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19/f I went through a deep, long episode of depression. I absolutely loathed myself. It escalated to where I was cutting, and I nearly attempted suicide. I had a drink and a bottle of pills ready one night, the only thing that stopped me was the thought of being a buzz-kill for my father's huge 50th birthday event coming up. Before and after that, suicide was almost all I thought about.
I was pretty dang overweight. I wanted to get out of this dark abyss, and not that losing weight would be what would make me worth something, but I didn't want weight to hold me back anymore. It's been about 3 or 4 months since I decided to really start losing weight. I've been extremely loyal to my diet, and have lost quite a bit of weight. Everyone is noticing and complimenting me. It used to be just people I hadn't seen in a while, but now even people I see every day are saying I look great. I'm far from done, but here's the issue.
Instead of loathing myself, at the beginning of the month I realized I'm kind of tolerating who I am now. I'm starting to feel proud of what I look like. Instead of staring into the mirror glaring at the person looking back, I'm noticing how parts of me are shrinking and getting firmer, and it makes me feel pretty awesome. I couldn't see at first, but now I'm noticing and it's a pretty awesome feeling. My journey is far from over, but I've made some good progress.
What I'm worried about is, I don't want to equate my self-worth with how much I weigh. I'm worried that my hatred is going away because I'm starting to look good. I don't want to depend on my looks for my worth. SO, is it normal to feel this way when losing weight? How can I differentiate loving myself for real/ just loving how I look that day? I want to be careful, because I want to like being me for me, not for the compliments and approval I'm getting. I don't know, does anyone know how I feel? (link)
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I know how you feel.
I've pretty much done the same thing as you.
The problem is that now that I've lost a lot of weight I still feel pretty ugly and fat and I want to lose even more even though I'm almost underweight now. Yet I still want to lose around 22 pounds or more._.
I'm glad that you don't think that way and it's a good sign that you feel better about yourself :) You said yourself that you were overweight which might have also added to you not liking yourself don't you think? And now that you've lost weight and that part of you that you didn't like is gone you obviously feel better :) I don't think that there is anything wrong with it. I just hope that it's not going to develope into a problem for example an eating disorder. When you have an eating disorder it's all about finding a way to control your life. It's a coping mechanismn. And I hope that this is not going to happen to you. Think about what you're going to do when you've reached your target weight. Will you want to lose more because it's the only thing that you can hang on to?
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Okay I'm 18 and about 10 days ago me and my boyfriend of 2 years had sex and we normally only have it every once in a while. Every time we used a condom and have no contact before hand that would lead to pregnancy that way and none of the condoms broke. But ever since then my breasts have been really sore and at first I thought it was just bruising but now i've started to freak myself out over the fact that it could be an early sign of pregnancy. I have no idea why they would hurt in the first place unless it is the week before i'm supposed to get my period and well as far as I know it isn't. I had my last period end a couple days before we had sex. We are both extremely scared and to be honest this is why I usually say no to having sex. Can someone give me any advice if this has ever happened to you or if you know anything? (link)
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I obviously can't tell you if you're pregnant or not but it seems very unlikely to me.
All I can tell you is that I've had exactly the same problems as you. I don't have sex with my boyfriend very often and when we do I also freak out about getting pregnant. And I also had my breast hurting after having sex which made me freak out even more ._. And I was never pregnant. It was all in my head. There are a lot more reasons for your breast to hurt than pregnancy so don't worry so much :3
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My boyfriend and I had sex a while ago and we didn't use a condom but he didn't cum in me and his dick was only in me for about 5 seconds. I think he popped my cherry cause I bled a little bit. I'm 2 days late on my period and I'm starting to really worry. Am I pregnant??:( (link)
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Yes there is a chance that you're pregnant. Why do girls keep having unprotected sex? Use a condom and this doesn't happen! You can get the morning after pill a day after you had sex but I'm guessing it's too late for that now.
So yes, you might be pregnant. The chances aren't that high but there is a possibility. It doesn't matter if a guy cums in you or not. There is always precum and that can get you pregnant.
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21/f
I'm beginning to think something is seriously wrong with me. I've have been intimate with 4 guys && none of them could last longer than 4 minutes max (and I think that might be a generous number, could be less, definitely not more). They all but 1 have had sex with a couple of people a piece and said I'm the only girl they have climaxed with that fast. My ex && I (he was a virgin) had sex and for the whole 2 years of our relationship, he would only last 2 whole minutes! After we broke up, he had sex with several other women & a couple told me he was the longest lasting man they've had. We ended up hooking up one night, (I was excited to be able to have sex wit him longer than 2 minutes) and not even 3 minutes later, he busted. His face was full of disappointment. He said "you are the only girl that makes me bust that fast"
Like my new boyfriend, said I had nothing to worry about because I told him my sex life in the past was awful due to disappointment; believe it or not, he only lasted not even 4 minutes. I haven't been able to have sex since (that was 3 months ago). What is wrong with me? Why can't guys last that long with me?
