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help for a broken heart
well im 15 and i dated this guy about a year ago and we broke up cuz he cheated on me. well not physically but he talked to sum girl over the phone told her he loved her and mad panns to hook up with her..while we were going out.(which never actually happened)..well its been about a year...we stayed friends but not very close..and he wants to go bac out...should i try again or let him go?..he broke my heart once do u think he wll do it again? is he telling th truth that he really care...or does he just want sex? why did he wit so long?...theres so much that i dont understand..help plez
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umm if it is because of the sex..you should test him by..
-going out with him and waiting a while until u have sex..make him wait and see if he still sticks around if he doesnt- you know why he came back..
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Nah dont go with him agen. You will only be hurting urself n he probably just want to have sex with u. Yeah... He just want your beauty bak!!! Lol, hope this helps....
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i always think people deserve another chance but a person doesnt deserve another chance to be hurt..Well dont give him first of all.. and try not to get attached but i would try to give him another chance.. if you love him as much as i love my baby you would want to.. jus try and always work things out..much luv dez x0x0
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Why don't you tell him you'd rather get to know him more as a friend. The problem with your previous relationship was probably that you didn't know each other very well, so things were awkward between the two of you. That way you can judge his personality more. If he truly likes you, he'll be willing to try and get to know you more first. If he doesn't then, sorry, but he's just trying to get in your pants. Getting to know him as a close friend will help you answer all of the questions you have right now. He's the only one who knows the real answers.
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My advice to you would be NOT to go back out with him.
What kind of boyfriend tells some other chick over the phone he loves her and wants to hook up with her? That's just low and sad.
If you guys are friends and you are still not very close, what makes you think being in a relationship with him will make you even closer? I like the friends first theory...relationships are better when you are friends first because you will have already had a close connection. If you guys aren't that close friends right now you probably wouldn't be better off in a relationship.
Your ex has cheated on you, and that means he can do it again. I don't think you'd want that to happen right? If he really cares about you he'll still be your good friend even if you decide not to go out with him. A good boyfriend should care about your feelings. Your ex however, has hurt you. That shows he's not a very good boyfriend. You can go back out with him if that's what you choose, but I'd urge you to do the opposite and stay away from a relationship with him to avoid heartaches.
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The only way you can get those answers is by asking him. Yes there is a chance that he'll do it again. He could've also realized what a mistake he made and could really be trying to make up for it. Sex, yes ... he is a man. lol :)
But seriously ...
My suggestion to you would be to talk to him about everything. Ask him why he did it and what's so different now, etc. After you've had a good talk with him decide whether or not you think there is a chance. If I were you and I were still interested I would keep it as a friendship and see what developed from there. But keep bounderies set so he can't use you. Trust me...if he is really that into you he'll do whatever it takes and stick around until you are ready. If he doesn't ... then he isn't worth your time dear!!
P.S. I don't know if you've heard of this book or not but it's definately worth it. My friend and I refer to it as our "dating bible." It's called, "He's Just Not That Into You" by Greg Behrendt and Liz Tuccillo.
Best of luck!
~ Amanda ;)
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It seems to me that he doesn't seem very trustworthy. If he was gonna cheat on you before, there's no gaurantee he wont do it again. An he can say he didn't mean wat he said to the other girl before, but then what he's saying now he might not mean. If that makes any sense. If you think you can trust him, and want to try it, it's your choice, because you know him better than i do. But to me it sounds like he's using you. I hope everything works out.
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If you really want to find out..go out with him but forget the sex part for awhile. If he sticks around he means it, if he doesn't then you know he just wanted sex. Good luck :)
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