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*this may be kinda long sorry! but thanks for taking the time to read this*
*well me and my ex boyfriend "mike" have been broken up for 9 months now! we talk about once a day or sometimes every other day! we have hung out quite a few times..and this is where the problem starts
*last night he came over and picked me up at my house around 10! he lives like 30 mins away from me so the whole time we were driving he was just kinda flirting with me..like making fun of me and stuff! well we were going to his friends house to get him and then gonna go bowling but his best friend was there and he doesnt like me so we didnt go there..instead we just went to mcdonalds! he kept asking me if i wanted something but i said no! well he got something and while he ate we sat in his truck and just talked..he kept staring at me and i was like what and hes like can i not look at you! and he kept calling me turtle lip which is what he called me when we went out! well then we left and went to his house and i started playing with my hair and
he was like whats wrong? i was like nothing and hes like what are you thinking about and i was like nothing and he was like dont lie to me i know better..well i didnt wanna talk about it! so we get to his house and he undoes his seatbelt..he looks at me and goes do you think it would really work out? i was like i really dunno and he was like honestly and i was like i dunno maybe! well i told him i was cold so he moved the thingy in the middle up and came and cuddled with me! well he was rubbing my feet for a while and he knows i love that! then he layed his head on my chest and was listening to my heart beat! well then he looked at me and was like can i bite your lip and i was like why and he was like i want to so i was like sure..so he did..then he layed his head on my chest again and just stared at me and was like can i kiss you so i was like i guess so we kissed! and that happened quite a few times! he kept trying to hold my hands and hold me in his arms! well i got up for a sec so he laid in my spot! well i was like fine ill go in the back and he was like no lay on me so i did! the seat belt thing was in my way so i went to the back..so he came back there with me and of course we cuddled and ended up messing around! weve hung out several times before this and weve never touched eachother like that or cuddled/kissed or anything! well then it was 1:30 and his dad was like you need to take her home! ya it seems awesome i know..but heres where it doesnt make sense! today he was on AIM and imed him (he was away though) and i was like you know things are gonna be hard now cause i cant get over him at all..and he signed off so i was like what the heck! so i got on myspace and he was on so i was like whatever cause sometimes it just leaves it on! then again later i got on it and he was on it again but he wasnt on AIM so i felt like he was avoiding me! so i called him and was like why are you ignoring me and he was like im not im watching a movie ill ttyl so i was like whatever! and he hasnt been on AIM all day..sometimes hes not but its kinda weird! i dunno if its just me or if hes ignoring me! i guess my question is what should i do? let go or keep trying? keep in mind he is my 1st love but i have been trying for 9 months.. how do you think he feels? do you think he really likes me and is scared to tell me or fall me or what? ughhh someone please help me! thanks so much <3
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ok I know I'm like way late but on this really you shouldn't so much listen to what other people tell you but you should close your eyes and see what your heart tells you or if your not good at that make the pro's and cons list then after making your decision yes, no, or I'm still confused, you need to talk with him face to face.I know this is probably super late and I'm sorry but if it's not I hope it helped.
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try going to his house to talk to him in his face!
he will pay attention! if he trys to get away get firm with him but not so much that will scare him away from you!
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i don't really know how this guy is feeling, but it sounds like he just wanted a hook-up. like, a one-night thing. if he's your first love and you guys dating.. and you haven't cuddled/kissed? that doesn't sound too promising. i don't know how old you are, but usually couples at least hug and cuddle and junk like that.
he is ignoring you. he's lying because he doesn't want to hurt your feelings and most likely does not want a relationship. i don't think that he likes you and is afraid to admit it; i just think he doesn't like you that way.
it's best to move on from guys like that. it really sounds like he wanted in your pants for that night only. because he keeps ignoring you and he may feel awkward about what happened.
if you need more help, drop one in my inbox. hope i helped. good luck!
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sorry it took so long for me to answer this! hopefully he has talked to you by now. but if not, you should keep trying. because if you really love this guy...than all you can do it love him! i know this is short and stuff but i gotta go. im in a hurry. if something else happens, just ask again! i'll be there for ya!
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to me it sounds like he still does like you. i don't know why you guys broke up but if you did something bad then maybe he's scared to fall for you again because he doesn't want to get hurt again. i would keep trying but don't try forever. tell him straight up be like do you like me or not? if not i'm done trying to get you back but if you do then i'm willing to give us another try but let me know and don't ignore me so i can know whether or not to keep trying. i say give it a try if he really likes you . . he seems really sweet. best wishes*
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hey.. you sent your message to my inbox and i havent checked it in awhile so i apologize for not writing back in a long time.. this actually happened to me for the past 2 years.. my storys more complex but i didnt know what to think either. but the whole thing about you two in his truck is really sweet..he wouldnt do that with just ANYONE. and hes not the one who went in the back, you did.. so its not like he was planning on makin a move on you ya know? my advice is definitely to go after it and see what could happen, but keep in mind that ur not completely sure so that if he does screw you over, your not all suprised and hurt. your first love is always in the back of your mind, so you probably wont ever get over him as much as you might end up hating him. i'd talk to him seriously, face to face, and tell him how you feel.. ask him how he feels n what he wants.. and what everything that happened that night meant. hope everything works out for you.. if u need anything else jus leave me another message! <3
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This is kind of hard.
