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Shying Away from Shyness
I used to be very shy, and due to it, my ex broke up with me. So yeah, realized that I had to change, because it showed me how bad I really was.
So I promised myself I'd get better, and I did. Now I'm outgoing, and since I regret not making those friends I could have made, I try to interact with everyone. I don't let myself get intimidated like I used to be.
Sooo, of course, there's a guy I like, and it's weird, because I had always referred to him as God-like, I guess because he was everything I LOVED (as corny as it sounds) but he was my boyfriend's (now ex) friend and so I wasn't crushing or anything.
So, sounds good, right? Made a resolution, going along with it...yeah, sounds good. Except that now that I like the guy, I'm going back to the same problem. Like, I gave him a big smile and thumbs up (it was at a soccer practice and I came to watch him)but when he came over I froze up.
Ugh! I felt so stupid, like, I was the one who invited him over but when he came, other people talked to him and I was just blushing like an idiot.
Help, please. Don't want to repeat any mistakes!
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The next time you see him explain to him why you weren't able to talk to him,trust me he won't get mad he'll understand,then you should invite him somewhere where there sure won't be any interruptions,where you can talk more openly to him.
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The secret to being outgoing and not freezing up is to be confident in yourself. And you should start by not calling yourself an idiot. What you did was normal and you just need to rough it and be talkative until you know him better and then before you know it, you'll feel a lot more confident around him.
You have to remind yourself that there isn't anything wrong with saying what you want and if a guy doesn't like what you say and what you're about, then they shouldn't be apart of your life in the first place. So, don't be afraid to talk and really put yourself out there because at the end of the day, it's you and you have to learn to make people deal with you as a person.
-TheTeenGirl
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