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my ex and i split 12 months ago he is a 25 year old male im a 29 year old female,he was sent to prison for something he did before we got together,we were together for 5 years we have a daughter,basically he didnt treat me right,he lied wouldnt work and had no respect for me,things wernt all bad though,we were good together. we have been apart for 12 months,he was in jail for 6 and in this tme ive met someone else,hes a lovely man and i do love him we both feel the same about eachother,we have both been hurt in the past the thing is though the more i see my ex the more i want to try again,he has told me he wants to try again too...what do i do?? i need advice as i have no one to talk to. do i try again with the man i have shared 5 years with and who i have a child with or do i see what happens with my new man who is the complete opposite of my ex?? (link)
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It wouldn't be fair to not continue your relationship with this wonderful guy give it a chance,see what happens later on if it doesn't work out with him then you could go back with your ex to try again with the father of your child.
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ok this is really long, so bless your soul if you read it all.
first off, im a 15, almost 16, year old sophomore.
and im in marching band, no im not a geek. well theres this cute little freshman kid that i talk to a lot now n band too, and when i talk to him he stares straight into my eyes and really listens to me. we have a lot in common and he's easy to talk to now.
youre probably thinking, whats the problem?
well i sort of like him, and i cant tell if he likes me. he used to act like it before i even talked to him.
thats not even the problem. see i have this best guy friend, hes a sophomore too. i used to like him my freshman year, but he went out with my best friend. they broke up, they werent friends for a while, but me and him became really close. they became friends again and it was all good. then he liked another one of my friends, they liked each other, but it just didnt work out.
so now all of a sudden he apparently likes me. im not making it up, he told one of my best friends, and wanted her to tell me. and all of a sudden hes telling me im cute and pretty. i mean im happy, hes really cute and hes really funny and nice. theres always a but though.
butttt, im really afraid to do anything. ive never been in a relationship. i know thats pathetic because im a sophomore, and ive never had my first kiss yet. i flirt with a lot of guys and they probably think im experienced, but im honestly not. and my best guy friend knows that too, and hes not too experienced either.
im really afraid to do anything with my best guy friend because
1. i dont wanna break up and lose him as a friend.
2. i dont wanna go out with him, have my freshman see us, and think i dont like him and that i never did.
im just really afraid because i dont wanna blow it with this freshman kid because hes really cute, and my best guy friend has always been there.
theres another thing, the freshman lives near me, and my best guy friend doesnt. so i think it would just be more fun, you know?
i just dont get how all these guys suddenly like me? im not that pretty, and i havent had any experience. but im ready too, and i really want too. my best guy friend hasnt had much experience, and i doubt this freshman kid has either.
i just dont know, my friends arent any help. ive listed the pros and cons, and it doesnt even help. all of my friends are on different sides of the fence. it helps if someone i dont know and doesnt know the people help me.
someone pleaseee help meeee :] (link)
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What I say is stick with your friendship with your guy friend,go for the freshman since he lives near,he's sweet,all,that way you don't lose your friendship with your buddy,you don't lose your chance with this kid you like a lot.Talk to your guy friend about why you just prefer to be friends with him,nothing more only if he brings it up.
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I'm currently in High School, and I want to become a psychologist when I get older. Basically I won't deny anyone, whether personally I like them or not. I really love it when people confide in me and I find a lot of enjoyment in making people happy.
But, recently it's been sapping out my confidence (I've been told that I won't be able to make a difference, therefore they doubt me) and it really seems like whenever something makes me happy, someone's going to come up and cry at me until I feel guilty for feeling happy a second before.
For example, I've been receiving a lot more than passing glances from the guy I've liked (his best friend was my ex so it was very awkward). So I'm merrily walking away until someone calls me to lash out because they can't deal with their problems, but refuse to let me help 'em. I don't want to distance myself from the classmates who might need me, but I can't stop myself from feeling so down about it.
Advice would be greatly appreciated =)
Sorry it's long. (link)
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You can't give up keep you have to keep trying,they will see that you really care about their issues,you need to have inner confidence,and trust in your instincts.Don't doubt yourself,I'm sure that you would make a great psychologist I have faith in you.
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I used to be very shy, and due to it, my ex broke up with me. So yeah, realized that I had to change, because it showed me how bad I really was.
So I promised myself I'd get better, and I did. Now I'm outgoing, and since I regret not making those friends I could have made, I try to interact with everyone. I don't let myself get intimidated like I used to be.
Sooo, of course, there's a guy I like, and it's weird, because I had always referred to him as God-like, I guess because he was everything I LOVED (as corny as it sounds) but he was my boyfriend's (now ex) friend and so I wasn't crushing or anything.
