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ok um 15 yr old girl been giving advice for about 2 years but just found this site last year. hint I'm not good with does he like me probs.

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okay i basically fell in love with this boy 7 months ago. I haven't seen him for 5 months or longer now and i'm practically falling appart. i don't want to give up on him because he's too perfect. i mean i never actually talked to him but we have so much in commen. my mom knows i like him, but i don't feel comfterble talking to her about him at the moment. She always brings something similar to him up though in conversations. could this mean that she wants to talk to me about him?? ugh i'm so confused right now.. please help! and sorry it's so long.

well you could ask your mother what she's getting at and see how it goes, even if you dodn't think your ready to talk to her yet sometimes it does help to talk to a parent anyway. If you don't wat to give up on him don't, now not seeing him for 5 months or longer well that's a long time and it sounds like you really do need to talk to someone on a regular basis or find a way to start talking to him. As for falling appart on him as long as you can keep your grades semi up it's ok to fall appart in a healthy way in other words do not start cutting yourself or doing any harmful thing to your body and don't let him take your grades to the ground. Any ways good luck on this and I really hope you get to see him soon.

*this may be kinda long sorry! but thanks for taking the time to read this*
*well me and my ex boyfriend "mike" have been broken up for 9 months now! we talk about once a day or sometimes every other day! we have hung out quite a few times..and this is where the problem starts
*last night he came over and picked me up at my house around 10! he lives like 30 mins away from me so the whole time we were driving he was just kinda flirting with me..like making fun of me and stuff! well we were going to his friends house to get him and then gonna go bowling but his best friend was there and he doesnt like me so we didnt go there..instead we just went to mcdonalds! he kept asking me if i wanted something but i said no! well he got something and while he ate we sat in his truck and just talked..he kept staring at me and i was like what and hes like can i not look at you! and he kept calling me turtle lip which is what he called me when we went out! well then we left and went to his house and i started playing with my hair and
he was like whats wrong? i was like nothing and hes like what are you thinking about and i was like nothing and he was like dont lie to me i know better..well i didnt wanna talk about it! so we get to his house and he undoes his seatbelt..he looks at me and goes do you think it would really work out? i was like i really dunno and he was like honestly and i was like i dunno maybe! well i told him i was cold so he moved the thingy in the middle up and came and cuddled with me! well he was rubbing my feet for a while and he knows i love that! then he layed his head on my chest and was listening to my heart beat! well then he looked at me and was like can i bite your lip and i was like why and he was like i want to so i was like sure..so he did..then he layed his head on my chest again and just stared at me and was like can i kiss you so i was like i guess so we kissed! and that happened quite a few times! he kept trying to hold my hands and hold me in his arms! well i got up for a sec so he laid in my spot! well i was like fine ill go in the back and he was like no lay on me so i did! the seat belt thing was in my way so i went to the back..so he came back there with me and of course we cuddled and ended up messing around! weve hung out several times before this and weve never touched eachother like that or cuddled/kissed or anything! well then it was 1:30 and his dad was like you need to take her home! ya it seems awesome i know..but heres where it doesnt make sense! today he was on AIM and imed him (he was away though) and i was like you know things are gonna be hard now cause i cant get over him at all..and he signed off so i was like what the heck! so i got on myspace and he was on so i was like whatever cause sometimes it just leaves it on! then again later i got on it and he was on it again but he wasnt on AIM so i felt like he was avoiding me! so i called him and was like why are you ignoring me and he was like im not im watching a movie ill ttyl so i was like whatever! and he hasnt been on AIM all day..sometimes hes not but its kinda weird! i dunno if its just me or if hes ignoring me! i guess my question is what should i do? let go or keep trying? keep in mind he is my 1st love but i have been trying for 9 months.. how do you think he feels? do you think he really likes me and is scared to tell me or fall me or what? ughhh someone please help me! thanks so much

ok I know I'm like way late but on this really you shouldn't so much listen to what other people tell you but you should close your eyes and see what your heart tells you or if your not good at that make the pro's and cons list then after making your decision yes, no, or I'm still confused, you need to talk with him face to face.I know this is probably super late and I'm sorry but if it's not I hope it helped.

ok i love this guy. and i barly know him!! the thing is though that he lives kinda far away so its not like id be able to see him much. have any ideas?

well long distances are hard but what do we have phones and computers for any more? and if it's in a drving distance you could meet in some town between the two towns. Although I would really suggest getting to know him better first to make sure you know him well enough. In any case good luck and if you need a little more specific advice feel free to IM me or E mail me.

