I'm 17 years old, and i've been with my boyfriend for 2 years now. We've been having sex for the past four months and I was just recently put on YAZ birth control. I read the packet and it said I don't even need a back-up if I took the first pill on the first day of my period .. which I did. But i'm still paranoid. This might be a dumb question, but can he "finish" in me? Or does he have to pull out. I've been on the pill for 3 weeks now, and we still use a condom. Just because I'm so nervous. Having a solid answer would really put me at ease. Thanks so much!
hey =]
okay, well im in the same situation as you.
I've been on birth control for about four months now, and after the first two weeks of being on the pill me & my boyfriend started having unprotected sex. Its been four months like i said, & we never once used a condom & it was fine, but everytime we do have sex i know its a risk for the both of us. birth control is 99% so there still is that 1% chance. I mean its up to you, if your ready to risk it. & to answer your question, yes he can finish in you, my boyfriend always does. ;]
I'm sure before you do have unprotected sex, if you choose to do so, that you 100% know both you & your boyfriend are "clean", but i'm sure you already know, since you went on the pill for a reason.
if you have any more questions leave a message in my inbox, ill be more then happy to help you out.
xoxo smalls
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yes, two weeks is enough time, don't worry about it, & yes in most cases the guy does finish in you, i mean whats the point if he doesn't? might as well use a condom. don't worry about it, that 1% is nothing, its like using a condom. condoms are 99% so theres still that 1% chance.
its either use a condom or birth control both have the same risks.
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is there a way you can make your hair grow faster?
hey =]
well i actually have a few things you can do.
someone once told me that crushing birth control pills and putting them in your shampoo can make your hair grow longer, the thing is some people say that its true & other says it false. My friend does it & she swears by it, but then again it may not work for everyone. & I'm not so sure that you can get birth control easily, but if anything you can go to a free
clinic & ask for some.
you could also try putting vinegar in your hair while taking a shower. its suppose to leave your hair with a smooth appearance & make your hair over all healthy, & once your hair is in better condition it will start to grow faster.
You can also go trim your hair a little bit because once you cut off your dead ends your hair will starts going faster.
Here are some other hair growing tips:
1. Eliminate or cut back on smoking, caffeine and carbonated sodas which weaken the body and block maximum hair growing potential.
2. Eat a healthy diet. Avoid foods that are high in sugar or fat.
3. Treat your hair like a piece of fine old lace. Treat it carefully avoiding any unnecessary brushing, combing or handling.
4. Avoid use of hot water, hot blow dryers or other hair care tools that may stress the hair.
5. Have a weekly scalp massage to provide stimulation to the hair follicles.
6. Do a series of ongoing hot oil treatments to protect the hair's shaft.
7. Have regular trims to eliminate split ends and allow the hair to look and feel healthier.
8. Get plenty of rest and sleep to allow your body to grow hair.
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what kinda picture frame are you talking about? and where would i get it?
hey =]
well i looked online for you, to show you an idea of what i was talking about.
http://www.talkingpresents.com/Recordable-Picture-Frame-p/5x7_crystal_frame.htm
its pretty much that, but the one i saw was in hallmark. so if theres a hallmark by you, deff check it out. hallmark also has really cute talking cards, i got my boyfriend a really funny one, check those out too!
if you need anything else ask. =]
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can you give me some sweet love songs country rap rock anything.
its for my bf. hes leaving to college in september so id like to give him a cd i make for him.
hey =]
ahww sure i can.
the cutest country song ever is
Tim Mcgraw- My Best Friend
trust me, this song is adorable.
some of my other favorite love songs are:
I'm Yours -Jason Mraz
Bobby Valentino ft. Lil Wayne - Your Smile
Forever-Chris brown
311 - Love Song
No air- Jordin Sparks
No One- Alicia Keys
You're The One- Natalie
Until The Day I Die- story of the year
Only One-Yellowcard
Ashanti- only you
Anything- jojo
Object Of My Desire- Dana Rayne
Breathless-Shayne Ward
Love Like This- Natasha Bedingfield
angel- Natasha Bedingfield
Step Up-Samantha Jade
Amanda Perez- candy kisses
Bubbly-Colbie Caillat
i'm sure i can get you moree los
but let me know if you like these =]
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i asked about cute gestures i could make and you answered make cupcakes or cookies and write the names on them. how would i do that? with like frosting?
