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I feel like..dying. Self-esteem question.
Hey guys,
ok I've hit a real low-point in life.
I've already tried killing myself, and that's not it..it's over the stupidest thing ever; looks. I hate myself so much. I'd do anything to be pretty, I've seriously begged my mom for plastic surgery 20 times a day for this whole year. I need to change. It's not that I care what others think cause they seem to think I'm pretty, it's myself, my inner-critic. I won't be happy until I change completely, but my mom made it clear plastic surgery is not an option, so what do I do? I don't remember the last time I was happy, seriously, every time I finally wake up happy, I look in the mirror..and all I see is: bulging stomach, big nose, hairy + manly face, disgusting face, short legs, unproportionate upper-body, tiny feet, weird ears, ugly + uneven skincolour, everything is just humiliating!! I hate myself sooo much, I just don't want to be me anymore, and please don't tell me to seek help or just accept who I am, I don't want to. I want to change. How though? What are some major things I can do to just completely change without plastic surgery?
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excercise.. go on a diet.. wear make up... do up your hair (get a hairdo) try to feel better about yourself when things change.. like when u lose ten pounds.. congradulate yourself... shev your face get a wax on you legs... i dont know what to do abou your nose though.
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Eventually, once you are an adult, you can have plastic surgery w/out your parents consent. I'm not going to give you the answers that you don't want to hear, because there are non surgical things you can do to make you feel more comfortable with your appearance. First of all see if your parents will let you consult with a personal life coach, a fitness trainer, a cosmetologist/beautition, and a fashion expert. If you can't afford to do this, do some research on the internet under the features of your body that you are unhappy with and you will find a ton of information.
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well actually consult your doctor abou this, there is a certain condition (i'm not sure what it's called) and it's everytime you look in the mirror you see your self deforemed when really it's not what you look like at all, i'm not sure about what you think of that i'm just throwing that out there, and try this- everytime you look iin the mirro tell yourself that you look great and you feel great, it will soon become a habit and you will begin to mean it, do something that makes you feel good about your self , like try to wear a certian outfit that you feel gorgeous in,you'll end up felling better about your self if you feel good in what your wearing, and see if it is possible to dye your hair and style it diffeerent;y if you want a new look altogether, the best of luck
Jasmine
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Wow, hun, I feel so bad that you feel so low about yourself.
I can say I think you are beautiful, and I dont even know you. I dont believe that there are ugly people, everyone is pretty in their own unique way.
This may sound strange, but theres a rare disease that people want plastic surgury and they become addicted to it, have you talked to a guidence counsular or a doctor? Becuase it sounds serious - the wanting to kill yourself, and have plastic surgury.
You shouldnt be so critical of yourself, the key to being emotionally healthy is to lvoe yourself, you can fix your stomache by exercising and eating healthy, I'm sure your face is just fine, natural is so much better than plastic surgury<3
Okay I know you dont want help or to stop hating yourself, but self acceptance is the key to getting better.
If you want to change your physical features, exercise, tone your body. theres not a lot you can do, the best thing is to love yourself.
Which I guess is extreamley hard for you, but it takes time, and support.
<3
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Hello Dear,
I am sorry that you are so unhappy. I used to think that I was ugly, myself. I was very popular, and everyone told my that I was very beautiful, but I didn't see myself that way.
I did change a few things about my apperance, and then I saw myself as different, and beautiful.
Don't pester your mother about surgery anymore, the more you bother her, the less she will consider it. Surgery is not the answer for a child.
Now from what you have said about your appereance I have a few suggestions.
My first suggestion comes from your title. If you feel like dying, then dye. In my time, it was inapropriate for young girls to dye their hair, so I wore a wig. Youcan very cheaply chande the colour of your hair at home. This will change your image enough.
Another thing would be to style your hair so that it covers your "wierd ears"
You can shave your face if it is hairy, and put makeup on the uneven parts.
Good luck, you ARE beautiful!
-MABLE
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hey, whatever you do dont kill yourself/cut yourself. plastic surgery isntn the only answer. bulging stomach- eat healthy join a gym or do sit-ups. big nose- theres nothing you can do. hairy&&manly face- for the hair you could get your eyebrows and lips waxed. for manlyness wear make-up. try black mascara on the top and bottom lashes. wear brown eyeliner on just the bottom eyelids. if your light skined wear pink eyeshadow if your darker skinned wear goldish. for blush wear a mix of pink and tan blush. skip the cover-up/foundation and use bronser. for lips put chapstick on and put lipgloss on over it( it sticks better ). diqgusting face- if you mean acne wise wash yoru face every mornign&&night everday. short legs- wear an anklet to dress it up. upper body- theres nothing you can do accpet eat right. tinyfeet- dres them up wiht toe rings to make them loook appealing. weird ears- dress them up with earrings to make them look more appealing. uneven skin color- go outside and tan go tanning at a place or use jergens natural glow sunless tanner. cait♥
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Hey
The problem isnt changing your appearance, its changing your attitude towards life.
I understand you one hundred percent because Im going through the exact same feelings.
