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Overcome with friends' problems
I'm currently in High School, and I want to become a psychologist when I get older. Basically I won't deny anyone, whether personally I like them or not. I really love it when people confide in me and I find a lot of enjoyment in making people happy.
But, recently it's been sapping out my confidence (I've been told that I won't be able to make a difference, therefore they doubt me) and it really seems like whenever something makes me happy, someone's going to come up and cry at me until I feel guilty for feeling happy a second before.
For example, I've been receiving a lot more than passing glances from the guy I've liked (his best friend was my ex so it was very awkward). So I'm merrily walking away until someone calls me to lash out because they can't deal with their problems, but refuse to let me help 'em. I don't want to distance myself from the classmates who might need me, but I can't stop myself from feeling so down about it.
Advice would be greatly appreciated =)
Sorry it's long.
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You can't give up keep you have to keep trying,they will see that you really care about their issues,you need to have inner confidence,and trust in your instincts.Don't doubt yourself,I'm sure that you would make a great psychologist I have faith in you.
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I think you should talk to a physchologist about it. It might sound weird, but they most likely have been through the same experiences. Your school, or even your parents, can help you set up a job interview. Ask them about this. I'm sure a lot of doctors dealt with the same situation you're in. Just because you're willing to help others deal with their problems, does not mean you have to share their unhappiness. You have to learn how to deal with other's problems without letting it directly affect you. How can you help them if you're upset yourself?? You may want to try explaining that to them. This takes a lot of patience & practice. Hopefully you are apart of advicenators. That can give you great experience with all kinds of problems & situations.
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I think you should really try understanding that being a good psychologist doesn't mean making everyone elses problems' your problems.
It really just means that when someone is lashing out or is really in need, you do whatever you can to help this person and not let it get in the way of your life and your wants. It's not selfish to be happy with yourself and your life when people around you have lives that are worse. That's why God made people like you, to help people who are in need of how to be happier with life like you are.
Just like later on you'll have a few problems where you'll need to go to someone. You want to go to someone whose happy and confident because you'll get nothing if you go to a negative person.
When someone asks you for help and then refuses to let you, you should say something, like: "I really want to help you, but you seem to be pushing me away a lot. When you feel like talking about it, I'm here"
So don't feel guilty for being a happy person. It's very good that you can help people and feel great about it while feeling great about your life.
-TheTeenGirl
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