and if you have any other ideas id love them!
hey =]
yessss, you can use frosting in all different kinds of colors. any big super market will have frosting, and even the pans to make cup cakes in, if you don't already have them. i personally find making a cake is easier then baking cupcakes, but cookies are pretty simple too.
you know those cake mixes in a box? those are super easy to make, and you'll have alot more space to write on the cake with frosting & stuff.
You can also make him a picture book! =] if you guys have alot of pictures together you should deff do that. kinda like a scrapbook. i love making scrapbooks lols but then again i'm a loser.
but there so cute. if you don't have any pictures together, you can go out & get a talking picture frame! yessssss! i saw it a few weeks ago and fell in love, so i got one for my boyfriend. You can put any picture in the frame & record anything you want it to say, so that way if you put a picture of either yourself or a picture of the both of you, he can always press the button & hear your voice. what i did was put a picture of me & my hubby & i told him how much i loved him. =] he loved it! if you cant find that picture frame around where you live, just get him any cute frame, or get a plain frame and dress it up, & put in whatever picture you want.
any other questions .. message my inbox again.
xoxo smalls
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I'm 17/f and sexually active with my boyfriend of almost a year.
My vagina lets out discharge, and yes this is gross, but its only a little yellowish when i have to hold my pee or something. and also, like after i masterbate, it itches. & i rarely masterbate & it hasn't itched in awhile-
but not when i have sex with my boyfriend?
do i have a yeast infection?
hey =]
i had an yeast infection before & let me tell you, its horrible. It goes away in a few days if you treat it the right way, but you would know if you had an infection. You would be itching like crazy for a few days & A thick, white vaginal discharge that looks like cottage cheese would come out of you. (sorry for the details)
heres a site that you could go on to learn more about yeast infections.
http://www.womenshealth.gov/faq/yeastinfect.htm
if your still worried after you read more about it, then go to a doctor.
but before you panic be sure to read all the signs of a vaginal yeast infection. i'm sure its nothing.
if you need anymore advice just comment my inbox.
dont be shy.
xoxo smalls
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i like doing cute things for my boyfriend as in hunts and cute little notes in his house. (we dont live together) i want to keep doing cute things any ideas?
hey =]
ahww thats cutee.
i always end up doing something cute for my boyfriend. some of the things ill do is, get him his favorite candy. my boyfriend loves ring pops & Charms Blow Pops. hes such a little kid at heart. so sometimes ill get him a few & I'll be like baby look what i got for you, & the smile on his face when he sees them is priceless. Its so cute.
You could do the same for your boyfriend.
Also what i like to do is cook my boyfriend cupcakes & sometimes cookies. He loves them & he never expects them so i love surprising him.
you can write his name on the cup cakes or cookies or write the date you guys started going out.
if you need some more ideas just comment my inbox.
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xoxo smalls
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Hi, it's the summer time and two years ago I wrote a guy a letter telling him how I feel and he responded three months later over that very summer. We talked it seemed because his friend suggested it, and his friend said he was interested, he may have been lying. We talked for a week and maybe two days. Afterwards, never again. I got back to school and I couldn't even look him in the eye. He and I both would avoid eye contact and never spoke over 10 words to one another. Now he has a girlfriend. I want him to be happy. I spent most of my summer not thinking of him, but afraid when the time came for me to return to school that the feelings would return. I saw him 4 days ago and I felt a jolt when our eyes met for a heartbeat. I'm afraid and I feel pathetic, which I am kind of. I don't want to like him. I want to be over him. But how do I handle these residual feelings that keep returning?
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i know how you feel, trust me. I had feelings for this one guy for years. they never seemed to go away, until i started to become interested in other guys. Now i have a boyfriend that i love, & that was the major cure for me, i still think about him from time to time, but nothing so strong.