Hey everyone, I got a myspace but like i have no friends, my friends have them but only like 6 of them do!! I see people with like 1000 friends HOW DO U GET THAT MANY PEOPLE I have no one!

go into the section for newbeis and chats and you can pcik up quite some friends that's kinda what that section is there for or find people with common intrest to you also encourage your friends to join

Okay so theres this new guy to our school and hes a Junior and Im a sophmore and hes the classic bad boy he's been in trouble with the law, hes not a virgin (i am)he parties ALL the time. But hes really sweet and i truly try and stop myself from getting wrapped up in him bc to him im probably just another "girl" well whenever i get online hes the first screen name i look for and in the hallways i always look for him. But hes a major flirt and i know you guys are gonna tell me to just forget about him and i know IM TRYING. =/ basically, what im trying to say is should i even give him a chance to see me for who i really am or just give up while my hearts all mine? Like and sometimes i think hes too bad for me. He asked me this weekend to go with him to street racing with him and he doesnt have his license or permit it got taken away and i made up an excuse. Should i hang out with him?

I would watch it you can hang with him but as friends and as for the street racing thing don't go. You should deff give him a chance to see you for you but when you hang out make sure it's like 95% legal at the least and mabey help him stay out of so much trouble with the law. Just be careful with what ever you do and think 2 or 3 times before you go do anything with him.

ok, my friend andy invited me to sleepover on friday night. hes having a sleepover and i really wanna go. the only thing is... im a girl... and andy is a guy so my parents will probably say no. my friend tia is going too... but i dont think that will help convince them much. im thinking about saying im sleeping over tias and then going with her to andys... but im scared my parents would find out... what should i do? please help me...

You actually need to be honest about this if your parents see you being honest and good and trust the guys parents they might actually say yes and besides if they catch you you are so beyond dead. and I'm typically a rebel child.

Okay, I'm having this Halloween party and I don't know what to do, I told them to ware their costumes, and to bring some warm clothes incase it is cold, but I don't know what to do! There are going to boys and girls, along with my parents, little sis, and my boyfriend;) I don't know what we should do that would be fun for kids our age. We are all 13/14 and we want to just have fun, do you know what we could do? ( please don't make it expensive, my family doesn't have verymuch money right now.) thanks!

I did the same thing last year just throw on some old CDs and mabey a movie and provide some food and let the party flow on it's own. If you have any games or anything you can set that up to. One of my friends did a little bone scavenger hunt using construction paper at her party just let your parents do the hidding cause that girl also cheated.

Okay so, my friend wants me to ask y'all this..

She said that she used to smoke and then she stopped and before, she used to inhale the smoke and now she started smoking again (she's an idiot because she started again to impress a guy) she can't inhale without choking.

She asked me what she should do but I don't smoke so I wouldn't know .. LOL.
So yeah, what should she do?

Apart from stop smoking, which is what I said :P

you should really have her go to a rehab and By the way no guy is worth destroying your lungs and you can use your friend to help you stop smoking you can either go cold turkey or stop slowly but you should deffinatly go to a doctor or a rehab center they will help you.

well this is one of those typical. " I love him but he loves someone else" kinds of things. I just need help with what to do. He always is telling me like they're problems and stuff but that they like eachother and stuff and it hurts so badly so see, and i just want a way to deal with it cause i never want to lose him as a friend or w.e he'll be in my life.

yeah that is a tough situation. But he has to like you in some way if he's always coming to you. Most likly they're going to eventually break up and he's going to come to you agian and if he sees he can trust you he'll eventually end up with you. Just take comfort in his trust and keep building the relation ship in the mean time get a journal so you can pour all your thoughts into it.

this question was asked but i also want to know so here:

I need to lose stomach fat FAST. What is the fastest way I can do it (with the exercises listed and how often I should do it). This is desperate! Thank you.

crunches start with like 20 and try to double the ammount every day and dancing! but for dancing make sure you stretch first cause it kinda hurts to pull muscles. You should at least do it 3 days a week and if you feel to strained out by it take a day of rest! Don't over do it or your just going to hurt yourself.
you could just click on veiw answers and get some suggestions that way too.

