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My boyfriend has a friend thats having a party next Saturday. She used to like him andhe used to like her. I want to go because I don't trust her. He said I could go if I wanted but he didn't ask me directly. What can I say to him to invite me without thinking I don't trust him?
14/F
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if you keep looking for ways to get him to ask you he will eventually notice it and he might get mad because he may think you dont trust him. if you trust him 100% you dont need to go. but if you really want to go then go. he said you can go if you wanted to so thats all ur gonna get out of him. but he may be testing you to see if you trust him. i think u shouldnt go because you could ruin something good.


Okay well I like this girl and she's a junior (yes I'm a girl too and I'm in 8th grade) but she has a boyfriend. I need help because I want to know if there's anyway I can forget about her because I know she'll never like me like that. But I really need help because I'm friends with this girl and I see her a lot so I need to stop thinking about her like that. Okay any advice would be cool and if you're only gonna say how girls liking girls is gross wrong etc don't cause ive heard it before and you can't change my mind. (link)
since you like her, i think you should tell her to get it off your chest.if you want to get over her, then find somebody else to like that you no you have a chance at getting with.(um make sure there gay.lol)that helped me alot when i was trying to get over somebody.


Well, there's this guy at my camp, and all my friends used to say how much he liked me, but nothing happened. Then the next year, (this summer), he told me he liked me, and i liked him, but we haven't talked since summer, cuz he didn't have a sn or an email. Well, now i sorta like this other guy, and all my friends think he likes me, but if he does, i don't know what to do because i still like the guy from camp, but i only see him for like a month out of the year, and i haven't talked to him for months, so by the time i go back to camp, he might not like me anymore, or he might have a girlfriend.

~ So confused! (link)
if you like both of them, go with the one that you can see everyday and talk to on line and stuff.if you like them both then any way you put it, you'll want the other one if you go with one of them.i say you go with the one thats close to you.


I stayed over my friends house one weekend and her brother is my bestfriends boyfriend. That night me and him stayed up and hung out and played around (like hittin eachother with stuff and pushin eachother of the bed) and he said 'You know what? Dont tell Cjay(my bestfriend) this but I think I'm starting to like you. I didn't like him before he said that and I started to like him.And they are the type of couple that break up everynight and get back together sooner or later, and this was a night they broke up.Then we stayed up all night watching movies and playing around and holding hands and stuff, nothing bad. But Cjay found out and she told me to stay away from her for however long. Her b.f told me that he ment that he liked me, and not to worry b/c he'll fix everything. I don't want my best friend to hate me, but I like her b.f....Idk wat to do.... (link)
i dont want to sound harsh and all and i no you might give me a bad rating but i got to speak up on this one. i think its wrong and dirrty that your taking your bestfriends ex. she just broke up with him the day before you "found out" you liked him. obviously shes not your best friend if your willing to take her ex boyfriend. i think you need to thikn about what your donig. dont label this girl as your "bestfriend" if your going to easily ruin the friendship.


17/f
I've been dating my boyfriend for 4 months. But whenever we greet each other, we don't hug or kiss. We just say "hey." However, he is affectionate when we are watching a movie or something. But I want him to kiss, or atleast hug me when we greet each other. How do I get him to do this? I don't want to be the first one to do it .. because it might be akward, and he'd probably think "what was that for?" Help? (link)
if your thinking it would be akward then whats to say he's not thinking the same thing. if you want it to happen then you should do something about it. i think you should go ahead and greet him how you want to be greeted


14/f boyfriend 15
me and my boyfriend have been going out for almost three mouths and we still havent kissed. we havent even done anything outside of school.im starting to think that he's prude. what should i do? should i kiss him? if so should i kiss him on the lips or on the cheek? also i dont think he's ever kissed a girl before so i will be his first kiss. please help me because i really dont like going out with people and not being able to kiss them or make out with them. it bugs me when i see other people kissing in the hallway. (link)
i think you should go ahead and kiss him. that way you'll get the first kiss out of the way. he's probably just nervous right now because he doesnt no if your ready for the kiss. make the move


i used to give head to some guys and i quit because i thought i might have caught something. could there be a chance i could get something? or i would have to get that checked ..since some stds show no syptoms?

i also heard that if the guy had some std and i swallowed the std or whatever would die cause of the acid in my stomach or something? is that true (link)
if you give head i thikn the main std that people get is "goneria" .i no i spelled it wrong. but basically its like a sore throat. but you need to ger it checked out. even though it feels like a sore throught i think it can do more damage.