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Maybe you're just really attractive? I think the more turned on a guy is the faster he climaxes.
My ex boyfriend also came after just 2-5 minutes and so did my current boyfriend in the beginning. I then suggested to have sex a little slower and it worked. He still doesn't last all that long but it's gotten a lot better. Maybe it'll work for you too.
I know how you feel though ._. I've been having the same problem and it does get a little annoying after a while :( I hope this helps.
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Hi , Im 13 years old , & Im 5'6 & I weigh 256 pounds . I am WAY over weight . I cannot go to dieting because I have a physical in one month so i NEED to loose weight before I go off the charts and I dont want him to yell at me . I literally just started making myself puke to loose weight . How long will it take for me to be average weight ? (link)
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If you don't eat too much you wont have a reason to throw up ._.
Just try eating normally. How about around 1200 - 1500 calories a day? And exersise. It will make you lose weight. I started going on unhealthy diets and starved myself when I was 10 and now I am 19 and have an eating disorder. Please don't throw up. It does not help anyways because your body will start clinging to every calorie it can get. This is why most bulimic girls aren't really thin.
As I said eat normally and you wont need to worry. Cut out junk food and fizzy drinks. Only drink water and eat healthy food and you'll be fine :)
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I know i'm not crazy & I don't want people to think I'm crazy. I hear voices talking to me & I feel like there's an evil spirit around me. I hear loud evil noises & when I was 10 years old, an evil spirit even said my name. It scared me but I didn't tell anyone cause I know they wouldn't believe me.
The doctors don't believe me, my parents don't believe me, they think that this is all in my head & that I just have some mental disorder. I even see evil spirits around my house moving around on the walls.
When I was at my grandma's house I heard something evil whispering to me & I go scared and shook for days
I can't sleep either, sometimes I have sleep paralysis. I'll be awake in my room & freeze up, then start hearing voices. I can't talk or move either. I hear voices all day.
I don't understand why nobody believes me or thinks that evil spirits are real. The doctors I went to told me I have psychosis. They just want to tell me it's all made up & I'm being delusional. These voices & spirits scare me. They are always around me & I hear them. These are demons trying to get me!
I don't do drugs or drink alcohol. No one will listen to me or believe me. I believe these voices are REAL
How do I get rid of evil?? (link)
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I also don't like it when people say that something like this is considered "crazy". Thing is that it's not normal for most people so they think that something is wrong with you. But we're just humans, we have no real clue if this kind of stuff is real or not. We barely know anything compared to what is out there. We're not even able to see all colors etc. When I was a child I also heard a lot of voices and saw things. It eventually went away cause people kept telling me that it's not real. I think that if you're really open to this and believe in it you're able to see it. And if you're not cause society keeps telling you it doesn't exist you start believing that it's all in your head and not real. I agree with the first answer. Try talking to a priest :) It might help. I don't think that you're crazy.
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18/f, been in a happy, secure relationship for over 2 years.
At first, giving oral was something I would do to my boyfriend to impress him and let him know that I can be sexy. after months (and years) went by, I stopped having the desire to show him that side of me through oral sex. I've come to despise it, actually. I hate the taste, I hate that it makes my mouth sore, and I just don't like the feeling it gives me - like I'm degrading myself.
My boyfriend for the most part respects this. On his birthday, I've (unfortunately) made it a tradition to give him head and let him finish right then and there. Since his birthday's coming up, he keeps talking about it and how excited he is. I couldn't be dreading it more.
thinking about it upsets me because all the other girls I know love to perform oral on their boyfriends. It makes me feel abnormal and that my boyfriend deserves someone who would enjoy it as much as he does. I hate feeling this way and I'm never at peace with myself for it.
so, I'm not weird right? (link)
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I dont like giving oral either mostly because it just doesnt make me feel good being so close to his penis. I dont like the smell and the taste and my mouth gets sore too. Also it kind of makes me feel like an object, especially when the guy tries to move my face closer to his penis. so no you're not weird and you're not alone.
You could ask him to shower before you do it IF you still want to go through with it. When my boyfriend takes a shower and his penis smells like bodywash it's really not that bad.
If you're dreading it too much you should really just tell him the truth. If he really loves you he'll understand. And a good relationship is not all about sex. It would really put me of if a guy kept talking about how "excited" he is to get a blowjob. I mean hello? If he wants sexual pleasure sooo badly he should just masturbate. I think that these things should just happen because you love eachother and because you want to be close to eachother and not because the guy is oh-so-horny.
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If a girl drinks sperm, will she get pregnant? is there any harm doing so? (link)
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She will obviously not get pregnant.