I know you like him again.. but I think that maybe he was falling for you again. Maybe he didn't want to fall for you again, but he had you in a great spot, you guys had a good time and all, but I think he's shy after it because you guys broke up and he needs to think "Is this really what I want to do?"
Relationships are difficult, so he's probably smart thinking that, if he is thinking that. I'd just wait it out. MAybe he broke up with you because you didn't give him space. Maybe you should give him some space and not bother him about it for a few days, but still talk to him, but avoid the subject for a while. Ask him in a week or something, and maybe he'll have thought it out and he might be able to answer your questions.
Boys have complicated minds, even though it might not seem that way (lol). I say, just give it some time.
Good luck!!!
Kylie ♥
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Sorry its taken me solong to answer this. but see i think that he does like you. so i htink that the night you were together he showed it and now it seem to me like he is scared. like he is scared to show you how he feels and how much you may mean to him. . . so i think that if you could find a way to just talk to him and actualy have him talk back like get together again wiht him and talk and bee like i like you and i need to know what is going on hear cause it is hurting me to much to be lead on. well you dont hav eto say that but you get my drift. Alright i hope i helped and if you have anymore questions or if anything else happens that may give a little more info just let me know kk ..
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Well, it depends what kind of guy he is. If you know him as a loving guy, who respects and cares about yo, then I might think that he mioght have signed off coincidentally, and given him another chance. If not, my guess is he just want to fool around and didn't want anything more. It's time to move on. Then again, he might be scared that you don't feel the same way. Next time you see him in person, sit him down and ask, "What's up with up with us? Have you been avoiding me?" Tell him how you feel, or else he might not open up and tell you whats really going on. If he truly won't answer, I'd suggest moving on for now, for now at least.
Thanks for asking!!
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wow .. first off thats really sweet that he was cuddling with you and stuff .. but then again, he may be using you. but the way you described it to me it dosent really sound like that to me. i really dont know .. sounds like to me he is sending you really mixed up signals. the best advice i can give you is that you need to sit down and talk to him face to face. i know thats hard, but you will have to get over that if you really want to know whats going on. I know how you feel, i have a boyfriend that i have been dating for a little over 8 months. and i am crazy about the boy. hes 16 so he comes and sees me like 4 times a week, and im always over at his house on saturdays. but when i need to know something, i ALWAYS call him and ask him to come over. dont tell him that you need to talk to him, tell him that you have something for him. then when he walks in give him a hug. haha. he will get pissed but he can get over it. Im tellin you, i have mostly guy friends. so im used to helping them with their "girl" problems. So yeah ... just sit down with him and tell him that you need to know how things are working out, tell him how you feel about him, i have said this a kazillion times .. GUYS ARE TOOOOOO STUPID TO READ A GIRL'S MIND!!!! I stand by that 120%. and its true. let me know if you need anything else.
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Yeah, that is REALLY long. Can you try to shorten it a little then get back to me?
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From everything you said it seems like he really likes you. He might just be nervous to tell you. You just need to go with the flow. If he does like you it might take him awhile to tell you. So do whatever feels right.
- Hope I helped!
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i think what he is trying to do is to make you think things like what you are feeling right ow to see if you still like him. or he really does like you. hes not ignoring you but just giving you a little breathing room before he dives in at you again. if you truely like him you can continue but if you aren't sure, let it be known to him so he isnt lead on by your flirtation. its okay to flirt but when he finds out tht he wants to be with you for ever and you still aren't sure... how will you feel then.
<3 becca~ best of luck
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WOW!! Well I think he loves you but doesn't know what to do right now!! I think that you should keep trying but don't be pushy!! And don't seem too eager or desprete!!! I think that you both are falling for eachother and it will turn out for the best in the end!!! Hope my advice helped!!!
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yahh guys are really weird about stuff like that. I'm not xactly sure why he seems like hes ignoring u but tha best thing to do is jus give him his space until he comes crawlin back to u. Dont worry about it and make him think that u dont even notice that hes actin like that. Sometimes guys do that to see what you'll do, so tha best thing is dont do anything. Thats wat will keep his interest in u. So dont worry and if he keeps actin this way than hes not worth you're time, theres soo many other guys out there. good luck!!
muchh love <3 Rachel
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Well well well. I think he does like you, from what you've said. Maybe he really was watching a movie and he just left the internet on, but didn't get on AIM. And it's been 9 months since you 2 have broken up and you still hang out regularly, which is a good thing. You probably shouldn't have broken up in the first place! lol! Well I hope i helped!