So, sounds good, right? Made a resolution, going along with it...yeah, sounds good. Except that now that I like the guy, I'm going back to the same problem. Like, I gave him a big smile and thumbs up (it was at a soccer practice and I came to watch him)but when he came over I froze up.
Ugh! I felt so stupid, like, I was the one who invited him over but when he came, other people talked to him and I was just blushing like an idiot.
Help, please. Don't want to repeat any mistakes! (link)
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The next time you see him explain to him why you weren't able to talk to him,trust me he won't get mad he'll understand,then you should invite him somewhere where there sure won't be any interruptions,where you can talk more openly to him.
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I was in a serious relationship with someone for over 2 years at least. We broke up off and on and all of the break-ups were his decision. And he keeps coming back! Each time he leaves it's for less than a month and he's back. Well, this time we went the whole summer apart and now he's back again for a friendship. I'm NOT ok with this, I got weak and started crying when he called me asking to be friends. Then, he started saying that he doesn't want to hurt me and that maybe if we manage as friends we could try again as a couple. I really cannot decide what to do.
I mean I'm in love with him, so obviously I want to be with him. But, I really don't like being his friend. We've been talking every night for 3 days and I'm just wishing it was more all of the time because he's very show offish and kind of a jerk as my friend. But, he's the best and sweetest guy as my boyfriend. The reason he broke it off so many times is because of fighting and fearing we won't make it.
Important Things:
-We are an INTERNET RELATIONSHIP
-We've met once and couldn't be happier with what we saw
-We are both 17 if this helps
And, you can guarantee a rating if you give me your honest opinion. I've just been crying for days and I could use some help:( (link)
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Just because you are an internet relationship doesn't mean it can't work out,I think you will need some time apart from him before deciding whether you will want to be friends with him or not right now you're very hurt,need some space to get things sorted out,figure out where you want things to lead to he has to be willing to respect your decision if he really likes you that much.
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okay well my best friend has been having a lot of family trouble for as long as i can remember so like 3 years when i first met her, she would always be grounded or call me crying for one thing or another one example was one day she went and cleaned the whole house, well when her dad called to say he would be home in a minute to pick us up, he asked if she vacumed and she said no but she cleaned everything else. tht was it he flipped out on the phone and she was grounded. its reallly hard to believe because from the outside looking in the family looked perfect. perfect grades, house, they were athletic.well this year has really beeen bad for her, she doesnt care what she looks like anymore and has been taking her fustration and anger out on her friends and became a total bitch. we talked about it and i think shes treating everyone better but the other night she was crying and eventually she told me her parents were getting a divorce and a bunch of stuff but now she mentioned that she thinks her dad will move across the country with his brother! her mom would probably stay here but she "hates" her mom. now im upset cause i need her so much probably more than she needs me. shes the advice giver, the party thrower, the date doctor. i dont know how to handle it and also i dont know if shes exadersating the story her boyfriend and i had had our differences but i think were ok now, i kinda want to talk to him so that when she needs the support were both on the same page. hes a guy and guys are idiots/dicks...no offence but whatever. how do i help her through this (dont say just be there cause i know that) and how do i help myself through this if she does move (link)
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You need to totally support all her decisions,know that all friendships have mood swings,have a very positive attitude so it will give her the strength she needs to overcome this such difficult time,and try to understand her so she could understand you.
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This guy took a picture of my friends and I and everyone looked really good but I looked REALLY bad and everything I looked just really greasy and just crazy and I felt really ugly when looking at the picture.
And he's part of the yearbook commitee and I have a feeling that he's oging to put it up but he refuses to cut me out.
Is there anything i could do? i'm going to like cry!
I know that looks aren't everything but this is highschool, it's SOMETHING and when all these different people that I don't know buys the yearbook and sees me in the picture and never saw me before, that's going to be the first impression of me to them. (link)
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Tell him that you want a retake,that you would be very grateful because it would mean a lot to you since it will be in the highschool yearbook,and he can't refuse that.
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My friend LOVES my b/f, literally. She walks up him(while i am around) and pushes me over and says "Hi Zach-y" and flirts with him. I have told her MULTIPLE MULTIPLE times that she needs to stop. Because now like when me and my b/f walk down the halls holding hands she runs up in between us and says "Hey Zach-y why are you and (my name) holding hands? You know that when you and her break up i am tottaly gonna go out with you!(then she blows him a kiss and skips away)"
Now i KNOW that he is not going out with her also.