Yet it can be harmful if the guy has a sexual desease.
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"i am from Tanzania" How can i convice my virgin girlfriend to have sex with me (link)
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You dont. If you love her you wait until she is ready rather than asking how to "convince" her >-< If its all about sex with you go find someone else who wants the same thing.
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why is is so hard to get over your first love and why is that even after they hurt you so much its still harder? what have you (guys and girls) done to get over them and can you ever even get over them completely? (link)
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i got over it because i thought about how much he's hurt me you know? like i was like: omg i'm so much better.
and maybe you dont believe it because to be honest neither did i but just keep telling yourself that. because staying with him in your mind isnt gonna get you further anyway. like its basically a waste of time :S
sorry if i sound harsh.
but honestly what helps is going outside, shopping while checking out other guys. it made me feel sooo much better lOl.
but really, i know that right now you feel like youre never gonna get over it, but trust me you will, you just have to believe it yourself and stp hanging on to him.
it doesnt even take thaat long. like ive been totally in love with this guy for 2 years and he was my first love. but then he broke my heart and i got really pissed about it :S
so yeah it took me like about 2 weeks to realize hes not worth it. getting over it is the harder part but it'll happen, dont worry (:
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what is best way to commit sucide (link)
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come on, dont do it! go see a councelor or something. commiting suicide wont solve your problem! you'd basically only run away from it and youre better than that. PLEASE dont do it, it wont make anything better.
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Hello Everyone:
I would to ask all of you something. Why does it seem like it's hard for good guys like me who dosen't, smoke, drink or do any of that bad stuff to find a right girl for him? It seems like there are a lot of girls out there who are nothing but trouble and always want want want all the time. I do not like girls who are always wanting stuff all the time. And it seems like all the good nice looking girls already have boyfriends. What is up with this? (link)
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nooou. youre totally great (:
i'd date you and i'm good looking hahaaa :P
but seriously i think it's soo good you dont smoke or drink. you know i've got a similar problem. i dont seem to find a nice good looking guy who DONT do shit. it's soo hard and to be honest i dont know any :/
and why would you want a trouble-girl as a gf anyway? i mean seriously it's not worth it. and you'll find a girl who likes you for you are (:
like me for example. and i'm not a geek or anything haha
but dont worry too much. there deffinetly are girls out there who dont dig drinking etc.
just try meeting new people. and also, the girls who are taken wont be taken forever anyway :P
hope i helped a little (:
good luck xxx
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hey. 14/f. ok. well i really want a new hairstyle. i think i want choppy front bangs, instead of side bangs. so would these type of bangs: http://www.ashleesimpsonsworld.com/ashlee-simpson-gallery/ashlee-simpson-05.jpg
look good on a person with an oval/round kinda face with brown eyes and lightish dark brown hair?? like i said, right now i have side bangs, but i wanna do somethin different. and also, is there any FREE websites where i can upload my pic and see different hairstyles on me?? i already tried thehairstyler.com but it's not free. and plz plz don't tell me to google it cause i already tried. thanks so much!!!!!!!llluuuvvv!! (link)
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if you have an oval face everything suites you. it sounds good 2 me! side bangs mostly make your face seem sorta big anyway ..so yeah , go for it!
you can also ask your hairdresser for advice!
good luck!
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hi am a 11/female
i am in the 5th gr. and now if anybody is a little chubby, u don't get any boys, or u get teased. and am 11 yrs. old and i want to lose some lbs. i really don't want to get my mom involed because i don't feel comfortable about talking about weight yet with her. so i can't get a video or a south beach diet or sdomething like that. how do i lose 10 to 15lbs. i am 11 and i am about 110 lbs.(105) (link)
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uhm you are supose 2 be 13 or older 2 be on this site.
and you are 2 young 2 loose weight. ur fine
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Well im 14 and i have been with my boy friend for 9 months. and lately he hasnt really been talking to. kinda like avoiding me. i dont know what i should. i mean i call him and try to talk to him. and normally we talk for a couple hours. but he tends to be like "i gotta go bye" after like 15 minutes on the phone. i dont know if its something i did.
what should i do?! (link)
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you know what you should do? don't talk 2 him yet , maybe he is just bored with the relationship and i think it would just annoy him.
ok first don't call him that often anymore. if you've been calling him everyday , trie calling him every second day from now on. he's gonna start thinking about you and what you're doing that is more important....lol
then when you do call him you gotta be just like him. just say "i gotta go bye". that way he'll now how you feel!
maby he's gonna get the message that way and is gonna care a bit more about you.
it will also get him 2 wonder whats going on , and that will make the relationship a bit more interesting. guys get bored if your making the whole thing so easy. be misterious and stuff like that. trie 2 act like it doesn't really bother you that much.
i know this is probably weird , but trie that it really works!!!
but don't completely avoid him. you still have 2 let him know that u love him , just trie and keep ot on the down low lol
hope everything works out
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what are some of your favorite songs?i just got a ipod and i only have like 15 songs on it.... so give me as many as you can
(i don't like rap,or country!!!)
ok thank you! (link)
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Linkin Park
Korn
HIM
Soufly
Deftones
Atreyu
the offspring
the unseen
green day
simple plan
yeah thats pretty much what i listen 2. but they r mostly metal/rock bands
sry
i tried =D
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I came onto this site a few weeks ago asking a question about becoming a model and how you have to look.