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hey.. this was in my inbox but im not really sure if u asked me to answer or what haha but i found my self in a simmilar situation i was going out with a guy for a while and we broke up because he moved like 30 min awaybut then whenever he broke up with a new girl he would always come back and we would be 'together with out the title' but from my expierence i wouldnt do anything with him or even get involved with him if you arent going out all it did to me was screw me over in the end everytime he went with a new girl and i was like his reboud...i bet he still cares about you and stuff but if hes ignoring you then hes obvioulsy having second thoughts and isnt worth it. make up a new screen name and just see if hes online or blocked you or anything but dont talk to him on it. and if he did then thats really immature and you shouldnt even waste your time and move on with your life. i know getting over your first love is hard but save yourself from more heartbreak and find someone who is better. i hope i covered anything if i missed out on anything then just ask well good luck <3
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At first when reading your question, I was sent back to the days of my x, Drew. It's really nice when there's a guy who wants to "cuddle" with you because it creates a very caring feeling. Until the very end I was all for you going back with him, but it does sure seem like he's avoiding you. I can't imagine that he's afraid because he seemed very bold that night yall spent in his truck. If I was you, I'd let him go because any guy who leads you on like that and then leaves you hanging is totally not worth your time. Plus, chances are if he's your first love, he's not gonna be the last one so go out there and find someone better. It may not happen right away, but when it does, the wait will have seemed totally worth it. If you still can't move on, talk to him and tell him what you just told me. Then, he may have some explanation, but I'd just advise you to move on, and I know it's not that easy, but the sooner you start moving on, the quicker you will "move on". Hope this helps and email me back if you stil need advice. :)
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I think and it sounds to me like he really does have feelings for you....maybe he just is scared or embaressed or doesnt know what to say to you after what happend that night. It might of felt a little awkward to him(because you two were broken up) even though he may have liked it.Just lay back a little but not completely.... and give him his space so he can figure things out...but also try and talk to him and be like..we have to talk about what happend that night....I hope everything works out!!!...if you have any more questions just drop another one in my inbox!!
xoxox leah
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It sounds to me like you guys are at two different levels. He sounds like the kind of guy that just wants to have fun and mess around. You seem more like the kind of person that wants a serious relationship. Unfortunately, these interests directly conflict with one other. I don't think he wants to be "held down" to one girl right now. As long as you understand this, and are ok with it, there's nothing wrong with you two messing around. But if you want more than just a fun fling every now and then (which it sounds like you do want more) then you should look to find a new guy. Most of the time, after an initial relationship, it's very difficult for things to work between two people. Instead of things falling naturally together, you have to make things work. Relationships are supposed to be about fun and happiness, not 'making things work'. You should keep trying to get in touch with him, but if it takes more than 3 or 4 days, he's not trying at all. You don't want a guy that's not trying. If you are able to talk to him, let him know exactly what you're thinking. Tell him you feel like you're being lead on. When he responds, don't listen so much to the words he says, but how he says them. Listen for tone to tell if he's lying, being passionate, being dissmissive, etc. Don't let him be the guy that plays you for a fool. If you have any instinct whatsoever that you're being stringed along or played, stop and examine it thoroughly. I think I fully answered your question, if not don't hesitate to ask me to be more specific! This is a very important matter that needs to be delt with correctly, but I'm sure you can manage :). Good luck!
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omg!!im like in the same situation. you need to ask yourself why you have been waiting so long, and why you never gave up. he obviously likes you or he wouldnt have done what he did. maybe he just needs some time to think things over thats why he hasnt been on aim. give him a little space then if he doesnt come to you go to him agian and see whats up.if he doesnt want a relationship then it would probly be best you saw other guys and just be friends with this one, if you guys continue to mess around then you will get more attatched and never get over him.
hope i could help, keep me updated on what happens
good luck
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It sounds to me as if he still likes you- he's making all this effort to come 30 mins drive and pick you up he must still feel something pretty strong. The reason he's not replying to you online may simply be because he was busy doing something else or maybe he's playing hard to get. The best thing you could possibly do is talk to him. I know everyone always says this and it's not nearly as easy as it sounds but the only person that really knows whats going on is him! And surely if you want to start something with him again you'll need to feel as if you can talk to him. Good luck
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Wow, this is kinda of a tough one. It seems like he really liked you, but now he's sending mixed messages. Maybe he really likes you but is scared of what may happen, Or he was just really horny, guys do that sometimes. I don't really know what to tell you. Maybe you could add me on AiM and IM me sometime and I could add him and tell you if he's on or not. I wouldn't talk to him though, unless you told me to. We can talk about these things on AiM.