I suggest you start going out & meeting new people, i mean this guy doesn't seem like hes worth your time anyway. baby girl, you are NOT pathetic, when it comes to matters of the heart there is no such thing. We cant control what our heart wants & what our heart needs.
Once you start hanging out with other guys, you won't feel as down as you are now.
in the meanwhile try to avoid him, & anything that reminds you of him. The less you think about him the better. Go out, don't stay in. i noticed that being alone at home makes things so much worse.
I'm sure things will get better, just keep your head up high & smile.
if you feel like you need somebody to talk to, you could either IM me or message my inbox again. im always here if you need someone
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Not the book.
But ladies, when you wear thongs..what do you wear with them? I mean like...I know they make special pads shaped for thongs.
But do they make liners, too? Because I just got my first thong. Havent worn it yet, though.
But what do you about the, you know..discharge?
Ew sorry. Its just I dont want it on my undies, you know? Gross!!
hey =]
ahw yes darling, they have thong Pantiliners, i use them from time to time.
these are the ones i use
check them out
http://www.drugstore.com/qxp140015_333181_sespider/carefree/thong_pantiliners_unscented_light_protection.htm
You can get them at about any pharmacy for pretty cheap.
if you have any questions be sure to ask in my inbox. =]
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alright so my acne has gotten pretty bad lately, mostly because i've been going out so much and staying out all night that havent had time to wash my face at night and whatever. anyawys i really want a good, natural looking makeup that doesnt bloch or what not that can cover up my acne and stay on my face for most of the day without running off and what not.
hey =]
oh god, whatever you do, do not use mac foundation.
Many people use it & love it, but if your skin is prone to acne, it just makes your acne worse.
I have pretty horrible skin myself, i always break out if I'm not careful with my skin, so i don't even use foundation at all. Foundation over all isnt good for your skin, but what i found to be cheap & for the most part doesn't break me out is may belline mineral power (powder foundation)
you can get it at any pharmacy, & its cheap.
check it out here
http://www.mineralpower.ca/
if you have any question be sure to ask me in my inbox =]
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so for the past few days my vagina/discharge has been smelling horrible. i mean, even when i wear clothes you can still smell it. its horrible. what does this mean?
hello =]
well i have a question for you! does it itch?
if it does then you most likely have an yeast infection. But not to worry, it goes away. but you should deff go see a doctor.
If it doesn't itch, then most likely it's nothing to be worried about. Sometimes our bodies produce more oder then it should. If thats the case, then you should go out to any pharmacy & get summers eve feminine deodorant spray. it helps with the smell & it's gynecologist tested.
Summers eve also has a great line of other products that you can use, so check them out.
but just in case, go see a doctor.
better safe then sorry
xoxo smalls
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when you shave down there, if you do; do you shave everything?
do you also shave like where the thighs are near the vagina area?
thanks
Hey
Well it's really just up to your personal preference. If it makes you more comfortable shaving everything then do so, but if it doesn't bother you, then don't worry about it. I personally shave everything. If you have any other questions please don't hesitate to ask.
♥ maria
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Hey i was thinking for my 16th birthday to go to New york city. I live right by the city so i go there all the time, so for my birthday i wanted to go somewhere or do somthing in the city that i have never done before. I have seen all the sight seeing my eyes can take and i hate broadway plays...way over-rated lol. so does anyone have any ideas, its the city that never sleeps there must be somthing cool to do. thanks!
Hey
My 16th birthday is coming up, really soon, & i'm also going to be doing something in the city. I live in brooklyn so it's less then an hour away.
What i'm doing is, getting a party bus to drive me & my friends around the city for like an hour or two, & then we are going out to eat in jaclyn and hyde club. Im 100% sure i spelled that wrong lol. Sorry if you want i can look up the spelling for it, if you want. But anyway its a cute little restaurant, where people jump out, at you & stuff. It's a scary theme. Or i was going to go iceskating in rockefeller center around 8ish. It should be beautiful around that time, with the tree all lite up.