When she talks to him like calls hime "Zach-y" he looks disgusted then stares at me like "why the F*ck are you friends with her???" he has recently started not sitting with me becuase of her. He has told me that he can't stand her and he tells me to tell her and i do. I am afriad that my friend is jepordizing my relationship(with an AMAZING guy)
WHAT DO I DO? (link)
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You should stay away from this girl,break up your friendship with her,she even let you know that she wants your guy the nerve of that girl,you also need to let this girl know that she better leave him alone or she is going to have to deal with you.
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16/F. I've been friends with this guy for a year. Last year, we werent really that close. But we got closer over the summer. In the beginning of the year, he would go to my lunch just to talk to me and be with me. Everyone thought he liked me. I'm starting to like him a lot. I text him and he asked me to hang out this weekend. We ended up seeing a movie but nothing happened. I don't know what to think really. Does he like me or not? I'm sick of everyone saying it, I want him too. But here's the thing... I dont know if I should ask him or if i even want to because first, if he doesnt then it's going to be awkward. And what we have right now is great but i dont want to jeopardize it, but i definitely would like more. I dont have classes with them though, and I see him at lunch because now he comes to my table to talk to me, but he made friends with most of my friends so he doesnt talk to me ALL the time anymore. So yeah, I dont know. What should I do? (link)
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You need to be certain wait for some time but not that long,see if there are other clues that make it obuvious that he likes you for sure or you can take the risk of asking him yourself.I hope things turn out the way you want.
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14/f. I have started talking to this boy G, I've always thought he was cute, but then I started talking to him and his personality is great! I really really like him, I have hinted around about be more than just friends but he laughs like its a joke so do I so I won't look stupid, but my question I want advice on is "How can I tell him I want to be more than just friends?" I am really good friends with his brother if that helps. Thank you guyss and girls haha (link)
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You need to be able to be somewhere with you,him alone so you can be able to talk without any distraction,tell this guy that you are not joking on what you are going to tell him,you would really appreciate it if he takes it seriously,that you been wanting him to notice that you really like him,want to go out with him on a date.Wish you luck!
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homecoming is coming up this next weekend and my parents have always been too over protective and strict. my mom keeps talking about how before the dance she wants to like, go to whos ever house we are going to and i dont know like meet everyone or something? but im a sophomore and most of the people im going with are juniors and we dont need parents for rides or anything. and no one elses parents are like going and seeing everyone before hand and i have tried telling her this 100 times but shes just like "i dont care those are our rules" and i dont know how im supposed to get through next wekeend without her embarrassing me because i really want to have fun but shes already starting to ruin it (link)
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Try convincing her that it will be totally humilating you,that it won't be right to ruin it on such a special day for you to hang out with your friends,have some fun without having to have parent supervision,that they should trust you,they should treat you as a grownup already,and let you make your own decisions.
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My best friend has been really upset lately, and every time i ask what is wrong, she says nothing. but im not stupid, i know when something is wrong. should i just leave her alone, or should i keep asking her what is wrong? i know she wants me to know, she just wont tell me. i know this because she will half bring up that she is upset and then drop it. im pretty sure i know what it is, and i want to help her, but she wont let me. idk, what do u think? thanks, (link)
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Keep insisting until she tells you the truth,tell your friend that she can trust you,that you will help her with whatever it is,and that she can always count on you.
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I'm depressed. I'm 14. School hasnt really been so pleasant for me, friends-wise. It looks like I have a lot of friends because I hang around with a lot of people, but really they dont feel like friends to me anymore. Most of them backstabbed me before and I just forgave but I never forgot so it's like how am I supposed to trust someone who has betrayed me so harshly? Also, people who think they are better and barely talk to me that I use to be best friends with, only because they care about boys and will drop me in a second. Every "best friend" i've lost was either because of a lost of touch, or a huge drama scence. I don't really let people get to me. The reason I lose so many friends is because most of them have changed and expect me to follow them, and I dont. It's hard to make new friends because it's hard to trust people. I'm sick of getting hurt. I'm sick of feeling the way I do. I dont know what to do. I'm not going to change who I am just to become or stay friends with someone. I just wish I had a constant friend. Someone who is always there for me, and doesnt have a change of moods, one day you like me one day you dont. I just want someone genuine! It's probably too much to ask. But I dont know how to meet new people, I'm just not that type of person that confronts random people. I basically dont speak unless spoken to. Not in a mean way or anything, but I dont go out of my way to talk to someone. Im not sure if this is bad, and I would just really appreciate your advice with all these things I'm throwing at you. It's basically a scatter of all my thoughts. Thanks! (link)
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But,that will be easier if you personally go talk to people to meet new people,you can't really trust people these days, of course if you see that the person is not the type spreading rumors about others,telling on others for no reason,is a calm person,not someone who looks for trouble that's someone who will not betray you,someone who always has your back but, if you're not willing to try to talk to people directly then you're gonna have to be very patient,wait until someone nice comes into your life.