IM me sometime. -- id0ntcares0stfu.
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i know how you feel, this guy i really like kinda did the same thing, he told me he liked me and stufff and we kissed and stuff, but then he didnt want anything serious, and hooked up with this really pretty girl and ruined everything romanticly between us, guys are like that, they want something so they will say and do anything to get it, but in your situation i think he is scared for what can happen between you guys, he is scared for the feelings he may have for you, and he doesnt want to get hurt again. i think he def. likes you though. you just have to give him time, and if he wants you he will come to you, talk to him about your relationship. <3 hope i helped.
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Wow...ok. Well..seems to me he could be ignoring you because you said you werent over the other guy but the only way to know is if you ask him, and you did, and he was 'watching a movie'....ignoring you. He couldve been upset because you said you werent over the other guy..and it sounds like he liked you from the way he was acting the other night. im not really sure what to say for this question, but i hate rejecting questiosn, so i'd say just ignore him untill he wants to talk to you again.
good luck dear
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Youre story sounds somewhat like mine. Except my ex has had a gf as long as weve been apart. He was pouring out his feelings for me 5 mos. after he was still screwing her. How do you think that made me feel? i wasnt gonna tell him how i still felt about him though.
Sounds like he still wanted to know if you were still interested. Maybe he realized after you guys were through that its not what he wants anymore.
If he wanted to get the relationship going again, i dont think he would have ignored you online.
I think i would wait and let him make the next move, if there is any, but dont let what happened in the car happen again.
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you know him better then i do.so that means either he wants you back but is a little embarresed about the whole car sex situation or he just was horny.i think he wants you back because he seemed patient with you in the car.wait it out a little while and then call him.or better yet you should wait to see him.that way he cant get away.but if you know your not going to see him in a while call him in like two days.just give him some time.hope i helped a little
follow your heart
Delilah
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you know him better then i do.so that means either he wants you back but is a little embarresed about the whole car sex situation or he just was horny.i think he wants you back because he seemed patient with you in the car.wait it out a little while and then call him.or better yet you should wait to see him.that way he cant get away.but if you know your not going to see him in a while call him in like two days.just give him some time.hope i helped a little
follow your heart
Delilah
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well...I dunno...It seems like he likes you but he doesn't want to. i don't know what you should do. I think that you should just give him some time. wait for him to talk to you. i don't know what else to tell you...sorry.
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Lily
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i think you should approach him in a situation where he cant avoid you. like show up at his house or something. then ask him about yall's relationship. i think he feels like he wants it to be the way it used to be between yall but better and more. i think he does like you but is afraid to actually use those words to tell you. maybe he feels like it was a mistake what he did with you and wants to make sure it is really what he wanted to do. i hope it works out. if you still need more help drop me one.
~Maegan~
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I think he might not want to look to desperate. Which, is what you should prolly do. Get off his nuts for awhile and then ask him about that night and what it meant.
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Well you need to ask him next time you see him,why he keeps dion that,I mean in person if u love him then dont ruin that just becuase of aim,cuase aim u dont know what the person is thinking or really saying,so i think you should give him a chance and if you really like him then just wait for him to aim you not you him and if he just doesnt then move on and leave his ass behind.
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If you still love him and you won't to be with him then don't let go, but if you keep trying and nothing seems to work then it's time to let go. It sounds like he really cares about you but he's just scared to open up to you like tell you how he feels. Maybe he's feels like he pressured you into "messing around" and he feels bad so he is kind of advoiding you. Try and call him again and just ask him if you and him can go somewhere and talk. Tell him that you really need to talk to him to figure out whats going on between you and him. If he takes the time to go out and talk to you just tell him how you feel and don't be scared to open up to him and tell him what's in your heart because if you get scared and you don't tell how you feel you may never get him to be yours, maybe hes feeling what your feeeling ya never know.
Sorry i can't give you anymore advise, but that always helped me when i had boy problems i just told them how i felt.
hoped i helped! best of luck with him!
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You should keep trying don't give him up he may be confused for the moment or is just busy,the way he cuddled you,made out with you tells me this guys is really into you so don't think he isn't interested in you anymore.The next time talk face to face with him,tell him how he felt when you made out with him,tell him what's going on,if he says nothing then try telling him that you want to know what is on his mind,and how he really feels towards you.Get things straigthen out and clear so there won't be any doubts.Follow your first love if you feel that he is definitely the one don't let go and do whatever you have to do to maintain this relationship with you,him,and I wish you luck!
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