You could use any one of my ideasss. =)
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13/f
what can i do to undamaga my hair? dont tell me to stop straightning it bcus i always want straight hair and i have naturally curly and wvy tangly hairr. is there anything i can do/use?
and what other straighteners that cost about 100 dollars are good besides chi straighteners?
hey =)
well there are many hair products for damaged hair.
There are shampoos & Conditioners just for problem hair. I would go to soho in the city & buy a hair kit, but since i am unawhere of what your money stautes is & where you are located, i am unaware what stores are around you. You could always look on google & order online. If money is an issue, then i would say your best off getting Dove - the damaged hair kit.
Heres another good tip, trying putting vinegar in your hair while taking a shower & then wash it out with warm water. Not only does it make your hair shiny, it heals it. =)
About the straightner i would say corolas! it cost $100 but it works perfect! I hear conair is alright too. Its much cheaper though. 30 dollers or so.
if you need anything else just ask.
♥ maria ♥
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whats a good eyeliner that wont smudge?
a cheap one lol maybe under 5 dollars? lol but then if theres none 10$ and under. thankss. and please tell me the brand. haha 13/f
Hey =)
well i only use mac or dior eyeliner but that's more then 5 dollers thats for sure. But ummm before i used mac or dior i used wet & wild eyeliner. You can get it in just about any target store, or pharmacy. I also hear covergirl eyeliner is alright, but its a little more then ten dollers.
♥ maria ♥
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God, I have a huge prob right now....
I have A LOT of friends, and I mean REALLY alot, and they're mostly girls.
Our party is nearing and that's the only time I can give them gifts cuz we won't be seeing each other from then on cuz it's our Christmas break.
The party's already next week and here's the prob--I haven't bought anything yet! As in I haven't bought a single damn thing.
Please give me gift ideas that are cheap becuase I'm on a really tight budget.
hey =)
well what i always do, is go to victoria's secret, & buy cute little lipgloss, or lotion sets or even their makeup kits. There very cute, & not alot of money, but if your looking for something a little bit cheaper then go to any pharmacy & see if they have any bath & body kits.
Also see if they have any picture frames, & if you have any pictures of your friends then just put them in. That would be super cute !
♥ maria ♥
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What is that techno song you were talking about in one of your columns? it went like "Hi gorgeous, I've missed you so much. I had very naughty dreams about you. Are you ready to have some fun with me?"
hey =)
its called cuntlicker & its by the pornorockers. lmaoo yeah i know sick name. ha ;P
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I'm the same person who wrote about the problems. well when I wear a bathing suit guys always stare at my stomach cause its so hairy.
I'll never have a boyfriend if I always have a hairy stomach and back. Plus I found out my rashes are not rashes at all just allergies.
Hey =)
Being hairy is an issue to you, i understand that, & i understand why you might think this is a result of you not being able to get a boyfriend. Trust me you notice it more then other people. I really think you should wax it! Like i said before it will hurt but the outcome will be awesome!
Hmm allergies you say?! I hope the doctor gave you some prescription drugs or some medicated creams.
If not you should certainly ask for some!
Need anything else just ask! kay sweetie?!
♥ maria ♥
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OKay I have a lot of "appearance" problems I have excema so I get rashes on my arms, the back of knees and this year is the first year I got it on my neck but I think its an allergy or something because i dont scratch it. What could it be????? I also have zits on my arms. I know its pretty bad but I used to shave my arms and now I'm growing it out. so could my zits be from shaving cause I only stopped shaving like 2-3 weeks ago?????? My third problem is that I have a lot of stomach hair and a lot of back hair cause I'm armenian how can I get rid of it my friends shave their hair off but I don't want to do that. Could I dye my body hair blonde?????? Does everyone have a lot of body hair?????????
Can you help me????????
Hey
I would love to help you about your rashes but i'm not a doctor & even if i do have any idea of what it could be i may be 100% wrong! The best thing for you to do since it's bothering you this much, is to go see a doctor. OHmyGOSH never EVER shave your arms EVER! I'm glad to know you've stopped. Yeah the zits on your arms could be from shaving, but to be sure ask your doctor as well as the rash on your neck.