Me and my girlfriend have been seriously dating for almost 3 years. 8 years before I met her, she became friends with an exchange student from Belgium. She had a big crush on him, however nothing romantically happened. Last week he was in town and needed some 1 to go to Orlando Florida with him, my girlfriend and her brother agreed to go with him. At the end, her brother wasent able to go, so she ended going with this guy by herself. I trust my girlfriend 100 percent, however, the thought of her willingly going, while fully aware of my negative feelings towards this so called "friends" trip has been driving me crazy. Ive asked around and the answer I always get is " get rid of her". My question is, do I have the right to feel mad, disrespected and betrayed by my girlfriends actions, what should I do? (link)
disrespected, maybe. but "betrayed", i really dont think so. yea she like him in the past. and yea she knows you dont like that shes going. but for one she told you in advance and you said you trust her. shes not going to do anything to hurt you. dumping her off of this woulf make you look more like a fool then her. try not to stress and call her up to see how things are going.

ps. its a good thing your mad because thats a true boyfriend.but dont dump her


ok umm...this is kinda weird...but is it like totaly wrong to think that my cousin is like INCREDIBLY hott? like...he came to vsit for christmas and iwas practicallly druling over him and like...is it bad that i would totaly want to go out with him if i was older and not his cousin?

sorry its kinda akward

~*me*~ (link)
i think its ok to think your cousin is hott. theres nothing wrong with that. but dont try to pursue him cause that would just be nasty. i watch this soap opera on cbs called Guiding light and this girl and her cousin are like seriouly dating.they didnt no eachother at first cause we was adopted but now it just seems wrong for her to be dating him.


When i shave uh "down there" why does it get really itchy and bumpy. it sometimes hurts really bad, is there something that i am doing wrong? (link)
when you shave anywhere it usually itches because new hair is growing in.


my bf and me just broke up and its hard for me to cry and crying is the only way i can be okie. Whats a good sad love movie i can dl. thanks and no not the notebook. i saw it and didnt like it. If someone dies in the movie that helps, or if they dont end up story. (link)
A walk to remember
The Patriate (spelled wrong)
Set it off ( the ending was so sad)


ok so my boyfriend and i have been going out for a year and i love him sooo much. lets just say were really serious. but hes really moody, and im sure alot of guys are but sometimes he gets extreme. sometimes he gets so mad and tosses me around.. and when i try to hug him he gets really mad, and tells me to slapp him really hard.. like he wants me to hurt him. but of course i dont want. after he goes through his little phase he starts cryin and feels super bad. its only happened twice & very recent. but i get really scared. what should i do? part of me thinks hes bipolar, but i love him so much and i know he loves me to. wat should i do? im sorry this is so long but i really need help with it thank you soo much! (link)
he might be bipolar.he probably has no real intention of hitting you or teling you to hit him. but you might want to tell him to check that out because it sounds kindof serious


Alright so I know people ask this a lot but hey help me out too. So there's this guy who we can call Joe and we were both at a party last night. Well I got really tired so I decided to go lie on the couch and he was there so I used his arm for a pillow. Well, I gradually got more comfortable and so did he and he had his hand on my stomach and he was playing with my arm all cute and stuff and we were holding hands (with the one that was on my stomach) and everytime hed get up hed come back and get in the same position again. We're friends and that's just not how our friendship is like if I give him a hug in the hall hes like "Oh hey Susan." and its just a brief hug. Do you guys think he likes me as more than a friend? I think I like him as more than one so I don't want to get my hopes up.

Thanks

PS when I was asleep on him he whispered to my friend and asked her if I liked him if that means anything (link)
your whole entire story makes me remince on past love and i can tell you straight up that he has feelings. guys like that who do things to show they like you (rather then go straight up to you and tell you) are the ones who really like you.yall were cuddling on the chair.that shows alot.plus he asked one of your friends if you like him.he really likes you and your hopes should be up. be happy and go get your fellow.


i was dating this guy now first off i really love him. his personality and everything. hes a senior im a freshman. every morning he goes and gets high with a bunch of guys and at school he will ingnore me because he is high and it bothers me and hurts my feelings. because ill stand there be like hello nd he sitting there checking some one out. and then i no he doesnt mean it but when he is high he tends to hurt me like hit me or squeeze me till i bruse he is much bigger than me and muscle im only 5'4" ish and he is likr close to 5'10ish i supose. well i broke up with him yesterday and i miss him and he dont call me no more or anything (link)
girl, you need to let him go. letting some guy over power you like that nd hurt you just aint right.dont worry about him calling you, cause you shouldnt be speaking to someone that would hit you, high or not.go find yourself a better man and forget about the rest.