What are stretch marks? How can you get rid of them?

stretch marks are little red marks that go wear your growning and they have to go away by themselves it's just your skin stretching it's nothing to be ashamed of.

I need to lose stomach fat FAST. What is the fastest way I can do it (with the exercises listed and how often I should do it). This is desperate! Thank you.

crunches start with like 20 and try to double the ammount every day and dancing! but for dancing make sure you stretch first cause it kinda hurts to pull muscles. You should at least do it 3 days a week and if you feel to strained out by it take a day of rest! Don't over do it or your just going to hurt yourself.

how do i get the guy i like who kinda likes me too to ask me 2 homecoming if its this saturday?

Bring it up or even ask him yourself. Here's an example of how to do it just kind of randomly.
You: Who are youy going to home coming with?
Him: no one you?
You: no one
Either one of you: do you want to go with me?

Hope that helped

if u were going to have sex but were a condom how could u still get pregnant of a disease?

Well condoms break and they actually aren't for protection aginst disease.

how do you change the bg/font color on aol instant mess. ?

go to your buddy list and either press F3 the botton or go to my aim then edit preferences. After that go to font then window color and change the window color.

let me start out with i have a boyfriend...heres the story...my boyfrined an me have been brokenup an togther alot of times..an know we are back togteher but scence this is a new school year there are new boys...an there is this one boy anthony that i like an he likes me ..well i didnt find out that he liked me until i started to date my ex that is my boyfirned aagain....please help me should i dump my boyfrined an go out with anthony?????..HELP ME !!! i do like my boyfrined alot but i do like anthony!!!

-tasha

Well obviously if it's hard to choose but you should always follow your heart and to listen to it all you need to do is close your eyes and see which face out of the two guys just feels right.

i am 13/f and i want sex is that wrong

it's normal for teens to be curious and want sex however doing it is quite another matter. You have to concider the STDs and all the other risk because even with protection you can still get pregnant and all that. So basicly be curious all you want but please for your future self wait. You'll be happier waiting than doing it now.

i have a boy friend and i really like him he is nice and cute i really like him but the thing is i try to talk to him and he dosen't really talk back like ill be like how was your day and he would be like good and thats i asked him why and he didnt answer i write him notes never back im not trying to be a control freak im just trying to get to now him better! he is so quite but his faces are so loud how can i get clsoer to this quitley loud man?

You know not all communication is verbal? infact the strongest communication is body language watch his body language and watch what he does (without being totally stalkerish) and if you haven't told him you want to get to know him better you might want to do that too. But pretty much whatch what he does so you can figure out how to best communicate with him.

ok! i imed someone on AIM & they didn't have up an a/m er it wasn't in their profile, but when i imed them the a/m was up & it was a link for a angelfire site, & i was wondering if you could get a virus somehow. i didn't click it er anything but i heard there's some code you can put in your a/m that gives people virus's & i wasn't sure if that was true er not. nothing came up on my virus scan though. any ideas

thanks

well not all virus scanners pick up everything but since you didn't click on it you wouldn't get a virus from it with viruses you have to open the file. So your computer is safe just don't click on that link unkess it's a friend you trust to keep their cpu clean and not to contaminate yours or test out a virus on yours.

Okay. How are you supposed to get rid of under-eye bags?? I hope no one will answer with the word "sleep" because I get plenty. More than enough. And I conceal the bags everyday with concealer. And it might be genetic/stress-related/hereditary, I KNOW. Just tell me how, without purchasing anything, can I get rid of the bags under my eyes?

watch what you eat sometimeseating too much sugar or not enough of things especially vitamin C effects the skin (A lot of vitamin C is found in vegtables) also you could try sleeping with like a wet paper towel over your eyes if it doesn't bug you. I hope I helped a little.

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