I look at myself in the mirror and find everything and anything about myself that doesnt seem "perfect" or at least perfect to me. I compare myself to all my friends, models, and movie stars. I always seem to end up crying wondering why im not as pretty as them. My whole family is sick of seeing me down, and they try to help me as much as they can but it starts to get annoying and everybody around you gets stressed out. Im sure your mother loves you dearly and it hurts her to see you like this, but trust me all the pain you feel about not loving yourself is hurting her even more. What I end up doing is going to a psychologist. Let me tell you, it was the best thing I could have ever done for myself. Rather then you getting surgery, try going to a psychologist. Each day I learn to love myself and accept myself. Im sure your a very pretty girl and even if anyone else tells you, you wont believe them, im the same way, but what you need to do is look at yourself in the mirror and repeat this: I am beautiful! I love myself! Im not perfect nor do I want to be! I am me and im fine just the way I am! After a while if you keep saying it over in your head, you'�ll start to believe it! Now that you know what firstly needs to be done then you can go on to improving your look. But let me tell you something, no matter how pretty you make yourself out to be, no matter what clothes you buy, what color your hair is, how perfect your skin is, youll never think your pretty enough unless you actually believe it! So before you go out and competly change your self, make sure to change the way you feel about yourself.
First of all you can get plastic surgery when you get older, so if your nose is really that big of a problem save up your money now and when you get older youll get it done if you still find the need. For your weight problem I suggest working out, maybe going to the gym, and eating the right way! If you need a list of foods, or work outs ill be more then happy to send them to you just make sure to leave a comment in my inbox. About the weird ears, well I have pretty weird ears myself, but my mother is letting me get surgery on them this summer. Since surgery is not an option at this point in time, then there are certain hair styles you can wear to avoid showing your ears off. Tiny feet are NOT a problem. I have tiny feet and I absolutely love them. Im a small girl so all together im a pretty cute compact if I don't mind saying so myself! Having tiny feet is an advantage not disadvantage. Your feet will look amazing in any high heel shoes!
If they bother you that much, maybe you should go get a manicure every weekend to have something about your toes that you might find attractive. A lot of people have hair on their face. Some are just more noticeable then others. I suggest you get that waxed, it might be a little painful but its worth it. If you believe you have a manly face then make it unmanly! Wear eye liner, eye shadow, lip gloss, and cover up. Also about that bulging stomach since losing weight takes a while, in the mean time buy some new clothes which by the way will boast up your confidence, but make sure the clothes you get over up your little bump but at the same time look cute and have style. Uneven skin color well like I said before buy, some type of foundation. You see I gave you advice on all the things you had a problem with. Everything could be fixed, except how you feel about yourself.
If you ever need anymore help or advice just leave a comment in my inbox.
♥ maria ♥
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hi, dont' kill yourself, please don't. Im going to try and help you with everything, the best I can, but PLEASE DO NOT KILL YOURSELF.If you ever need more advice or anything e-mail my advice column. Everything isn't as bad as it seems to you, I can gurantee it. No one is happy with themselves.For a hairy manly face wax it, a lot of my friends have that problem so your not alone.A disgusting face, sweetie I'm sure its not that bad, don't worry. if you really think it is try makeup. short legs, I got that problem too, you'll grow don't worry. as for unproportionate upper body exercise that part. tiny feet, be happy about them, I still wear kids and think of it this way,everyone wishes they had small feeet. I'm not sure what you mean about weird ears but you can always style your hair to hide them if you feel they are too big. Uneven skincolour can be fixed with makeup. Im noy going to tell you to seek help, but if you ever get to the point again about killing yourself, than I would get someone, please don't kill yourself. Remember that everyone is their own worse critic, no one is perfect, and everyone thinks they are ugly. And those girls you see that you think are pretty, look closely, they have so much make up on, trust me.
I hope you feel better soon!
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hey
i totally know what you mean and i feel like that to sometimes! so you cant do things against big nose i think (sorry)
but you can do something about your stomach! just do sports go to a fittness studio and eat healthy! i did that and it really does work it takes about 2-3 weeks it depense on your age (i'm 14 years old)
i dont think that you have a hairy face but maby this sounds a little stupid but if you really have that much hair just shave it off!
and if your a girl i dont think you have a manly face or disgusting face but for that you could use make up and eye liner and mascara that makes you pretty! oh and the most importand thing is always smile =)
and to your upper-boddy uhh just go jogging and well as i was saying eat healthy and do a lot of sports!
its really not that bad to have tiny feet! thats better than these really big feet (like i have) cause i can never find the perfect shoe! but you could buy shoes that makes your feet seem bigger!
okay and if you think you have weird ears just get your ears peirced (if you dont have earings yet) and wear pretty earings!!
well nobody has a perfect scincolour! and since you want a perfect skincolour for your face just use make up and in your free time when its sunny outside just lay in the sun and you'll rurn broowwn =)
okay oh yeah and if you want to change even more get a new haircut that makes your face pretty and so you can think: wow my hair looks great!
okay that was long i really hope i helped you and good luck!
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