the start I knew I didn't love him - I fancied him, but it grew and now I can't imagine loving anyone else as much as him. He says he loves me too. We have a very slow moving relationship - or we did. At first I was horrifically shy - we first had a proper match of tonsil-tennis during the 2nd or start of the 3rd month. It was half a year before we started to move on from that onto other mild things, and it was around 8 or 9 months when we first started doing foreplay! Now we still haven't gone all the way but this is mainly due to lack of time alone and protection... he applies little pressure on me and seems content even though we moved incredibly slowly. Obviously there are times when there's more pressure applied but I find myself pretty willing at those moments - anyways. He says he loves me and I think I believe him but I'm naturally untrusting. I know that guys will stay stuff to get places and there are lots of examples of this in the kind of group my boyfriend hangs out in. I'm ready to go far with him, and take the leap but I want to know if you think there could be any risk of well, the syaing stuff to get places thing that I mentioned previously. Also, we're both virgins and we've tried it before... it didn't work! Any advice or stories on first time sex would be so useful I can't mention it. Thank you!

its really not a bad thing that you moved slow. me and my boyfriend have beeen together for 2 and a half years and i was scared to trust him to but because he proved to me he loved me by waiting for me and not pressuring for it a year in the realtionship it happened. what i did is a talked to him about it and he gave me feed back and so on. so my advice to u is talk to him about it but dont think your rushing into things only do it when you feel its right and most importantly use protection. hope this helped.
♥ Steph

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so, after you give advice and then the person says thanx, is there a way to say you're welcome?

not really only if you go back to the question and write your welcome at the end of it.
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k so theres this guy who i messed wround with before but i didnt go all the way with him. and he is an asshole..and he calls me a slut.. what can i say to a guy when they call me a slut?? cuz i never know what to say

arguing back will make them think you are. so ignore them and be like you can think whatever you want about me but you dont know the real me to judge me. hope this helps
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my so called good friend called up my other friend and was just talking crap about me. but thats not what really bothers me because she says stuff about EVERYONE she ever meets and im used to it. but then she also told my friend she read my journal/diary whatever u want to call it and thats just like a big violation of personal space. and she called my friend up when i was on vacation and then today she called me and acted like she did nothing since she doesnt know that i know what she did. so shes being two faced. what should i do??

gettin back at her wont help. so my advice to you is ignore her. dont answer her phone calls. dont waste your time with her. she trying to be cool wit you so she can find more things to talk bad about you. just ignore and she will get the picture and leave you alone. hope this helps.
♥ Stephanie

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how do i move music from limewire into windows media player, so that i can listen to that music in wmp without having to open up limewire too?

ill make it easy for you. open up limewire. then go to explore. then drag the songs you want from the shared folder and move it to the wmp. then your song there and thats it.
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okay, so i've had a second hole peirced twice before, and both times they've closed up. I really want it again, but i dont know if it's worth getting it because i'm scared that it might close up again, so what are the chances it will close up? ..thanks.

well i have 2 holes in my ear. and they are perment. i never had to go and it them redone
but anyways, u should go get it done
and leave it in for 3 weeks. then take it out clean it and w.e. after that put an earing in and dont levae the whole without an earing for about 3-5 months. then the whole will be permenant and wont close up. hope this healps
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ok so me and my boyfriend want to have sex. i of coarse want to use a condom and hes fine with that. I just wanted to know as much information i can on what to do before hand to prevent anything bad. Like where can i find information on the pill and what types of tests do they do on you to check for stds. i also wanted to know where i can go to get on the pill with out my mom knowing. Im 19 f if that helps

planned parenthood, everything is confidentual. nobody gots to know unless you tell people. you can check out plannedparenthood.com to find the nearest one to you. and they will give you all kinds of different options of birthcontrol. like: shoot(you take once every 3 monts)the ring, the pill, condoms. etc.. hope this helps.

♥ Steph

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didnt really know what to put this is, but i am going to a dance and i want to know how to grind. I have seen it on tv and stuff, but i really want tips and all that. Eaxactly what you should do when you grind.

thanks

all you really doing is rubbing and moving your booty on the guys dick.. =) move to the music and put some back into it.. lol.. just have fun wit it..

