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Is He Genuine And How To... Well!
Well, let's first explain the situation! We've been together 11 months now (me and the boyfriend) - nearly a year actually! I don't see us splitting up at all, at least any time in the future. At the start I knew I didn't love him - I fancied him, but it grew and now I can't imagine loving anyone else as much as him. He says he loves me too. We have a very slow moving relationship - or we did. At first I was horrifically shy - we first had a proper match of tonsil-tennis during the 2nd or start of the 3rd month. It was half a year before we started to move on from that onto other mild things, and it was around 8 or 9 months when we first started doing foreplay! Now we still haven't gone all the way but this is mainly due to lack of time alone and protection... he applies little pressure on me and seems content even though we moved incredibly slowly. Obviously there are times when there's more pressure applied but I find myself pretty willing at those moments - anyways. He says he loves me and I think I believe him but I'm naturally untrusting. I know that guys will stay stuff to get places and there are lots of examples of this in the kind of group my boyfriend hangs out in. I'm ready to go far with him, and take the leap but I want to know if you think there could be any risk of well, the syaing stuff to get places thing that I mentioned previously. Also, we're both virgins and we've tried it before... it didn't work! Any advice or stories on first time sex would be so useful I can't mention it. Thank you!
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if he has stayed around for this long without doing anything serious then he is genuine. no guy would wait this long if he just wanted some action, so he definitely genuinely cares for you. as for first times, its always akward the first time. its probably going to hurt you a lot, esp if your hymen hasnt been broken yet. (which could have occured through fingering, or something as simple as playing sports can cause it sometimes.) you will probably bleed. as for tips there isnt really anything to take away the akwardness of the first time. hope this helped.
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its really not a bad thing that you moved slow. me and my boyfriend have beeen together for 2 and a half years and i was scared to trust him to but because he proved to me he loved me by waiting for me and not pressuring for it a year in the realtionship it happened. what i did is a talked to him about it and he gave me feed back and so on. so my advice to u is talk to him about it but dont think your rushing into things only do it when you feel its right and most importantly use protection. hope this helped.
♥ Steph
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