About dying your body hair, sure goahead. It doesn't remove your hair, but only makes it light! If that's what you want then SURE! =) try it out! If you don't like the outcome you should try waxing your arms.
Uhh no not everyone has alot of body hair, but that's because everyones different!
If you need anymore help just leave a comment in my inbox =D
♥ maria ♥
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Hey guys,
ok I've hit a real low-point in life.
I've already tried killing myself, and that's not it..it's over the stupidest thing ever; looks. I hate myself so much. I'd do anything to be pretty, I've seriously begged my mom for plastic surgery 20 times a day for this whole year. I need to change. It's not that I care what others think cause they seem to think I'm pretty, it's myself, my inner-critic. I won't be happy until I change completely, but my mom made it clear plastic surgery is not an option, so what do I do? I don't remember the last time I was happy, seriously, every time I finally wake up happy, I look in the mirror..and all I see is: bulging stomach, big nose, hairy + manly face, disgusting face, short legs, unproportionate upper-body, tiny feet, weird ears, ugly + uneven skincolour, everything is just humiliating!! I hate myself sooo much, I just don't want to be me anymore, and please don't tell me to seek help or just accept who I am, I don't want to. I want to change. How though? What are some major things I can do to just completely change without plastic surgery?
Hey
The problem isnt changing your appearance, its changing your attitude towards life.
I understand you one hundred percent because Im going through the exact same feelings.
I look at myself in the mirror and find everything and anything about myself that doesnt seem "perfect" or at least perfect to me. I compare myself to all my friends, models, and movie stars. I always seem to end up crying wondering why im not as pretty as them. My whole family is sick of seeing me down, and they try to help me as much as they can but it starts to get annoying and everybody around you gets stressed out. Im sure your mother loves you dearly and it hurts her to see you like this, but trust me all the pain you feel about not loving yourself is hurting her even more. What I end up doing is going to a psychologist. Let me tell you, it was the best thing I could have ever done for myself. Rather then you getting surgery, try going to a psychologist. Each day I learn to love myself and accept myself. Im sure your a very pretty girl and even if anyone else tells you, you wont believe them, im the same way, but what you need to do is look at yourself in the mirror and repeat this: I am beautiful! I love myself! Im not perfect nor do I want to be! I am me and im fine just the way I am! After a while if you keep saying it over in your head, you'�ll start to believe it! Now that you know what firstly needs to be done then you can go on to improving your look. But let me tell you something, no matter how pretty you make yourself out to be, no matter what clothes you buy, what color your hair is, how perfect your skin is, youll never think your pretty enough unless you actually believe it! So before you go out and competly change your self, make sure to change the way you feel about yourself.
First of all you can get plastic surgery when you get older, so if your nose is really that big of a problem save up your money now and when you get older youll get it done if you still find the need. For your weight problem I suggest working out, maybe going to the gym, and eating the right way! If you need a list of foods, or work outs ill be more then happy to send them to you just make sure to leave a comment in my inbox. About the weird ears, well I have pretty weird ears myself, but my mother is letting me get surgery on them this summer. Since surgery is not an option at this point in time, then there are certain hair styles you can wear to avoid showing your ears off. Tiny feet are NOT a problem. I have tiny feet and I absolutely love them. Im a small girl so all together im a pretty cute compact if I don't mind saying so myself! Having tiny feet is an advantage not disadvantage. Your feet will look amazing in any high heel shoes!
If they bother you that much, maybe you should go get a manicure every weekend to have something about your toes that you might find attractive. A lot of people have hair on their face. Some are just more noticeable then others. I suggest you get that waxed, it might be a little painful but its worth it. If you believe you have a manly face then make it unmanly! Wear eye liner, eye shadow, lip gloss, and cover up. Also about that bulging stomach since losing weight takes a while, in the mean time buy some new clothes which by the way will boast up your confidence, but make sure the clothes you get over up your little bump but at the same time look cute and have style. Uneven skin color well like I said before buy, some type of foundation. You see I gave you advice on all the things you had a problem with. Everything could be fixed, except how you feel about yourself.
If you ever need anymore help or advice just leave a comment in my inbox.
♥ maria ♥
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