♥ Steph

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ok so you know those pictures some people have on their myspaces?? well what would you type in on photobucket to get those? and/or where do you go to get them???

go to download.com then typoe in animator than download that. after you got a set of pictures you want than open them with thaat program and put them all together and it will move. if you want detail ask me in my inbox. =)
♥ Stephanie

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Does anyone know the name of the song that goes

what ya know about me
what ya know about me...
my lip gloss is popin

i thought it might be what ya know about me but i couldn't find it on i-tunes

thanks in advance!

its called lip gloss by lil mama i love that song =)

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is there anyway you can save a song to your computer from someones myspace?

yes if only if the person whose page you get them off has said ok to it before downloading the song. it should be right under the song when you are on the music page of where that song came from. hope this helps.
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so i was told its not a good idea to PLAN to get/use the morning after pill. why is this? my boyfriend and i are both virgins and it was a mutual decision that we wanted 2 forms of protection.. a condom and a pill.. or else no sex would be performed. however i have no way of getting birth control [my mom wont let me be put on it bc she thinks when i do ill jus be havin sex all the time ((talking to her does nothing trust me ive tried)), and wont take me to a gyno ((honestly im not too fond of the idea of going either lol!))] so the morning after pill would be my only other option. what would it hurt to use it? and do you really have to be 18 to get it at like walmart or wherever? i looked it up but got different confusing answers.

also if i were to get birth control from like a planned parenthood or whatever.. say if i used it for a month, had sex, then didnt use it again, would i still be protected? cuz they only give you enough for one month right?

sry i know its alot. 16 female.

ok i am going to try not to make it long. The morning after plans is a good idea for UNprotected sex. your really not supposed to take it if you had protected sex. visit planned parenthood.com to see which one is close to you. they will give you pills,condoms, and anythign else for free and and it for teens.i dont know if walmart has them or w.e but planned parenthood would be ur best option. you dont even need a parent to go in. and there are different kinds of birth control. like a shot. you take a shot once every 3 months and it has hermones it and it is like birth control except you dont take it everyday. there is also a new thing which is like a size of a braclet and it goes in your vaginia and it also haas hermones and it is a form of protect. hope this helps. and good luck.. if you need anythin else feel free to hit me up in my inbox. =)

♥ Steph

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you know how if you have like a fat stomach you can suck it in and you could look skinny? i was just wondering if you were pregnant if you could do that. or would it only go in a little bit but stop so you still look pregnant?

no ur really cant because when your pregnant it isnt just your fat, tissue , or muscles it is a baby being formed so you cant really do it

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I have no idea how to scrunch hair, but it looks so cute, so i wanna try it. can you give me like what you do step by step and tell me which gels and mooses work best and how to apply them?
thanks :)

Ps. i have brown naturally inbetween curly and wavy and bout 2 inches past my shoulders.

THANKS

take a shower or rinse your hair out and dry it with a towl. then brush it out after that put some moose in it and like grab ur hair from the tip and bush it up and squeeze it. (i hope this makes since) then grab some gel and repeat the process after that add some hair spray so it wont get puff at all. then your down..

p.s
make sure ur hair isnt soaking wet but not to dry bc then it wont work properly


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i know this is kind of weird but i always over-analyze things so here it goes. i have only been to first base. i know i am going to go to second soon but the thing is, i have 32As. what are guys going to think? or will they not care?

they shouldnt. some guys do but others dont. it really all depends. if a guy is really into you then he shouldnt care what size you only your personality should matter.. hope this helps.

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Me and my boyfriend were at my house today and hes already had sex,
well we were fooling around i guess you could say and we got naked except for our underwear and he stuck his penis in me and this only went on for like 10 minutes. is it sex? i ended up bleeding after this. But i'm confused if it was sex or not, and if you would consider me a virgin. Cause like hours after that my boyfriend was like "i want to have sex with you wicked bad" so did we or not?

yes it was sex even though it was only for a short period of time. once a dick goes inside you your not a virgin any more so yea. hope this helps.
♥ Steph

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hey, i am an advicenator, and i answered a question that i now want to delete. i realized that that was a stupid question to answer.
how do i delete my answer from my collumn?
thanks

go to where it says welcome and then ur name then under favorite columnists it says edit answers. click on that and delete your answer. hope this helps

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ok im about 5'8" and i weight about 170. how can i lose that weight? also i want to get more muscle mainly on my arms because i really dont have arm muscle. i would really appriaciate the help.

it would be sooo much easier if you tone up ur body and not loose all ur fat. i would sugest doing 45 minutes of cardio at least 3 times a week and lefting weights. lil weight with more repatations..

♥ Steph

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