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Well my boyfriend, well I guess not really, but we (i thought) were really close. Everything goes great during the week, but then during the weekends I can't trust him with his friends and stuff. I've talked to him about it and he understands. But then i never really thought about it, until tonight when i was talking to him. So i was talking to him and i asked him so tomorrow when your with your friends if they ask if you have a girlfriend will you say you do? and he said that he would tell them that he's talking to someone. But then i told him that he used to tell me that he would tell them he had a girlfriend and he told me he would tell people he didn't know that. I really need advice. I know that's not right and stuff, I just don't know what to do. (link)
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You have every right to demand him to tell his buddies that he has a girlfriend,what will happen if one of his friends see's him with you what he's going to deny you, that you're not his girl or when he get's caught making out with you,then his friends are gonna think he's a liar,not only that but,what kind of guy lies about not having a girlfriend,tell him why doesn't he want to tell them that he has a relationship with you,why he lied to you,and how dare him if he does deny you and that it will show you that he really doesn't like you.
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Hi.. umm well basically i think im in love with my bestfriend. but hes a dick! ok this is wat happened. he have been best friends for like 1 year and a bit and he cronically flirted with me and even kissed me! and then he goes out with sum other girl, then i decide to try get over him and be happy for him.. and then just as im liking this really nice guy, he tells me that he really likes me.. so im like ok ive liked you for ages! and so we kinda get going.. then he feels bad about his old gf so he tells me he cant get with me atm because its only lust not love. then after he completely breaks up with his ex.. i assumed he would u know.. get goin with me agen.. but no. he starts going out with another girl AFTER hooking into one of my friends at a party and AFTER flirting with me when we went out to a movie. i really dnt know what to do. he doesnt get that he is the first thought when i wake up in the morning.. and the last at night. he knows how i feel.. i cant seem to like other guys because my feelings for him r so strong. what can i do to get over him without losing him as a best friend? please help (btw sory this was so long) (link)
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Well you got to give yourself a chance with someone else,get to see that there are other guys who will give you what you need,what you're looking for in a guy,you have to give it a shot,because you may not know what you're losing this guy is a jerk he likes to play his games if he decides to ask you out again reject him,say because you are going out with somebody so he can feel your pain or worst for being a player,and a guy with no respect.Don't let this guy put you down.What can he say,he probably won't even care because he loves hooking up with a lot of girls,for sure it won't break your friendship he will just have to deal with it.
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I hate to say it, but -- Loneliness is getting the best of me. I want to be able to say "God is enough, all i need to be happy" or "I'm satisfied just having my family and a few close friends", but I can't, I'm not. I constantly find myself longing for the "myspace" life. Having lots of gorgeous female friends and funny male friends to do fun things with and take lots of pictures with. To have people constantly calling me. TO FEEL LOVED. This is not a question of how to make friends - go out, join a sports club, church group.. I know, I know, I know. Whatever.
I probably wouldn't be satisfied anyways. I keep longing for other peoples lives. And in a weak attempt to become them.. I get their hairdos, clothing styles, and even opinions. But (ofcourse) it doesn't work.
Help me please, I can't remember ever being satisfied. I've always hated myself, my friends, my life.
I'm lonely and I fear always feeling this way.
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One thing you always have to remember is to be yourself,not try to be something you're not but,believe many go through that difficult stage,you can beat this desire of wanting to be loved when you go to myspace,all the other thing that you have to do is to try not to go to often on it so you don't get addicted to it,or have this obession,you already know that you have to love yourself the way you are,be able to say that you're proud of who you are and that's the other step towards feeling satisified, and try to find that special person to take away that emptiness that you feel inside eventually you will find that person.