But, what is beautiful? Someone on this site told me "If your not beautiful, then don't bother"
But what are the criteria for being beautiful?
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there are three types of "beautiful". they all depend on the haircolor here
BLACK/BRUNETTE
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very long straight black/brown hair (color doesn't matter)
and oval face
big eyes with long eyelashes(color doesn't matter)
a delicate figure
clear white skin
red lips
that was one way
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BLOND
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curly or straight blond hair (normal length)
oval face
blue eyes
a sexy figure
big boobs
big ass
darker skin tone
horny
tall
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RED
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curly red hair
oval face
freckles
green eyes
normal /average figure
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well thats what a friend of mine told me once. and these were all three types.
now , i think a man would prefere
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long hair
sexy figure
big eyes/long eyelashes
nomal sised boobs (depense)
normal ass
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maby this was a bit confusing , sorry
but you can also be beautiful on the inside. many people just don't know that!
hope i helped a little
good luck =)
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aahhh sorry i said color doesn't matter here
very long straight black/brown hair (color doesn't matter)
and oval face
big eyes with long eyelashes(color doesn't matter)
just forget that
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i have really big hips, big boobs, a big butt, and big arms. my stomach isnt even that big, i have been exercising alot lately. and well it doesnt seem to improve.
do you recommend anything to make my self esteem a little higher? (link)
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for your hips: ride your bike and run every day. that helped A-LOT and i used 2 have the same problem.
when you loose weight your boobs will become smaller 2 since most of it is made of fat l o l .
your arms will get smaller automaticly 2. just don't lift weights or anything xD
what you r doing now is great! it's cool that you make an effort like that , most of the girls i know just nag but don't do anything. keep it up and you'll be slim in no time.
now for your self esteem...
once you reached your goal you'll have a-lot of self esteem cause you can wear anything you want and you'll be proud of yourself. that is a great feeling don't you think? but untill then maby you could wear black t-shirts , they make you seem slimmer. of course you don't wanna turn goth lol , you can wear a white jacket over it or something. but if you don't show any1 that you don't like your body , i bet no1 will even notice. trie 2 be selfconfident. look in the mirrow and focous on all the positive things like hair and eyes. even though it sounds unlikely eyes and hair are one of the most important things when it comes 2 attracting some1.
if you do something with them people will look at that and not your figure and you'll feel so much better
trust me everything is gonna be fine. keep your diet up and then you'll have nothing 2 worry about
loads of luck
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Ok so i got a boyfriend yesterday and 5 of my friends like him and before i said yes i talked to them the 4 were all fine but cut but they toild me to do whats right and they were so nice then my bestfriend ii asked her and i told her if you dont want me to il just so no but she was so happy and she was like YEH go for it but she told that she had gotten over him ok and she was like go for it yay then when i said yes she started crying now shes mad at me and i dont want to dump him what should i do =[=[ ?? (link)
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ask her why she has been acting so weird. cause that IS weird. if she gives you good reasons maby you should brake up with him cause she's your best friend and as all the others said boys come and go and friends are forever. tell your bf why you can't date him anymore and i bet he'll understand.
but if your friend can't give you any good reasons which is pretty unlikely , trie and talk 2 her about the whole situation
oh , and if you DO wanna stay together with your bf tell your friend that you'll still be there for her even if you have a bf.
maby she didn't start crying cause he said yes , maby it was cause she thinks he is more important now?! i dunno i'm just trying 2 find some options.
so ask her about that and remember
N.E.V.E.R. loose your best friend over a guy!!
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There's really not a category for my questiion so I appologize in advance. Anyway, I've had freckles on my face for as long as I can remember. As a kid, everybody thought it was cute, including girls, but I didn't want anything to do with them obviously in 2nd grade or whatever. Now that I'm in college, I don't think that people, including myself, really think freckles are cute anymore. I dont have problems with acne, and I'm in pretty good shape. Do any girls out there think that freckles are a cute thing? (link)
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yeah i think it's cute. my boyfriend has freckels 2. don't worry there will always be girls who are going 2 like you and freckels are definitely not a bad thing. it's actually pretty likeable lol
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