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Shes going to florida with a male friend..what should i do?
Me and my girlfriend have been seriously dating for almost 3 years. 8 years before I met her, she became friends with an exchange student from Belgium. She had a big crush on him, however nothing romantically happened. Last week he was in town and needed some 1 to go to Orlando Florida with him, my girlfriend and her brother agreed to go with him. At the end, her brother wasent able to go, so she ended going with this guy by herself. I trust my girlfriend 100 percent, however, the thought of her willingly going, while fully aware of my negative feelings towards this so called "friends" trip has been driving me crazy. Ive asked around and the answer I always get is " get rid of her". My question is, do I have the right to feel mad, disrespected and betrayed by my girlfriends actions, what should I do?
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Yeah you have every right to be a little mad. But the real question is do you really trust her. Just look into your heart and figure out if you truly trust her. If you say she is as great as she may sound, you really dont have anything to worrie about. If something did happen eventually she will tell you. But you need to just have some faith in her. So try not to worrie about it.
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well i think that shes allowed some space but its not right if she knows u dont like him. So..idn hope that helped a little.
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Well it's a good reason to feel that you can't really trust her I mean how would she agree to go with someone who she liked once and to Orlando,Florida.I mean what you're girlfriend could just simply say she is sorry but she can't because she has a boyfriend and by doing that to you she wouldn't be respecting the relationship she haves with you.He should understand that of course.He could ask someone else to do him the favor why precisely her don't you think that's weird?Try convincing her to cancel this trip she's going but if you can't then there are other options get someone to go with her to keep an eye on both of them or just to try trusting her.Good luck!
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You have the right to feel that way. You can't stop your feelings. But are you sure you completely trust her? I think on a deeper level you don't. I know that's true, because if it wasn't why would you be asking right? But it would be very unfair to her if you just "got rid of her". You don't have any proof that there is anything going on with her and this guy. Just your suspicions. It would especially be unfair if you dumped your girlfriend without completely confronting her about it. For example, how do you know she is "fully aware of your negative feelings"? Did you tell her exactly how you felt? Or did you just say, "Huh. I don't really like the sound of that." I think the two of you need to re-open communication. Both of you should talk about how you feel right now. A great way is to write it down and have the other person read it. It will help you gain some perspective on yourself and your relationship and may even end up saving your relationship.
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I agree with Funnycide.
There is no reason to get rid of her if you trust her.
The crush was long ago and nothing came of it then. I can understand your being jealous and even upset about it but, I don't think it is worth ruining a 3 year relationship over.
She didn't go with him alone to spite you. Her brother was supposed to be going along. She may not have had time to change plans or get someone else to go along at the last minute.
Talk to her about it. Let her know how you feel without being accusing. I think you can work it out. Just don't keep your feelings bottled up about it. :)
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disrespected, maybe. but "betrayed", i really dont think so. yea she like him in the past. and yea she knows you dont like that shes going. but for one she told you in advance and you said you trust her. shes not going to do anything to hurt you. dumping her off of this woulf make you look more like a fool then her. try not to stress and call her up to see how things are going.
ps. its a good thing your mad because thats a true boyfriend.but dont dump her
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I'd be extremely mad. If she knows your feeling she should respect them alot more then that.
So yes, you do have a right to feel mad, disrespected, and betrayed.
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You have been dating her for a good while [three years is a long time], and her crush on this exchange student was 8 years prior to your even meeting her.
You need to trust her.
Although you did have negative feelings towards this trip, she did say she would go, and even though her brother backed out, maybe she felt obligated to go. In any case, I'm sure she loves you. If she didn't... I'm surprised it has lasted this long.
Don't throw away what you have. That's three years of your life that you have built upon. Don't tear it down. It's a beautiful building - don't destruct it.
You have the right to feel mad and disrespected... but that doesn't mean you should.
You can't control your girlfriend's life. Not now, anyway. Maybe when you're married, but not now. Not legally. I'm sure she doesn't really understand how deep this pain is that you're feeling.
Call her. Cell phone or something. You need to get ahold of her. Tell her how much you miss her, and though you trust her, you're still being attacked by negative thoughts and doubts about her going. Let her reassure you. I'm sure she will.
-FunnyCide
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trust her. you guys have been dating for awhile & i think you should be able to trust her on this. plus that was like 8 years ago. talk to her about it & explain to her how you feel. it's completely natural to feel jealous, mad, etc. juss talk to her about it & see what she says.
-hope that helped!♥
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This is just my opinion but i think that you should NOT get rid of your g/f trust me been down the road you will miss her soo much plus shes just going with a FRIEND it will be ok i promise and if she likes him better shes not good enough for you and not worth your while and plus you can call her every day and make sure shes ok!!! i really hope i helped
all the love
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