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yeah i really need to just let it out and know someone heard me, and a journal just doesn't work in this case..
i'm not gonna be a little bitch and cuss every damn second, err...i do...so not more than my usual.
okay i don't even think victoria likes me one damn bit..
i read her bulletins and yes, i am obsessed, i'll admit to that, but anyway, she's saying almost the exact same fucking things to this "tommy" guy that she did to me! what the fuck...what i'm wondering is does she just like me as a friend, or is it me who drove her away with my shitty personality? i can't stop fucking drinking, and i'm like running really really low, and that's my emergency stock, for something like this..
or was i just a part-time guy? since she had recently gotten over her boyfriend of like 2 1/2 years...and i was nice, mostly because of wayne..then i actually got to really like her...what do i do? since i can't just suck it up, and deal with it, this is different than all those other times..fuck i don't know, i pissed off, especially what happened today...
we were planning to see each other today, i was going to take my 6th drive, so i could finish the course, and i would walk over to her place, like 3 miles, it'd be worth it. but she needed to ask her mom, i was assuming a no. but anyway her mom said no...i got a little depressed, but that's like the 7th time in a row, so you know, i get used to it. i can't talk to her, only IM, which isn't like hearing a voice, so i'm like slowly losing it. back to the thing-she said the only good thing out of it was that anytime she has a friend over she gets distracted from her schoolwork (she said i inspired her to do more...i don't know if it was a line or the truth...i don't know fact from fiction anymore..) but we were just talking...then all of a sudden "tommy" shows up. what the hell?
1.) she said her mom said that no one could come over
2.) she said friends during the weekdays is not good
3.) she said she wasn't gonna have anyone over
and this dude shows up..how does that make sense.
oh and she said her friend lost her phone charger, so i'm trying to get a hold of her friend to verify...everything's turning for the worst, i need to find out, you know? then she tells me that he's taking her out to dinner...it just gets worse and worse, i was seriously gonna shut the labtop and fucking lose it. and "tommy" wanted to talk to me for a while, and he said i was a conceited, pessimistic emo....come the fuck on, i wish i was at victoria's house then, i don't give a fuck that she doesn't want me to kick her friends' ass, i draw the fucking line right there, that's bull shit! then he said she spilled soda on the floor, and he called her an idiot...seriously...i said accidents happen so shut the fuck up....and he called me over-protective, i swear i wish i could have beat his ass down to the ground. and i'm confused since i don't know if i was a part-time thing, or something....and why would she say the same thing to me as she did to that guy...and all he had said in a text was "you are perfect for me. Only a matter of days till I can see you, again. I miss those beautiful cheekbones, and driving you to get coffee at midnight"
hell i came up with better shit than that. and she's all absorbed into him...damn i don't know, i'm just fucking pissed off. fuck...this was why i didn't want to, yeah it's cliche, but "fall in love" you know? not literally, but that's what i first thought of. but why the fuck did it happen to me, why do i deserve to have this happen..and to think what i almost did, and she thinks tommy's bull shit can beat what she has done for me, all those songs were in vain...i don't even want to sing to her knowing that she likes someone else...that kinda the reason i was gonna talk to her best friend, all i care about is that she likes me more than a friend, i can work out the rest, but fuck! damn it! i'm drinking as i type and i'm like........fuck!!
well so what do you think? am i just being screwed over or what? and if so...what do i do? i can't just say "screw it, i'll get over her right now" i never felt this way before and i got the short end of the stick. yeah i'm willing to wait for her to like me. (link)
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Yes, this girl was using you just so she could of company,not feel lonely,of course you need to find out if all that stuff she was saying was the truth,I can understand that you are willing not to give up but ask yourself though is it really worth it? But anyways that since you don't want to give her up you also need to get this tommy boy out of the picture by you getting her to see how he treats her,that you know how to treat her well,be a respectful person to her,and be the perfect guy for her.But, if I were you I wouldn't bother because you deserve better.
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Well my friend asked him if he likes me but he said no. But she says that he does't and i am asking him tomarrow for sure! Thanks sunnyville your a big help to me! (link)
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Anytime you can count on me and your welcome I hope everything goes well!
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I'm in college and a guy friend I live with kissed me and a bit more. I broke up with my long term boyfriend for him and then he says that the kiss didn't really mean anything and he just felt like kissing a girl. What do I do now. Living with him sucks and is rather uncomfortable because we are not really talking. So, should I say screw him or screw him?
Thanks (link)
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Say screw him he isn't a kind person but, a guy who likes to play with people's feelings don't bother with him,try avoiding him so you don't have to see him,and make him feel like he isn't worth anything.
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would you brake up with someone that ..its almost 20 years old and is still in high school and your 17 and are already in colleage?? he's not the best person in the world but he's okay, and you've fought a lot latly but you can't imagine being without him but you want whats best for you and you know he's not ???? but you love him so much ? =S (link)
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Yes,I would I mean guys come,go but your family will always be there for you,you can depend on them also,I want what's best for me,if were always fighting that's not a relationship I would want to be in I want to be having a good time with my partner all the time.
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