I was recently dumped by my boyfriend on my birthday. it was so painful but i dont know how to get over him its been about 2 or 3 weeks now since we broke up but i cant stop thinking about him. I always catch myself listening to songs that are similiar to are break up. People are always telling me to get over him but its hard when you loved some one. You cant just forget what happened. I always look back on are first kiss at my party. Somtimes i even cry my self to sleep. Well the worst part was we were the best of friends before we went out and now that we broke up were always arguing and im always getting jeoulose becuase he already likes other girls and he is always talking about them on the phone. But i mean cant give away are friendship its been to long of being friends to just throw it away. well what should i do to get over this its so painfull! (i am 13 and a girl) (link)
i pretty much is impossible to get over someone you went with. but the sy goes,:the best way to get over someone is to get is to get under someone". meaning,go find your self another man.you cant stay in a sulk forever.live


ok the other day i was with my boyfriend and weve been together for a month and 2 months next week and he said 'i love you' to me like properly but hes into long term relationships, his last gf he was with for 8 months and he said 'i love u' to her.
do you think he really means it...i love him so much and i dont want to get hurt!
thanks ill rate high
xxx (link)
the real question is,"do you trust him". cause if you do then you should tell him that your madly deeply in love with him.but if you dont trust him them maybe your not in love .maybe your just infatuated.then again, maybe he's just infatuated ,and there's nothing wrong with that.it just means he could love you or he thinks what he;s feeling is love.if you dont want to get you feelings hurt tell him your infatuated by him


I recently started dating a guy Ive had a crush on for some time now. I was exstatic, because I really liked him. Now, Ive known this guy for seven years, and had little crushes on him every now and then, but only recently did it develop into something bigger. The only draw back was he had dated a friend of mine at one point. It lasted about 4 months between them, and she broke it off with him.

Normally I would have confronted her about the fact that I liked him and asked permission. It didnt seem like a big deal anyhow: she broke up with him, has since had other boyfriends (even currently), and it was quite awhile ago. They even broke up on good terms. However, someone managed to tell her before I had a chance (thank you rumour mill) and I was wrong; she was pissed. She claims its because it would be weird for her to "hang out in a group setting." Please take into consideration the last time we hung out was over the summer, over 4 months ago.

My question is this: Is this wrong of me? I have no intentions of breaking it off with him. I dont profess my undying love for him, but we seem really good together, and Id like to pursue it further. So now what? (link)
who is more important to you, him or her.you say you dont hang out with her alot so i would choose him over her.most girls get mad just because. what would a girl expect you to do if she dated everyboy that walked.go for him and dont be made about it


Im 16 and ive been going out with this great guy Jason(changed the name)for 3 years and have been best friends for 7 i really do love him .we only had sex once but i still got pregnant I told Jason and he was happy and said he wanted us to keep the baby but I still havent told my parents yet Im 5 months pregnant we told his parent and she totally freaked out so Jason* is living with a friend. My parents are really relgious so theyll want me to get married but I dontn know if Im ready to get married because I dont want to marry Jason* and then get a divorce so how should I tell my parent Im pregnant? (link)
think of it like this:would it be worst for you parents to see your belly showing and they come up and ask you, or would it be worst for you to sit down and tell them.
your parents cant exactly force you to get married.they can try their hardest but at the end it you and "jason's" decision. either way you put it you parents are going to no your pregnant.you have to decide what is the better way for them to find out.


im 16.. im in love with a guy that is 15. we went out for 4 months. but ive known him for almost 3 years now. i lost my virginity to him. one day we did it and everything was normal. the next day he calls me and says, "lets take a break, then when i think we are ready to make this a serious thing ill ask you back out." i was just like um okay? well then a couple days later i hear hes going out with some chick from his school. so hes "taking a break with me" to go out with some other chick. that really hurt me. because im in love with him. well i saw him and he didnt say anything to me. he kept like 10 feet away from me. and i was pissed off about the whole situation. then the next day i call him to talk about everything going on and he called me a b**** and i was like why are you calling me that? and he was like i heard what you said to people last night about me. i was like what did you hear? hes like you just trash-talked about me the whole night to my friends and family. and he hung up on me. so i call him back and left him a message, because he didnt answer, and i was crying and i said "the only thing i said to anyone was that i was in love with you". and that is the first time i told him how i felt about him. ive never told him i was in love with him before. and i havent heard from him since. what should i do about this whole situation and the next time i see him? and i see him quite often because my mom works for his dad. i dont know what to do PLEASE help. this may turn into suicide. he was the only thing i had. (link)
roght now just give him sometime to cool down.he obviously doesnt no what he talking about.but dont let him get away with stuff.hes making himself seem like the victim here and you reall are becasue you dont no what he talknig about and he broke up withyou and went with somover trick.i say you forget about him.but really, if you really love him which i believe you do, you got to make a move in trying to fix this.since he wont talk to you write him a letter, or even go to his house to talk.give him a few days, and then make a move.you cant always wait


Im making my boyfriend a mix cd of love for our 1 year ann. and i need to know some rock songs that are about love, my goals is 18 and i have 10
WILL RATE FIVES

.:XoXo:. (link)
Cheap trick-i want you to want me
Aerosmith-i dont wanna miss a thing
lifehouse-you and me
lifehouse-hanging by a moment

i cant think of anymore right now,but ill get back to you




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